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 Business / Building Financial Wealth 2.0 by Anjinsan: 2:25pm On Oct 11, 2023 |
I write to clarify my thoughts, to deepen my values, to deepen my commitment This thread is meant to deepen my commitment to build wealth legally. By adding value to others. Have you ever drawn up a plan from point A to Z of things which you know if you do it will result to some good money in your account at the end of the period? On a scale of 1 to 10 how much did you follow that plan? You may know that some activities such as aimlessly browsing the internet (social media especially) is a big waste of your precious time, and even money (data). Yet, you find it difficult to cut loose. Mindlessly, like a zombie, you find yourself going back and back again. You aren't alone, most of us battle this addiction. Then you look around, and try to find a scape goat for your financial penury. Yeah,there he goes...the government. I have come to realise that there is little we can do each to make tomorrow financially better. Yet bad habits etc, hinder us from putting our best foot forward. Hmm...there is an income I want to start earning right from even last month. I recently opened about four threads to help me clarify my thoughts, deepen my values and commitment. They cover my role as a husband (Alpha+ in the family section). Health (Health without drugs... in the Health section) Spirituality (Experiencing God in the Religion section). Yet, if there is a thread I need to spend more time writing on, it's this one. Like the other threads, it isn't on the diary section, as I welcome inputs from others. And to make it easier for others to benefit from. Essays, experiences, and stories will form the bulk of my contributions. With Love. 1 Like |
| Health / Health Without Drugs... by Anjinsan: 2:09pm On Oct 11, 2023 |
One month like that in 2018, I told myself, enough of pharmaceutical drugs. And till date, I can say, I live without such drugs. I haven't had any reason to see a doctor. Neither have I been weighed down by illness such that I must be tied to my bed. What's the secret? That's what this thread is meant to share. And also read the inputs of others that have at least for five years, lived naturally without processed drugs. With Love. |
| Religion / Re: Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 1:00pm On Oct 11, 2023 |
After two or three years of searching, reading, etc, I had to come to a conclusion. My options were broken down into three: a) Open Spirituality: That is, Align with any religion that believes in God. I know this won't work for me. It's too broad, I will not really know what I stand for. b) Christian Spirituality: Align with any religion that has a Jesus factor in it. And build my personal approach to God, with Christ as the centre. c) Sect Spirituality: Choose and become a member of a particular christian religion that seems to harmonize with all I believe. This was tempting, and is still tempting, because the Orthodox group I was born in, perfectly fits as that christian religion. I choose B. That's where I am right now. I have my personal approach. All I will say is this: It takes discipline to strike out on the spiritual journey without the support system of a formal religion. Yet, for any that feels that's the point they are right now, when by God's grace and some personal work you keep pushing, the benefits are much more than you will gain from not breaking forth. And for those still in a formal religion, it's okay, in as much as you also take seriously your personal relationship with God as you take the group's activities. It's okay if it isn't adversely affecting your mental health. Experiencing God, is born from our personal encounters with him. It can happen to anyone be you inside institutional religion or outside it. So, how have you experienced God recently? With Love |
| Religion / Experiencing God by Anjinsan: 7:49pm On Oct 10, 2023 |
What's the essence of this thread. It's to share my experiences with God, and to encourage you to do same too. Let me start with my religious experience. I was born into an Orthodox Christian religion. Completed the orders of the church, aside from marriage, before I clocked 11years. I left for boarding school the year I clocked 11years. And spent most of the break with a relation who belonged to a millennial religion. Eventually at 16years I formally joined the group. An event happened after five years, that made me leave the fold. During the period another event happened that made me come back. Coming back even stronger, took it more seriously and grew in the fold. When I moved to another state, and encountered two other religious sects who also have a millennial leaning, I saw nothing special in what mine had. During this period, I became open to reading materials from other religious circles. I experimented with Pentecostalism, read their books, attended their gatherings, etc. At the end of the day, in good faith I couldn't become a member of any. I started reading materials outside the Christian fold. Books on Asian religion, New age movement, Islamic materials, even attended some events of what I will term mystical religions. Also, I delved into atheist and agnostic materials. Their arguments, didn't make sense to me. Back then, most of my reading time was spent on religious materials. After some findings, and seeing that I could not in good faith remain a member of the millennial religious group, I stopped engaging in the activities of the fold, mentally ready for any consequence that may follow. Being six years now, and I have stuck to my decision. Overall, I am grateful to the Orthodox church for introducing me to God. I am grateful to the millennial group for opening the bible to me me how to marshal bible debates. I am also grateful to the pentecostals for opening the holy spirit to me. For a seeker, it comes at a point in your life, you feel you are ready to piece together your own approach to God, and follow through on it. I was conversing with a friend of mine, now in Europe and one thing led to another and we both learnt we have both left the millennial group of our youth. He was leaning into agnostic beliefs. And he said one thing that really touched me: "You are fortunate to have pieced something together that makes it easy for you to hold on to Christianity." Frankly, I don't know if I would call what I practice Christianity. Well it is, for my form of personal worship makes use of all that makes sense to me from the bible. Especially the new testament. With Love. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 4:38pm On Oct 10, 2023 |
VALUES. An Alpha plus male keeps a TAB. Early in his relationship, he is clear on what constitutes his TAB items. T: Terminate. A: Act. B: Blind. T: Terminate are those things that will end the relationship. For most Alpha+ males, one or more of the beneath from their dear she, is sure to terminate the relationship: a) Infidelity. b) Attempt to cause physical harm. c) Attempt at murder. d) She initiates termination. A: Act are those things the Alpha+ male will not overlook. Those things he will talk about. Those things that he will confront, and stand his ground. For most Alpha+ males, one or more of the following from his dear she will make him Act: a) Flirting. b) Verbal abuse/insult to him, his kids, his parents. c) Habitual angry shouts. d) Neglecting the upkeep of the home or the kids. The above also constitutes, those one to three things the Alpha + make will not tolerate from his dear she. Unlike the T items, these aren't enough for him to terminate the relationship, but there are enough for him to Act. Acting may begin with gentle words, and depending on the response and personality of the Alpha+ male or his dear she, it may escalate to firm, assertive words and tone. In a situation where a dear she becomes aggressive in her tone of words, an Alpha+ male at a point, has to match tone with tone. Please many males are living in