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Religion / Re: Is Our Self-worth Truly Based On What People Think Of Us? by Anjinsan: 8:38pm On Oct 24, 2023
An individual should have the final say over her self-worth. She shouldn't delegate that power to a fellow human(s). As social animals, many have done that, as psychological report shows.

Many have weaponized guilt and shame, and will gladly brandish that over another to have their way or inflict pain.

Having said that, we have to establish values to guide our daily actions.

This helps, so that we aren't the trigger for another's pain in family or society at large.

A Christian has a good example in Jesus Christ. As her way, truth and life (John. 14:6), as you pointed out.

Set targets, make progress regularly. Even when she fails, or falls (as she must for she isn't perfect) she bounces back ASAP.

When she really learns from the recent mistake, the next fall will be a longer interval.

Even those who want to brandish guilt and shame over her, will be amazed that her confidence and happiness is still top notch.

The secret?

The Christian absolutely believes that her Heavenly Father is Love (1 John 4:8

With Love.


abbasstory:
Psychologists say our self-worth is often based upon what we believe the most important people in our lives think of us—a parent, a spouse, a friend, or a mentor. The problem is that sooner or later people say something that cuts like a knife and brings heartache and pain, or they show by their actions that we’re not really that important. If we’re receiving our value and worth only from those who hurt us, we’ll likely feel inferior, insecure, and less and less valuable over time.

"For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago."

The key to gaining a true sense of value is to let your Heavenly Father be the most important person in your life. If you listen to what He says about you, you’ll feel accepted, approved, redeemed, forgiven, confident, and secure. You will feel extremely valuable, and that’s exactly the way God wants you to be, His masterpiece. You’ve been custom-made, one of a kind. You’re not average or ordinary. God created you in His very own image. And that is exactly how you should see yourself.


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Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 5:45pm On Oct 24, 2023
Alone and not lonely is something I am good at.

Wifey will often tell others, "He can be alone for any period, in as much as he has his books."

Of late, books don't have the appeal they once had. Infact now, I read systematically. Spend more time on books I have read, and treasure. It seems I now spend more time writing than reading new books.

Yes, I can still be alone and not lonely, but the object of my company isn't books. It is God.

When I started this, Wifey noticed the switch also...she will come into my bedroom, and I will either be praying silently in tongues or and meditating.

When you make an honest attempt to spend quality, exclusive time with God, soon it becomes a session you longingly look forward to.

Today, how have you Experienced God

#Experiencing God.


With Love.
Health / Re: Health Without Drugs... by Anjinsan: 5:25pm On Oct 24, 2023
I make it an aim to ask before eating, "Will this substance contribute to a healthy body or does it have any element that will be poisonous to my body?

Asking such questions has made it easy to drastically reduce or eliminate unhealthy meals.

Also, when I'm worried or anxious, I avoid food. Have you noticed that it seems you are suddenly hungry when worried or bothered about something?

The body is just looking for a quick fix to the situation. I don't give in. That's where spacing my food intake comes to the rescue.

I just look at my watch, and say okay till two hours more or so...so tummy you have to chill.

#Health without drugs from 2018.

With Love
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 7:57am On Oct 24, 2023
March

There are many techniques to improve productivity.

One of such you may find beneficial is this:

1) Have your three most important day's tasks.

2) Allocate between 15minutes to three hours focused attention on that task.

3) Set your alarm.

4) Get a small clean sheet of paper before you.

5) Any time you do any thing or you allow your mind to wander (without recalling back immediately) mark an x on that paper.

6) Any time something comes up you don't want to forget jot it down, but don't expand on it during the task.

7) Start.

cool After the allocated time, take a break not more than 20% of the focused time. During the period review the distractions on white paper.

9) Start again...

Powerful exercise, applicable if your task is of the mental sort.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0.

With Love.
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 8:39pm On Oct 23, 2023
I did fairly well on a spiritual exercise that will regularly enable me experience God at least on a hourly level.

From when I woke up in-between (12:30am) to engage in an exercise I call Gratitude Affirmation Prayers (GAP)...I prayed. Then of course it is a prayer...so I was in union with God, during one hour of that exercise.

When I woke to start my day by 5am...spent an hour in meditation. Another hour in praises and Bible reading. So I was still Experiencing God.

Then what I have been trying to lay my hands on...praying before a task, thanking God after the task. repeat for the next etc...

Today I did it, broke my tasks hourly. And frankly, I was more productive than I would normally be.

The joy for me is this...at least hourly for about eight hours from 8pm, I touched base.

Ah! So sweet.

Though I have a higher aim...


#Experiencing God

With Love.
Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 9:04am On Oct 23, 2023
“So bad John what happened to that patient,” said David. It was ten minutes since they
had their last laugh.

“Yes David, so bad. I feel for the family, the man would have lived if only he wanted to,” John said.

“How are you coping with the image it brought on the hospital?” James asked.

“Nothing major, though for the first week we noticed a drop in the number of patients.

I ascribed it to people having better health or no money to visit a Zenith,” John replied, with a smile.

“Everything is back to normal. We should be intentional about our feelings. The man died from
a heart attack because of overwhelming anxious thoughts.”

“He should have focused on the benefits, not all are fortunate to get such benefits. Some
of my colleagues who retired two years ago are yet to get their severance package.” David
said.

“Very true David, but not all have developed their minds to see things from your perspective. Shreds of evidence abound that habitual anger, anxiety, and depression are very
detrimental to health. Medical research attests to this. For one, anxiety quickly demoralizes
the whole body and lays it open to the entrance and growth of disease.” John said.

“I may have time to design another course. On how becoming smart with feelings can safeguard our health,” James said solemnly.
“Is anyone interested?”

“Yes,” replied David and John.

“Why are our ladies laughing so hard?” John asked as he looked through the window.

“I am sure they are gossiping,” David said.

“Let us find out,” said James.

He smiled, picked his glass of red wine, and took the lead back to his sitting room.

Strong, Pure and Happy thoughts build up the body in vigour and grace.—James Allen

(Extracted from my Book: Smart with Feelings – The Stars.)
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 7:24am On Oct 23, 2023
MINDSET.

Things are so tough, you don't see a way out. A way out to even pay the bills, how much more attain financial wealth.

Change that mindset.

There is a way out.

The voice of lack is speaking untruths to you.

Change the channel, switch over to the voice of Abundance.

Your feelings and thoughts are affecting your reality.

You feel controlled by circumstances.

Change that.

How?

Create a morning routine.

Doing do, you will develop this tremendous power that you are a creator, especially when you adhere to the routines.

"Oh!" You say, "I live with others in a tight space, I don't want to disturb them..."

There are things you can do.

Stipulate a time you must wake up daily.

Everyday.

Then go for a walk.

That's a routine, that isn't disturbing those you live with.

Also an early morning walk helps clear the head.

