A 'wrong person' is someone that doesn't complement you.

That same 'wrong person', may be another's right person because they complement each other.

To give you the highest likelihood of marrying someone who complements you: first know yourself.

With Love.

greencard:
People will say my fear of marriage is marrying the wrong person, so what is your definition of a wrong person?

What if you are the wrong person, How will you know ?

Health.

You have to remain healthy. An Alpha+ male does his best to remain healthy.

Looking around, I know more widows than widowers. Don't know about your observation. Don't leave your spouse a widow, don't be a widower yourself.

Yes, being a man isn't a day's job. You don't have to do it in a day. Preserve your health. Preserve your sanity. Don't love to the extent that you are absorbing more than you can carry.

Sometimes, letting it all out is okay. Speak up to your dear she, before you get choked up. Free yourself. Anger in itself isn't bad, when expressed appropriately. Remember TAB.

Yet, learn to bounce back quickly. Even after a heated issue with your dear she, don't rot in hell, don't throw a pity party That's for your dear she (if she chooses), not for an Alpha+ male.

Don't rot in hell, by being bitter, vengeful, hateful, resentful, or any other kind of ...ful. During the brohaha you have spoken your mind. Probably you even shouted angrily, and said things to get at her.

It's okay. That's over now. You can do better next time. Don't rot in hell. In fact, if you can, laugh. Laugh, every after family squabble that seems to have brought out the 'worst' from you. Next time do better!

Don't throw a pity party. An Alpha+ male doesn't call others to complain to them how his wife is maltreating him. Damn, when that is done, he isn't in charge any longer. Those you are calling, are you calling them to spank your dear she or what. If someone must call, let it be your dear she. Not you. If someone must be called because someone complained, let it be you, "Your wife complained...."

I don't get it when men complain about how they are being treated or disrespected by their dear she.

It's a different ball game if you complain to me how the lady isn't as prudent as you want. (My best advice during this period, is the prices of things are getting higher everyday o. Perhaps you should go to the market yourself and ascertain what is what).

But if you come complaining that she shouts at you. Meen, what do you want to hear from me. That you should sit her down after each shout and gently speak to her...okay o. You know what to do. Oh you aren't the shouting type. Okay. Then hold your complaints.

When you have done yourbestbto be a 'gentleman,' a taste of her own medicine may be in place. You know, sometimes we don't really get how our actions affect others till it is dished to us.

You need to preserve your health. When you start complaining, it's taking a whole lot from your agility. Whatever it assertively takes to preserve your well-being, do it. Don't make a widow out of your dear she, because you want to remain a 'gentleman.'

#Alpha+

With Love.

It's a Sunday. Took my first meal, around 10:45am. It's my goal to take the next, after at least five hours.

Eating is another tool I use. There are three basic rules that guide when I eat:

1) Timing.

2) Eat slowly and consciously.

3) Stop at the first sign of a full tummy.

1) Timing: I don't just eat anytime I feel hungry, sometimes the feeling may just be a false sign. Have you ever noticed that when you are anxious, you feel hungry?

Therefore, I have a time lag for my meals. Breakfast is at least 12 hours after supper. Lunch is at least five hours after breakfast. Supper is at least five hours after Lunch. In so doing, anything in-between has to be fruits or nuts.

2) Eat slowly and consciously: Taste your food. Don't be in a rush. Enjoy every bite, relish it. Forget everything, but that thing that's going through your mouth. When you aren't in a rush when eating it makes it easy to adhere to the third.

3) Stop at the full sign of a full tummy: Most persons are sick because they over stuff themselves. I now know why on Saturdays my mum woke the whole family up with purge concoctions. Most common illnesses can be prevented, if the belly is kept clean. Stop, at the first sign of a full tummy is one way not to overburden the stomach.

In summary, my three rules of eating are: Timing, Eat slowly and consciously, Stop at the first sign of a full tummy.

#Health without drugs from 2018

With Love.

Yet to come up with a life's purpose?

That's okay, it may take some time. As you tinker on that, let one or more of these get and keep you going:

Yourself - Don't you want to improve your life. Eat what you want, live where ever you want, go on vacation anywhere you want. See more of life. Experience more of things (Ensure there are noble anyway). Have options in relationships, because you have the money to be with the type of partner you want.

Surely this may be one of that Senator's reason for being a billionaire (Don't be like him anyway). And one reason, many females strive to be wealthy, so they can call the shots in the relationship. ( Don't be like them anyway).

Dependants - So you don't really care about yourself. Whether you end up wealthy or just managing isn't your business. You take it one day at a time.

Then think about your dependants. Yes, your parents who took care of you as a baby when you can't do jack for yourself. Who made many sacrifices to provide food, shelter, clothing, skills and education. They would have provided some of the above, if not all.

Think about them, one or both of them is battling an illness, that good money will make it easier to manage, if it can't be cured. They need their own roofs over their head, as the insults from the landlord or others they are sharing the family house with is becoming unbecoming.