bondage due to the preconceived notion that men don't talk. Often I wonder where we got that from. Scripturally (be it koran, bible, etc) our dear shes are the one told to have a quiet and mild spirit. In many African cultures, same thing is also expected. If there is one thing that has kept my parents marriage it's this: my Dad talks. My Mum may finally have her way, but it doesn't come by talking back. It comes with gentility. Recently, a couple with three teenage girls, spent the weekend in with my family. The Father raised his voice on one of the daughter's to hurry up in getting him drinking water. The mum right there in public, using an angry tone, told the man, "ah ah you are shouting." The man didn't reply. Reminds me also about an incident many years ago, when I visited a relation. His elder brother who I was also close to, was spending the weekend with his wife there. The man was making a statement, and the woman in an angry tone challenged him. The man kept quiet. Often, I find this trend irritating. The second couple in question are now divorced. The woman displayed same traits when they travelled home for an event. His siblings stepped in, and the man simply replied, "since I lost my job that's how she has been behaving." For me it had nothing to do with his job. Because the first incident mentioned, he still had a job. He allowed such. Well, his family dissolved the marriage. They have gone their different ways. Now imagine he was an Alpha+ male, may be they may still be together. Also note, an Alpha + male handles his relationship himself, he doesn't allow anyone, even his parents or siblings to fight for him. What he allows, he allows. What he doesn't allow, he doesn't allow. B: Blind, other things an Alpha+ male ignores. An Alpha+ male won't allow marriage to dictate his every thought, word or act. Just choose a few things that will make you terminate the relationship. Choose other few things that will justify your time and energy to confront. The others that doesn't fall here aren't an issue to you. These are your dear she's idiosyncrasies you will just look the other way. You have more important things to do with your time. So in summary, an Alpha+ male keeps a TAB. With Love. |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 10:01am On Oct 09, 2023 |
It's a Productive Week. This week EI letter by a HR Professional: OUT OF JOB. Alex said, “You don’t look like one out of a job.” Kelvin asked, “Really? People out of job, how do they look like?” “Well, worried, anxious, sad, shaky, angry, even sick and depressed.” Kelvin laughed. He laughed so hard, that he had to bend over. “Why are you laughing?” ”Alex, I was there eleven years ago, when I lost my first job. It led me nowhere. A chapter in the book Smart with feelings set me straight. In fact the book as a whole showed me the folly in allowing negative emotions hijack my state of mind.” “Smart with feelings you called it?” “Yes.” “How do I get a copy?” Going through his phone, Kelvin replied “ Yes this is the contact: zero eight one fifty fifty eight three four seven. Sending it to you via WhatsApp.” #EIMomentsbyaHRProfessional |
| Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 5:40pm On Oct 08, 2023 |
An Alpha+ male is focused on three things: 1) Values. 2) Wealth. 3) Health. Womanizing isn't in his attention span. Women as an object of pleasure isn't his thing. When the time comes, not when society, friends and family start mounting pressure, his values will navigate him along a dear She who will greatly complement him. Complement is the word. Because a dear She may be great for Mr. A. Yet that same dear She will be a mismatch for Mr. B. Both men have different personalities and likes. His wealth or at least money that buys some life comfort will make it easy to avoid those money issues that often trouble most homes. For those aspiring Alpha+ males who aren't fortunate enough to discover these things or neglected them before getting married, well, all hope isn't lost. Tough decisions have to be made if they wish to be the Man. Let's take a shot at these one after the other. Let's begin with Values. When I was getting married, my Dad didn't bother to dish any advice to me. Others were giving truckload of advises. Even a much beloved maternal uncle who have been married three times. All he kept stressing was, "You have to be patient, very patient o." I met my Dad, knowing he can be looked upon as one with a successful marriage. He told gave me about three instructions. One of them was: "If your spouse does something and you keep quiet, she does it again and you ignore, the third time she does it and you tell her to stop, she will ask you: 'Why are you picking on me? This isn't the first time I am doing this.' And in a way she is right. "Early enough define what you won't take from your spouse. Tell her. When she crosses that line, remind her, be firm if need be. Don't back down. That's how a woman that respects you will truly understand that for my husband this is a no no." So one value Alpha+ men in relationships, especially in marriage should create, are things they will never never accept from their dear She. Of course it's normal for your dear she to also make hers available to you. Infact going through my journals yesternight, I came across something I wrote in 2019, on how to navigate this waters. Will share them in later post. A relationship built on clearly defined rules is bound to have initial turbulences as all try to adjust, yet that turbulence will be short lived. Any how, your dear She will adjust or if she isn't ready, then at most there will be a disengagement. If you stay true, especially if you also recognize her boundaries that does not conflict with yours, an adjustment is more likely to happen. A relationship without clearly defined rules is bound to suffer many long term turbulence. And you if asked why the commotions over the years, you can't really define it. In setting those things that are a no no to you, don't make it too long, or you loose the essence. One to three items on the list will do. With Love. |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 6:22pm On Oct 06, 2023 |
In a conversation with herself, Hilda said, “I hope this coach can help me. He came highly recommended. Gush! I’m in a mess again. Didn’t see this coming. Why has it always been this way. In any area of my life, at a point I will be on the mountain, after some period I will be in the valley. And just rot in the valley. During my 1st degree, up until my third year I was among the very few who had a first class. Then those two missing scores in my fourth year affected my grades such that I slipped into a 2.1. And I never recovered from that fall. In fact, looking back, I gave up on the first class quest after those missing scores. Three months into my first job, it was established I was the best among the new entrants. Until my negligence cost the company a lucrative contract. I never recovered from that fall. The HR department did their best to encourage me. I couldn’t forgive myself. I won’t blame them for letting me go after 14 months. Meanwhile marriage found me. Dayo was a great guy. During the first few years, our marriage seemed to have been made in heaven. The twins, our bundle of joy arrived. After a while, we started having issues. Quarrels, every week. Till the day Dayo slapped me. That was it, I picked my things and the twins and left the marriage. I just wanted to ‘pepper’ him, to make him come begging, like I have done before. This time around Dayo didn’t care. The divorce was finalized last year. He moved on, re-married. I learnt he now looks younger, happier, and fresher. The new wife is really doing well. Those little free things like happily preparing and dishing his meals, sex, making the home a more peaceful place, etc. I would have used to endear him to myself, I only did as the mood led me. In fact the poor man got tired of making issues out of it. He became a celibate, took responsibility