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merits:
This life no balance some people were born with golden spoon, silver spoon,brownze spoon, wooden spoon,iron spoon and meanwhile some people were born with no spoon at all.If I may ask which category are you?

Me I belong to category of no spoon.

Na turning garri dem take born me 😂

Is her name Stellamaris? You just described an ex
She was pure evil

KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.

You married a female narcissist bro
Run for ur life

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

It is ur insecurities that will end ur marriage...

Zonefree:
Your hubby is blessed to have a great woman like you. Happy birthday to him and more life.

Bcus of food? Lol

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Prison break

Greed and lack of proper knowledge about certian sports/teams...

Abba114:
there is money in bet but the prblm is that it makes one greedy nd the greediness lead to destruction.

Some of us bet round the clock(24hours)...after late kickoffs, we proceed to midnight Basketball as well as other sports in America...too broke to be sleeping

SultanOfPuna:
GUIDELINE FOR SATURDAY BETTING

If home team is 1st on table and away is 2nd,3rd or 4th in table.
Home will 70% lose.

If a big team is playing away. Avoid them

Try as much as possible to avoid night games in your Saturday ticket. Thats when it cuts a lot

Divide your games.
Ticket 1 = games that start from 8am to 12pm
TIcket 2 = games from 1pm to 4pm
Ticket 3 = games from 5pm to 7pm
Thats it
Do Inplay for Games that start from 8:30 or 9pm. Cuz those games tend to break hearts.
Many ppl last games start from 8:30 to 9pm
for some reason, those games always end in cuts and Dissapiontment.
Look at Genoa vs Inter milan today 0-0
Night game, many ppls last game. Now u see

Do this and you have 90% chance to survive saturday MADNESS

3 odds NBA and NCAA

2 bedroom apartment in the areas listed here? omo U better budget 1.5m - 2m

chymdyx:
Close to town..like area 1-10, wuse zone 1-7, mabushi, you know,anywhere within town

Hello House
I just finished going thru babypips.com, Pls I would need suggestions from experienced traders on the broker I should register with. I intend to demo trade for a period of 2 weeks and then invest something "little" to get a good feel of everything.
I already installed hotforex app on my phone and register but wasn't given an ID and any form of password and I also can't find anywhere on the app where I can demo trade
Please I really need guidance on this
PS: I can only demo trade with my phone for the next 2 weeks because I am not allowed to opened such pages while at work

Goldenrod1:
Na only 3 of them remain for this country


Hold her firm

Dem plenty....the problem be say, most of the good ones nor get the kind body/shape make u dey find

numberonecytyzen:
Matured options.

What do u mean by matured options sir? Does it mean they have better options other than the usual win and over 1.5 and the likes being offered by our local bookies?

Quick response
Why do u guys prefer to use a foreign bookie?
No offense, just curious

youdontknowme:
Open a NETELLER or Skrill act. Fund and withdraw from there.
They have too many polices regarding MasterCard funding

Suleimansumaila:
Thanks so much for that great write up.
What about job/contract opportunity in the construction industry especially as a civil engineering graduate whose ambition is to start a contracting/construction firm.
Thanks as you reply

Truth be told, Abuja is the right place for contracting/construction firms...all you need is the right connect and contracts would be flying in...but lately, things are kinda slow sha due to the "Buhari factor"...but at the end of the day, it is still all about the grace of God bruv

DeraG:
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DigitalPastor:
Abuja drivers have an active telegram group that incorporates everyone. That's why you don't see them here.

How do I join the telegram group sir?

In my humble opinion, there are no rights or wrongs in the issues of life and career...What U have seen in life would always affect the way u view things, reason for diverse opinions here...Make una die this life and career matter abeg cus no one single human being fully understands life...

75k for how much share capital?

micgray100:
When someone becomes addicted to betting, that is when I sense danger... Life itself is a bet. You went to school because you want to become something big in future... Your parents paid your tuition fees and feed and cloth you from baby to teenage years because they want your to become someone great in life and take care of them when they grow old...

Any how you think it. You always sow so you can reap.. But the reaping in betting is not always guaranteed...









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ajoks533:
Thank you, so I will have to tell the rider that we will have to do it as offline... Or how please Sir

Baba na wa for U ooo..U just need person to explain everything to U...use discretion na...

lastcard120:
Sent u a pm

Can u please send to austyne22ex@gmail.com
God bless U richly

I can bet my left balls that Tacha didn't write those things up there...that babe don exchange her brain for low budget bleaching cream

Rubbiish:
This is Funny
These areas u mentioned are even more expensive than gwarinpa. Excluding maybe only katampe extension

He obviously does not know Abuja very well...

My First salary was 8K, Fresh out of secondary school, I was working as a cyber cafe assistant (sales of browsing time, checking of results and the likes) back in the days...I used the money to buy a symbian phone, sent my crush #100 MTN so we can always talk at night using MTN free Night calls and gave the rest to my mom to keep for me as well as salaries from subsequent months which "probably" summed up to part of the money she gave when I later gained admission to the university...


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By the time the military strength of the Benin Empire reached Lagos in the 16th century, the Aworis were the only inhabitants. My ancestors sought to build a naval army base in Lagos to control the Atlantic coast upon observing the naval army in Portugal, during which there was a Bini Ambassador in Portugal and the Portuguese also had theirs in Benin Empire. The Benin Empire army marched into Lagos, occupied it and advanced towards the coast, which may be the reason the Atlantic coast is called Bight of Benin.

The then Oba of Benin Empire, Orhogbua (1551 – 1578) whose portrait is still displayed at Horniman museum, London named Lagos “Eko” (war camp). Oba Orhogbua was the grandson of the warrior Queen mother Idia ni Iye Esigie, whose face is the mask of FESTAC’77. He graduated from one of the military colleges in Portugal, and he spoke fluently in Portuguese. Oba Orhogbua's son was the first Eleko (Oba) of Lagos. The first contact of the Benin Empire with the British Empire (which later destroyed the Benin Empire with its military might in 1897) was in 1553. They traded in cottons, ivories and Palm oil. Hundreds of years later, Republic of Dahomey in 1975 changed its name to the People's Republic of Benin, an inspiration they got from Bight of Benin.

Go to UTC @Area 10, that is the printing hub here in Abuja, You should be able to get something...All the best

Henri05:
Hello,

I just rounded off NYSC and I'm currently on the look out for opportunities.
I studied Printing Technology. I have had some experience working in a Press during my Industrial Training.
I'm looking forward to acquire more experience from a reputable printing press.
I'm very new in Abuja. Please can anyone point me to directions where I can look at?
Thank you.