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NaOto:
And u failed to add hunger on that your list of causes of death in Nigeria. bros Pls do

I take no credit for that list because I didn't compile it.

RIP

Thank God for the power of choice.

All I know is that I will never soil my hands.The tablet of my heart are full of effective strategies, mother use to say "time will tell"

Shedrack777:
woman, go and talk to your husband instead of rantin here. if you're suspectin your husband of cheating, why won't you trace and find out instead of complainin to us here in disguise

Who is complaining? What you have there is an advice take it or leave it and what is wrong is wrong no matter what anyone says and I will never stop writing because people learn from stories, So get use to it, at the end of the day posterity will clearly identify those that supports arbitrary decisions.

My advice to the ladies focus on yourself, you owe no one anything not even a space in your head, don't mind the advice from Shedrack777.

MrLankeeee:
Do you know if the husband and the house help are having something?

It's possible.

The wife of the house is in charge of the househelp and give her off day that she deserves after concluding on the specific day of the month that will be a win win for the two, I have not seen it done anywhere that the husband will give the househelp money for housekeeping when the wife is around(that's financial abuse).

Posterity will clearly identify those that promote arbitrary decisions.

History is replete with the ruins of society built on greed and the citizens imperiled.

On the journey of self discovery some years back the Fellowship I was attending never added any value to my life all they did was trying to add to my problems, even if you have to pay a licenced life coach $1,000 to help you out then do it. Tell some people your challenges at your own peril.

May his soul RIP.

I love this strategy

You are a Lout

Explaining takes your power and gives it to the other person. The best decisions come when we listen to how we feel and our gut instinct. But those sources aren’t usually well received in an explanation, so we make up an explanation the other person can relate to.

It’s hard to overcome the tendency to explain, but it can be done with focus and intention. Awareness is the key. To help you become more aware, here are 20 things you don’t owe anyone an explanation for.


1.You don’t owe anyone a justification for your values and your priorities.

2.You don’t owe anyone a yes when you want to say no.

3.You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationships, whether lovers or friends.

4.You don’t owe anyone assistance with their happiness journey at the cost of your own.

5.You don’t owe anyone a debate around your political views especially when the other person’s mind is made up.

6.You don’t owe anyone an apology when you are not sorry, and you would make the same decision again.

7.You don’t owe anyone a rationalization about why investing in yourself is important

8.You don’t owe anyone the meaning of what you believe in.

9.You don’t owe anyone a change in your appearance just to please them.

10.You don’t owe anyone friendship, especially when they do not share your values.

11.You don’t owe anyone a negative mindset so that you can commiserate with them.

12.You don’t owe anyone access to information about your life that makes you uncomfortable.

13.You don’t owe anyone gossip material about other people just to fit in.

14.You don’t owe anyone your time for their projects or for things that matter to them unless they matter to you too.

15.You don’t owe anyone the commitment to try something “new” just because you were asked.

16.You don’t owe anyone a safe place for constant complaining and dwelling in their poor choices.

17.You don’t owe anyone an answer other than the truth to prevent them from being uncomfortable.

18.You don’t owe anyone your services as a crisis counselor unless you are actually a crisis counselor.

19.You don’t owe anyone false compliments just to make them feel better.

20.You don’t owe anyone anything that doesn’t make you feel good and goes against your gut instinct.


Culled from
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/20-things-you-dont-owe-anyone/amp

Affiliate marketing is cool but the fact is that you will make more money selling your own product.

Nollyzonenews:
Nigeria Football, John Obi Mikel as been called out by his cousin for not helping his family.

The former Chelsea football cousin with name obuaniskela took to his instagram page this morning to call out the footballer for not helping his family.

See posts....





http://www.ngg.ng/2018/04/24/mikel-obi-called-out-by-his-cousin-for-not-helping-his-family/

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Horlartunes:
Damn why did my papa gave birth to me for Naija nah ehn

Proverbs 20:13
Do not love sleep, lest you come to poverty. Open your eyes, and you shall be satisfied with bread.

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My Dear ladies.
Never enter into a relationship with someone who has an intention to maltreat you such as this and if you are currently in one start looking for an exit strategy and allow him to take his intention to go meet his Waterloo.

kense88:
It will be justified and I will accept it whole heartedly if I fail to carter for them without any health issue holding me back. Unlike fools like you trying to reap were they did not sow.

And so shall it be unto you fool, your children will inherit your verbal abuse believe and deal with you when you are weak

Thank God am reaping the fruit of my hard Labour and sleepless nights.

Why are you not promoting your believe on Twitter fool?

Why did you refuse to reveal your identity on nairaland?are you ashamed of yourself/afraid old fool?

You a faceless useless idiot, it's people like you that influence others into abandoning their children(they be like please train my child when they are grown I will come and take them) and parent for an innocent soul.