How do you feel, when you hear they are sick? How do you feel when you step into their place of habitat, and you know it can be improved or changed?

Alright! You don't have parents, or don't give a damn about them. How about that child that came to the earth through you.

He wasn't here and your sperm or egg contributed in calling him forth. He is innocent, he didn't beg you to come, you called him forth. Can he inspire you to do your best in building Financial wealth.

Attention is good, teaching him wonderful values is essential. Yet, the most tangible, visible, universal thing that's a climax of your wisdom, etc is financial wealth. No one can deny it. It's a common currency.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0

With Love.

Nice one on morality for its own sake. Also I now know about the sand mandala, thanks.

On Marcus Aurelius, we can't factually talk about his level of morality.

All we have is his journal - Meditation - more like a musing to himself, trying to clarify and deepen his ideals.

On Mother Theresa of Calcutta, the depth of dirt that woman went in bringing relief to many, even with heaven as the prize, many won't do it. Motive is best known by the doer.

Also, the Stoics aren't atheists. In meditation, Marcus Aurelius, often makes mention of the divine. Often rendered as gods, God, nature. Also, after reading the Meditation the take away won't be that he doesn't believe in an afterlife. Same in the Discourse of Epictetus, Same with the letters of Seneca.

Are there moral atheists, moral even according to the standards of christian morality? Yes they are.

Though I won't go as far as looking at who has a purer motive. I will rather compare on a one to one basis.

Which in fact, my comparison will be limited, because I can't see what one's motive is. My assessment may be tainted by my personal lens.


With Love.

justlove91:
Yes, this is another topic on atheism vs morality, but this is looking at it from another angle which I haven't seen here yet (maybe there is).

Most theists view atheists has animals not on leash, some here even call them Satanists, they're seen as people that will do any evil so long it satisfies their selfish desire. most theists will summarize atheists "morality" as:
"I will fu*ck you up if it profits me"

Let me at this juncture list the levels of morality in ascending order.

1. I will F you up because I can, it's fun (psychopathic).
2. I will F you up if it satisfies my desire for wealth, power, fame etc (Selfish).
3. I will F you up only if you F me up first (Revenge).
4. I will not F you up even if you F me up first but I will not be beneficial to you.
5. Not only will I not F you up even if you F me up first, I will be beneficial to you if the opportunity comes my way.
6. Not only will I not F you up even if you F me up first, I will go out of my way to help you if you need help.

Let me give an example to make this clear.

You are happily married to a gorgeous wife you loved dearly with two adorable kids and you have a good friend who you view as your BFF.

Well, it turns out your gorgeous wife and BFF have been having an affair for years and your adorable kids are actually not yours but your BFF's. Now, since the secret is out already, your wife(with the kids of course) moved in with your friend and they lived happily without feeling any remorse for what they've done, leaving you hanging.

As fate will have it, some months later, an opportunity comes your way in which you can choose any of three options (A, B or C).

If you choose A (Level 3)
- It will completely bankrupt your friend, and it will take years (if ever) to recover.
- It takes the very least amount of effort.
- It can not to traced back to you unless you decide to tell them (your friend and ex wife) to spite them.

If you choose B (Level 4)
- Choosing option B is letting the opportunity pass by ie not making use of the opportunity.

If you choose C (Level 5)
- It will make your friend rich.
- You will have to take some actions (nothing tedious) to make this work.
- They will not know you were the one that orchestrated their wealth, they will not even ever believe you if you tell them.

Now, how will an atheist justify not picking option A (revenge)?
How will he justify picking B or C (especially C)?

As a Spiritist, I can justify picking option C, how?
I believe in the law of cause and effect (sowing and reaping). I believe the Universe is set up in such a way that their is no way you will do evil and not have it come back to you sooner or later and likewise good.

So I can reason thus;
-My friend and ex wife had sowed a seed of bad and sooner or later they will reap the harvest.
-If I choose option A, I'm also sowing a bad seed and sooner or later I will also reap the harvest.
-If I choose option B, I am letting pass by a great opportunity to sow a good seed.
-If I choose option C, I will be sowing a good seed and I will reap the harvest sooner or later.

It may very well be that there is no such law as the law of sowing and reaping (I believe there is) but that is not the point here, the point is what kind of society would we have if large number of people believe this and live by it.

Are there reasons atheists can give to justify moving up the morality scale above from level 3 to 4, 5 and 6.

SAND MANDALA
In Tibet Buddhism, the monks produce a form of art called Sand Mandala. They use varying colored sand to produce highly detailed, beautiful and intricate geometric patterns.
They often spend days even weeks to produce this mandala because it takes a lot of skill and patience to produce.

After the Mandala is completed, they admirer it for some minutes, then they dismantle it without showing it off, taking a picture or video(as memorabilia). They do this to remind themselves of the impermanence nature of all things and not to get attached to anything.

MORAL MANDALA
Moral mandala is to be moral not because a God said so or for the fear of hell or the greed for heaven but to be moral for morality sake, to be moral because humans are capable of it and if humanity is to survive for long this is what we should all be doing.