for his meals, and only returned home to sleep. And here I am regretting why I acted hastily, why I allowed resentment, pride, overwhelming anxiety, and the desire to be the better one before others make me a less better wife. Two weeks before he slapped me, I had used my teeth and nails on him, not once but twice. He didn’t retaliate, he just pushed me away. Perhaps when I raised my hands again, he thought another nail attack was coming, hence the slap. Why did I allow those online persons to put ideas into my head? Why did I allow others to interfere unnecessarily in my marriage? Most times I invited them into my marriage. Then I got this great job offer. As usual the company was proud of their pick, yet inside of me, I had this premonition that this too won’t last. That another mistake is on its way. Then it happened. I slipped during a presentation which gave our competitor the advantage. Hmm, the Directors said I should get over it. That next time I should be careful. Yet I can’t forgive myself. The HR Manager did her best. Two months down the line, I confided to her, I haven’t really gotten over it. Then she set up an appointment with this coach. I hope he has a solution. I can’t go on living like this. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 6:18pm On Oct 06, 2023 |
He sat next to Nmeri. This man in his 60s. Wearing a faded black suit, white shirt, as he clutched two wornout files. He said over the phone, "I am on my way. We have twenty minutes more." He listened then continued, "Ah, you are at Haliburton...." After the call, he said to no one in particular, "You trained a girl in school. Married her, made her a signatory in your company. "She bought assets in her father's name with your money. Now she said she doesn't want to marry again. "She cleared all the funds in the business. Even the contract you haven't executed for Haliburton, she cleared the mobilization money they paid. "What are you going to Haliburton to do? "Didn't you make her a signatory to the account? "You can't read and write. You can't interpret business documents. When they say you people should go to school. "When they say you should be literate and enlightened. "You refuse. Thinking money is everything. "Oya now, e don set." Nmeri wondered who the old lawyer was talking to. Since he was next to him he chipped in. "She abused the trust." The Lawyer continued, "What can we do? We called the lady, pleading for some sort of division of assets. And she said: "Over my dead body. If he wants to go to court, we will meet in court. Those assets were acquired legitimately." Lesson: Until trust is built. An Alpha+ won't allow his dear she to have the key to his assets or business. And even at that, there will be measures to prevent huge financial exposures. |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 2:58pm On Oct 06, 2023 |
In a conversation with herself, Hilda said, “I hope this coach can help me. He came highly recommended. Gush! I’m in a mess again. Didn’t see this coming. Why has it always been this way. In any area of my life, at a point I will be on the mountain, after some period I will be in the valley. And just rot in the valley. During my 1st degree, up until my third year I was among the very few who had a first class. Then those two missing scores in my fourth year affected my grades such that I slipped into a 2.1. And I never recovered from that fall. In fact, looking back, I gave up on the first class quest after those missing scores. Three months into my first job, it was established I was the best among the new entrants. Until my negligence cost the company a lucrative contract. I never recovered from that fall. The HR department did their best to encourage me. I couldn’t forgive myself. I won’t blame them for letting me go after 14 months. Meanwhile marriage found me. Dayo was a great guy. During the first few years, our marriage seemed to have been made in heaven. The twins, our bundle of joy arrived. After a while, we started having issues. Quarrels, every week. Till the day Dayo slapped me. That was it, I picked my things and the twins and left the marriage. I just wanted to ‘pepper’ him. This time around Dayo didn’t care. The divorce was finalized last year. He has moved on, re-married. I learnt he now looks younger, happier, and fresher. The new wife is really doing well. Those little free things like happily preparing and dishing his meals, sex, making the home a more peaceful place, etc. I would have used to endear him to myself, I only did as the mood leads me. In fact the decent man got tired of making issues out of it. He became a celibate, took responsibility for his meals, and only returned home to sleep. And here I am regretting why I acted hastily, why I allowed resentment, pride, overwhelming anxiety, and the desire to be the better one before others make me a less better wife. Two weeks before he slapped me, I had used my teeth and nails on him, not once but twice. He didn’t retaliate. Perhaps when I raised my hands again, he thought another nail attack was coming, hence the slap. Why did I allow those online persons to put ideas into my head? Why did I allow others to interfere unnecessarily in my marriage? Most times I invited them into my marriage. Then I got this great job offer. As usual the company was proud of their pick, yet inside of me, I had this premonition that this too won’t last. That another mistake is on its way. Then it happened. I slipped during a presentation which gave our competitor the advantage. Hmm, the Directors said I should get over it. That next time I should be careful. Yet I can’t forgive myself. The HR Manager did her best. Two months down the line, I confided to her, I haven’t really gotten over it. Then she set up an appointment with this coach. I hope he has a solution. I can’t go on living like this. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 8:53pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Thanks for the commendation. yrhuhfy113: |
| Family / Re: Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 8:46pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Dear Will, Many things are now history: the slap, Jada’s statement, mental rehab, and the academy’s ban. Hmmm! Your lead role in the comedy series, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air,” was a humorous blessing to my childhood. And I learnt some lessons from some of your movies. I admire your acting career. Then the Oscar night of one slap. Will, I don’t enjoy hearsay, so I watched the video and observed carefully. Chris made a joke based on Jada’s health. You laughed. Will, you laughed! Your laugh turned to anger when you noticed Jada was frowning. You stood, marched to Chris, and the slap - tawaai! Chris made a joke out of the slap, you raged from your seat. In all these, Jada was silent. Afterwards some praised you as the knight in the shining armour. Then Jada spoke, disassociating herself from the slap. No lady, no knight. Where you really defending Jada, or you craved for her approval? Your laughter, turned to anger, then tears. If Jada laughed as you laughed, would you have been angry? If you initially frowned as Jada frowned, would there have been a slap? Voluntarily you checked into mental rehab. Your mental anguish should tell you this isn’t you. The external Will isn’t aligning with the internal Will. Will, heal and reflect. From my observations watching your interviews, I noticed Jada’s calm aura. I observed you were often excited as a child who craves for the approval of his father. Jada has her issues. No female conceived by a male is perfect. Yet, Jada is more of Jada, than Will is more of Will. Be yourself. Are you not trying desperately too hard to please Jada? And is she well pleased? I listened to your interpretation of the crashed marriage of your parents. Jada isn’t your mum, you are not your dad. Relax. Discover what works for you. Safeguard your health. Will, eliminate this man. Bring out the Man. The work in progress should be on the Man, not the man. The Man loves his wife - undesperately. And knows the difference between love and affection. Then Jada may adore you as she adored Tupac. And she may no longer say, “No Will, you didn’t do all these for me. You did it for your ego.” (Inspired by the 2022 Oscar night of one slap. Originally written: 29th April 2022) With Love. |