In summary, create a morning routine, stick to it, and gradually you will realize you can be in charge.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0

With Love.
Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 12:33pm On Oct 22, 2023
What thoughts are dominant in your consciousness?

Marital Issue?
Marital issue on how pleased your dear she is pleased with you of late?

Marital Issues?
Marital issue of what you will do to your dear she to prove to her you are in charge?

Marital Issues?
Marital issues of the recent fight, and the part she played in it or what you ought to have done?

Marital Issues?
Marital issues of your in-laws overstepping their boundaries.

Marital Issues?
Martial issues of your wife's seeming disregard for your folks, siblings, etc.

Marital Issues?
Marital issues of....

I hope non of these is the dominating trend of your thoughts. If it is, well it is stifling great things in your life.

Except of course your purpose in life is to win the award: Best husband of the century. or: Alpha Man of the Millennium.

An Alpha+ male allows his purpose to dominate his thoughts. And what dominates his thoughts will reflect in his words, in his actions.

An Alpha+ male's purpose must be of a noble essence.

And when it is, even as he is being dominated by it, a loyal dear she will still be there. For she understands.

Not easy, for an Alpha+ male who has a dear she that doesn't truly understand.

Blessed is the Alpha+ male who has a dear she that truly understands.

In all, determined remains the Alpha+ male who has made his purpose his dominant thoughts.

#Alpha+

With Love
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 11:47am On Oct 22, 2023
It was a conference of a Pentecostal church. A guest speaker spoke for fifteen minutes, just by connecting verses from the bible. He only had to add connections such as: and, or etc

Wow! I found it amazing, how one person can have so much mastery of biblical verses.

As at then, I have covered the bible twelve times Gen. to Rev.

Yet, for the life of me, I could not come up with that amount of uplifting bible verses off hand. Though, I had enough for an argument/debate on biblical subjects.

So, I went to work. In addition to reading the bible, I also decided to meditate on uplifting bible verses.

I grouped these verses under three categories (may share that later). Spooled out about twenty verses under each header.

Allocated a portion of my time for spiritual exercises to meditating on these verses.

The impact has been great.

First I have been able to commit to memory some of these verses.

Secondly, I have been able to use them in channeling a temptation upwards, during meditation, and in advicing/encouraging others.

Third one of these categories have manifested year in and year out.

I have also improved tremendously in the second category.

The third, is my focus for now. It will also manifest, as I keep on sounding God's word on thus subject deeply into my spirit and mind and practically doing all I ought to.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 5:18am On Oct 22, 2023
MAP

A brand new week is here.

What's your game plan?

You have to set it out in writing.

It doesn't have to be random.

It should be intentional.

Let if flow from your month's targets, the month's from the year's. The year's from the three to five year goals you are working on.

Yet to have any goal?

Just wandering.

Waitingfor what circumstance would bring your way?

That's for those who wish to just be fed.

You want to build financial wealth, they must be a plan for every period of your life.

Down to each day.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0.

#Building Financial Wealth.

With Love.
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 7:47pm On Oct 21, 2023
‭‭Jonah‬ ‭4:11‬
And should I not have concern for the great city of Nineveh, in which there are more than a hundred and twenty thousand people who cannot tell their right hand from their left—and also many animals?”

I should view people who make a practice of vice, same way God views them in this verse. I shouldn't write them off. I am not the Judge.

‭‭John‬ ‭3:5‭-‬6‬
Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit.

To understand spiritual things, beyond the letters I must be born of the water and spirit. Moreso, the Master - Jesus - says it is a criteria to enter the kingdom of God.


Experiencing God.


With Love
Health / Re: Health Without Drugs... by Anjinsan: 5:07pm On Oct 21, 2023
Osakwe felt heavy this morning, yet he followed popular norm, and ate breakfast like a King. The heaviness tripled, as he drove to the office.

The morning at the office was slow. No serious mental task to burn up the food in his tummy.

At 2p.m., which was his usual lunch break, Ojo called and they drove out to a fast food outlet. Following popular norm, Osakwe ate lunch like a Prince.

Now he found it difficult to breath, belching regularly.

The undigested food in his tummy was fermenting. Most of the units in the digestive department were already overworked. So they slowed down. They cannot come and die.

By 6:50pm, Osakwe drove home. His accumulated walk for the day totaled 14 minutes, over four different period. This is the only form of physical exercise he has had for the day, if it can be called exercise.

Wifey served supper around 9:03p.m. Though now feeling sick due to the accumulated rotten food in his tummy, Osakwe ate. Madam’s meal can’t be rejected. Suspicions may start rings bells in her head.

Throughout the night, Osakwe could not sleep. He was sick, very sick. Early the next morning he had to see a Doctor. Pills were given, after six days he felt whole.

This event is a regular occurrence for Osakwe.

When will he learn that the body needs to earn its food?

When will he learn that the tummy is not a freezer for food preservation? It is a place for food conversion.

A fool eats to be full. A sage eats for energy.

When will Osakwe learn this?

#Health without drugs...
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 6:32am On Oct 21, 2023
If you're currently able to fight for your dreams because you're not busy fighting for your life (war/sickness/incarceration) you're doing awesome. IOW, if you're physically, mentally, & geographically able to pursue your dreams—your best life— you're already living the dream.

Remember, the 3 WARMS: If you can sleep in a warm bed after a warm shower after a warm meal, you have a lot to be thankful for.

In other words, the grass is already green in your pasture.

(Copied: MJDemarco)

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0.

With Love
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 1:47pm On Oct 20, 2023
During my spiritual wanderings, at a point I delved into Psychology and Philosophy. Finally, I settled for: Existential Psychology and Stoic Philosophy.

It was exciting and intellectually stimulating being absorbed in that world.

After the initial euphoria, it didn't deeply satisfy. I was back, on the look out for that spiritual wand.

Getting tired of theology in it's many facets. The arguments, debates, opinions, doctrines, creeds, etc. I decided to focus on things all Christians agreeis good - Virtues.

I still enjoy books on psychology and philosophy. I believe the first is even essential to one's walk with God.

Some believers have suffered mental health issues, because they were not balanced. Engaging in fervent long spiritual exercises, without due consideration on their mental capacity.

If you are going deep into spiritual exercises, look for a good resource to understand the mind. The mind shouldn't carry more than it can handle at a time. If it does repeatedly, it will eventually bust.

How do you know when the leakages commence: First you will find it increasingly difficult to function in other area of life.

In that case, slow down take a break. The spirit also needs your mind. Don't destroy it.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.
Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 12:50pm On Oct 20, 2023
Before Covid Lockdown, he usually begs for =N=200 every morning to eat breakfast.

In the rented office space we share as at then, more often than not he was behind on the bills. And the custodians often embarrassed him.

Often, some of us will pay his share month after month. Often, his clothes were faded, just hanged on him - shapeless. He was pale, and looked hungry.

