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Pls guyz, because of our previous experiences with ladies don't let us just conclude and say we r gonna love our mothers more than our wives. I have also suffered the same ish from ladies too but I won't transfer my aggression or my disdain for such ladies on my wife cos I don't expect her to transfer her own aggression from other men to me.
Also I am the head of the house,i must cater for her and love her which is expected of me. It becomes a problem when she knows I certainly love my mother than her( d same way I hate women say I love my children than my husband and am sure no man is gonna like that). I love my mother so much but I must be able to strike a balance and give both women what is due at the right time. Above all may God help us marry a good woman cos if u marry a good woman then this topic won't be an issue.
Don't love ur wife more or mother more ( women r generally jealous) Be smart , don't make it obvious even if u love someone more....Don't destroy ur home .

cyndy1000:
Must they also disgrace her to this extent by snapping her n even uploading it. some people are so wicked at least have some conscience, imagine if she is your sister.

imagine I am the one she has been stealing from too

Vanillaskin:
I can't do that no more now looking for a long term relationship that will lead to marriage

Wow...I love the fact u r quite sincere
So in that same spirit of all sincerity I wish u end up with someone like you .
Same past ,it makes sense. Atleast u both won't find it difficult to forgive each other when something happens as a result of the wayward past life u both lived .

Quite obvious nah....this is a staged prophesy/miracle/Family Reunion

First of all, there is no diagnosis called "Staph".....
Uncle dem don gba u cos Staph can be found on your normal skin so anyone saying they found you positive for Staph has just practiced 419 on you.
Pls go to a proper hospital with a good laboratory where whatever sample dey get from ur urethra/penis can be cultured and a proper diagnosis made from a Doctor not some quack out there making a funny Staph diagnosis.
Well I don't know what u av or what drug u were given but saying u had Staph is so incorrect except d doctor ( well I doubt if u saw one) is a quack. Other things to be scared of with regards to STI than Staph( something wey dey on ur body normally)

CEEcey:
Same here

I have decided to go back to my mtn sim
Etisalat is something else

it's working now.
Call 200 then register ur complaint,they will sort it out

Pls house, I tried calling with my etisalat line now but it keeps saying " this is a discounted call" then the call ends on its own. The funny thing is I received a call afterwards from the person I tried calling saying he saw my missed call. Tried calling my own number ( anoda network and fone) and d same thing occurred .
Pls is any other person experiencing this right now?
And what can I do?( I called d customer care tho and was told to give them 24hrs to resolve this but I just wanna know am I d only one)

Blackhawk01:
LOL! There's a thin line between being blunt and being stupidly rude, you know your case already. It's funny when girls use the "I'm blunt like that" tag to cover up their proud and rude arse. Dude actually pleaded with you to help him get the phone but the gist sweet you sotey you misyarn for your bobo in public! My sister, that's an outright display of disrespect to your man.


I don't have an advice to give you because I won't even let my brother marry your type before you carry your bluntness and comman insult MamaBlacky...

Gbayiiii padi mi
I love this comment. Aunty, there is nothing to say to you
As guys we consider how you treat us and most especially the lady figure in our lives ( could be our mum or sister), treat them in a useless way and u just ended ur reign in our lives. I guess u ended d relationship on d day u met his sister, other things dat followed na just added effect. He lost interest way back even before u insulted him publicly .
Anyway may your son marry a blunt woman ( someone like you) and letz c if u will be able to cope as d mother in law.
Above all ask for wisdom , u really need it. The Bible has a name for people that can bridle their mouth, am tempted to call you that but nah I won't

Blackhawk01:
LOL! There's a thin line between being blunt and being stupidly rude, you know your case already. It's funny when girls use the "I'm blunt like that" tag to cover up their proud and rude arse. Dude actually pleaded with you to help him get the phone but the gist sweet you sotey you misyarn for your bobo in public! My sister, that's an outright display of disrespect to your man.


I don't have an advice to give you because I won't even let my brother marry your type before you carry your bluntness and comman insult MamaBlacky...

