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bigiyaro:
op, like the guys above said, there is no case here since your sister was not completely legally married to the guy, except he got any property for her on her own name. Also so if the shop rent was paid in the guys name then she has no case there too. She can as well empty the shop and move on. As for the child, you guys need to stand firmly by her, even in the court, the first preference as a child's custodian are his parents, if there is any dispute, the child's mother is the number one preference except where the biological father is able to prove beyond reasonable doubt that the biological mother is unable to care for the child. If the 'woman' comes near your sis again, just call the police, they will read her rights to her. Good luck.

I agree to this

You have a right over the kid

sassysure:
No case here. Lawyer will just chop their money.
The property don't belong to her. Period.

I'm worried about her shop though.
Is it in her name or the guy opened and equipped it for the wife to be?

Their relationship is already sour so what actually happened?

Was she claiming those property?

The late guy's mum isn't here so I have learnt not to draw conclusion again from one angle as the other party is always painted bad.

Good points

My own question is won't the young woman marry again

U av a child for him but u are not married to him, so what are you fighting for?
Is it your child or his property

Property-wise u don't av a say,u are not married to him .
I guess u were planning to take the property all in the name of u had a son for him and afterwards marry another person (which is expected of you rightfully) and take the new found wealth to his house abi

What happens to the deceased mother ,who takes care of him .....I know you will say other kids abi

Now let us switch position if Na you ,shey u go gree make one babe wey get pikin for ur son but not married ,who we all know will marry someone else later in life come and claim property


If u are fighting for the child ,good
State what you really want .
Property or child

kazyhm:
She just successfully dragged you into her nonsense twist...........and you'll beat you at it........

She can't
I am not just being logical here,I am talking about something I know so much about
No sentiments here and I am no novice by virtue of my profession

Switching of babies as she claims is peculiar to some settings and not everywhere and will never be the first excuse for a DNA dispute


She is just trying her best to justify nonsense and also become rude when confronted

Not gonna be drawn into an argument with her.
Alot of her kind on social media (Twitter etc) who know next to nothing about a certain topic but will be so vocal about it


Life has a way of coming for us all and things we justify on a faceless group will actually happen in reality , then sentiments and logic won't work again

Fountainofyouth:
It is a pity that we still have men that are lacking intelligence, how is it that in these modern era, they still don't know that some people switch babies at birth in the hospital, either mistakenly or intentionally? It is either the schmucks above are blind to topics like these that graces front page, or they see it but comprehension and assimilation is far from them, or they just like to gloat about anything women,

I really pity women who will fall under these category, I pray they don't meet these manboys above as husband.

So easy to justify such acts from women until this happens to ur own brother and his wife says perhaps they switched the babies at birth

Aunty ,find correct hospital to deliver and save urself the issues of switching babies at birth.

Most good hospitals will never take the baby away from the mother and each mother is allowed few mins with the baby to know how the baby looks like ,gender etc before taking the baby away Incase their is a need to


So switching of babies ,tho possible in our environment , should never be the first reaction when DNA suggests otherwise especially with the latest survey of Naija women being the most unfaithful wives in the world

Dande55:
You men breed tens of children outside your marital homes.
It becomes a cause for concern when its a woman that's caught in the act.
I don't support extra marital affair, but y'all hypocrisy is disgusting.

Hypocrisy you say maybe for those who father those kids out there but what will you say about faithful men who still suffer this deception

DNA solves a lot of problems and keeps everyone in check

Michellekabod2:
it wouldn't take long before we adopt that.

Twitter feminists are not playing o

Those clowns

Equality propaganda but not ready for the challenges

Twitter is a scam, do not be deceived

They move 3 steps forward and make 5 steps backward with their next action

Michellekabod2:
In western countries she will file a case against him,divorce him,and cart away with his wealth. He will pay her child support for kids that aren't his

So which is a wiser choice to make?

In a Western world yen yen yen

But no one tries to fight Infidelity here but once assault dey like this,u go see them

I used to join your kind to say this too until I saw a first-hand case .