Even at that you can still notice his beauty. With some good food, this guy’s good looks will become glaring.

One morning after Covid lockdown, someone approached me. It was when he greeted that I recognized him as that same guy. He looked handsome, fresh, and gained some weight. He was even developing a big tummy.

His clothes looked clean, smart and fitted. Who says money can’t bring out one’s beauty?

“What have you been up to?” I asked? “When most groaned under Covid lockdown, na fresh up you go do.”

He laughed. “Bros na God o.” He replied.

“Of course, first na God, let’s sit somewhere, you have to tell me practically how God did it.” I said.

We sat and he began with how two years before Covid, he tried his hands on many things after he was out of regular employment. Submitted applications. Learnt coding.

Then he stumbled across Forex Trading. Any little money he got from a programming gig, he traded Forex with it. He was on a loosing streak.

He taught about joining a platform, where they will simply receive instructions on what to trade.

The drawback for him was that he may be too comfortable and give up learning how to trade. And without mastering the game, it would affect his plan to trade for others. So he forged on.

Then he developed a strategy during the Covid period. And boom! He struck gold. Now he trades for others.

Of course he knows the winning streak won’t last forever, so he looks for ways to hedge against loss that would cripple his funds or those of his clients.

#ObservationofanIntentionalVictor

With Love.
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 12:22pm On Oct 20, 2023
MINDSET.

Be intentional about your routine each morning when you wake up.

Be intentional on the tasks planned for each day.

Be intentional about the time you go to bed and remain sleeping during the night.

Why?

Building Financial Wealth will come with unimaginable stress. You are stretching yourself beyond what you are used to.

What you are used to may be doing your 9 to 5 job. Sitting on the couch and binging on DSTV or Netflix or Social media.

What you are used to may involve just being on the look out that another gig will come without putting in the required effort.

What you are use to....

So to start adjusting your mind, shifting the gear to who billionaires are, you start with what you can start with: your morning routines, you to do for the day.

Billionaires aren't haphazard. They know what they will do tomorrow, who they will see etc. That's why they have a P.A. to help them schedule and remind them.

Doing this helps to minimize stress each day. Because you wrote the day's script. It was expected. And when the unexpected comes, well, if your morning routine is an effective one, you will jump and pass.

In summary, create a routine that must be done regularly each morning. Create your to dos each day.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0.

With Love.
Health / Re: Health Without Drugs... by Anjinsan: 12:19pm On Oct 19, 2023
So far the elements that have enabled me stay healthy without drugs are:

1) Water

2) Fasting

3) Positivity

4) Eating habits

The fifth is food. What goes into my tummy. If I had my way, I would be a Vegan (no meat or animal produce version.)

Did that in school. My close friends said I should just say I have no money, than forming vegan (lol). Stopped after one semester, as the vegan semester wasn't an easy one, hardly could I feed from the pots of friends.

It's on the back burner though. For now anyway, first I give attention to fruits. 2nd vegetables, 3rd, legumes, 4th Carbs.

Junks, white flours (breads/pastries), soft drinks, are very minimal in my food chart. I haven't taken a soft drink for about three months now.

This is my second year of not drinking Alcohol. Was just a social drinker before then. Most beers taste like cow piss to me (don't ask if I have tasted cow piss)

Smoking, never smoked. Tried it once as a teenager, it wasn't pleasant, so I said a no no to it.

In essence, what goes through my mouth must be a healthy.

When it comes to how they should be cooked: uncooked, like fruits is first. Working towards regularly making fruits one of my three meals for the day. Did that yesterday, took paw paw for supper. Anyway, regularly I ensure I take a portion of fruit daily. Being fairly regular with that. More on fruits later.

Next, steamed or boiled takes high priority. I eliminate frying to the barest minimum. Only when it's necessary or I can't say no (You know now, as one with a wife). Fried foods take much longer to digest, giving more work to the digestive organ.

Usually I do my best to take my food as medicine, so that I won't have to take medicine as food. And for the past five years, it has worked wonders.

In summary, Food is my another element to health without drugs. Healthy foods, cooked in a healthy way.

#Health without drugs

With Love.
Religion / A Balanced Perspective Of The Israel Hamas War by Anjinsan: 2:15am On Oct 19, 2023
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People ask me all the time if I am "pro-Israel" because I am a Jew who has lived in Israel, and my answer is that being "pro-Israel" or being "pro-Palestine" or being a "Zionist" does not properly capture the nuance of thought most people do or should have about this issue. It certainly doesn't capture mine.

I have a lot to say. I’ve spent the last 72 hours writing, texting, and talking to Israelis, Jews, Muslims, and Palestinians. Much of my reaction is going to piss off people on "both sides," but I am exhausted and hurting and I do not think there is any way to discuss this situation without being radically honest about my views. So I'm going to try to say what I believe to be true the best I can.

Let me start with this: It could have been me.

That's a hard thought to shake when watching the videos out of Israel — the concert goers fleeing across an empty expanse, the hostages being paraded through the streets, the people shot in the head at bus stops or in their cars. I went to those parties in the desert, I rubbed shoulders with Israelis and Arabs and Jews and Muslims, I could have easily accepted an invitation to some concert near Sderot and gone without a care, only to be indiscriminately slaughtered. Or, perhaps worse, taken hostage and tortured.

I don’t believe Hamas is killing Israelis to liberate themselves, nor do I believe they are doing it to make peace. They're doing this because they represent the devil on the shoulder of every oppressed Palestinian who has lost someone in this conflict. They're doing it because they want vengeance. They are evening the score, and acting on the worst of our human impulses, to respond to blood with blood — an inclination that is easy to give in to after what their people have endured. It should not be hard to understand their logic — it is only hard to accept that humans are capable of being driven to this. Not defending Hamas is a very low bar to clear. Please clear it.

It’s not possible to recap the entire 5,000 year history of people fighting over this strip of land in one newsletter. There are plenty of easily accessible places you can learn about it if you want to (and, by the way, many of you should — far too many people speak on this issue with an obscene amount of ignorance, loads of arrogance, and a narrow historical lens focused on the last few decades). But I'll briefly highlight a few things that are important to me.

In my opinion, the Jewish people have a legitimate historical claim to the land of Israel. Jews had already been expelled and returned and expelled again a half dozen times before the rise of the Muslim and Arab rule of the Ottoman Empire. Of course it’s messy because we Jews and Arabs and Muslims are all cousins and descendents of the same Canaanites. But Arabs won the land centuries ago the same way Israel and Jews won it in the 20th century: Through conflict and war. The British defeated the Ottoman Empire and then came the Balfour Declaration, which amounted to the British granting the area to the Jewish people, a promise they’d later try to renege on — all before the wars that have defined the region since 1948.

