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wow.

life is such

these tests are very important even at the start of dating.

it is a pity that most educated persons neglect this.

I think bank account test should be added to the list

this is so true

ItisWell22:
You get energy… 🥱

big one

Negroid001:
Sent

received.

thanks

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid that is exactly what it is.

I'm not afraid, that is not what it is.

Kobojunkie:
1. I would still have suggested she altogether she avoid all religious socializing regardless. She needs to help her brain heal, not throw it more rocks to process.

religious socializing isn't a rock to her recovery

Negroid001:
Drop it

080 3576 2335

Negroid001:
Are you on WhatsApp

yes

Kobojunkie:
Name one of your church groups in your church that would benefit her social anxiety?

I would rather suggest she join a book club or take a class or join a gym.

you would've dropped your suggestions instead of antagonising another's suggestion.

Makakween:
My husband and I got married by recommendations from my pastor,

na here the problem start

it baffles me how people will see danger and still choose to go ahead.
it's like seeing a truck load of trash from lawma, and believing you can convert it to a maserati.

this lady is possessed.

you better run.

I'm interested.

080 3576 2335 I'll prefer telegram

Miravik900:
Deep down I'm very sorry for all those words I said but I don't wanna lose her

you are not sorry,
but you will be.

you are immature.

you have no respect.

she will definitely leave you.

Kobojunkie:
They say experience is the best teacher, right? Well, I happen to have experience enough of the two sides to realize fully that they shouldn't be mixed at all. When you are dealing with mental stress, the last thing you need is yet another heap of mental delusions to add on top of what you already have going on up there..

you are right,
but joining a group in her church won't give her mental delusions

Kobojunkie:
For starters, religion is a man-made system of tools built atop contradiction-laden doctrines and traditions put forward by men, woven around the identity of a specific deity, as a tool with which to pursue power and control over the minds of lives of their fellow men. Your many religious leaders and authorities are such men in whose hands religion is the tool with which to satisfy their lust for power, fame, and greed.

Religion would be harmless if it didn't have to play on the minds of the people whose lives it seeks control over — the gullible sheep. That mind job carries potentially devastating mental penalties that could render some mentally incapacitated as in unable to bounce back to rationally processing reality for the rest of their lives. That is why I am against OP going anywhere near more religious nonsense.

so,
you don't recognize/ associate with any religion?

I have Samsung galaxy A12 3gb ram 32gb storage for 75k.

also, iPhone 8 64gb for 95k.

both are UK used and very clean

Kobojunkie:
1. Where do I even begin?

anywhere

Kobojunkie:
1. The thing with delusions, from my experience, is they rarely ever resolve themselves as they instead pancake/pile themselves ontop of delusions one may already be burdened with making it seriously hard to address a particular layer without first tackling those lying atop it. OP already realizes her problem, so the last she should do is pile on other problems atop it but just work her way to a resolution from this point forward. She needs to get away from the old things that helped fuel the problem and religion happens to be one such.

what is delusional about being in her church group?

devil don dey flash you,

you better flee

Kobojunkie:
OP, no matter what you do, stay away from churches and Christian groups abeg! The last thing you need is to add another layer of delusions for your mind to have to resolve. You can go out to parks, libraries or even bars or people watch from a safe place but do not top up your mind with more delusions abeg!

if she wants to start socializing with others, she has to begin with environments that she is familiar and comfortable with.
she also has to get more involve with things she's used to.
you may have a cynical thought about a group, but it doesn't apply to all.

what was she expecting?

you joined a group where members post their nudes anyhow.

such persons have no space for emotions.

it is just knacks and then they are on to the next one.

na gen z upgraded group be that

Sacrosanct12:
their guys have evolved to the level of smacking shit outta them.

their guys have very little respect for them

start with visiting family members, attending family functions, and that of close friends.

it's one step at a time.

take strolls.

if you are a Christian, join groups in your church and be regular with their meetings, functions, and other gatherings.

little by little, you will improve

dey play

Sacrosanct12:
Yoruba girls are grossly very disrespectful, all of them that I've met from A to Z, damn no Igbo guy can stand that. The moment they open mouth na insult. Even infants.

it was a girl that directed my mind to this.

I've observed it to be very true.

igbo guys value respect above every other thing

the thing self tire me

2canplay1000:
for asking for help and opinions on an issue? You need to kill ur pride

no pride here,

act the age you proclaim

efficiencie:
Well if your marriage is according to Judeao-Christian rules, adultery starts when you are engaged not when you are married. If you are engaged to a spouse and you cheat it is adultery and it was punishable by death (Deuteronomy 22:25).

ask any married person, they will explain the difference to you

2canplay1000:
yes what's wrong with that?

you need to grow up

Negroid001:
I dey tell you say person don marry.
She was just looking for excuse. Her husband told me the truth

she's telling you she's engaged,
you dey argue