Gbayiiii padi mi
I love this comment. Aunty, there is nothing to say to you
As guys we consider how you treat us and most especially the lady figure in our lives ( could be our mum or sister), treat them in a useless way and u just ended ur reign in our lives. I guess u ended d relationship on d day u met his sister, other things dat followed na just added effect. He lost interest way back even before u insulted him publicly .
Anyway may your son marry a blunt woman ( someone like you) and letz c if u will be able to cope as d mother in law. Above all ask for wisdom , u really need it.

ba7man:
No matter the chat situation, I wait till I see you're typing on the other end........then I block you before the message comes through.


Whoever blocks first wins.......it just hurts the other party more when they're blocked midway expressing themselves.

wickedness in high places.
Now I know y d Bible said d heart of man is desperately wicked

chinedubrazil:
Op, when i was reading your epistle, i was wanting to get more hints on what you did, but all i was read looks eulogy for guy.

buh i have a suggestion, if you had begged him severally and he refused, sister he doesn't love u.
take heart and move on with ur life, there is someone who can please you like he did. he is not the only apple on the tree dear.
a guy who is adamant to forgive a fellow being, is more likely to be deserted, why? he could cause u pain when u truely trust him. as in in the unforgiving part. humans are not perfect!
sis take heart! and move on.

Uncle go n marry her nah..she is a free agent now
Sha don't bring the story here when she destroys ur little self esteem wey remain cos I go swear for you

Cos I can c dat u r so compassionate , well u av never been in one before so u can type nonsense here. He has not even married her she has already frustrated his life with her attitude and mouth and u talking nonsense here. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

hergists:
I have been feeling very bad for my attitude especially the recent one that led to this post. Please don’t bash me. Read this with an open mind.

I’m a lady and this is my confession.

I am really regretting my past deeds . I pushed him to the wall. He loved me but I paid him back with pains.

I know what it means for one party to be conscious of their words while the other isn’t always like that. I am really regretting my actions right now. I shouted at him. I hurt him badly. I made him feel worthless. I wronged him. I frustrated him so much that he can no longer tolerate me again.

Please, how can I get him back ?

I miss him so much. I miss the real him. I miss hid jovial part. I miss his childish ways of life. The way touches me and make me feel loved even when we aren’t together in the same place.

I am fond of being with him. I am so fond of playing with him. I don’t want to miss those naughty plays with him. I’ll go crazy if he leaves me for a moment.
I am so used to opening up to him. I am so used to being naked with him. He’s my best friend. My companion. My father. My brother. My son. My play mate. My touch mate. My cute mate.

I miss the jovial acts in him.

Ever since this incidence started, he has refused to take me back as a friend . He no longer call me in the morning. He no longer call me pet names. I am now like a total stranger to him. He isn’t close to me again. He now sees me as a monster.

Please how can I bring him closer to me?

I went to the extreme of taking actions that has landed me into trouble.
Yes. He explained his reasons for not coming home. I know that it’s because of his state of finances and all. But it’s still not easy being without someone you cherish so much and have lived with.

I am so into him. Yes, when it all happened, I didn’t take things easy with him. I said hurtful words to him. It doesn’t mean that I am not a wife material. I am. It’s just that my weakness is my cross. And I know that he has tolerated me a lot.

I am not stubborn. I am not mad. I am not violent. I have learnt a lot. I have learnt my lesson.

Please don’t hurt me the more.

I am sick. I can’t walk well. I am short of blood. Because each time I stand or walk, I feel like I’m just going to fall soon. I am really sorry. Please. My head is aching. My tummy is hurting. I am feeling pain all over. I feel that I am just about to lose him.

Yes my mouth got me into trouble. And I know that. He brought our mothers into this very matter. That means it has really gone beyond his power.
Please cover my weakness.

I can’t afford to do the things we usually do together. I want him. And I need him so badly. If he leaves me or distance himself from me, I might do something silly to myself.

I don’t want to be called his ex. I have been called someone else’s ex. I do not want to be called his. I want him because he’s the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh.

I take away every form of pride and arrogance. Please accept my apology.
My heart is bleeding. My heart is crying day by day. I have been advised by my mother never to be rude to a man again most especially to him.

I am becoming lean because I have no appetite. I have lost my appetite for food.

Okay. Let’s assume that he wants me to pay seriously for my deeds, but he shouldn’t go too far on me. I am losing hope already. I am weary already. Everyday I wake up, I feel like I am dreaming.

