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[quote author=advanceDNA post=107664935]I’ve never seen a wicked advice like this before
Which one is your happiness first in this matter?
Is the man asking her to do something that will kill her or take her joy away...??

How is this impairing her happiness?...u are just asking her to be selfish, nonchalant, and think about herself alone in a relationship that is meant to be steered by two people..

It is a wicked advice from your own view,the man is asking her to do sth that is beyond her,he has failed to accept the personality make up of his wife,he is already seeing her as a bad person because she's an introvert,he should get an extrovert that can pretend and do eye service to his in-laws,he can't eat his cake and have it,it's because the lady has no issues that's why he's trying to pin this on her,only a foolish man will see this as an issue in his woman,she's trying her best and if he feels her best isn't good enough then he should get at for a better sensible suitor,I pray he loses that babe that's when his eyes would be clear,he is in the WhatsApp group of guys that will ask a lady to learn how to speak his dialect or even hers if she doesn't know how to so the family can accept her,Nonsense and ingredients!!

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
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I am sorry that you feel so heartbroken but that guy doesn't love you,he should look for his fellow ambivert ,extrovert or what not!!it's he's loss,the misconceptions about introverts are Soo pathetic,but guess what babe let them think what they want,your happiness first,you can't be what you are not to please someone,he's trying to mould you into what you are not and you will never be able to keep up,he's the kind of guy that he's family will always dictate to,you don't know what God is saving you from,rejoice and be glad!!

Very sweet baby but what I do t like is the fact that Churchill never seize to use any given opportunity to share his family pics whenever tonto is in the news,he is find of that
This I have noticed!!!

The irony of life,first president of Nigeria is from Anambra state and right now the state is under siege ??

Guys pls I need connect to get into the bbn house next year,who get connect abeg stop by�

I don't care what you do BUT DONT ABORT THAT CHILD DONT YOU DARE!!!!!!!!!

He effed up big time,he was expecting a reward probably to be awarded with legal stay but the reverse was the case,sorry bro in your next life be wise as a serpent,think and ACT like a NIGERIAN

[quote author=Awka360 post=107602613]Yes I said do not come home for Christmas because you will regret it. Infrastructure are falling off..no good roads. Gridlock everywhere,the good roads are blocked by security due to fear of attacks on their facilities. You will suffer on the roads even if u have a private car


You spoke the truth bro,that's my home town and it's just so pathetic

Ernestforyou:
Such people act nice in the public but stabs you behind.They are very cunny,deceptive and they always want things to go their own way.You can hardly make progress working under such people and many people don’t really understand what Blackface went through for always attacking him.
Check out all his hypertek artistes(Rock Steady,Danny crane)

YOU KNOW THIS!!!

Incandescent:
So a housewife is visionless according to your logic?

Yes if she does nothing to improve herself and add value to the family,note that asides other housewife values she may or may not be adding that monetary value is key,I don't know if you are Christian but the proverbs 31 � woman is key here

Omor!!see swag Na,the outfit and swag is����❣️❣️❣️

bigpriik:
I brought up this topic two years ago, it was about a girl i loved so much we were good friends, but she is Just into a kinda flashy lifestyle funded by runs. She always posts twerk videos on her Instagram and whatssap status and of course she is very beautiful and the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Hoestly I don't know why I love her, it's just crazy. Last year I deleted her number and pictures from my phone, because we had a fight over the tatoo she drew on her upper arm so I avoided her..

But yesterday I saw her in my street, meeen this girl don fine scatter and she is looking so fresh like those men are really paying her well. She called me and I answered we talked and believe me all the nuts in my head was loose because I talked to her.. ,i felt all the old emotions back again and it was so strong again. I immediately collected her number and she sent me a hi on WhatsApp so we begin talking again, we chatted all Night and she told me how she missed me so much and all.

Is it sensible iI take her in, i am 29 now and rounding up for marriage and she is the only one i see but i am afraid because i feel runs girls don't really retire even after marriage..

Elders please i need your help..
I need

YOU NEED HELP!!!SEEK IT FAST WHILE YIU CAN!!!

1Alex:
If you have ever lost someone, it won't be scary to you anymore. When you enter a mortuary especially the one in a government hospital, you will know how far.

Very true,I see death as nothing since my beloved sister bowed out of this sinful world on 21/3/21,what gives me hope is that I will surely reunite with her again,my only fear is not meeting up to God's expectations of me

Two face is really two faced,one day one day the mask go fall off e remain small

Arieljay:
All I know is that if you don't have an iita love in your life then you have no business with being married, remain the single demon that you are,not even just for the sake of your partner but your kids, because the damages are enormous

Iota of love I meant

All I know is that if you don't have an iita love in your life then you have no business with being married, remain the single demon that you are,not even just for the sake of your partner but your kids, because the damages are enormous

Na so war dey take start oooo

Please don't bother her,you can't tell me you didn't know your wife had no vision but to become a full house before tying the knot,an average Nigerian woman is like this that's why they seek to marry a rich man(obiageli and the oriaku's)she only married you cause no rich guy looked her way, unfortunately you can't change her,this is who she is,no matter how you try it's just a matter of time she gonna go back to default

We are very hungry ,to feed is a challenge and you are telling us to acquire houses from where and with what?!!!

Mercychen:
Nothing like dwelling on the negative here. Its a normal phenomenon and thats only one aspect I just cited there, which most married people can attest to.

I like to say things the way they are. It's not negativity but reality., Onyen " negative".

As for my being single, it's a choice. And I won't join you and your lots to go into marriage just because others are going into it or without first calculating the cost,; only to get there and start wishing I never did.

You that is married, how far?
Are you any happier?
Uchu!



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it's the uchu!!!for me

lalasticlala:
Here is a throwback video of the owner of the collapsed Ikoyi building, Femi Osibona, dancing and catching fun with his 3 daughters.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_pabQAfDFA

Dust to dust, nothing dey this life,heaven is the goal!!!

Leaforever:
Congratulations are in order for the Nigerian artiste WizKid Ayo Balogun as his album 'Made in Lagos' becomes the 1st Nigerian album to spend 1 year on the Billboard world albums chart.

After it's arrival on the billboard charts in October 2020, the album has spent 4 weeks at no1, which is also the longest time a Nigerian artiste has stayed at the no1 spot - the only other album being Burnaboys twice as tall which was at the top spot for 1 week.

Longest charting Nigerian albums on the billboard charts are as follows:
1. WizKid 'made in Lagos' (2020) - 52 weeks
2. Fela 'the best black president' (1999) - 45 weeks
3. Burnaboy 'African giant' (2019) - 36 weeks
4. Davido 'A good time' (2019) - 25 weeks
5. Burnaboy 'Twice as tall' (2020) - 12 weeks
6. CKay 'the first' (2020) - 6 weeks
7. WizKid 'Sounds from the other side' (2017) - 4 weeks

Source:
https://www.billboard.com/music/wizkid/chart-history/WLP/song/1234221

Okay mine will be on the gospel chart and it will remain till infinity,watch this space����

daddytime:
Oh...

Rest on Tordue.

Your death is yet another wake up call to how fleeting this life truly is.

Wished I had made out more time to hang with you over bottle.

Sad...

very fleeting,we live to die������

epondudu:
Na Igbo guy see his head.

[quote author=Mofun post=107496417]Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

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