The concept of moral mandala invites us to drop our selfish, business like, Fear -Greed morality for a selfless morality for humanity's sake.

A philosophical school of thought that has been using this concept of moral mandala since ancient Greece is Stoicism.
Stoics like Zeno, Seneca, Marcur Aurelius etc spent more than half of their life developing their morality and ethics even though they do not believe in afterlife or karma.

So what is the point of all the hardwork they put into developing and becoming a better human being if when they're dead it is over, they're deleted forever (the beautiful and highly detailed mandala is dismantled)?

To them, the individual self is the mandala and they thrive the create the individual self as a beautiful mandala as they possible can not for their sake (because the individual life will be over soon) but as an example for humanity, an example of the great moral state humanity can reach if we could just drop our selfishness.

This is why I admire the morality of Marcus Aurelius (a Stoic) more than the morality of mother Theresa (catholic). Marcus Aurelius is moral for humanity's sake while mother Theresa is (not sure) moral for heaven's sake.
And to be moral for humanity's sake is the purest kind of morality because it is devoid of self.

I sometimes wish I do not believe in afterlife or karma to access this selfless kind of morality, to be good because it's good for humanity and not for personal gain. So I tend to focus on the now happiness of the person recieving the good than the reciprocal effect of the good being done.

In conclusion, an atheist can not only be moral but has more access than a theist to a purer form of morality if he/she views his/her life as an opportunity to make a beautiful mandala for humanity's sake.

Nice one on morality for its own sake. Also I now know about the sand mandala, thanks.

On Marcus Aurelius, we can't factually talk about his level of morality.

All we have is his journal - Mediation - more like a musing to himself, trying to clarify and deepen his ideals.

On Mother Theresa of Calcutta, the depth of dirt that woman went in bringing relief to many, even with heaven as the prize, many won't do it. Motive is best known by the doer.

Also, the Stoics aren't atheist. In mediation, Marcus Aurelius, often makes mention of the divine. Often rendered as gods, God, nature. Also, after reading the Meditation the take away won't be that he doesn't believe in an afterlife. Same in the Discourse of Epictetus, Same with the letters of Seneca.


With Love.

justlove91:
Yes, this is another topic on atheism vs morality, but this is looking at it from another angle which I haven't seen here yet (maybe there is).

Most theists view atheists has animals not on leash, some here even call them Satanists, they're seen as people that will do any evil so long it satisfies their selfish desire. most theists will summarize atheists "morality" as:
"I will fu*ck you up if it profits me"

Let me at this juncture list the levels of morality in ascending order.

1. I will F you up because I can, it's fun (psychopathic).
2. I will F you up if it satisfies my desire for wealth, power, fame etc (Selfish).
3. I will F you up only if you F me up first (Revenge).
4. I will not F you up even if you F me up first but I will not be beneficial to you.
5. Not only will I not F you up even if you F me up first, I will be beneficial to you if the opportunity comes my way.
6. Not only will I not F you up even if you F me up first, I will go out of my way to help you if you need help.

Let me give an example to make this clear.

You are happily married to a gorgeous wife you loved dearly with two adorable kids and you have a good friend who you view as your BFF.

Well, it turns out your gorgeous wife and BFF have been having an affair for years and your adorable kids are actually not yours but your BFF's. Now, since the secret is out already, your wife(with the kids of course) moved in with your friend and they lived happily without feeling any remorse for what they've done, leaving you hanging.

As fate will have it, some months later, an opportunity comes your way in which you can choose any of three options (A, B or C).

If you choose A (Level 3)
- It will completely bankrupt your friend, and it will take years (if ever) to recover.
- It takes the very least amount of effort.
- It can not to traced back to you unless you decide to tell them (your friend and ex wife) to spite them.

If you choose B (Level 4)
- Choosing option B is letting the opportunity pass by ie not making use of the opportunity.

If you choose C (Level 5)
- It will make your friend rich.
- You will have to take some actions (nothing tedious) to make this work.
- They will not know you were the one that orchestrated their wealth, they will not even ever believe you if you tell them.

Now, how will an atheist justify not picking option A (revenge)?
How will he justify picking B or C (especially C)?

As a Spiritist, I can justify picking option C, how?
I believe in the law of cause and effect (sowing and reaping). I believe the Universe is set up in such a way that their is no way you will do evil and not have it come back to you sooner or later and likewise good.

So I can reason thus;
-My friend and ex wife had sowed a seed of bad and sooner or later they will reap the harvest.
-If I choose option A, I'm also sowing a bad seed and sooner or later I will also reap the harvest.
-If I choose option B, I am letting pass by a great opportunity to sow a good seed.
-If I choose option C, I will be sowing a good seed and I will reap the harvest sooner or later.

It may very well be that there is no such law as the law of sowing and reaping (I believe there is) but that is not the point here, the point is what kind of society would we have if large number of people believe this and live by it.

Are there reasons atheists can give to justify moving up the morality scale above from level 3 to 4, 5 and 6.