I am so lonely. I can’t work this journey all alone.

I wish him the very best. I never wish to see him go through pain. Yes! I overreacted. But I am promising him that it will never happen again.

I still feel pains all over my body. I am not saying he’s the cause. Please don’t get me wrong. He has done nothing. I just need him to show me love.

I wake up every day still thinking that I’m dreaming. I have really learnt a lot from him. He really built me to be an independent woman.

My mother loves him. My father is not excluded. My siblings are also involved. They are all looking forward to the day he will put that ring on my finger. He changed a lot of things in me. He changed my life completely.

Each time I think of him, my heart beats wrongly. I am dying. I am about to do something terrible to myself. I can’t love any other person like him.

He made me a full grown woman. I’m looking womanly right now. If he leaves me now, I’m going to miss him so much. His face. His sweet hands.

Please come back to me love. I love you so much.

He gives me food when I am hungry. He clothes me whenever am naked. Whenever am sick, he gives me the best care. Whenever I am so occupied with house chores, he gives me an helping hand.

With him, I’m just a girl that needs to be loved. I love him so much. Please accept me back as your sister and as your better half.

Source: http://hergists.com/my-man-is-tired-of-my-attitude/

Lord take this one to you on time as the world would be a better place with one less of her kind.
Thank you God for giving sense to the bro and for saving his life . Too many qualities in a man than his life to be cut short by this serpent/fool that can bridle her mouth. For this ,We Bless you Lord

Aunty leave nairaland and go mountain go pray so that you won't use your mouth to destroy the next relationship ,hopefully u will find one or else Shiloh is ur case

TheLastIdiot:
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make I no lie.....this is actually hilarious.
Maybe we shd call your bae #4kBae

Benita27:
Op, it's normal but she wasn't smart about it. If she needed to pocket some change she should've at least made the soup worth 3K, this one na N1,500 soup.

exactly.....1500 will give me this .
Well uncle calm down ,she is just a gf and not a wife...if u know what I mean
Open your eyes Wella before katakata go burst for you. Abi no be for this nairaland we c woman send her pikin go useless school ( where she will pay way less than d initial amount but with substandard quality of education) after her husband gave her school fees for correct school wey d pikin go enjoy quality education.

In as much as it is expected nowadays for things like this to happen , I av discovered that trust in relationship starts going down or becomes extinct once this starts happening .

I insist marry a Home Manager in terms of everything who is very accountable and trustworthy.
But the otherside of this story is it is possible she didn't cheat you at all,perhaps she doesn't just know aw to make some thing worth the amount . But still calm down......u will need it as a man and most importantly as a Husband

MhizzAJ:
People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

why are we not asking how many times does she call him in a day?

It is not about the guy alone, does she make effort to call you at least 3 times a day too? If she does,then bros you have no excuse. It's either you talk to her about you not having anything to say ( well if you still love her) or you reciprocate.
Currently in a similar situation with a random babe( not in a relationship with her) and I don't reciprocate her calls but I am doing that to pass a message indirectly.....Move on, I don't like you

aiyele200:
Hi Nlanders,

Good morning and happy weekend. I am posting this due to the fact that my patience and understanding is being taken for granted by my wife. 6 years already into this marriage, disobedience and unfaithfulness in terms of not being straightforward with me as been the order of the marriage,though attimes, the woman changes for good, then later she starts again.