| Family / Alpha+ by Anjinsan: 3:19pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Most men are lost. They are suffocating in their relationships, especially the married ones. Most men are under pressure to conform to what a 'nice' man should be. These pressures are even from fellow men in their family, inlaws, neighbours or religious circle. This pressure is put on most men without taking into cognizance the man's unique personality, background, marital situation, or personality of the spouse. Some in a bid to unburden themselves have resorted to immorality, alcoholism, pornography, drugs, workaholics, etc. All these have resulted to aimlessness. Forget his big corporate or business badge. Take that off, and the zombiness of such men will become glaring. Others have found solace in the Alpha pill circulating on different social media platforms. From my analysis, some of the items in this Alpha pill are good. Others are extreme. It's extreme when it condones promiscuity, selfishness, violence, exploitation, and greed. No matter what society has become, the moral precepts I learned from my parents, religion, etc. is still a valuable compass to enable me navigate life's ocean. The other extreme alternative to the Alpha pill is what is often regarded as the simp pill. A man who is a walkover, a foot-mat for a woman, a woman's puppet. In recent times, a classic example for me on this was what Will Smith (an actor I admire so much from childhood) allowed himself to be in the hands of Jada. The tipping point is what transpired on what I term the Oscar night of one slap. I will share my analysis on that event later in the next post. What's the healthy balance, I ask myself? A society with little or no Alpha+ males is a messed up society. Of course vice-versa for females. My focus in on my gender - males. The term I arrived at is the Alpha+ Male. Alpha encompasses all the good nuggets of the Alpha movement. The + is the morality of the Alpha Male. Morality as it pertains to marital fidelity and others which will be talked about as this thread continues. The primary intent of this thread, is to have a place I keep clarifying and deepening noble values. Writing is a powerful tool. I would have taken this to the diary section. Doing this may cut off other valuable insights and experiences from those who share this Alpha+ concept. I don't expect this thread to be popular, because people usually prefer extremes. Balance is a difficult word in our world. At least once weekly, I make a commitment to share essays and experiences (mine and others), packaged as stories. I hope the essence of this thread won't be derailed. I hope we can just make our contributions and leave it at that. I hope if you don't agree with the concept of this thread, you see the wisdom of investing your time and energy in what you agree with. With Love. |
| Family / Re: I Feel Hatred Towards My Husband by Anjinsan: 7:47pm On Oct 04, 2023 |
Your purpose? Focus on it. Avoid Distractions. Discharge your marital role. Somethings, you can't control. Do these, and experience peace. PaigeTaylor: |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 2:29pm On Oct 04, 2023 |
SAME MESSAGE. DIFFERENT APPROACH. The MD said, “I don’t know how you are going to handle this. Our scope in the riser and tubular contract with seagolf, was reduced by 70%. So about 80% of your current staff strength have to go.” Afterwards the manager of the Riser department addressed his team. “May be you have heard the rumour. In fact it isn’t a rumour anymore. At the end of this month out of 80 of you only 16 will be working here. So the remaining 64 of you in fact, better start dusting your CV…." The manager of the tubular department addressed his team, “It’s been great working with you. Together we have achieved…We did our best to renew the contract. Finally only 30% of the current scope was given to us. It will be a tough one to let even one single person go….among those who will have to exit, I will provide the details of companies who may need your services. Also feel free to use my name as one of your referees." Which of these managers displayed empathy? Which of these managers will be positively remembered among by his team? Which of these managers will get the best from members of his team who remain? #EIMomentsbyaHrProfessional |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 5:14am On Sep 26, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. This week's EI Moment: Difficult to Bounce Back. In a conversation with herself, Hilda said, “I hope this coach can help me. He came highly recommended. Gush! I’m in a mess again. Didn’t see this coming. Why has it always been this way with me? In any area in my life, at a point I will be on the mountain, after some period I will be in the valley. And just rot in the valley. During my 1st degree, up until my third year I was among the very few who had a first class. Then those two missing score in my fourth year affected my grades such that I slipped into a 2.1. And I never recovered from that fall. In fact, looking back, I gave up on the first class quest after those missing scores. Three months into my first job, it was established I was the best among the new entrants. Until, my negligence cost the company a lucrative contract. I never recovered from that fall. The HR department did their best to encourage me. I couldn’t forgive myself. I won’t blame them for letting me go after some 14 months. Meanwhile marriage found me after that. Dayo was a great guy. During the first few years, our marriage seemed to have been made in heaven. The twins, our bundle of joy arrived. After a while, we started having issues. Quarrels nearly every day. Till the day Dayo slapped me. That was it, I picked my things and the twins and left the marriage. Dayo apologized. I refused to return. For me the marriage was beyond repairs. The divorce was finalized last year. He has moved on, re-married. And here I am regretting why I acted hastily. Allowing those online persons to put ideas into my head. Allowing others to interfere unnecessarily in my marriage, most times I even invited them into my marriage. Then I got this great job offer. As usual the company was proud of their pick, yet inside of me, I had this premonition that this too won’t last. That another mistake is on its way. Then it happened. I slipped during a presentation which gave our competitor the advantage. Hmm, the Directors, said I should get over it. That next time I should be careful. Yet I can’t forgive myself. The HR Manager did her best. Two months down the line, I told her: 'I haven’t really gotten over the issue.' Then she set up an appointment with this coach. I hope he has a solution." #EIMomentbyaHRProfessional. |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 7:24am On Sep 19, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. This week's EI LETTER: Intuitive Selection. Three candidates remained. From these three, the HR Director will pick the next employee to join Hilcom Limited. On the day of the final interview with the HR Director, each of the three candidates had a one on one session with him and three members of the company. Each session was between thirty to sixty minutes. Finally all three candidates had lunch with the HR Director. The following day, he made his pick. Stella, the HR manager, approached him the next day to explain the magic behind his selection. Sometimes he selects the candidate with the highest paper qualifications. Sometimes it will be the second with the highest paper qualifications, this time around he selected the candidate with the least paper qualification and experience. “Sir, I don’t get it? We were certain you will pick candidate A. We just included the other two for righteousness sake. Even at that, candidate B would have been understandable, yet you went for candidate C.” Smiling the HR Director replied, “Did Candidate C meet the minimum certification and experience?” “Yes he did” "So when they come to me, I don’t bother looking at their CVs. I look at salient features. During the one on one and group interaction with them, I engage their personalities. I determine how they fit into the group, our organizational culture. I seek for what drives them in life, in work." Sandra replied, “How do you know all these? People can put up a front.” “Very true. During my early years using this approach, picking the ideal candidate had a 40% probability. Now as the company can attest, it has risen to 85%.” Sandra nodded in agreement. “That’s where intuition comes in. And one’s intuitive ability in a field becomes better with distilled experience.” #EIMomentbyaHRProfessional |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 10:37pm On Sep 15, 2023 |