Our married ladies need to do better jare

Married men too or single Bleep boys servicing these useless piece of shit need to do better too

Only if everyone can be faithful ,it would have been nice
Perhaps we might actually record a low percentage of domestic violence related to infidelity .

DNA should be made a priority in our marriages just like genotype

Bleep trust right now cos it has been abused repeatedly by both gender

Say no to infidelity, say No to domestic violence

frozen70:
Why should she tell her guy her escapades

The good thing is that she has repented and forgiven herself

God will complete the rest for her

dey deceive her ooooo
Nothing is ever hidden
It is either he finds out himself or an ex will come back to blackmail her or she herself will reveal it or circumstances of life will bring the truth out


Always remember,nothing is ever hidden
Just give it time and the truth will come out

I won't say much , just continue to deceive her until the truth comes out and her end will be worse than her beginning

nlPoster:
She had no direction or guardian but her mother was there?

Same thing I said while reading this
The mother couldn't sacrifice herself ,but the idiot had too
She kept justifying her wayward lifestyle by saying she had to for her mother and sibling and having no guardian
She is now scared thinking her past won't catch up with her
Aunty u better tell him and allow him make the decision to either carry on with ur hoe-ish life or find a better fortunate lady with no dirty past or not as dirty as you
She is scared she will be childless or she already knows she has a damaged womb

Things we all do in our youthful days have a way of catching up with us

Spend your life well to avoid stories that touch later

You are a fool and your new babe deserves someone better and mature
Someone who knows right from left and can make a firm accurate decision,not someone moved by emotions .

I guess her sex game is tight ryt( I mean ur Ex) cos I don't know why you think a lady that cheated on you then and doesn't even mind disrupting your current relationship is worth giving a second chance .

haryothosyn93:
It happens to me yesterday evening like you guys know what is happening right now

I met this girl like a month ago, we gist and bla bla like that after we exchange contact. She agree to come over to my place that week sunday wish I have prepared for it as a guy naw. I just have to call her on Saturday evening just to be sure she is still coming as well have agreed but to my surprise, she said she will be resuming back to school the very next day which is Sunday that we agreed on. I was like no problem now, when will you be coming back and she said immediately she finished her exams she is will be starting on Monday the same week we agreed to see. Fast forward to the whole scenario, she called 2 weeks after that the school had prosponed the exams till further notice, I was like what happened she said she didn't know why that i send her card which I did. She didn't called after that till when I caller her again to check on her. The next demand was card again which I did again. She flashed me the next morning to thank me for the card I sent to her.
I called her again last weekend to know when she will be coming to abuja and she was like I will be coming on Wednesday because I will finish my exams on tuesday afternoon, I said okay that I will check on her before she come to abuja. To my surprise, I called this gurl on Thursday to know if she is back to base and her response shocked me that she didn't have transport and she has been looking for a way to call me that I should send her money for her transport. I was like if I did not call you now you won't remember that you don't have transport, she has being calling me like I owe her money. She keeping sending messages and calling till around 2 am in the morning.


It is funny but crazy and I told that I don't have one naira in my account that she should call her family. She said nobody has money in her family to send to her.

This story has Ojoma Hannah written all over it

God forbid

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Flickzvill:
I would have taken your advice if she hadn't cheated on me before the trust is no more there that's why I took the decision. You can't cheat on a partner and expect that person to magically trust you, you have to give reasons to trust and she keeps giving reasons not to trust

Now u just dey talk like person wey get sense .
Pls don't mind those ones wey dey talk about calling her to discuss way forward.
She doesn't respect you and you calling her again won't change d situation. I had a personal experience with a babe who has a bf but was always coming to my place . She would shout on the guy over the fone and na d idiot go first apologize( to my surprise) . I knew d babe na time bomb as she is the most foolish person av seen in my life. She always makes wrong decisions and will still justify it.
Guess what, me no go take nonsense from her and she will always come back and apologize for her wrong doings but for her real bf na d idiot go still dey apologize for something wey d babe do. Yet the babe still dey come my side Everytime. Would rather chat me up than her bf. I have seen her hang up a number of times on her bf . Tried that shit with me and I warned her ,aunty gather sense sharp sharp. Even after I left her ,she still found another guy again always going to his place

