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MALIGNANTGuest:
Finally!
Stuffs I got myself!
Boots: $10
Leather Bag: $8
Luggage Traveller: $70.
From what I heard there, they said things have gone up.
May GOD Continue to Bless the United States of AMERICA & help Nigeria as well, Amen!

Where is the work by Nigerians, to be blessed by God, for our different communities

CoronaVirusPro:
Hardship will make Russians revolt. It’s just a matter of time.

Normally yes, but useless talk like this may help Putin stir Russian nationalism even more, against imperial Americans.
Obama made the same useless statement about Syria’s Bashar but he is still president.

Optimistic4life:
Okay I get you. So if I long for sex with my ex husband, that shouldn't be a sin then.

So let me ask you. Is selfplay/selflove/masturbation a sin?

The body desiring what it needs naturally just like we eat.

Not fantasies towards anyone in particular.

Religious mediums/leaders generally make natural tendencies into sin, so as to HELP the "sinners" intercede with God.

Saintinoo:
The day you women will understand that there is only one captain in a ship, that is the day divorce will stop. kindly leave with it.

Well said, BUT the man should work lovingly with the co-pilot/co-captain for smooth sailing. Not so

IamANigerianMan:
Op, what she needs is Jesus, people that divorce have a very stupid reason. No marriage is perfect on earth including my own but we continue to learn everyday, before, I would never tell my wife sorry but today I have learnt to say sorry immediately I am wrong.. I know a couple that divorce because the man did not give her what you people call head, ego , pride are all reason for divorce, that is why she needs Jesus.

Is the bold part what I think it is, or just my "dirty" mind playing up

PastorPaul1:
In God's Dictionary, there's nothing like divorce and remarriage. You and your husband should make amendments or you risk staying that way till Jesus come.

I guess that your God's dictionary is limited to the Bible, and not other references to texts/understandings of the Unknown God preached by Paul to Athenians.
Moreover in the Bible, divorce and remarriage are allowed, so stop telling lies that will land you in hellfire.

Optimistic4life:
Year 2021 February to be precise, my husband served me a divorce notice. Though I saw it coming as we have been separated for some months.
The case is still in court though.

We are blessed with 3 kids under 10.

Soon the divorce will be finalized and we will both move on.

How easy is it adjusting to a new life as a divorced lady?

I just want to let it out as I have never discussed this with anyone. Just my immediate family members knows about it.

What is life like out there for me?

The shame, mockery, coping with kids alone, moving on etc

What made the marriage not work out, leading to separation after 10 years plus, based on the age of your children?

Modified due to your response below earlier.

Optimistic4life:
Yeah it's because of them I was willing to try again but their dad rushed to court to seek for divorce all because of multiple strange women.

babaolofin:
The Yorubas fought to make Jonathan the President. The IBOs hijacked the Presidency and looted the treasury but cannot sustain it for the second term. Pa Edwin Clarke was fighting Obj who singlehandedly begged Northern Traditional institutions to allow him to rule.

If Tinubu Presidency is dead on arrival you have no say in it. Yorubas fought oil derivation increment battle, we fought demolition of onshore offshore dichotomy battle. You have no contributions .

So much delusion of grandeur in one comment.
Fight this, fight that, only to have a Professor deputise for a NEPA certificate herdsman who has predictably ruined everything handed over to him and ballooned our debts.
Thiefnuibu who fought Jonathan's Yoruba choice for HoR Speaker in 2011 is the bastard that Pastor Tunde Bakare called him back then.

7Randall:
We Nigerians tend to applaud everything negative. A Nigerian will support a thief if he is paid a few thousand naira. We have few credible people in our political space in Nigeria. But they will never be president.

Who will do the needful work of making most Nigerians understand what they stand to lose by selling their vote/conscience for a few naira or food etc

7Randall:
That's the problem. The credible people we have don't have much political power.

Who will make the credible people have political power and how will they do so

Soso990240:
Just look at your reasoning. The old men control the major political parties, they are the money bags. They intentionally create hardship in the country so that the youths will always run to them for assistance, the constantly harass the youths with security operatives, How do you want to take the power from them? Were you not in Nigeria during the End SARS period, the first time youths in Nigeria were united.. but same old men managed to use some youths (Hausa & Few Yoruba) to create chaos and turned the protest to tribal war. You think the old men are ready to let go? Think again.

Were the colonial masters ready to go when Awolowo & co risked jail and death to challenge them for independence?
Was Abacha and Bubu ready to go when Pa Abraham Adesanya & other NADECO people challenged them at the risk of death (like Kudirat Abiola, Pa Rewane) and exile?
You better think again and think very well this time.
No one gifts anyone anything without getting something in return.
Know this and know peace.

MonkeyMods:
Chai see finishing. Na rich man pikin o

Rich man pikin of a poor country blabbing about Africa's biggest economy that has the highest number of children out of school and the highest number of extreme poverty people.
The useless, spoilt brat of a lazy youth should go and find out what GDP per capita means as well as income inequality.