Amoizo in the delivery room, pushed her baby with pains and positive confessions. Ehcu in the waiting room prayed for their safety with faith. During the past twenty-four hours he had slept for less than an hour. Amoizo the wife had been contracting for same period. He was still in his work clothes. Few minutes after he returned home, Amoizo's contraction became intense. He had to forsake the chicken soup he was preparing. Infact, he had dreamt of eating for supper. Together with his sister, and a dear friend of Amoizo, they drove off to the hospital, arriving at 10:23pm. He went here and there. Getting this and that, at the medics request. Mentally and physically he was exhausted. A little break came around 4:34am., he lay down to sleep in the waiting room. As he later learnt from the wife, the medics told her, "The real contraction will start in the evening or early tomorrow morning. Because your cervix isn't yet open. Thirty minutes after he lay down to sleep, he heard a voice - a shouting voice. He was half certain that was his wife's voice. He sat closer to the delivery room, as he started praying. Then Amoizo mentioned that name. The name, their unique name for the Almighty God. Then Ehcu was certain it was his wife. He continued praying - prayer of thanksgiving. Ehcu believed in the efficacy of prayers. Jesus' words at Luke 18:1 "Men should always pray and never give up," resounds deeply with him. Ehcu believes that: Prayer keeps a christian in faith. It keeps a christian in faith as he does everything practical to overcome a challenge. It keeps a christian in faith when everything practical has been done. He believes that: Prayer is a christian's first, major, best, and last remedy to any challenge. Later, as Amoizo told her husband: "The nurses had left me, because my cervix was not open. When my shouting became intense, they checked my cervix and were surprised how a cervix that wasn't open suddenly became wide enough. Wide enough despite the drugs and injections given to delay further "fake" contractions as they put it." Twenty six minutes after Ehcu was awakened by the familiar voice, a nurse opened the delivery room, stepped into the waiting room and asked, "Who is Amoizo's husband?" Ehcu stepped forward, as the Nurse said, "Congrats." The loved ones woke up to the news that Veny (God Gifted), Somtochukwu is now manifest among men. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 8:15am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Hundreds of men and women in their exercise kits, were taking a walk as John drove through a high brow estate in Port-Harcourt. Mentally, he compared this with his residential area, "the difference is clear," he thought to himself. The wealthy know how to take care of their health. He drove into his cousin's compound. He came out from the car, same time the cousin James, was returning from his one hour morning brisk walk. They hugged, as they exchanged pleasantries. "I was just thinking that you wealthy ones know how to take care of your health, going by the number of those I saw brisk walking within this area." His cousin smiled, as he replied, "Only a few make this a daily routine. Most of us take one hour walk on Saturdays. Can you compare that with the daily walks most take who don't own a vehicle or regularly order an Uber? They sat under the shed of a tree. When others were busy bulldozing every green stem during the initial phase of developing the estate. James intentionally told the developers to leave that particular tree standing. They gave all manner of excuses why it had to be brought down. He insisted. And they left it. The wisdom of leaving the tree was best seen, when his mother-in-law suffered from some respiratory disease. Under the shade of the tree, she found it easier to breath, as she exhaled carbon dioxide and inhaled the oxygen, which the tree exhaled. Sitting under the tree was part of the antidote that enabled her regain her health. John asked, "Are you now saying that those without a car are healthier?" James replied, "Health has nothing to do with having a car or not. It's only in developing countries that cars are seen as luxuries. There are areas in developed countries, that the role of public transport is so minimized. Such that, for you to move around efficiently, you must own a car. The system is so structured that anyone who earns even minimum wage, can afford a car. John asked, "Does that account for the higher rate of obsessed persons over there compared to here? James answered, "Yes it does. Though it's just one out of several reasons. The most important thing is to be intentional with your health. Being intentional with your health, has nothing to do with car ownership or otherwise." John said, "Most who earn an income can't afford a car in this country. And even with the removal of fuel subsidy, some no longer use their car as often as they want to. "Recently, anytime I use a public transport, any small attitude from the driver or conductor, there is a passenger that will say, 'I don't blame you. I left my car at home, because of this hike in fuel.' Before he is even through, many will join in saying, 'Don't mind this driver. Same with me o. I also left my car.' Both of them laughed, as James said, "So now everyone is claiming to be a car owner." John continued, "And the driver or conductor will reply rudely: 'Now no be to get car be the issue o. The koko be say weda you fit always fuel or use your car.' They laughed once more. James said, "Ah! John, back to our subject matter. Healthy wealthy ones, buy out time for exercises, such as walks. For the not so wealthy, walking is part of their daily transportation. And in so doing, they exercise daily. John nodded, as he contributed, "So what some wealthy car owners do - walk exercises - as an end to itself. Non car owners do as a means to an end. James replied, "You are on point John. And if they must walk, why not do so in a cheerful disposition, to get the best from that 5,10,15, or even 30 minutes spent in each walk session? "Sometimes when I'm in my car, and I see persons walking cheerfully under the nutritional early morning sun, I miss those days, when I was in their place. My walk was so cheerful and dignified, that those in their cars will think there was something else in this guy's walk." John smiled. "Yes James. Those days. And there was something special in your walk. Not just your walk, in anything you do. James smiled. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 2:07am On Sep 02, 2023 |