Flickzvill:
exactly if she can come back and we lay down some rules and settle all i will even take her to my parents right away

Big fool

ChiefAzubuike1:
Kid Victor.. You'll easily pass as my son. Here you are insulting your fathers age mate. No wonder you don't have a job yet. You must have invoked so many curses on top your head throughout your life no thanks to insulting your elders. I have 2 houses, I'm based in the UK. I'm a millionaire. Please tell me your own achievement In this life other than submitting CV up and down. You think I dont know you? We met some years ago in Enugu.

How come you are struggling to convince us that you are a mature man. Well age is not Synonymous to wisdom.
I guess you will tell me you know me too and I stay in Lagos selling bread abi....Alainikanshe

Mizk:
The fact that you had the guts to go there goes a long way to prove you're no different from them, If you have no business with them, Why would you be concerned in the first place?

Most of them there were pushed into that line of business to survive, most of them cry behind closed doors because they hate the life they're living, But you who go there or patronise them are the ones I'd despise not them, you had a choice they don't.

They do.........there are other options and you know it.
I guess they got involved with the wrong set of peeps that showed them this way of life and also doing a background check on them, we can always guess the type of family they are from.

JupiterGeekVII:
I won't condemn women who live such lives because I know deep down they aren't happy with this sorta lifestyle. It's men (or women) like you who are going there then coming out to condemn them that I will raise an eyebrow at.

just like saying I won't condemn the guy that stole my laptop because deep down I know he is not happy with what he is doing.....hmm

pocohantas:
How can the 25th be the 2nd/3rd day of her ovulation?

Even in a standard 28days cycle, ovulation doesn't start on day7.

thank you oooo
Using a 28 day cycle, btw days 8-19.... probability of fertilization is high while before day 8 and after day 19 d probability decreases .
Now the reason for dat interval of day 8-19 is because cycles vary. The constant thing is from ovulation to menses is 14days but from menses(day 1) to ovulation is never constant and also a sperm can spend up to 5 days in a woman body but once d egg is produced it can only last 1-2 days




So I think you av to be scared tho, 25th happens to be day 8 but again u shd av used emergency contraceptive(postinor 2) within 48hrs ,some say 72 hrs sha.....so it babe fit use am
But skin-diving is sweet na so make tuface become father Abraham
Na so also make tunde dey use Anti Retroviral drugs.......I don warn u sha

amakadihot87:
If you truly love her and want to spend your life with her..........then go ahead and perform atleast her traditional marriage rites......she should be ready to support you no matter how small..........sometimes marriage brings favour.............remember she has become contious of her age

Amaka face reality jare
What is she bringing to the table right now.Does she have money somewhere?
If the OP is being truthful sha, I think he should chill and sort himself out first. Small thing now aunty go enter family come dey deprive all other family members from seeing the man and trust me she won't tell us the Initial part where uncle dey beg am make she wait small in a bid to sort himself out financially. Apparently he has so many months to feed and d guy is not financially ohk ,it won't be easy bringing another woman into the already messed up equation. Except she is ready to withstand some hardship sha or she should be ready to help out financially too( assist in any little way sha)
It is still not easy considering how ladies change mouth once reality face them

LamarJR:
I mean you don't expect me to have sex with a girl every single time I feel Hot, or do you? I guess not ; masturbating to me helps me save money I would have wasted on a girl just for Bleep and a quick relief if a girl is not close by but what I don't understand is

Why do I just dislike girls just after masturbation?

you have started manifesting the chronic side effect of masturbation. Gradually it will move to premature ejaculation.
Pls bro help urself rewire ur brain by stoping masturbation. It destroys one finally as it will master you.

