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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by IMPARTIAL: 12:10pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Get involved in the work of God. Make the Bible your daily companion. But seriously, are you not interested in getting married again? I hope you were not divorced by your former husband. If you were, and you get married again, it is adultery. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Fmghewzy(m): 12:12pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Don't mind that mad man,lol. You should know he is trolling self,does Amy normal person bears kobojunkie |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by ARmanx(m): 12:17pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Blessed is he that endureth temptation for when they are tried they shall receive the crown of life which the lord has promised to them that love him! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by GodisFirst: 12:22pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Go back to your husband. If he cheated on you and that was the reason for the separation, just go back, forgive him and reconcile because you end up committing the same sin that you detest that made you to separate. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Exceed15: 12:22pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
My sister, give marriage a try again. This time around it will work for you in Jesus name. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by vikstandon(m): 12:28pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: I would have wanted to know the circumstances surrounding your separation... But considered it might not be any of my business...since you may not want to reminisce over it or share it with anyone. Could you go back to the relationship...is it one you would want to go back to...Just pray. Is never good for you to be alone...is a void that must be filled up. Is easier to control sex when you have not known what it feels like; It is hard when you have had a taste of it. You are a Christian, how regular is your Fasting-Life...how regular do you read your Bible and pray...Is just someway to subject your body and its craving. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Explicits(m): 12:31pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Make yourself happy and free some � |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by maasoap(m): 12:34pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Too much irritating rubbish 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by maasoap(m): 12:36pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
nike4love: The false belief that has put many married women and men six feet below. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Mikeinstanta123: 12:37pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
God is yur strenght! Kip going there is light at the end of the tunnel |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by anonimi: 12:38pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Religious mediums/leaders generally make natural tendencies into sin, so as to HELP the "sinners" intercede with God. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by pacespot(m): 12:39pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Sexual urge is natural o, i will tell you this based on my experience. When I was much younger, i used to be very religious with a lot of things I did then, even sexual life. But there is one circumstance in which I was tested to the limits. There is this distant cousin of mine who often came to visit, being a lady that i have known since we were kids, i would do anything for her but not to the extent of engaging in an immoral act together. Her constant pestering for such and sexual advances towards me was the only sore point in our friendship. Even though our bloodlines are little separated (distant cousin, remember), i could not fathom myself sleeping with such a person. One day, the temptation of her wanting us to have sex together came to its head when she intrusively and nakedly walked towards my bathroom while I was having a bath, she just had her own bath in the opposing bathroom, she could have covered herself with the rapper in her hand, but chose not to do so. Now, you have a fully grown and naked woman approaching towards you right inside a bathroom as if she wants to ask you something. Even though I could resist the temptation at that point, i couldn't resist the rush of hormones in my body, and that experience gave me an erection immediately. So the point I am trying to prove with narrating my experience in this story is that, sexual urge is something that is natural. You could have no intention of having sex with somebody, but that person will still give you an erection if caught in a compromising circumstance, thanks to the hormonal effect in your body. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by iLegendd(m): 12:42pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: I like your ex-husband. He is not one of those desperate men who end up dying earlier than their time because of trying to make things work at all cost while displeasing their souls. For him to be this bold and confident, you have hurt his ego and disobeyed his principle. You took it for granted, hence he made his decision to let you know no one disobeys his rules because of love. He is a man with abundance mentality. He will achieve greater things in life for not being too attached to marriage, love, and family. As long as he isn't wayward, his confidence is fine with me. 2 Likes |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Amanda002: 12:46pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Hmmm, no matter how many times we call men scum,the reality I that we need them more than they need us 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by AngelicBeing: 12:50pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
cococandy:Gbamsulotely, a Wiseman said and l quote >> You can't prevent the birds in the sky from flying over your head but you can stop them from laying a nest on your head, end of quote, you can't stop whatever feelings both the good, bad and ugly from coming to your thoughts but you have the responsibility of not allowing such feelings to lead you into SIN. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by togodbetheglory(m): 12:51pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Calling your self a Christian but fining it difficult to obey the simple bible instruction makes you worst than an infidel. Suffering and burning after sex after leaving your husband for 18 months is not okay for you. You know the solution to your problem but EGO will not let you. Go and reconcile with your husband. If he is wrong kindly forgive him and encourage to be involved in church activities and be praying with him, he will change very soon because Holy Spirit will work on it. Stop burning pls. If you dont do this? Are you gloing to continue like this forever? 