Reflective Cycle Reflective cycle is an efficient tool to control emotions. It is a three-step approach: a. Identify what you are feeling. The first step in this tool is to identify what you are feeling. For example, these are some signs of anger—tightening of the knuckles, rapid/stammering speech, sweaty brows, and a faster heartbeat. John noticing any of these can say, “I am feeling anger.” Mentioning this can be the difference between a feeling of anger, and expressing rage. b. Make an honest determination of the underlying cause. Ironically, your initial thought on the cause of your feelings, may not be the genuine reason why you feel that way. For example, while preparing for work, a man was worried about an upcoming downsizing. On his way, a motorist insulted him, though he did not retaliate, underneath he boiled in anger. During the weekly meeting, a colleague made a negative comment about the quality of his report. He replied aggressively. Feelings of anger have been building from home; the colleague’s comment was an excuse for an outlet—the wrong outlet... c. Extracted from the book: Smart with Feelings - The Stars. Invest in yourself today and embark on a transformative journey towards emotional intelligence. Your emotional intelligence awaits. Step into this extraordinary narrative today, through: Smart with Feelings - The Stars. Interested? Send an email or WhatsApp: zero eight one five zero five zero eight three four seven. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 12:50am On Aug 30, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. This week's EI Moment by a HR Professional: A KEY INGREDIENT FOR ORGANIZATIONAL SUCCESS. (Part 3) Effective leaders — supervisors, managers, directors, and owner-managers — expect to obtain a high level of performance from their employees, themselves, and all other relevant stakeholders. These high level of performance is intended to achieve organizational success (Baumruk, 2004; Richman, 2006). Leaders and followers making up labour as a factor of production have emotions. Land, capital, machinery do not. And emotions have the power to unbalance even those with high IQ. Stability can’t be attained during such emotional turbulence. The implementation of the latest management technique or concept notwithstanding. In two popular bestsellers, psychologist Daniel Goleman drew on a wealth of research to argue that successful organizational leaders demonstrate emotional intelligence. (Goleman, 1995;1998). Emotional intelligence has been around for some decades, popularized by Daniel Goleman in 1995 with his book Emotional intelligence. There are three main models of emotional intelligence: Goleman, (1995), Mayer & Salovey (1998, Petrides & Furnham, (2007). The model by Daniel Goleman outlines five emotional intelligence dimensions: self-awareness, motivation, self-regulation, social awareness or empathy, and relationship management or social skills. He includes a set of emotional competencies within each dimension of emotional intelligence, and suggests that emotional competencies are not innate talents, but rather learned capabilities that must be developed to achieve outstanding performance. It was estimated that 80% of human success could be attributed to emotional intelligence, while the remaining 20% belong to intelligence quotient (Goleman, 1995). Thus from his findings emotional intelligence of business leaders should be able to determine their ability to understand their competences, unleash their creativity, and engage their employees, hence achieving organizational success. Extracted from my Msc Dissertation: Emotional Intelligence and Organizational Success. #EIMomentsbyaHRProfessional |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 7:15pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
John looked up as Chris stepped into the room. At a glance, John could tell all wasn't well with Chris. "What's up man?" John asked. Chris sat on the only sofa chair in their room. Tears welled up in his eyes, as he bit his lower lips. Severally, he shook his head side ways, then lowered it. Hands clasped, legs wide, head bowed. "Hmmm." John heaved. He stood up, walked towards Chris, and sat on the arm of the sofa chair. He placed his right arm on Chris's shoulders, as he patted him gently with his palm. Chris said, "We took him as one of us. My late Dad sponsored his first degree. My late elder brother backed him up financially when he relocated to Europe. Ah! Death. Why?" John continued to soothe him, without words, with his palms. After forty seconds, Chris lifted his head. He straightened. Looked at John, and continued, "All the expense involving this Japa plans have been borne by me. You know how I hustle and deny myself some things, just for this dream to materialize." John nodded. "All I need to complete the flight ticket is one million naira. I reached out to him like I told you I would. He kept posting me for three weeks. Finally when we spoke, he told he doesn't have such money to give me. Even as a loan I pleaded. He said he doesn't have. Okay what can you loan me, he said, 'nothing.' I feel so much pain. The pain of his lack of concern is even greater than the pain of not helping me with funds. Before I pull two more strings, I know the funds will come. Why is he like this?" John's compassionate face was peaceful. He was thinking if Chris wanted an answer or it was a rhetoric question. Chris asked again, "John, please tell me, give me an explanation, I can't fathom this." John replied, "I will tell you about Brave and Dave: Brave assisted Dave expecting something back - ok. Brave assisted Dave expecting nothing back - better. Why? Brave isn't Dave. And Dave isn't Brave." Chris looked at John, expecting more words. John smiled. Chris understood that smile. A smile that meant: That's all I have to say. Chris pondered over the words on Brave and Dave. After ten minutes, he seemed to have grasped the point. Chris nodded. His eyes glittered. Chris smiled. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 11:14am On Aug 19, 2023 |
"Heart, how are you today?" he asked. She replied, "Honey, today again? You would have rested today." Honey was 75 years. Heart was 62 years. Honey sat on his Heart's bed. Held her hands in his. Lovingly, he scanned her face. A Nurse stepped into the ward. She spotted the old couple. She smiled and said, "Eiyaa, this una love ehnn." They smiled. The Doctor came for his routine checks. "Mummy," he said, "there is good improvement, you will be discharged tomorrow." "That's fine Doctor." She replied. He continued, "On Monday, you will come for a checkup. Daddy can bring you." "Doctor, my husband will rest. My daughter will come with me. "Please you people shouldn't stress my husband o, because he is kind-hearted." "Heart, to come with you? Is that one stress? Biko. Biko," Honey replied. Admiringly, the Doctor smiled. #observationofanintentionalvictor# |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 10:24am On Aug 12, 2023 |
It was a Saturday morning. I met my friend, home alone with the little kids. Doing multiple home chore simultaneously. Cleaning the house. Warming the food. Children-sitting. Washing the dishes. "Did madam travel?" I asked. "Oh! No. She is at the furniture guy's place." He replied. Seeing my puzzled countenance. He smiled and continued. "This morning, I ought to take the dining chair for some corrections, and stay till the furniture guy completes some other furniture items. "When she got the signs I was not ready for that, she told me she is doing it herself. I approved." "Why didn't you go?" I asked. "Guy, from experience she is better with details like that. Recently when I supervised the curtain guys, I thought everything was perfect. "When she came back from an event, she said, "no no, this wasn't fitted perfectly. "She snapped it, sent it to the curtain lady. And the curtain lady apologized, saying an amateur handled it, as their professionals were busy. "When it was corrected, I saw the difference." My friend answered. I nodded as I digested this. "So I have to ease things for her today. I am far better with home chores than I am with interiors. So no biggie in our today's domestic chores" He concluded. The wife came back in the afternoon. And among the first thing she did was to hug the