One sunday afternoon after returning back from church, she quickly rushed to me saying she wanted to go and drop her sister at the hospital since the first malaria treatment she had didnt work. I asked where the hospital is, said somewhere in gbagada, knowing fully well that my wife does not know gbagada well, and knowing well also that she was going with the kids, I volunteered to drop them off, but she kept mute, and her body language showed that she didnt want me to drop them off. So I said, plz be careful, gave her money to branch at the filling station to top up the fuel in the car. On their way going, I got hungry cos lunch was not prepared b4 they left, I decided to rush down to the nearest eatery to get sumtin to eat, on entering my own car, figured out my fuel was low, so I decided to go to the filling station. On getting there, I was packed at my wife;s car, she was actually standing beside the passenger side which is weird, cos she was the one that drove off, I looked at the drivers side, and I could see a mans head. So my wife came to meet me, said she just paid for fuel, they r leaving now, at that time, I was expecting her to at least explain who the person at the drivers said was, with my kids in the car oooo!!! She just went straight to the passenger side and closed the door. I was really stunned and surprised. I pressed the horn for her to come down, soon as she came down, she immediately said, oh i forgot to ask u if it was ok for Segun to drop us up at the hospital, I was like why, she said because he seems to know the place. Funny thing is, this guy I have never met before, but she has told me about him b4 and I know him as the guy that loans she and her sister money when urgent funds are needed. So she called the dude down from the car, introduced him proper and I asked them to leave. Alot of people will sure blame me for allowing someone I dont really know to drive my family to a location, but at that moment I was still stunned because to me it was the highest level of mistrust and disappointment, so I could not take a drastic move @ that moment. They left, and the same guy dropped them off.

That night, I called my wife and sat her down, that I need an explanation on how the whole scene played out, cos I volunteered to go and drop you guys, u didnt answer me, and all of a sudden, I am seeing another man whether known or unknown person in the car with my kids without u telling me b4 u left the house that someone was going to drive u guys. She responded saying, to be sincere, they had plans seeing the guy at the bus stop to discuss loan, but she decided to have the guy drive them since he knows the hospital and since he is a man. I was like fine, but when u came to meet me, I thought u were spose to tell me who was in the car, instead u walked off, she said actually I forgot, that it was the moment that u pressed the horn that I realized I was suppose to ask u if it was ok for segun to drive us. Oh well, they say communication is key in marriages, I will not say she was lying, thought I know something dont add up, so I moved on. But the damn thing that really got me worried was that, few days to that very day, I noticed her being worried and soliloquizing, asked her what the problem is, claimed that its the money she lent last from the segun guy which she has not been able to pay is what is worrying her, that the dude has been asked her for the money since it has elapsed the paying time. With that alone, it gave me a worrying thought that, it was the same guy that I ended up seeing on code @ d filling station driving my family off.

Nlanders, sorry for the long epistle, if I dont explain well, you guys wont understand in details, for the married guys and ladies, whats your take on this issue? Does something really isnt adding up?

Thanks!

bro am not trying to be a bad belle but can you get the kids for a DNA test without her knowing and let's start from there.
I feel there is more to this than normal.
Would she have told you about the guy driving them to the hospital if you had not seen them first?
Trust is important in any marriage but of recent it has become so scare amongst couples. "The heart of man is desperately wicked ......"

Ayoolajumoke:
It's been fifteen years ago that my dad left my mom with three kids, two boys and a girl, my younger bro was only 6months old and I was only three years old.

It isn't easy living without a father, my mom did all she could to bring us to where we are now, sometimes we go on empty stomach, bought clothes for us twice in a year and so many things that didn't make a good living, she works most times as a maid just to make sure our education is secured (she never remarried ). I feel bad whenever I see my friends talk about their dads and I curse my dad each time I remember everything we've been through that even made me hate men.

All hope isn't lost as I'm now in my second year in the University, wishing to make my mom proud of me. I thank God for blessing me with that kinda mom.

Anybody from a broken home can as well share his/her experience.

may you become a great mother to your children....Amen
May your mum live long to witness your greatness....Amen
I pray for you today, may you become a source of joy to your mother and I pray you end up in a good family,never suffer this again..... Amen

But dear, one thing I have discovered about peeps from broken homes is dat they are somehow deficient either in character or other ways so don't let whatever you are going thru get to you . Be positive always and don't let your past determine or dictate your future. Don't let the anger, the pains you have been thru or other negative things make a monster ( in any way). Don't think all men are bad or irresponsible . Above all love God and be good

Joel3:
old enough to give birth to you guys.

since you are old enough to be our father, then why are you here to seek our advice .
U said about your Ego.....I think ur ego shd make you see why you don't need her or even have sex with her cos she is just using reverse psychology for you but apparently you just a child( sorry Mr "old enough to give birth to us"

Sabrina18:
The possibility of contracting it from your girlfriend is low, that's if you know the kind of girl you are dating.