SAND MANDALA
In Tibet Buddhism, the monks produce a form of art called Sand Mandala. They use varying colored sand to produce highly detailed, beautiful and intricate geometric patterns.
They often spend days even weeks to produce this mandala because it takes a lot of skill and patience to produce.

After the Mandala is completed, they admirer it for some minutes, then they dismantle it without showing it off, taking a picture or video(as memorabilia). They do this to remind themselves of the impermanence nature of all things and not to get attached to anything.

MORAL MANDALA
Moral mandala is to be moral not because a God said so or for the fear of hell or the greed for heaven but to be moral for morality sake, to be moral because humans are capable of it and if humanity is to survive for long this is what we should all be doing.

The concept of moral mandala invites us to drop our selfish, business like, Fear -Greed morality for a selfless morality for humanity's sake.

A philosophical school of thought that has been using this concept of moral mandala since ancient Greece is Stoicism.
Stoics like Zeno, Seneca, Marcur Aurelius etc spent more than half of their life developing their morality and ethics even though they do not believe in afterlife or karma.

So what is the point of all the hardwork they put into developing and becoming a better human being if when they're dead it is over, they're deleted forever (the beautiful and highly detailed mandala is dismantled)?

To them, the individual self is the mandala and they thrive the create the individual self as a beautiful mandala as they possible can not for their sake (because the individual life will be over soon) but as an example for humanity, an example of the great moral state humanity can reach if we could just drop our selfishness.

This is why I admire the morality of Marcus Aurelius (a Stoic) more than the morality of mother Theresa (catholic). Marcus Aurelius is moral for humanity's sake while mother Theresa is (not sure) moral for heaven's sake.
And to be moral for humanity's sake is the purest kind of morality because it is devoid of self.

I sometimes wish I do not believe in afterlife or karma to access this selfless kind of morality, to be good because it's good for humanity and not for personal gain. So I tend to focus on the now happiness of the person recieving the good than the reciprocal effect of the good being done.

In conclusion, an atheist can not only be moral but has more access than a theist to a purer form of morality if he/she views his/her life as an opportunity to make a beautiful mandala for humanity's sake.

Looking back, when I was getting married, I was immune to cold. Small thing, I am down with running nose, headache, and cold.

Sometimes, I told myself, that I would have issues with my spouse on the use of the fan/AC. As I may not need it but she may, especially if we decide to share same bedroom.

In fact, my mum told her this: "He doesn't get sick, except during the cold weather." And for the first three/four years of marriage it was just so. See me under the blankets, down on cold at least once every rainy season. That's when my HMO will know that there is someone like this guy on their list.

Till 2018, when I told myself, "enough is enough." And I started to build a regimen which for five years, have enabled me to achieve: Heath without drugs.

In addition to fasting, and water, another tool I use is: Positive Mindset. Yes, making a commitment and believing that I can attain Health without drugs.

When the first cold, hit me that 2018, just a few months after I started experimenting with this, hmmm no be small thing o.

I was down, my spouse was crying, she said I must go to the hospital, that after this I can resume whatsoever it was I was doing. She called my parents, they pleaded. I stood my ground, I said, "It's either now or never."

I just zeroed in on the mindset that I will be fine with the remedies I was using by then. I refused to lie in bed except for my night rest or afternoon nap. Was it not cold, okay I will continue to be a active I told myself, it must go on it's own without any medication.

I ensured that my routine morning water was warmer than usual. Yes, the headaches, etc persisted for two days or so...then gradually, I felt better.

And so it has been. In fact that succeeding years have been better than previous years. And on the use of the fan/AC, the reverse is now the case, my spouse doesn't need it as much I need it.

In summary, Positive mindset is another tool I use to stay healthy without drugs since 2018.

#Health without drugs...

With Love.

An Alpha+ make builds wealth. In fact building wealth so consumes him, that he doesn't give attention to every mood change of his dear she.

For people that have that kind of time, either they are comfortable where they are, or they don't have a purpose that propels them or they are already made.

Or they have created a wealth machine, such that they can comfortably notice their wife's moods or regularly pose for the paparazzi, like TOE my guy. If you must notice your dear she every facial change, be among these third class of persons.

Reminds me about what my dear she noticed about a friend. She was with her in her business and a call came through, from the husband. She hissed. My wife told why she wasn't picking...her response, "Na call person go chop."

Of course they are dear shes who gladly look forward to the calls of their Man, even when things aren't rosy financially. They are rare, and becoming rarer.

You have created your values, fine. Your dear she, your family, needs the money. Let that consume your focus.

An Alpha+ male isn't so purposeless or in-secured that he checks up on the wife five times a day, even when they slept together and will still see each other later in the day.

Oh! You say, that shows I love her. Okay o. To further prove your love, give same attention to improving the family's lot financially.

In summary, an Alpha+ man knows the importance of money in his family, and he gives due attention to this.

#Alpha+

With Love.

Temptations are real:

Lust.

Hate.

Greed.

Envy.

Indolence.

Etc.

These temptations, gives me an opportunity to Experience God.