@Op carry your cross.

kense88:
Idiots like you will expect there 8 year old son to start giving them money. That is the height of your delusion. Ode

Clearly it's not the holy spirit that is influencing your thoughts, I repeat I will never support verbal abuse of parents, if you are a human being and you are proud of yourself and your purpose in life which is verbal abuse of parents then go to Twitter now or reveal your identity on this forum or else you are nothing but a fool who hate/is ashamed of him/herself and have no love, what a pity because your children will do same to you( you shall reap the verbal abuse that you have sowed, ode)

Oritzy:
my brother as much as I want to believe you ery reasonable post, I will also like to stand my grounds my guy for our parents no matter what situation they are into, they are own we shouldn't wash their dirty linens outside on the presence of getting help. And as for working hard for my kids, I sure do cos my own parents did too, but I refuse to be ungrateful.

Good point.

kense88:
That's exactly what we are talking about. A product of useless and irresponsible parents. You all deserve one another. Okpo

Stop hidding on a faceless forum, you are a fool conceived in hate if you don't go to Twitter and support verbal abuse of parent, So now go to Twitter

Your parent and loved ones must be ashamed of a top verbal abuser of parents in the world.

kense88:
We are talking about the fact that the woman failed to contribute anything for the children upkeep which is part of her responsibility and your here talking like an idiot you are. She can press charges against the husband and demand that they go there separate ways but that doesn't absolve her of her part of responsibility as a co parent. You don't have strength to work, but you have strength to have unprotected sex.
Now before you start writing nonsense like a dickhead you are. Read through op's post again and you will see were he stated that the father was doing it alone.

You are an idiot/dickhead for supporting verbal abuse of parent, I expect nothing from a person like you who was conceived in hate.

MhisTahrah:
And the emboldened is a good thing?Smh.

Do you have power over how a person or country choose to spend their money?

kense88:
A big lie. Is actually the other way round. It is a very big sin for you to bear a child your not prepared to take care of, in the eyes of god and man.
In most western society, you are suppose to save some money when your younger. You don't hope on your children when you get old. Nevertheless, is good to love and assist your parents, if they did you well. In a sane society, the woman should be doing her time in the jail. At your 30s, you should be working your ass of.

Stop lying IDIOT conceived in hate, in an advance country the woman will send the man out of the house for marrying another wife and request for alimony

Swear to God that the holy spirit was the one who told you that it's a big lie and if you lie against the holy spirit the sin will not be forgiven

Haven't you seen grown ass men/women above 30/ 35 years in Nigeria who inherited their late brother's property or are depending on their rich brother/son? stop deceiving yourself or are you the type of person that believe in the culture of maltreating kids after the father's demise meanwhile some of them depended on the brother for everything even to get something doing with their lives, stop lying we know what is happening in Nigeria. Can you swear that this doesn't happen in Nigeria. Stop lying it's not good for your soul

I know a man that started feeding himself from primary school and currently he gives his mom who has not been working for more than 30 years monthly upkeep , most of his siblings who are more than 30 years old cannot feed themselves without him.

Never forget that every child has a responsibility towards his/her parent.

So what do you have to say @op?

Love suppose to be unconditional but if any Man comes with his conditions you must give him yours.

Most people I know that give their partners conditions end up losing at the end and to the extent that their Mum, siblings abandoned them for the partner they were giving conditions


Let the holy spirit be your guide

Why do you think it's going to be easy for couples to do what your Mum, siblings and relatives are not practicing because from your write up you said MRS MARTHA DE PURENEZ made those statement not your Mum/Sisters/Relatives. Charity begins at home( practice what you preach).

You cannot come from nowhere and say do this and that, the question is what did the holy spirit tells you?

My Mother once told me that a closed mouth is a closed destiny.

My advice to couples is that they should consult a licensed professional if they have marital challenges.

When I was a little darling my father use to tell me never accept free gift at all times else they hold you to ransom, for example you might accept let's say a favour worth 50 naira and at the end of the day they demand for a return worth 800,000 naira, so the question is who is using who here?

Teniola2000:
www.nairaland.com/attachments/6943356_img20180408000630112_jpeg04db1cff31fdbd837520d886d1986fd6

A Nigerian Facebook user, Ben Smart is currently struggling for breathing space on his Facebook wall as hundreds of Nigerian men and funny enough, women are attacking him for choosing to keep his Virginity till Marriage and aswell be a loyal and submissive husband.

Some Nigerian men tagged him gay,glorified slave, while ladies accused him of been a potential woman wrapper, Bensmart who only wanted to be different from other Nigerian Men, made a shocking composition of himself, read below;



Bensmart days ago, shared a photo of a girl kneeling down to propose to him, he said he would be very glad if his future wife proposed to him, one could assume he has lost his senses or has he really lost it, what's ur take?

www.nairaland.com/attachments/6943356_img20180408000630112_jpeg04db1cff31fdbd837520d886d1986fd6


NEWS BY JOELSBLOG
https://joelsblog.com.ng/i-will-be-submissive-to-my-wife-nigerian-facebook-user-ben-smart-says-nigerians-attack-him-calling-him-a-woman-wrapper/


Ohh chim! Imagine marrying a man without sex experience, we are going to be reciting Bible verses on the bed... Virgin ko virgin ni

God bless your parent and may God give you a virgin since you said you are one.

Evince:
Tell me how the spirit looks like and the voice print. Gender also. Spiritual bigot

Why are you pained?

My advice to parents is that they should spend quality time with their children arming them with knowledge because that is one of the defence against predators.