according to your study abi....
I'm not in support of patronising prostitutes but saying you get HIV more from prostitutes than your regular girlfriends na lie.
Except for the skin-divers (e g some of the ashewo customers on sexuality page lol), you are most likely gonna use a condom with a prostitute than your regular gf. Now if you have a free-to-air gf, you are most likely gonna get other freebies aside HIV

Pls anyone having issues with allawee not being paid for this last month especially a first bank user in Ondo state?
I really wanna know if I am the only one affected?

sgtponzihater1:
Happy Sunday bro. May the God of all comfort remove bitterness and opinionation from ur heart. Everyone is not capable of Med/Surg, even if one is well able or qualified to study it. I am however very vast in the field of medicine and know most of its current trend.

ohk...... what's ur profession ? You claim to be vast in d field of medicine so I want to know if am actually wasting my time talking to you or not.
Also I saw a post earlier saying u have something against dentists; do u av something against everyone?
Are you frustrated?
Do u need to c a psychotherapist?
Always remember suicide is never the way out.
Happy sunday

KingLennon:
Is not shameful o. My brother was operated of appendicitis last year, the doctors forgot to buy chemical to clean his stomach after the operation. The kept his stomach open to go to a pharmacy to buy it...Such a pity with Human life

every doctor here knows you just lied. So u r saying d surgeon left your broda on the operating table , scrubbed out and started running to the chemist to buy one chemical. Eskis mi sir, what is d name of the chemical....I might need it to wash your mouth sir cos out of it just came out this great lie. Ha!!!!! Just say u dont know what happened and not just conjure one story from NOLLYWOOOD

sgtponzihater1:
Not my portion IJN. I think you need some education.

I have already that is why I want to use the knowledge to treat your child . We will help you here in Nigeria but if u decide to take the child abroad .....You will meet us there.
NB: The surgery is not Free........oniraanu oshi

sgtponzihater1:
Stop telling lies my guy. Doctors are some of the highest Ponzi schemes and multilevel marketing players in the country, u know it's true. Most of the best Nigerian doctors have written foriegn exams and flown abroad. Many remaining are disgruntled elements, treating malaria and typhoid. Some will even say that child has congenital malaria with perforated typhoid ileitis. I am constructing a post to advice Nigerian doctors on ways to fight quackery starting from themselves, wait for it.

stop visiting babalawos and stop seeking for help online. Visit a real doctor and save yourself this embarrassment . Also you can apply for MEDICINE & SURGERY again , hopefully this time you will gain admission into a good school. Thank You

9jakohai:
Hey there....you are just telling jokes.

1.Nigerian medics study embryology. In fact, you cannot leave preclinical studies without a knowledge of embryology.

2.As a medical student doing a rotation in pediatric surgery....gastroschisis and omphalocele were commonplace in our pediatric surgery ward.I finished my rotation there with a good knowledge of both conditions.

3.I have also diagnosed cases like that as a doctor.

4.And by the way....I knew all about Ponzi schemes as far back as 1997. And most docs don't even play MMM.

Tell them o.......ignorant person wey no know say hin no know. Abeg wetin dem dey call person like that * I don forget o*. I think d name starts with F and ends with L ;

sgtponzihater1:
gastroschisis, that's what medical personnel call it, but Nigerian doc don't know anything about this because they are are busy becoming MMM guiders. It's a defect in the abdominal wall. If they had studied embryology, they would have known these things. Who am I to question MMM guiders?

so much ignorance in this post. So itz only in embryology you get to learn this?? Anyway , u know where to find us when your child has this

KingLennon:
Something tells me that this sort of operation should have been carried out in a foreign hospital; Where the child can get good medical services. God bless the man who sponsored this...

foreign hospital ke
Nope!!!!!
This can be done in Nigeria. We have good centers here ( get to surgery department @ UCH. Paediatric Surgery to be precise)

Lol @ shot with a milk wave .
You are doing a great job . Oya update us asap

Lol

Engineers IMO

I know you are particular about HIV but I think u should be concerned about hepatitis B and C. Considering the tattoo, hepatitis screening should be on your list .
Back to HIV......well there is this determine kit that tests within 28days of infection,u could try it but as earlier said by peeps before me,u could check again in 3months ( at least sero conversion would av occurred and d antibody to d virus can be detected)