At each moment any of them knocks, I have three choices:

Fall.

Resist

Experience God.

The easiest is to fall, it takes nothing. Just give in.

It's harder to resist like a stoic. This method tends to repress the urge. It's hard because it seems like going against a flowing current.

More so, the repression keeps accumulating like a dam. A day will come the water becomes too much, and gboa...there is a bust, an outburst. At that moment one gives in to the temptation.

The third is to see the temptation as an opportunity to Experience God.

Not going down (fall), nor pushing against (resist), rather it goes up.

It goes up through prayer that involves:

1. Acknowledge what's happening.

2. Requesting for strength and wisdom to godly rechannel the urge.

3. Thanksgiving.

In doing so, temptations when they bring up their ugly head serves as an opportunity to Experience God.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.

What does Financial wealth mean to you?

Having enough money to consistently afford the physical comforts of life?

Having enough money to buy anything, with enough balance in your bank account? These are usually the two popular meaning.

For me this is what it means: Financial wealth is consistently having enough money to accomplish my life’s purpose.

Financial wealth in the hands of the right person contributes to that person’s peace. It also contributes to the lives of those he distributes this abundance.

Yet it is not the root of the person’s peace or lack of it. Money is the root of nothing. It's neutral, same way a kitchen knife is neutral.

A kitchen knife can be used as a domestic tool, or as a murder weapon.

Money can be used for good or for bad. To use money for the ultimate good, first you must be noble.

Wealth even if you are able to sustain it, will not be used to the highest good in the hands of the morally bankrupt. For such persons, how they even obtained the wealth is often questionable.

In summary, as you build your wealth, always be conscious your noble values. When the wealth manifest, this will ensure it is used for a high purpose.

#Building Financial Wealth.

With Love.

A friend once asked me, "So when you left your former group, how did you handle those you helped come into that fold, and others who looked up to you?"

Fortunately, I had moved to a new city when I pulled out.

I did not see the need of communicating my decision to them.

Why should I?

If I create doubts in their young minds of all they know, what do I have to offer them as an alternative?

If they must find the holes in their belief, let them do that on their own, at their own pace.

Thank God for Google, they can get the best out of two sides of any debate. And draw thier conclusion. I had more important use of my limited time and energy

It's easy to critique, to pull apart. You don't need to be an Albert Einstein to do that.

What's more difficult, more creative, is to build. To pull together.

With Love.

Thanks. The 'delusion' has served me well, it has given me an ultimate meaning in life. So I will keep 'deluding' It's my 'delusion', not another's.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.

Kobojunkie:
1. The divine or their particular delusions of this with they each refer to as the divine?

2. God according to your experiences is not God but delusion specific to your person. So how can that serve as God for anyone else but you?

3. Makes no sense since all you keep talking sounds a whole lot like that confined to the mental -- individual consciousness. Seems a lot like you have reduced God to nothing but the mental musings of the individual? Pretty much the same thing most religious folks do and also what those in mental asylums are notorious for.

There is something that comes with rising, when the world is a asleep to engage in spiritual exercises.

It takes strength to shrug off sleepiness, and proceed to your special spiritual space.

Once I am there, the allotted time and even some extras must be met.

Usually, I go back to bed to rise again by 5am.

Experientially, I notice that on days I wake in-between, my mind is more keen. Spiritually, I feel more at ease.

When I don't wake in-between, but wake by 5am., to engage in spiritual exercises, my mind is alert, though not as the first.

And when I don't wake in-between and 5am, ahhh... experientially, I struggle through that day. I can't wait for that day to be over.

When I use those in-between and 5am for anything else (secular/domestic work) it adds nothing to my spiritual consciousness during the day.

Because of this, even if I must work, first I ensure I give at least an hour fully engaged in spiritual exercises.

The type of spiritual exercises engaged in also matters. I will talk about these later.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.

Of course all spiritually conscious persons have something in common - the Divine. No matter their approach or labels.

The goal is same for all - God.

I won't be dogmatic to say I 100% comprehend God according to God.

Who has?

Yes, I agree, for me it's God according to my own experiences.

And even these experiences for the spiritually conscious are more powerful, more convincing than a thousand books of intellectual theological explanations.

Thanks for the interest in the thread.

With Love.

Kobojunkie:
But this all sounds pretty much like the same bagpipes played by the religious minded so what convinces you that you are any different from them when your idea of who God is not based on Him but on you deciphering Him in your personal way -- God according to you, and not God according to God?

Money.

An Alpha+ takes his eyes off his wife's money. Whether she chooses to carry him along on her income, or supports the family from her purse, or sends it all to the family she springs from, the Alpha+ male has no say in this affairs. It isn't his business.

Most scriptures say a Man is the provider. Most African culture say the same thing. An Alpha+ male sees himself as the one saddled with the responsibility of providing for his home.

It is something he takes on willingly. If you are yet to get married, ensure you have created a structure that will ensure your income stream doesn't dry up.

Once a young man has a fairly decent job, our dear shes see him as a good suitor. Society, family and friends will be after him to settle down.