hubby, with these words: "Ah. Honeey, I have been wanting to tidy up this verander. And you did it. And other things you took care of. Thanks dear. Make I buy you beer? My friend laughed. You know I don't take beer. The wife continued, "When I got there, one of the furnitures was ready, but it wasn't perfect... My friend gave me that look that communicated, "You see what I mean...." #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 5:28pm On Aug 07, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. Another week for you to add value as an Efficient Executive. This week's EI Moment by a HR Professional: A KEY INGREDIENT TO ORGANIZATIONAL SUCCESS - PART 2 Organizational culture can positively influence organizational success, but it also has its limits. Strong organizational cultures can be a spook in the wheel during mergers and acquisitions. This springs from a collision of value and beliefs (Johns & Saks, 2001). Also, in a situation where organizational culture was already settled in an organization, any improvement of organizational culture would not give any further impact on employee performance. When there is no further improvement in organizational culture, this inevitably stifles organizational success. According to Boon and Biron (2016) it is wrong to assume that once a specific fit has been reached it stays so in the long run. As noted by Gabriel (2014): “Almost all of the research on fit perceptions has been conducted at the between-person level of analysis, which implicitly ignores the possibility of substantive within-person changes.” When a person-organization fit approach is used for organizational entry, it acts as a barrier to diversity. When selection is done using the person-organization fit entry approach, organizations loose talents who would have added to the success of the organization. It is no surprise then, that a large number of researchers on organizational success are beginning to consider organizational fit not as something static, rather as something that develops over time (Jansen & Kristof-Brown, 2006; Shipp & Jansen, 2011; Yu, 2009; 2013). The same goes for several management techniques or concepts, focusing wholly on such concepts inevitably did not lead to organizational success in the long run. Factors leading to organizational success must produce: quality decisions, as one management decision can contribute to or hinder organizational success (Gomez-Mejia, 2005) and ability to effectively engage the employee. Extracted from Victor Nwaoseh's Msc Dissertation: Emotional Intelligence and Organizational Success. #EIMomentsbyaHRProfessional . |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 4:49pm On Aug 04, 2023 |
Dad asked, "How much is the cost for all this?" Son replied, "Five thousand dollars, Dad." "Five thousand dollars, that's roughly four million naira, right? "Yes Dad." "Hmmm, you know, you aren't the only child we have. Two of your younger ones are writing their projects. Our last child just gained admission - " "Dad-" "Son don't Dad me yet, I am not through. The inflation rate in the country isn't slowing down. You are aware mum and I have made up our minds to move into our house this year. So some funds are also going there-" "Dad-" "Don't Dad me yet. So you see, this your plan has to wait." "Dad are you through?" "Yes, Son." "So I can now Dad you." Both laughed and the hanging tension eased off. "Dad, I have the funds for this program. I just need your consent and blessing to proceed with the plan." Dad looked puzzled. "How? Hope you haven't joined..." "No Dad. From legit online hustles and savings, I invested in cryptocurrency while an undergraduate." "Crypto. Crypto that isn't paying like it used to. How did you do yours? "I withdrew at its peak a few years ago. Invested the cash in real estate. Sold off-" "Hey hey, stop there son, not so fast. where did you get the funds to invest?" "Savings from my pocket money and online hustles." "Online hustles such as?" "Well, I did this MMM back then-" "Yeah I heard about it, but it crashed." "Before it crashed, I already had some tidy savings from it." "Okay." "I used part of the money to learn web developing and Java." "Web I understand. Which one is Java?" His son laughed. "It's a programming language." "From this I got some gigs-" "Gigs?" Dad asked, lost." "Oh, that's what we call it. You know jobs, tasks." "Oh! Oh! I understand you now." "So over time from these gigs and savings, I invested roughly one million naira in local currency into crypto. Three years later I cashed out five million naira. Invested that in real estate. Sold the last plot one month ago and overall cashed out nine million naira." "Son, I'm happy for you. Wow! times have changed. During my days, an undergraduate, can't comfortably combine income generation with academics, without affecting his grades. How much more making such money. Your generation is very fortunate. This online stuff have bridged the generational income gaps. Well done, son." "Thanks Dad." "I must also commend your financial discipline. Some young men would have spent the money lavishly. But here you are, still living the life you were living all these years. Who would believe that this twenty-four year recent graduate has a net worth of ten million naira. I'm so proud of you son." "Thanks Dad." #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Career / Re: Which Skill(s) Should I Pick? Help by Anjinsan: 8:59pm On Jul 31, 2023 |
Hello, NYSC usually has a skill acquisition program. If the one in your state is accessable, won't it be less expensive learning a skill from them? If I'm in your shoes, I will narrow the skills down to 2,3,5. Most importantly, start learning about money and marketing. Also don't write off a good job. Prepare well for interviews and job search. Ultimately, start saving towards a good phone, afterwards a laptop. They are important to your money quests. When you do, download and read good books on money, career, businesses marketing. Don't read just to consume knowledge. Read, organize the information, break it into action plans, set it into systems to measure how well you are doing. Next, look for sought after digital skills, weather you get a paid employment or earning through traditional skills. There are free resources on YouTube to start from. Do same thing as suggested when gleaning gold from good books. Set a system to measure your learning process. Digital skills I will suggest are: Data analytics, Digital marketing, Programming, Content writing. All the best. |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 10:30am On Jul 31, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. This week's EI Moment by a HR Professional: A key Ingredient for Organizational Success. (Part 1) Organizational success is an important issue in the administration of any business. The sustainability of organizational success in the long run has also generated much needed research (Kocka, 1990; Scherer, 1990). Organizations just like individuals fight for the right to determine their destiny. The goal for an individual is to become successful, likewise organizations come into existence to attain and retain success. Success for ten individuals can mean ten different things; Unlike individuals, Success for organizations are measured by five major success standards—Accounting, Operational, Market based, Survival, Economic Value (Carton, 2004). These five measures may be applicable to global and large organizations. Yet, accounting measurement—profitability—precisely is a thread which runs through all types of organizations—large, medium, or small (Smith, 1998). While measures of organizational success have remained relatively stable over decades, same cannot be said for concepts contributing towards organizational success (Kilmann, 1984). Over the decades, techniques or concepts such as human relations training, organizational culture, organizational fit, managerial functions, management by objective, decentralization, corporate