7Randall:
I honestly don't think any candidate can defeat Atiku in 2023. But the question remains "do we really need Atiku? "

Who else is there

helinues:
Is this an official declaration?
Anyways, Atiku na customer daada

Just as Bubu was customer daada from 2003 to 2015

PrinceOfLagos:
Most Nigerians will pick Atiku over Tinubu
Atiku is more sellable than Tinubu

What makes him more sellable

MYND44issaSMOKER:
They are winning online but losing massively offline...
wars are not won on social media...

Is that why desperate Putin is threatening nuclear attacks

Duzeboy:
Like for Davido, Share for Wizkid

❤️❤️❤️

Based on much taxes and charitable donations they do
Is that not what Europeans, Canadians and Americans expect their celebrities to do for their countries to continuosly develop and attract lazy blacks to be voluntary slaves?

DoctorOlasDesk:
Are you in the country ? My brother, lend a hand o. The country's financial economy is in shambles

Please how will lending a hand help resolve the fundamental issues that made the economy into shambles

PrinceOfLagos:
The funniest thing is that most of the people begging are either Buhari or Tinubu supporters
They hail there oppressors because they love poverty

Is that not what the white people call Stockholm syndrome
By the way, is it limited to Bubu and ThiefNuibu supporters, or cuts across the country for other oppressors who loot our destiny?

Or11:
I will get straight to the point. I get messages all the time from people in Nigeria asking for money and the surprising thing is it's abled bodied men who beg. Some of them act like big boys on social media but codedly begging using every excuse to ask for money.

I wonder why they can't go and work. Ok there are no jobs but what happened to being an entrepreneur. Anyone can be a real estate agent, car sales agent, shipping/clearing agent or just learn a handwork.

I don't go on Facebook anyone because as soon as I go online, the next thing is *beep beep*, a message comes in that reads "baba every red, pls send anything I go manage am", " My dstv sub don expire, na weekend, borrow me 20k, I go pay you back on Monday ", " My pikin get asthma, abeg I need money buy inhaler", "bros pls I travel go village and spend all my money, I need funds to travel back to Lagos and many more.

What is going on in naija abeg?

Except someone is dying due to medical emergency AND there is prospect of saving the life, there is absolutely no need to give money.
Some tough love is needed to set peopled on the right path, including putting pressure on the looters we celebrate and try to emulate as our family & friends.
To a large extent dashing people money is helping the looters in the public and private sector to postpone/avoid their day of reckoning.

Graceihotu:
Aswear with my life, I never cheated on him. As a matter of fact I tell him whenever any guy asked me out. If it's based on cheating then I am practically innocent

This could the key to the palaver- you did not make him anxious about your relationship.
Think about that.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���

Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.

He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

So sorry to hear this.
As for the part of your question in bold, you are better off seeing a psychotherapist rather than turning to spiritual pretenders who will only scam you of your hear earned money.
All the best as you get stronger from this experience.

softy:
If Minister of State is 35 yrs old. What age will be for the Main Minister, 60- 100?

Saraki knows, junior Minister can not decisively paddle the canoe of a ministry. The junior Minister is a supporting striker. He has little or no consent on some salient issue in the Ministry. He is like second fiddle.

Youth should refuse to be second fiddle.

All politicians are liars! But some are terrible liars and not redeemable such as "where are the cows?!"

Useless liars they are.
What did this Saraki do to prepare the youths fo4r such roles in his 16 years of holding Kwarans by their balls?
Did he educate all of them in free primary and secondary schools with enough teachers, librarians, lab technicians, administrators etc? Did he

Soso990240:
That's how it's suppose to be.. All these old men came into power as youths yet they want to die there.. They are old and have actualize to purpose in life, no future again, so you don't expect them to make policies that will make the country good. They are close to their graves, they have nothing to loose if the country collapses, whence anything goes for them.

The old men will continue to be in charge since the youths are expecting to be gifted political space instead of fighting relentlessly for it as these old men did in their own youthful days.
The youths are not just lazy as Bubu said, they are also a bunch of jokers & clowns.

Encyclopedia1:
STUPIDITY. Y NOT CALL THE INVASION OF PALESTINE BY ISRAEL A WRONG MOVE?

Why have the Saudis and Iraniains fighting in Yemen not done that

ivolt:
This means nothing.
Myanmar is already under sanction and it gets its weapons from Russia.

Even for the Muslims who only see America as evil

JosephXavier:
The way these people criticise africa, you'll believe that they are all saints and prudent

But they are in no way better, just that they have seen civilisation and embraced it long enough before it got to Africa

They gave their own likes of Abacha, Tunubu, Buhari and Allison Madueke

Yes they are no way better, which is why they are also dying in the Mediterranean sea, Sahara desert and Libya just to get to Nigeria and Africa as illegal migrant workers. Right

WriterNig:
#iStandwithPutin #iStandwithRussia

Those of you hypocrites calling President Putin a war criminal, but refusing to call ex-U.S President's Bush, Clinton and Obama war criminals and ruthless killers.

Have a look

You should not forget to share news/pictures of Putin dealing with Chechnya Muslims.
While at it don't forget the news/pictures of US and NATO saving Bosnian Muslims from Christian Croats/Serbs.