Yet understand, that another man's job isn't yours. Do your best to create a source of income that you can fully control.

A dear she may not mind, "we will grow together," she may say. When the world of marriage sets, and financial challenges come up, most dear shes after the initial moral support, and things aren't improving, may become one of your worst thorn in the flesh during that period.

Some will be frontal about it. Some will be subtle about it with their attitudes. In all, na you go hear am.

Only a minority will encouragingly soldier on with their mates. The sweet loyal days of our folks is fast disappearing.

If you are already married, and are facing this, like most men do who can't provide all their dear shes want, relax.

Welcome to reality.

Spending time in a bar won't solve the challenge, if you aren't careful it may lead to alcoholism or even infidelity. And may further degenerate into a promiscuous lifestyle.

Most husbands that beat their chest to be faithful to their spouse, fell when they where emotionally down.

Yes, we know, her attitude triggered it. It wasn't part of the plan....The man, losing his emotional guard, cemented it. Take responsibility.

Be careful.

What do you do?

Be successful financially.

It won't come immediately, yet with perseverance it will come.

Reminds me about a young couple. The man was an artisan, same with the woman. The man's hustle wasn't paying much, so the woman had more of the money. Such that, sometimes she used it to humiliate the young man in words and actions.

Quiet man.

He endured.

Stomaching it all.

Channeled his energy to improving his lot financially. And it paid off. He got a good paying job, with a shipping company. Tables turned, he now earnes more than the spouse.

He didn't allow his dear she's attitude of the past to adversely affect his attitude towards her. The main revenge was uping his income.

When the wife wanted to expand her business, he pumped in money.

I expect him to also open a trading business along his field of expertise or any other. Because that's another man's job. And should the tables turn again, a dear she like that would soon forget his rosy days.

In summary, an Alpha+ male is financially independent.

#Alpha+

With Love

When you decide on a purpose that will inspire you to build wealth, you have to look for ways to make that purpose uppermost in your mind. To always be aware that this is the reason why I am here.

Some methods may include, writing that purpose down, first thing every single day.

Making a symbolic reminder of that purpose and keeping it where your eyes will always see it.

Recently, I was at the office of a young man. What impressed me most about his office, was the pictures of billionaires he had behind his office desk. Billionaires from Dangotes, Jeff, Elumelu, Gates, etc. About 15 pictures.

He took me to his new office, and wow! for his humble kind of profession - tailoring. It was massive and sophisticated. Fit enough to serve as the corporate office of a big player in the oil and gas sector.

I reminded myself, I have to add same collections of pics, as a daily reminder of my aim to build wealth.

All these are on the mind plane. There are meant to keep the mind focused on wealth, no matter the externals.

In summary, look for ways to always remind yourself of your life's purpose. To remind yourself of your aim to build wealth.

Building Wealth 2.0.

With Love.

It wasn't an easy decision. Left to me, I won't.

Then this afternoon, after a session of meditation, there was an urge to present the issue before God.

So I did. And I heard what I know I would hear.

"You have to keep greeting them. In fact you have to keep addressing them with the sir/madam title."

I have listened. It wasn't easy to obey, because I felt they were unjust in their decision.

Yet, I wanted to obey.

So, I said a prayer, asking the Almighty for the strength to comply with what was expected of me.

In the evening, as I walked into the wing of my apartment, the man sat in front of his, at the other end of the compound.

I got his attention, by saying hello to a child. Then with an ease and smile, I can't really explain. I didn't even struggle with, I greeted him, "Good evening sir."

And the rapturous joy that went through my entire being for obeying, is something beyond what words can tell.

#Experiencing God

With Love.

If you did not get that from the earlier posts, kindly bear with me, and keep hanging around, who knows sooner or later, a post may give you the answer you seek.

Thanks for your interest in the thread

#Experiencing God

With Love

LordReed:


Hence the question HOW do you know, simply stating it is a god doesn't tell me HOW you know.

The first two practices that started me on this path are:

1) Fasting.

2) Water.

1) My first experience with fasting was for health reasons. Back then on sundays, I go 24 hours without food.

Doing this enabled my digestive system to take much needed break after working non-stop for 6 days.

I have practiced different types of health fasts during the past five years. Will talk about them in another post.

2) Water. Drinking a litre of water on an empty tummy is also a practice that started me on this journey.

Initially, it wasn't easy.

Yet, when I saw the tremendous benefits to my bowel, and skin texture, I continued. Now it's part of my daily morning routine.
Recently, it's either warm or room temperature.

What type of the water?

Well, initially I didn't really send o. It can be straight from the borehole. Based on where I currently reside, there is access to cleaner water nearby, so that's what I use for now.

In summary fasting and drinking water (usually one litre) before food intake are the initial practices I used on my journey of Health without drugs.

Health without drugs...

With Love.

So it is God, not doing it because Mr. A believes so?

With Love.

LordReed:


So it is a god doing it because you say so?

One of the most beautiful piece of creation, I find amazing is the clear blue sky.