That historical moment in the late 1940s was unique. After World War II, with many Arab and Muslim states already in existence, and after six million Jews were slaughtered, the global community felt it was important to grant the Jewish people a homeland. In a more logical or just world that homeland would have been in Europe as a kind of reparation for what the Nazis and others before them had done to the Jews, or perhaps in the Americas — like Alaska — or somewhere else. But the Jews wanted Israel, the British had taken to the Zionist movement, the British had conquered the Ottoman Empire which handed them control of the land, and America and Europe didn’t want the Jews. As a result, we got Israel.

The Arab states had already rejected a partitioned Israel repeatedly before World War II and rejected it again after the Holocaust and the end of the war. They did not want to give up even a little bit of their land to a bunch of Jewish interlopers who were granted it all of a sudden by British interlopers who had arrived a hundred years prior. Who could blame them? It had been centuries since Jews lived there in large numbers, and now they wanted to return in waves as secularized Europeans. Many of us would probably react the same way. So, just as humans have done forever, they fought. The many existing Arab states turned against the burgeoning new Jewish state. One side won and one side lost. This is the brutal and broken and violent world we live in, but it is what created the global world order we have now.

Are Israelis and British people "colonizers" because of this 20th century history? Sure. But that view flattens thousands of years of history and conflict, and the context of World War I and World War II. I don’t view Israelis and Brits as colonizers any more than the Assyrians or the Babylonians or the Romans or the Mongols or the Egyptians or the Ottomans who all battled over the same strip of land from as early as 800 years before Jesus’s time until now. The Jews who founded Israel just happened to have won the last big battle for it.

You can’t speak about this issue in a vacuum. You can't pretend that it wasn't just 60 years ago when Israel was surrounded on all sides by Arab states who wanted to wipe them off the face of the planet. Despite the balance of power shifting this century, that threat is still a reality. And you can't talk about that without remembering the only reason the Jews were in Israel in the first place was that they'd spent the previous centuries fleeing a bunch of Europeans who also wanted to wipe them off the face of the planet. And then Hitler showed up.

American partisans have a narrow view of this history, and an Americentric lens that is infuriating to witness. As Lee Fang perfectly put it, "Hamas would absolutely execute the ACAB lefties cheering on horrific violence against Israelis if they lived in Gaza & U.S. right-wingers blindly cheering on Israeli subjugation of Palestinians would rebel twice as violently if Americans were subjected to similar occupation."

And yet, many Americans only view modern Israel as the "powerful" one in this dynamic. Which is true — they obviously are. It isn't a fair fight and it hasn't been for decades because Israel's government is rich and resourceful, has the backing of the United States and most of Europe, and has an incredibly powerful military. At the same time, Israeli leadership has made technological and military advancements that have further tipped those scales — all while the Israeli government has helped create a resource-thin open air prison of two million Arabs in Gaza.

Conversely, Palestinians are devoid of any real unified leadership, and the Arab world is now divided on the issue of Palestine. Israel is unwilling to give the people in Gaza and the West Bank more than an inch of freedom to live. These are largely the refugees and descendents of the refugees of the 1948 and 1967 wars that Israel won. And you can't keep two million people in the condition that those in the Gaza strip live in and not expect events like this.

I'm sorry to say that while the blood on the ground is fresh. The Israelis who were killed in this attack largely have nothing to do with those conditions other than being born at a time when Israel and Jews have the upper hand in this conflict. Some of the victims weren’t even Israeli — they were just tourists. This is why we describe them as “innocent” and why Hamas has only reaffirmed that they are a brutal terror organization with this attack — an organization that I hope is quickly toppled, for the sake of both the Palestinian people and the Israelis. But as someone with a deep love for Israel, with friends in danger and people I know still missing, it breaks my heart to say it but I'm saying it again because it remains perhaps the most salient point of context in a tangled mess full of centuries of context:

You cannot keep two million people living in the conditions people in Gaza are living in and expect peace.

You can't. And you shouldn’t. Their environment is antithetical to the human condition. Violent rebellion is guaranteed. Guaranteed. As sure as the sun rising.

And the cycle of violence seems locked in to self-perpetuate, because both sides see a score to settle:

1) Israel has already responded with a vengeance, and they will continue to. Their desire for violence is not unlike Hamas’s — it’s just as much about blood for blood as any legitimate security measure. Israel will “have every right to respond with force." Toppling Hamas — a group, by the way, Israel erred in supporting — will now be the objective, and civilian death will be seen as necessary collateral damage. But Israel will also do a bunch of things they don't have a right to. They will flatten apartment buildings and kill civilians and children and many in the global community will probably cheer them on while they do it. They have already stopped the flow of water, electricity, and food to two million people, and killed dozens of civilians in their retaliatory bombings. We should never accept this, never lose sight that this horror is being inflicted on human beings. As the group B’Tselem said, “There is no justification for such crimes, whether they are committed as part of a struggle for freedom from oppression or cited as part of a war against terror.” I mourn for the innocents of Palestine just as I do for the innocents in Israel. As of late, many, many more have died on their side than Israel's. And many more Palestinians are likely to die in this spate of violence, too.

Unfortunately, most people in the West only pay attention to this story when Hamas or a Palestinian in Gaza or the West Bank commits an act of violence. Palestinian citizens die regularly at the hands of the Israeli military and their plight goes largely unnoticed until they respond with violence of their own. Israel had already killed an estimated 250 Palestinians, including 47 children, this year alone. And that is just in the West Bank.

2) Every single time Israel kills someone in the name of self-defense they create a handful of new radicalized extremists who will feel justified in wanting to take an Israeli life in retribution sometime in the future. Half of Gaza’s two million people are under the age of 19 — they know little besides Hamas rule (since 2006), Israeli occupation, blockades, and rockets falling from the sky. The suffering of these innocent children born into this reality is incomprehensible to me. They will suffer more now because of Hamas’s actions and Israel’s response, all through no fault of their own.

There is no way out of this pattern until one side exercises restraint or leaders on both sides find a new solution. Israelis will tell you that if Palestinians put their guns down then the war would end, but if Israel put their guns down they'd be wiped off the planet. I don't have a crystal ball and can’t tell you what is true. But what I am certain of is that every time Israel kills more innocents they engender more rage and hatred and recruit more Palestinians and Arabs to the cause against them. There is no disputing this.

So, why did this happen now?

I'm not sure how to answer that question except to say it was bound to happen eventually. It was a massive policy and intelligence failure and Netanyahu should pay the price politically — he is a failed leader. Iran probably helped organize the attack and the money freed up by the Biden administration's prisoner swap probably didn't help the situation, either. Israel's increasingly extremist government and settlers provoking Palestinians certainly didn't help. Nor has going to the Al-Aqsa mosque and desecrating it. Nor do blockades and bombings and indiscriminate subjugation of a whole people. Nor does refusing to talk to non-terrorist leaders in Palestine. Nor does illegally continuing to expand and steal what is left of Palestinian land, as many Jews and Israelis have been doing in the 21st century despite cries from the global community to stop. A violent response was predictable — in fact, plenty of people did predict it.