Mooh247:
Small peanut
Lagos makes 30 billion monthly and 360 billion only on just Lagos Inland Revenue Tax

So why is Lagos such a gutter ghetto without water and no free education for all children?
Why is that so

itubaba001:
Lagos, the commercial hub of Nigeria, has been ranking as one of the worst places to live in the world for the nine straight years, a BusinessDay analysis shows.

Data from the 2019 Global Liveability Index published by the Economist Intelligence Unit (EIU), the world’s leader in global business intelligence, shows the city has been within the range of 137th-139th position out of a total of 140 cities in the world from year 2011-2019.
Last year, Nigeria overtook India as the country with the largest number of people living in extreme poverty, thereby becoming the world capital of poverty, according to the Brookings Institute. This year, the number has risen to 91.6 million from 87 million in June 2018. Every minute, six Nigerians enter the group of extremely poor people, according to the World Poverty Clock.

Economic experts have blamed the rising population of Lagos putting more pressure on the available resources, low level of government reforms and rising poverty rate.

https://businessday.ng/uncategorized/article/lagos-ranks-amongst-worst-cities-to-live-in-for-nine-straight-years/

MadamVanessa:

Soon Nigeria pidgin will be a global language used for communication.

I remember my stay In Ohio , the way and manner the Americans flocked around me so I can teach them Naija pidgin was on another level.

It's us here that undermined our pidgin, if you see what the Americans go through to learn this, you'll appreciate pidgin and you'll start speaking it with so much pride and dignity.

Is that how Americans are also praying and fasting to get Nigerian visa to be illegal migrant workers in our country

JosephXavier:
Naija to the world

Nigeria is a great country with great potentials

We have abundance of talent in every sector

The only thing Nigerian needs is good leadership with vision

There is no country that doesn't commit crime but the Western press will magnify that of blacks and Africans but last last one day, we go dey alright

Nigeria’s great potentials like the ones risking death in the Sahara desert, Libya and Mediterranean Sea to be voluntarily exploited in Italy and other European countries?

If you are not happy with the Western press magnifying our crimes, why are we not working on the great potentials to have a consequential press like the Arabs have in Al Jazeera, to magnify the crimes of the whites? Why not

Amza07:
I was part of NPOWER 2017 set that's batch B enroll in under Nteach before our program terminated

Since then I used the savings I had to buy a fairly used daylong machine.

So after the program I used that to feed the family 3 months back we both discussed about how we will be able to upgrade or our lives Abit to earn more cash to sustain the family
so we both agreed to sell the bike then borrowed money and buy Keke napep.
Since npower stop paying I was not really enable to borrow from the bank but before I sold my bike.

Her friend promised to borrow us 200k so that at least we can get fairly used Keke for 320 since the new one is costly but after selling my bike her friend refused to assist us saying that the money she could have borrow us was used for another purpose.

Although I was a bit disappointed but didn't complain now my wife feels guilty because my life totally changed my things spoiled and I could afford the Keke since our plan didn't work out and the money on saved from the bike I sold wasn't enough anymore to get me another bike.

How do I get her to stop blaming herself? I believe God has reasons for such thing happening to me. How do I feed them till I buy one?

Major problem is family and friends see her as a woman that brought me down but I clearly understood that her intention was to support but it failed so I myself consider it as a blessing from God.

Have you stopped having sex with this your same wife or there is another wife

Amza07:
Sorry this is so long and kinda rambling!

My wife it the best person I have ever met. My best friend whom I adore. So you would think great sex would follow, not so much.

We have been married for 5 years. I am 36 she is 32. We didn't have sex until we were married, I had had one partner and she was a virgin and we both wanted to wait.

Sex was never great for us, she has never had a orgasm that she knows of. This is not for a lack of trying, trust me I would do, and have done, just about anything to help her climax.

We have tried everything there is short of therapy. If you can think of it we tried it.

The point is that while she says that sex isn't a bad experience, I know that it is frustrating for her and while she really wants to do it for me and does do it for me I can't help but feel like a total jerk for getting off while she isn't really getting anything out of it and is only trying to please me.

This leads me to not ask for sex very often, before you know it 2-3 weeks have gone by. I feel like I am doing this for her.

This is where it gets complicated, she says that she doesn't feel desired when I don't try to have sex with her, so we commit to being more consistent and regular with sex which we are for a short time, then a few days go by and I am wondering when it will happen again, which is torture, and the pressure builds and builds, then I start using mind over matter until the urges die down and I kinda even out, and then the cycle starts over again.
Its the up and down that I can't stand anymore. It takes a great amount of energy to subdue my urges but once I do, I feel that I am better off with no sex at all. Even though I would say I have a pretty high sex drive.

I have suggested that we just forget about sex since it doesn't do much for her anyway but, she won't hear of it. She says she will not live in a sexless marriage and it wouldn't be fair to me. I just don't know how to get it across that the lack of consistency and the never knowing if last night was the last night for a few weeks or if something will happen tonight is harder then knowing that it will never happen.

So yeah, I wan't to stop having sex with my wife. Crazy as that sounds.