There was a period some years ago, I would spend hours, just gazing up and contemplating the white blue sky.

How it stretches forth, the dashes of white on the blue.

Beautiful!

Creation opens to us the endless beauty of the Grand Creator.

Today, after a fulfilled day. My head went up, and the sky was blue, with dashes of white.

What beauty!

And I uttered a thanksgiving to the Grand designer behind these beauty.

#Experiencing God

With Love.

One's choice is the difference:

Mr. A acknowledges only his will, his mind. There is no divine consciousness.

Mr. B went beyond, by calling also on a higher power - God. There is divine consciousness.

To each his own.

With Love.

LordReed:


Well if you can achieve this without a god how are you able to tell the difference?

There are persons who adhere to noble values without a god factor.

There are even moral purists, who don't even believe God exist.

The human will is something tremendous, the human mind powerful.

And there are those who wish to go about these with God in the picture.

First, they acknowledge God's existence.

Second, they do their best to centre their lives around God.

For such persons, prayer among other spiritual exercises helps them adhere to their noble values.

It helps in their practice of making God the centre of their life.


With Love.

LordReed:


I can't claim to understand 1 but why do you need to experience a god to live up to noble values?
Do you think people can not act with benevolence towards their fellows without a god? I certainly do act with benevolence towards people without a god.

"Experiencing God" is a term I use in describing:

1) Divine consciousness/Spirit filled/Spirit led.

2) Noticing God's fingers in one's personal affairs. Especially as it relates to helping the person live up to his/her noble values.

With Love.

LordReed:


What does "experience God" mean?

Frankly, there is this consciousness I have that my needs will always be met.

I have been aware of this consciousness, right from my early twenties. I remembered when I finished my NYSC, I rarely bothered about where a job will come from.

I did what I can, and relaxed. One, two small jobs came along. Then an admirable job showed up.

I used that experience to encourage those within my religious circle, who were fresh in the labour market.

Often, I told them, "This time you have now, use it well o. Because soon a job will come and you won't have this free time again."

And so has it been with me, that my needs were always met, even when I started a family.

As a married man, initially, it was scary. Especially when I left full time employment for to try my hands for the second time on my thing. "Will this mindset still see me through even as a family man?"

For now it has always held through.
In fact, I remember during the early years of marriage I will often tell my wife: "This home is self sufficient. Please don't ask for things from anyone (especially her relatives) If they give you gifts fine. But don't initiate the asking...

So far, we have been able to meet our needs without going into debts.

Yet, Experiencing God should not be mainly about material things.

Why?

Even the rich who aren't spiritual or moral have these things. They possess universal faith and other universal wealth making principles, that doesn't care whether you are a puritan or not, believer or not.

There is Faith as a universal concept. There is Faith as a christian concept.

Faith isn't an entitlement for God knowing persons.

In developing countries such as ours, these material successes are the main bait that drive most people to God or to a group of like minded worshipers.

Alas, such motivation will not result in a one to one personal relationship with God.

So, most of my own experiences with God will be based on non-material things.


With Love.

Bills to pay, obligations, etc, are reasons to make you seek for a source(s) of income. These mundane reasons aren't enough to build wealth.

Sure, these reasons alone can lead to a comfortable life, you pay your bills, send good money to other dependants, enjoy some goodies of life such as a vacation to Dubai or Maldives.

Yet this reason isn't enough to enable you become close to the Dangotes, the Elumelus, the Elons, etc.

It isn't.

People that have built wealth and created a system that have enabled their stakeholders build wealth. People that thousands, even millions can directly or indirectly point to the wealth system as their source of livelihood.

What then can catapult you from the mindset of: let me just have enough to pay the bills and take care of my dependants?

Purpose!

You have to discover, create, name, develope (any method that resounds with you) a purpose that is strong enough to energize you do all you should legally do to build wealth.l, in a chosen niche.

That purpose must entail, needing at least hundreds of thousands of dollars to manifest and sustain.

Have you ever wondered why most of the likes I have mentioned earlier are into one foundation or the other?

At a point they needed something to justify the wealth they envisioned to accumulate.

The Rockefeller's foundation is still one of the strongest in the world. Built by J.D. Rockefeller, a man who used this as a strong purpose to justify his wealth, and even the competitive strategy he used in amassing it.

A man who many say is the richest American of all time. (Andrew Carnegie fans won't agree)

To know more about him, read the biography: Titan: The life of John D Rockefeller, by Ron Chernow

In summary, find a purpose that needs thousands of dollars to manifest and sustain.


Building Wealth 2.0.

"You have done nothing for me," she screamed back.

Ade was dazed, "You mean..."

Simi screamed more, "You have done nothing. Absolutely nothing. Go and see what your mates are doing."

The blood was boiling. Ade can't imagine his docile wife speaking to him this way. He raised his hands. He dropped it.

The wife stood before him. Daring him. The last and second time he slapped her during same incident after she gave birth to their first son, was automatic. He didn't even know when he raised his hands.