Israel is forever stuffing these people into tinier and tinier boxes with fewer and fewer resources. But if you want to blame Israeli leaders for continuing to expand and settle land that does not belong to them (as I do), then you should also spare some blame for Palestinian leaders for repeatedly not accepting a partitioned Israel during the 20th century that could have led to peace (as I do).

Please also remember this: Hamas is still an extremist group. The Palestinian people do not have a government or leaders who legitimately represent their interests, and it sure as hell isn't Hamas. Will some Palestinians cheer and clap at the dead, or spit on them as they are paraded through Gaza? Yes they will. And they have. Many will also mourn because they loathe Hamas and know this will only make things worse. This is no different than how some Americans cheer at the dead in every single war we've ever fought. It's no different than the Israelis who set up lawn chairs to watch their government bomb Palestine and cheer them on, too. This doesn't mean Palestinians or Israelis or Americans are evil — it means some of them are giving in to their violent impulses, and their zealous feelings of righteous vengeance.

Solutions, you ask? I can’t say I have any. If you came here for that, I’m sorry. The two-state solution looks dead to me. A three-state solution makes some sense but feels out of the view of all the people who matter and could make it happen. I wish a one-state solution felt realistic — a world of Israelis and Arabs and Muslims and Jews living side by side with equal rights, fully integrated and defused of their hate, is a version of Israel that I would adore. But it seems less and less realistic with every new act of violence.

Am I pro-Israel or pro-Palestine? I have no idea.

I'm pro-not-killing-civilians.

I'm pro-not-trapping-millions-of-people-in-open-air-prisons.

I'm pro-not-shooting-grandmas-in-the-back-of-the-head.

I'm pro-not-flattening-apartment-complexes.

I'm pro-not-raping-women-and-taking-hostages.

I'm pro-not-unjustly-imprisoning-people-without-due-process.

I'm pro-freedom and pro-peace and pro- all the things we never see in this conflict anymore.

Whatever this is, I want none of it.
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Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 2:11am On Oct 19, 2023
He called after 25 years.

My bosom childhood friend.

Some one close to me, recognized him, and he collected my number.

Six months after the call, we met in person.

There was a lot of catching up to do.

He has done so well in his career.

Financially, he is a big boy.

He was close to those in the state's corridor of power.

He is married to a beautiful, intelligent lady.

The marriage has produced lovely children - boys and girls.

We continued catching up on each other's life, even as he drove.

"So UC, tell me I learnt the women in Port-Harcourt are hot. How many do you have?" He asked.

"I looked at him, as he parked in front of a fruit garden.

Paraphrasing, what I first heard in my first year of marriage from a friend.

I replied: "The time, energy, and resources maintaining one woman - my wife - is enough for me. Add another woman? That means I no like myself now."

That said, I stepped out and got some fruits.

Back to the car, I noticed my guy had his head upwards with his hand on his brow.

"Are you okay?" I asked.

"Bro. Women wahala is choking me," he replied.

I gave some suggestions, on how to break free.

He listened, got himself together, as we continued to our destination.

Ten minutes later, he said, "Guy, check out that Chic, men....."

#Alpha+

With Love
Religion / A Balanced Perspective On The Israel Hamas War by Anjinsan: 1:18am On Oct 19, 2023
Isaac Saul
@Ike_Saul

People ask me all the time if I am "pro-Israel" because I am a Jew who has lived in Israel, and my answer is that being "pro-Israel" or being "pro-Palestine" or being a "Zionist" does not properly capture the nuance of thought most people do or should have about this issue. It certainly doesn't capture mine.

I have a lot to say. I’ve spent the last 72 hours writing, texting, and talking to Israelis, Jews, Muslims, and Palestinians. Much of my reaction is going to piss off people on "both sides," but I am exhausted and hurting and I do not think there is any way to discuss this situation without being radically honest about my views. So I'm going to try to say what I believe to be true the best I can.

Let me start with this: It could have been me.

That's a hard thought to shake when watching the videos out of Israel — the concert goers fleeing across an empty expanse, the hostages being paraded through the streets, the people shot in the head at bus stops or in their cars. I went to those parties in the desert, I rubbed shoulders with Israelis and Arabs and Jews and Muslims, I could have easily accepted an invitation to some concert near Sderot and gone without a care, only to be indiscriminately slaughtered. Or, perhaps worse, taken hostage and tortured.

I don’t believe Hamas is killing Israelis to liberate themselves, nor do I believe they are doing it to make peace. They're doing this because they represent the devil on the shoulder of every oppressed Palestinian who has lost someone in this conflict. They're doing it because they want vengeance. They are evening the score, and acting on the worst of our human impulses, to respond to blood with blood — an inclination that is easy to give in to after what their people have endured. It should not be hard to understand their logic — it is only hard to accept that humans are capable of being driven to this. Not defending Hamas is a very low bar to clear. Please clear it.

It’s not possible to recap the entire 5,000 year history of people fighting over this strip of land in one newsletter. There are plenty of easily accessible places you can learn about it if you want to (and, by the way, many of you should — far too many people speak on this issue with an obscene amount of ignorance, loads of arrogance, and a narrow historical lens focused on the last few decades). But I'll briefly highlight a few things that are important to me.

In my opinion, the Jewish people have a legitimate historical claim to the land of Israel. Jews had already been expelled and returned and expelled again a half dozen times before the rise of the Muslim and Arab rule of the Ottoman Empire. Of course it’s messy because we Jews and Arabs and Muslims are all cousins and descendents of the same Canaanites. But Arabs won the land centuries ago the same way Israel and Jews won it in the 20th century: Through conflict and war. The British defeated the Ottoman Empire and then came the Balfour Declaration, which amounted to the British granting the area to the Jewish people, a promise they’d later try to renege on — all before the wars that have defined the region since 1948.

That historical moment in the late 1940s was unique. After World War II, with many Arab and Muslim states already in existence, and after six million Jews were slaughtered, the global community felt it was important to grant the Jewish people a homeland. In a more logical or just world that homeland would have been in Europe as a kind of reparation for what the Nazis and others before them had done to the Jews, or perhaps in the Americas — like Alaska — or somewhere else. But the Jews wanted Israel, the British had taken to the Zionist movement, the British had conquered the Ottoman Empire which handed them control of the land, and America and Europe didn’t want the Jews. As a result, we got Israel.