Daddykush:
Yes! You should spend on your woman but if you don't, it is not in her place to ask. She isn't entitled to it UNTIL marriage


Your opinion.

Nobody is ENTITLED to collect money from you except for those who are your responsibilities. Your girlfriend is not your responsibility until marriage.

You can go around giving out cash to every girl you date instead of investing in your future

That's how y'all come back to nairaland claiming to be duped and dumped.

Gbayiiii

U make sense jare.
I don't get it, am I getting married to a liability . When I marry we can talk about this but not when u r just a gf( or no be dis naija we dey c guy spend on top gf and d gf will do dem string thing later)
Abeg, find a job and atleast cater for urself as an adult ,stop depending on anoda person.Anoda thing is itz only her side of d story we have heard, who know uncle don dey give her before wey she dey wasteful( I don't expect her to say that anyway)

Above all sha, find a job and stop been dependent on ur bf. Itz a relationship ,not a job

biacan:
If I slap you and you retaliate....... get ready to go to jail

You still don't understand....only a living soul gets to talk about jail.

Incase u r thinking u wanna try it on any guy,pls don't
Respect urself and be wise.
They might not retaliate at that point but they will fu*k u up later. And this ur reasoning won't be there to save u.
Don't be foolish dear

Prefola:
...bleep her, i didn't take her seriously and her told her that. but she still insisted and said she would prove to me that she was damn serious and that she was gonna send me her nudes and i said 'ok'(still thinking she wasn't serious), before i could say jack robinson she had sent her nudes to me.i was so so surprised and fell for it, i couldn't just imagine what i was seeing and we talked dirty all the night before i slept.
but on waking up the next day,that was yday, i started feeling guilty and my conscience began biting me so badly and i chat her up and told her and she told me she regretted it too and she sounded annoyed,i then told her we wuld talk of it when i returned from church.
i went to church nd felt dejected nd dirty,i couldn't just do anytin even to play instruments,i came bak nd we chatted nd apologised to her cuz i felt i had taken advantage of her lust nd she surprisingly told me she wasn't mad at me nd dat she asked 4 it bt she still insisted on having sex wit me...

Bro , pls run and don't wait o
Next thing is she come on social media and start playing the victim ,narrating how you raped her. Pls don't agree to bleep her oooo,it is a trap.
U said something about she feeling annoyed in the morning and by evening wasn't mad at you again,she is confused.
U go bleep her finish now,her conscience no go allow her rest and instead of dealing with it on her own she will come on social media and start the "u took advantage of me" story. Next thing na Rape and Beg we go dey hear.


Again I repeat, don't fall for it o
If u must ,don't bleep her in her house or yours.
Get a room in one hotel, make she come tell us how u raped her in hotel after she walked in there herself. Also keep the chat as evidence o.Be Smart

But bro....must u do it,if u dont u know u won't die ryt?
Don't bleep her. You talked about church now and u feeling dirty after d sex chat, d guilt dat will kill u after u bleep her will be more than what u felt after d sex chat. Pls don't fall for this destiny sucking idiot

Iamfrank:
One funny tin u dnt know about women is dat dey love dominant men, men wu r always in charge... Wen I started dating my gf, I always hv a say abt everything in d relationship, I got tired at sum point thinking am just controlling her anyhow until sh said sh likes me like dat n a woman should b under her man.... Bro dnt form sisi for a gal, dey hate it alot.. I hv sum female frnds wu says dey can't date a guy wu dnt beat dem(not saying u shud beat her).. Try exhibit dat manly trait n c how sh will love u endlessly...

She is madt....a guy that will beat her.
Lailai,not now dat domestic violence has been killing more people than expected. Well I understand what I r saying tho, a certain friend( well she is cos I plan to keep her like that and nothing more.... so unreasonable )always says shit and I don't take it .....I ignore her for days until she comes back to her senses but one surprising thing is she keeps coming back and I don't even apologize for anything said cos I don't tolerate nonsense. The sad thing is she doesn't give any chance to those that r ready to take her shit and won't complain. So I can relate to this sha