strategy, have been claimed at one time or the other by management experts to be the holy grail of organizational success (Guillen, 1994; Cooke, 1999; Layout, 1987; 2005) No doubt each of these techniques or approaches to organizational success had some gains, but it also had its limitations that made it a passing fad with time. For example, the human relations approach of the 1940s had three major criticisms – manipulation, union related, environmentalist (Kaufman, 2000,2004, 2008; Korajczyk, 1961; Wren, 2005; Wren & Greenwood, 1998). The human relation approach to organizational success though still studied in management textbooks, is no longer effective as a holy grail to organizational success. Managerial functions such as planning, organization, control, leading are necessary, but not enough for an organization to succeed. There are several cases of knowledgeable management executives who did not lead their organizations to success in the long run (Gomez-Mejia, Balkin, & Cardy, 2005). A not to be forgotten example in Nigeria is the banking crisis of 2008/2009, in which some bank’s managing directors lost their jobs, as a result of breaches in corporate governance (Egboro, 2016). Extracted from Victor Nwaoseh's Msc Dissertation: Emotional Intelligence and Organizational Success. |
| Family / Re: Observation Of An Everyday Guy: Hakimi by Anjinsan: 10:00am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. — Theodore Roosevelt HIS MARRIAGE David could not sleep. It was 2:35a.m, on a Friday morning. For the fourth night in a row, he could not sleep. The home had become a battlefield of sorts. Sandra, had cried herself to sleep for the third time in a month. No matter how much he tried, he kept seeing his marriage as a mistake. Some marriage counselors say, “Understanding between couples occur in the seventh year of marriage.” It was not the seventh year, rather their sixteenth year. Still it seemed they were back to the second year, after the euphoria of the first romantic year. He stared at the ceiling, their intense argument ended at 1:23a.m. It lasted for three hours and fifteen minutes. Sandra was the timekeeper. She was fond of counting time when their disagreements entered the warpath. When she mentioned minutes, he knew it was time for her to give up. On this occasion, David continued in his murderous rage for an extra twenty minutes. Hence, three hours and fifteen minutes was by Sandra’s timing. An additional twenty minutes, and silence reigned after three hours and thirty-five minutes. Exhausted, he walked to his shelf in his personal study. Therein, books on marriage and relationships occupied one-fifth of the shelf. They had read a few together. He had read all, applied all the advice in the books, but nothing worked. It appeared the more he tried, the more he failed. As a husband, he was tired; on his marriage, he had given up. Reluctantly, he walked to his bar. As a doctor, he understood the harmful effect of alcohol abuse. Even a dying drunk understands, but still lives in a bottle, until he goes six feet under the ground. A dying drunk clings to his bottle, as they lower him to the pit of no return. Addictions are hard to break. Straight from a bottle of Campari, he drank. In less than fifteen minutes, he was fast asleep. Excerpts from the Book: Smart with Feelings - The Stars. Interested to own a copy? Shoot me an email or contact me via WhatsApp: zero eight one five zero five zero eight three four seven. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 9:58am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. — Theodore Roosevelt HIS MARRIAGE David could not sleep. It was 2:35a.m, on a Friday morning. For the fourth night in a row, he could not sleep. The home had become a battlefield of sorts. Sandra, had cried herself to sleep for the third time in a month. No matter how much he tried, he kept seeing his marriage as a mistake. Some marriage counselors say, “Understanding between couples occur in the seventh year of marriage.” It was not the seventh year, rather their sixteenth year. Still it seemed they were back to the second year, after the euphoria of the first romantic year. He stared at the ceiling, their intense argument ended at 1:23a.m. It lasted for three hours and fifteen minutes. Sandra was the timekeeper. She was fond of counting time when their disagreements entered the warpath. When she mentioned minutes, he knew it was time for her to give up. On this occasion, David continued in his murderous rage for an extra twenty minutes. Hence, three hours and fifteen minutes was by Sandra’s timing. An additional twenty minutes, and silence reigned after three hours and thirty-five minutes. Exhausted, he walked to his shelf in his personal study. Therein, books on marriage and relationships occupied one-fifth of the shelf. They had read a few together. He had read all, applied all the advice in the books, but nothing worked. It appeared the more he tried, the more he failed. As a husband, he was tired; on his marriage, he had given up. Reluctantly, he walked to his bar. As a doctor, he understood the harmful effect of alcohol abuse. Even a dying drunk understands, but still lives in a bottle, until he goes six feet under the ground. A dying drunk clings to his bottle, as they lower him to the pit of no return. Addictions are hard to break. Straight from a bottle of Campari, he drank. In less than fifteen minutes, he was fast asleep. Excerpts from the Book: Smart with Feelings - The Stars. Interested to own a copy? Shoot me an email or contact me via WhatsApp: zero eight one five zero five zero eight three four seven. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
| Career / Re: Emotional Intelligence Moments By A HR Professional by Anjinsan: 1:17am On Jul 25, 2023 |
It's a Productive week. This week's letter to an Efficient Executive: ROI ON TRAININGS The new MD requested for all the training carried out in the company within three years. The total training costs during the last three years amounted to =N= 172,000,000. Next he requested to see the monetary return on investment for these trainings. The Human Resource Director replied, “No one had ever requested for such in this industry. We don’t even know how to go about it.” The MD replied, “Find a way. I need the monetary return on investment from these trainings.” And they did find a way. By hiring a consulting firm. Within three months the report was ready. The company realized that most training did not justify its investment, especially training that were on soft skills. There was a training retreat on the company’s line managers. It gulped =N= 35,000,000. And the estimated return on investment was =N= 7,000,000. Before the training the line manager’s contribution was estimated at =N= 7,200,000. If anything the training had a negative impact on their output. Whereas an in-house training that cost just =N= 520,000 had a returns on investment of =N= 1,530,000. Before the training it was =N=850,000/annum. On getting these findings, the HR department digged further. As most training that had negative returns were those on soft skills. They discovered that training for soft skills is different from training for technical or cognitive skills. It may involve a class room or workshop. And for best results it doesn’t end there. Other steps have to be taken after the classroom/workshop session. #EIMomemtsbyaHRProfessional |
| Literature / Re: Observation Of An Intentional Victor by Anjinsan: 8:50pm On Jul 21, 2023 |
Tony Elumelu attended his daughter's graduation ceremony at the prestigious London School of Economics yesterday. He has bequeathed to the daughter one of the best capital investment a parent can give a child - Education. And there are assets, that money can't buy which he shows the children by example. Intangible assets such as, discipline, hard-work, good family life. Tony is a good role model. #ObservationofanIntentionalVictor |
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