The Arab states had already rejected a partitioned Israel repeatedly before World War II and rejected it again after the Holocaust and the end of the war. They did not want to give up even a little bit of their land to a bunch of Jewish interlopers who were granted it all of a sudden by British interlopers who had arrived a hundred years prior. Who could blame them? It had been centuries since Jews lived there in large numbers, and now they wanted to return in waves as secularized Europeans. Many of us would probably react the same way. So, just as humans have done forever, they fought. The many existing Arab states turned against the burgeoning new Jewish state. One side won and one side lost. This is the brutal and broken and violent world we live in, but it is what created the global world order we have now.

Are Israelis and British people "colonizers" because of this 20th century history? Sure. But that view flattens thousands of years of history and conflict, and the context of World War I and World War II. I don’t view Israelis and Brits as colonizers any more than the Assyrians or the Babylonians or the Romans or the Mongols or the Egyptians or the Ottomans who all battled over the same strip of land from as early as 800 years before Jesus’s time until now. The Jews who founded Israel just happened to have won the last big battle for it.

You can’t speak about this issue in a vacuum. You can't pretend that it wasn't just 60 years ago when Israel was surrounded on all sides by Arab states who wanted to wipe them off the face of the planet. Despite the balance of power shifting this century, that threat is still a reality. And you can't talk about that without remembering the only reason the Jews were in Israel in the first place was that they'd spent the previous centuries fleeing a bunch of Europeans who also wanted to wipe them off the face of the planet. And then Hitler showed up.

American partisans have a narrow view of this history, and an Americentric lens that is infuriating to witness. As Lee Fang perfectly put it, "Hamas would absolutely execute the ACAB lefties cheering on horrific violence against Israelis if they lived in Gaza & U.S. right-wingers blindly cheering on Israeli subjugation of Palestinians would rebel twice as violently if Americans were subjected to similar occupation."

And yet, many Americans only view modern Israel as the "powerful" one in this dynamic. Which is true — they obviously are. It isn't a fair fight and it hasn't been for decades because Israel's government is rich and resourceful, has the backing of the United States and most of Europe, and has an incredibly powerful military. At the same time, Israeli leadership has made technological and military advancements that have further tipped those scales — all while the Israeli government has helped create a resource-thin open air prison of two million Arabs in Gaza.

Conversely, Palestinians are devoid of any real unified leadership, and the Arab world is now divided on the issue of Palestine. Israel is unwilling to give the people in Gaza and the West Bank more than an inch of freedom to live. These are largely the refugees and descendents of the refugees of the 1948 and 1967 wars that Israel won. And you can't keep two million people in the condition that those in the Gaza strip live in and not expect events like this.

I'm sorry to say that while the blood on the ground is fresh. The Israelis who were killed in this attack largely have nothing to do with those conditions other than being born at a time when Israel and Jews have the upper hand in this conflict. Some of the victims weren’t even Israeli — they were just tourists. This is why we describe them as “innocent” and why Hamas has only reaffirmed that they are a brutal terror organization with this attack — an organization that I hope is quickly toppled, for the sake of both the Palestinian people and the Israelis. But as someone with a deep love for Israel, with friends in danger and people I know still missing, it breaks my heart to say it but I'm saying it again because it remains perhaps the most salient point of context in a tangled mess full of centuries of context:

You cannot keep two million people living in the conditions people in Gaza are living in and expect peace.

You can't. And you shouldn’t. Their environment is antithetical to the human condition. Violent rebellion is guaranteed. Guaranteed. As sure as the sun rising.

And the cycle of violence seems locked in to self-perpetuate, because both sides see a score to settle:

1) Israel has already responded with a vengeance, and they will continue to. Their desire for violence is not unlike Hamas’s — it’s just as much about blood for blood as any legitimate security measure. Israel will “have every right to respond with force." Toppling Hamas — a group, by the way, Israel erred in supporting — will now be the objective, and civilian death will be seen as necessary collateral damage. But Israel will also do a bunch of things they don't have a right to. They will flatten apartment buildings and kill civilians and children and many in the global community will probably cheer them on while they do it. They have already stopped the flow of water, electricity, and food to two million people, and killed dozens of civilians in their retaliatory bombings. We should never accept this, never lose sight that this horror is being inflicted on human beings. As the group B’Tselem said, “There is no justification for such crimes, whether they are committed as part of a struggle for freedom from oppression or cited as part of a war against terror.” I mourn for the innocents of Palestine just as I do for the innocents in Israel. As of late, many, many more have died on their side than Israel's. And many more Palestinians are likely to die in this spate of violence, too.

Unfortunately, most people in the West only pay attention to this story when Hamas or a Palestinian in Gaza or the West Bank commits an act of violence. Palestinian citizens die regularly at the hands of the Israeli military and their plight goes largely unnoticed until they respond with violence of their own. Israel had already killed an estimated 250 Palestinians, including 47 children, this year alone. And that is just in the West Bank.

2) Every single time Israel kills someone in the name of self-defense they create a handful of new radicalized extremists who will feel justified in wanting to take an Israeli life in retribution sometime in the future. Half of Gaza’s two million people are under the age of 19 — they know little besides Hamas rule (since 2006), Israeli occupation, blockades, and rockets falling from the sky. The suffering of these innocent children born into this reality is incomprehensible to me. They will suffer more now because of Hamas’s actions and Israel’s response, all through no fault of their own.

There is no way out of this pattern until one side exercises restraint or leaders on both sides find a new solution. Israelis will tell you that if Palestinians put their guns down then the war would end, but if Israel put their guns down they'd be wiped off the planet. I don't have a crystal ball and can’t tell you what is true. But what I am certain of is that every time Israel kills more innocents they engender more rage and hatred and recruit more Palestinians and Arabs to the cause against them. There is no disputing this.

So, why did this happen now?

I'm not sure how to answer that question except to say it was bound to happen eventually. It was a massive policy and intelligence failure and Netanyahu should pay the price politically — he is a failed leader. Iran probably helped organize the attack and the money freed up by the Biden administration's prisoner swap probably didn't help the situation, either. Israel's increasingly extremist government and settlers provoking Palestinians certainly didn't help. Nor has going to the Al-Aqsa mosque and desecrating it. Nor do blockades and bombings and indiscriminate subjugation of a whole people. Nor does refusing to talk to non-terrorist leaders in Palestine. Nor does illegally continuing to expand and steal what is left of Palestinian land, as many Jews and Israelis have been doing in the 21st century despite cries from the global community to stop. A violent response was predictable — in fact, plenty of people did predict it.

Israel is forever stuffing these people into tinier and tinier boxes with fewer and fewer resources. But if you want to blame Israeli leaders for continuing to expand and settle land that does not belong to them (as I do), then you should also spare some blame for Palestinian leaders for repeatedly not accepting a partitioned Israel during the 20th century that could have led to peace (as I do).