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 12:58pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Ogbeni stop twisting Scriptures! In the eyes of God she's still legally married to that man until death separates them. And it's no sin for one to lust after the one they're legally married to. Op should try and resolve her differences with her husband, even if it means involving a third party. If she remarries in this state she'll be an adultress, and she can't return to her husband again. Sexual desire is natural, begins at puberty and continues to menopause or old age. Sexual desire is not lust. Lust is the objectification of any subject as an imagined entity upon which one subconsciously associates with the satisfaction of their sexual desires. Lust between married partners is pure and undefiled. So long as she's separated, she should either grin and bear her state, or seek reconciliation. Op, some of us never had sex for decades. Personally, I've never been intimate with a woman since '98. Yet, I have a very fierce sex drive. It's not totally impracticable. The more you abstain, take your mind off fantasies, porn and situations that could trigger lust and sex, the easier it becomes. I'm no born saint anyway. Had my ordeal with porn and masturbation, that's how I got to understand my sex drive. But by His grace I'm out of that web, so I'm speaking from experience. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by togodbetheglory(m): 12:58pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Calling yourself a Christian but fiding it difficult to obey the simple bible instruction makes you worst than an infidel. Suffering and burning after sex after leaving your husband for 18 months. You know the solution to your problem but EGO will not let you. EGO destroys marriage than satan himself. Go and reconcile with your husband. If he is wrong kindly forgive him and encourage him to be involved in church activities, be praying with him, he will soon change because Holy Spirit will complete His work on him. Stop burning pls. If you dont do this? Are you going to continue like this forever? Dont let burning take heaven from you. Listen more to the voice of the Holy Spirit and obey. Thanks |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Babara1994(m): 12:59pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:How old are you |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SugarGirl44(f): 1:00pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: And you didn't see where I asked her to do it responsibly? So as she's no more married now, what's she supposed to do? Jump into another marriage immediately just for the sake of sex? Abeg stay out of my mention with your crude way of thinking. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Xcelinteriors(f): 1:00pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Remarrying won't be a bad idea but the number of reasonable men outside there is very low. 95% of the single men are jobless and looking for women to take care of them. Just get a Love Machine and satisfy yourself when the urge arises. God bless you |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SyndyB(m): 1:02pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Please don't misquote the lady, and please stop misquoting the Bible. Masturbation, Fornication, homosexuality etc are all sin. And in Math 5:27 where you quoted, Jesus said that apart from physical actions that were proscribed as sin in old testament, that mere looking at someone lustfully is a sin. In other words, for it to be a sin you must have subjected your thoughts for sex to the body of a man/woman. It is called LUST when you subject the thought to the shape or physique of another person. God created us with sexual urges, so having such urges is NEVER a sin, such urges can also be controlled. An uncontrolled sexual urges is what leads to lust. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by akpesue2685(m): 1:05pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Get busy with the preaching commission and exercise alot when at home lonely. Watch and pray you will be better. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by ajailer(m): 1:05pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Mamijoh: It works o. Just try it n let me know 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SugarGirl44(f): 1:06pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Arizoner:I don't even know how to respond to you cos most of you guys have a long way to go in unlearning the tales told to you by your foreign religious masters. Meanwhile those people have left those teachings behind and have gone steps ahead of fornication and adultery, they now sleep with their fellow men. Hope your mind can capture this. If not, don't bother responding. We don't need to argue. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Sportstrader24: 1:12pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:So true. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SugarGirl44(f): 1:14pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
godliman: African man..na them...lolz. We know your type, you preach against stuff in public but engage in worse crimes secretly. I don't know how you guys imagine God to be. I know my own God isn't wicked neither is he an author of confusion, would created sex as a natural occurrence, (married or not you have the urge), then go ahead to throw you in hell for engaging in the same act, knowing fully well that everyone can't be married at every single time for different genuine reasons. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Newton2024: 1:17pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Why are you separated from your husband? If it is due to differences, then humility will solve 1/3 of your problem, apology will solve another 1/3 while tolerance will solve the remaining 1/3. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Kobojunkie: 1:19pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Lari03r:Sin is direct obedience of God's commandments and Law, in this case, in our case, as given us as individuals by Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ is God's agreement with individual man so it matters not what the next man knows or thinks as when you sin you sin against God and not man - Matthew 26 vs 28 - 30. So when you lust in your heart, the one your sin is against is God who gave you specific instructs not to - He is the one who sees in your heart and knows your sin, not your fellow man. As for spiritual attacks, that's a whole different topic, as all those whose father are the devil - those who believe but do not obey the commandments of Jesus Christ- they live in perpetual sin against God, are rightly controlled by the one they belong to - John 8 vs 31 - 32 & John 8 vs 42 - 47 |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by MisterKennedy(m): 1:21pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Wow!!! Based on my experience I'll try to counsel you. Please send me a message on WhatsApp 08100553547 |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Kobojunkie: 1:22pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Ishilove:Have you ever read Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 because that is exactly what Jesus Christ says right there. So I am not certain what scripture you have been reading. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Kobojunkie: 1:22pm On Mar 25, 2022 |
Hoodnigga123:Your wahala is yours not mine. |
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