This time around, he was self-aware.

He looked at her, then stomped out of the house.

He went to a bar, downed a bottle of chilled beer. He ordered another one, and took it more slowly.

The waiter came around, and asked with a pleasant smile if he needed anything again.

He raised up his head, noticed her endowed bosom from her loose top.

She smiled.

He smiled.

She turned and walked away, shaking her bum bum, from her tight fitting shorts.

Suddenly, he felt the rise between his legs, and remembered it's been three months since he had sex.

The Alcohol was taking effect. Remembering how he spent #500,000 for her C.S. Then a further #220,000 for other things.

Not talking about the baby things he had to buy.

"Ungrateful woman," he said under his breath.

He thought about the home chores, he has been helping out with.

Ade said to himself, "Just because I am now low on cash, to get her some other things she requested for, now for the third time in a week, all I have done is nothing. It's God that will judge her."

The waiter came around again. He flirted briefly with him, still swaying her generous hips as she went to the next table.

Seems they are are trained to know when a man is down, and capitalize on that to start something.

Ade looked at his watch, it was 9:25pm. He hasn't done this before...but he knows the chalets on the other side of the compound are for things like this.

"How much will a chalet cost." he asked himself.

As he stood up to make enquiries, he heard a voice,....


With Love.

What do you do, when all you have is a job that pays the bill, on a tight budget?

First, be grateful that you pay your bills yourself.

What do you do, when you are out of job, you don't even know where the next rent will come from?

First be grateful, that you have the skills, and experience to seek for another source(s) of income.

What do you do when, business isn't as usual?

First, be grateful, tht at least you have something to keep you busy, income wise.

What do you do when you are a newbie in the labour market?

First be grateful, that you are young and hungry to serve others.

What do you do when you don't...?

First, be grateful that you even know where you are, and you know the next thing you need.

In summary, no matter where you are, as you commence to build your wealth, there is something to be grateful for.

Be grateful.

Building wealth is full of ups and downs, valleys and mountains. The earlier you stamp gratitude as a way of life, the better.

This journey is not easy.

Gratitude will make it less difficult.

Be Grateful!

With Love.

Yes. Self discipline is key.

More grace, as you aim for two months.

Keep note of what works for you.

With Love.

Templee333:
I've recently realized a secret of drug free life that works for me. It requires strict amount of self discispline. I've succeded staying for more than a month without medication prior to taking medication everyday before my recently realization.

Thanks.

Theological explanations of God is endless and more will continue to pour in. Some contradicting themselves.

I believe God known experientially goes deeper in one's soul, than just knowing God intellectually.

That's the idea behind the thread's name: Experiencing God.

One way, I daily experience God is through my worship. Especially my early morning worship. Moreso, when my faculties are focused during the worship.

With Love.

Templee333:
God is all knowing but unknowable. That's the ultimate explanation of God that I can give. Another way round is that God is everywhere and in everything. That being said, HE is the ultimate source of everything that exist.

To Peter Nwachukwu (Ekwueme Crooner's Husband)

Dear Peter,

You were more popular than Davido in April 2022

And some Nigerians became overnight marriage counselors. Whether - happily or unhappily - unmarried, married, or divorced.

Four days before your wife’s death, a wife stabbed the sleeping husband to death in Oyo state.

She reported herself, saying she did it because the husband wanted to take a second wife.

If you ask me, “Why did it not trend?” Na who I go ask?

Let’s focus on you.

Peter, it is established you acted as your wife’s manager.

Before your wife became a star in her religious circle, were you not fully engaged with work?

Are you purposeless or was it jealous insecurity that made you the manager who micro-managed his wife’s career?

Her family members also said you barred them from her.

One fundamental human right is freedom of association. Don’t you enjoy such freedom?

Who gave you the right to curtail the association of another adult?

When a partner habitually complains to others about the spouse, that marriage has failed.

When days of harmony are not much more greater than days of disharmony, that marriage has failed.

When abusive words, fights, or physical assault occurs in a marriage, that marriage has failed.

When a spouse suppresses his/her unique noble self, because of marital consequences, that marriage has failed.

A crashed marriage is just the most visible form (not the only form) of a failed
marriage.

Both partners may still live together, and be in a failed marriage.

Few can protect their peace, sanity, health/life in a failed marriage.

Most can’t.

Of course things can improve. Winter can give way to summer.

Unfortunately, for your marriage with the late Ekwueme crooner, things can no longer improve.

She is dead.

Who knew she would die when close ones saw her marriage as a failure?

Perhaps if you knew, you may have dived into your Inner Man and heard some bitter truth.

Perhaps each morning you may have vowed to love her like a Man.

Perhaps you may have taken charge effectively.

Perhaps both of you may have agreed on healthy rules of marital engagement, inclusive of a graceful exit (temporal or permanent).

All these are perhaps, because it’s late!

Now, the allegations surrounding her death. That your kick landed her in the hospital, then to the grave.

Hmm!

How I wish one of you had the courage to save both of you.

(Written: May 6, 2022)

With Love