Please also remember this: Hamas is still an extremist group. The Palestinian people do not have a government or leaders who legitimately represent their interests, and it sure as hell isn't Hamas. Will some Palestinians cheer and clap at the dead, or spit on them as they are paraded through Gaza? Yes they will. And they have. Many will also mourn because they loathe Hamas and know this will only make things worse. This is no different than how some Americans cheer at the dead in every single war we've ever fought. It's no different than the Israelis who set up lawn chairs to watch their government bomb Palestine and cheer them on, too. This doesn't mean Palestinians or Israelis or Americans are evil — it means some of them are giving in to their violent impulses, and their zealous feelings of righteous vengeance.

Solutions, you ask? I can’t say I have any. If you came here for that, I’m sorry. The two-state solution looks dead to me. A three-state solution makes some sense but feels out of the view of all the people who matter and could make it happen. I wish a one-state solution felt realistic — a world of Israelis and Arabs and Muslims and Jews living side by side with equal rights, fully integrated and defused of their hate, is a version of Israel that I would adore. But it seems less and less realistic with every new act of violence.

Am I pro-Israel or pro-Palestine? I have no idea.

I'm pro-not-killing-civilians.

I'm pro-not-trapping-millions-of-people-in-open-air-prisons.

I'm pro-not-shooting-grandmas-in-the-back-of-the-head.

I'm pro-not-flattening-apartment-complexes.

I'm pro-not-raping-women-and-taking-hostages.

I'm pro-not-unjustly-imprisoning-people-without-due-process.

I'm pro-freedom and pro-peace and pro- all the things we never see in this conflict anymore.

Whatever this is, I want none of it.
5:26 PM · Oct 10, 2023
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 1:09am On Oct 19, 2023
This morning, during my spiritual exercises, I entered the heavens even deeper.

One thing that I knew contributed to this, was yesterday's fasting, coupled with spiritual exercises.

Fasting is an exercise I started first on health ground. As my thread on Health Without Drugs...(Health session) reveals.

There is tremendous power (mental and spiritual, even physical) that comes with a light body. It's no wonder some in silicon valley engage in it regularly.

I posit that the ultimate benefit of combining fasting with spiritual exercises doesn't come during the process. It comes after.

During today's session of praises, after yesterday's fast and prayers, ah! The bliss is unspeakable.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.

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Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 1:03am On Oct 19, 2023
Executing speedily isn't a license for below average output. It isn't a license to jump from one thing to the other without completing anyone in the quickest time frame.

At the onset, just to survive, you may try several things.

Soon, decide the vehicle that has the highest potential to led you to a bigger vehicle, and the next, till you board the final wealth vehicle(s) which will enable you attain and sustain your life's purpose.

In summary, Execute professionally and systematically.

#Building Financial Wealth.

With Love.
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 2:05pm On Oct 18, 2023
Have a system of reviewing how well you are doing.

The ultimate indicator is the Assets you have acquired. Everything that can translate into money.

In between, you need to create a system of sorts to ensure you are always doing what you ought to do, how you ought to do it.

The system is like a Map to ensure that daily you are doing the things you need to, without this Map you may be lost.

With this Map, even when lost, you can backtrack, retrace.

In summary, have a system that daily tests how well you are doing.

With Love.
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 8:20pm On Oct 17, 2023
Experientially, I know that when I give in to temptations, mentally and spiritually I groan.

Even during the process, the agony is more than the benefit of the act. Why I kept on with it even then, is something that puzzles me.

The good thing is this, after that episode, I evaluate the situation prayerfully, and prepare for the next which is around the corner.

In all these, it has helped me to overcome some once stubborn thorn in the flesh. It has contributed to a life of holiness.

Ah! This evening, I had time to notice the blue sky today with dashes of white.

Then, there was a point where the rays of the sun pierced through.

Magnificent!

And more magnificent is the designer.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 8:06pm On Oct 17, 2023
Each post on this thread will be divided into:

Purpose
Mindset
March
Map

If any further subdivision comes up later, will modify.

March.

You can't be slow when it comes to execution. An idea drops into your mind. Three days, one week, one month after, you are yet to turn that idea into action.

An idea drops, find a way to test it's potency ASAP. How many days? Frankly, it will differ from one idea to the other. The nature of the idea will determine its conception and testing stage.

If it's an idea that involves first a proposal, then three days max, you should have put something together and sent the add value proposal to the closest person you know to the target person or directly to the target person himself.

If it's a big project. Break it down in chunks, task by task...the initial thing to do may be to research on it...one week max, you can input that into your to do for a new week.

An opportunity comes your way, legit. No capital needed. You have the time needed, and you say let me think about it.

Hmm... wrong. Dive into it. Get the juice it has to offer.

In summary, Execute sharperly. No time. No dulling.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0

With Love.
Career / Teachable Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 1:27am On Oct 17, 2023
It was an interview session.

Three among the final four shortlisted candidates were through with the interview.

Based on the score sheets, the MD was adviced. His instinct also agreed with what HR had on paper.

He made up his mind to go with Candidate B.

The last person to be interviewed, a man whose CV showed he was in his mid 40s, for the young hippie culture of the organization, no one gave him a chance. Just wanted to interview him for formality.

He came in.

First impression, among the candidates he was the only one who dressed formally. He had a tie. For the role in question - Accountant - a tie wasn't out of place.

Though his white shirt looked faded, the tie seemed to compensate for it.

Next, when he started answering the interview questions. His answers were precise, more intelligent, and straight to the point.

He rarely paused for long, or was fidgety before giving an answer. This was a clear indication of his sharp, intelligent mind.

Then his eyes, ah those eyes, full of life. Very alert. Sharper than the other young candidates.

When quizzed to guage his I.T. proficiency, he demonstrated he was up to date (knowledge wise) with the latest in the I.T. world. As the company was I.T. savvy.

The one that blew us apart was his answers to the questions that was meant to test for creativity, innovation, and intrapreneurship. He wowed us, citing instances, where he has displayed such in the business of employers.

And when probed further, his answers held, showing he didn't manufacture the answers.

Well, when the interview panel was alone, we took an aggregate of his scores. He scored 5% higher than the best candidate we had in mind.

The MD's intuition?

He wanted him on board also. In fact he said the company will benefit with an older person. Not just an older person, with an older person who had something upstairs, something to offer.

His agility, and intelligence made us forget about his age.

The M.D. was excited for HR to offer him the job.

#TeachableMomentsbyaHRProfessional.
Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 12:43am On Oct 17, 2023
It's a Productive Week.

A week for you to add value as an Efficient Executive.

This week's EI Moment by a HR Professional:

THE MAN DIED.

That’s how he died,” Vivian said.

“Hmm,” uttered Sandra and Winifred.

Sipping from her glass of water, Vivian continued, “My husband said he had no reason to die, he was recuperating speedily. Then he lost his job, but the company was gracious enough to pay the medical bills. Yet his health took a downward curve.”

Winifred asked, “So what did the autopsy reveal?”

Vivian answered, “My sister, heart attack.”

“I thought you said he was recuperating fine,” said Sandra.

“She said he was, until he lost his job. Sandra are you with us?”
Winifred asked.

“Yes, I heard what Vivian said, but his medical bill was still covered by the company. He received a nice terminal benefit. I know the company he worked for, my brother-in-law works
there. Their severance allowance is one of the best in the industry. What I don’t get is how his
health curved downwards in just two weeks, leading to death.”

They heard the laughter of their husbands on the balcony. “I imagine the joke those senior boys are cracking. While we are here analyzing the mystery behind the death of one of their patients, they are busy laughing. I hope they aren’t gossiping, I meant to say discussing. You know, men don’t gossip, they discuss,” said Sandra.
….
“It was a puzzle for some doctors, but not for my John,” Vivian boosted. “You see, he understands there is a relationship between emotions and health.”

(Extracted from the Book: Smart with Feelings - The Stars.

#EIMomentsbyaHRProfessional.
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 12:37am On Oct 17, 2023
I have reached that stage of my life where I know experientially, that peace in my life is achieved by:

1) Living a holy life.

2) Regularly engaging in spiritual exercises.

In these ways, I have the opportunity to experience God every second of the day.

I am not yet there on a consistent basis. I am not a saint. But I don’t make a practice of vices.

There is a difference between someone who fell for a vice once once, and someone who takes such a vice as part of his life style.

The first happened, the second is intentional.

Life with God is beautiful. Experiencing God is something that can’t be contained in words.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.
Business / Re: Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 12:26am On Oct 17, 2023
When others sleep through the night, wealth builders don’t have that seeming pleasure. They don’t have that type of pleasure especially at the onset, especially when wealth is yet to manifest.

Even when they work a 9 to 5 job, they propel themselves to give attention on that side hustle, that project, that business, which they know is the catalyst of the wealth they intend to manifest.

Some wake in-between the night to clarify their thoughts, to think things through before a reaching a decision, to affirm or confess or meditate on those words which will make them a force for wealth manifestation later in the day.

A friend who worked with then Equatorial Trust Bank, told me, “Adenuga never sleeps. And he expects same level of attention from his underlings. He can call an ED or the MD, by 2am, and expect an alert answer same time.”

Same thing my senior colleagues in a company I once worked for also said about the MD. He can call you by 11:45pm, and if you don’t pick or return his call same hour, be ready for trouble the next day.

In summary, make it a habit to rise when the world is still asleep. Spend that time on something productive. You are creating a habit that is common to most wealth creators.

#Building Financial Wealth 2.0.

With Love
Religion / Re: The Agonies Of A Freethinker by Anjinsan: 5:12pm On Oct 15, 2023
I count you fortunate to have taken a stance on such sensitive subject before marriage.

In marriage, e for no easy. Because if I understand you correctly, you still believe in God, but don't want to identify with a religious group.

It's easier for one who doesn't believe to compromise and associate, to play along for any reason whatsoever.

When you still believe, the way you express your spirituality is something that will be difficult for a honest person to pretend about.

On how to go about finding an appropriate partner. First, go through your post, you will realize that mentally you have given up even before you started.

Change that mindset.

There are decent ladies who aren't churchy or will still marry someone like you. Our society is littered with cross religious marriages etc, without one spouse trying to change the other.

What most women really need is a man who can be faithful, non-violent, and ability to comfortably provide for the home. The last is even more important to them.

You will come across a lady that will love you as a 'freethinker', if you start by convincing yourself you would.

Another thing, don't hide your identity, when you go on dates. But don't bring it up during the onset of the relationship if you can, or if she doesn't know.

Let her know you for you, and love you for you. Even if she identifies with a religion, she will convince herself that this other thing doesn't matter to love. She will even recount to herself marriages that have failed despite both partners belonging to same religious group.

All the best.

With Love.

uncleck:
I'm 35 years old. My sweetheart left me few weeks ago because, according to her, she can't "marry a man who doesn't fear God". This followed series of heart to heart communication over many months. Her problem isn't that I'm a bad person. Normally I don't categorize people based on whether they are good or bad. I equally do not make decisions based on morality rather based on legality (except in family and relationship matters).

My girlfriend (now ex) always confesses that she has never met a man like me. I hardly express emotions. I don't smoke. I drink moderately. I don't gamble. But I don't judge anyone who chooses a different lifestyle... I'm not diabolic. The last time I raised my hand on a woman was when I was in primary two. The last time I engaged in physical fight was in my SS2. My Yes is my Yes... She wants me to at least pretend to be a Christian even if it's just once. She wants me to pretend to pray even if it's once.... But how can live a lie if if it's just once?

Would you prefer an honest man who has no business with church or a dishonest man who goes to church? At length she saw things from my perspective but her friends convinced her otherwise. "If he truly loves you, he should go to church at least for your sake". "Imagine going to church every Sunday with your children without their father, will there be morning prayer in your home etc...?".

I was born and brought up as a Christian. I dedicated most of my youthful years to Christianity. I lost many life changing opportunities because of my dedication to the Christian life. But when I started asking questions, I was deeply dissatisfied... I've attended almost all christian churches, I've studied Islam greatly, I've done a great deal of searching in both Shintoism and Buddhism. I've delved into the unending African traditional religion... I've reached a conclusion that I won't want to disclose here in the meantime

I have noticed that people, especially religious people, say what they don't mean (lie) with ease. People live double life with ease. (I don't want this thread to be too long)

Now, I'm not looking for a "compatible" partner (she doesn't exist), I only want a liberal minded person that is contented with one d***k. But it seems I'm on a wild goose chase. I might end up single

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Religion / Re: Does God actually speak to people? How? When last did God speak to you? by Anjinsan: 3:30pm On Oct 15, 2023
Yes, he does.

Today.

This morning I was on my bed. It was 5am, sleepy eyed. I reached deep into my inner man, and I heard some instructions that made it easy to start my day.

Also, later in the morning, as I picked some verses and meditated on them.

Also, severally, during the course of this day. I retreat within, often. after a prayer, and listen to that still small voice.

To know how as a Christian, go to Google ask: questions such: Being Spirit Led.

With Love.

essentialone:
Does God actually speak to people? How? When last did God speak to you?
Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 2:52pm On Oct 15, 2023
Employees guided by a handbook.

Citizens are guided by the constitution

What guides you?

I have settled on mine - the Bible. Foremost, the teachings of my Master - Jesus Christ, as contained in the gospel.

Luke 18:1. "Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up."

Prayer keeps a christian in faith. It keeps a christian in faith as he does everything practical to overcome a challenge.

It keeps a christian in faith when everything practical have been done.

Prayer is a christian's first, major, best, and last remedy to any challenge.

Let prayer be an essential part of my day, as the water I drink.

#Experiencing God.

With Love.

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