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mkoabiola: Thnks for ur response.
Av u been using d cream,hw effective is it.
Can u describe d colour of d plastic content?cos hw do I knw d 1 meeant for a dark skin shud incase I met a novice in s supermarket?
God blesss ur ministry

It is responses like this that makes nairaland users not to comment on post or even reply a post. If u no get money or u're not interested , simply say so. U want me to do all the work for you abi? Guy, enter market please.

mkoabiola: Can a dark skin guy use ds cream witout mixing?
Is ds spelling correct

Yes , you can. They have two types, just ask for the one for a dark skinned person. Always send the code to verify if u bought original product. The cost Is btw N1,600-2,000. The spelling is correct too.

kennyung: I am not my hair

is it true that you are not your hair

Yes na, have you not listened to india arie's song where she sang 'I am not my hair'? That's the message I'm trying to potray. We don't judge people based on hair types neither do we judge based on physical attributes but on the inner person.

kennyung: at least you have a profile pic to verify this

Lol, u no kill me with laughter

I use Otentika, I mix in glycerin and funbact A into it. I prefer this cream cos I can verify through the code if it's authentic or not. It also has expiry date and NAFDAC number, things u hardly see in other skin care products.

I am working to be an advantage to my future partner. It's not easy, I keep learning and adjusting everyday. With determination and God on my side, I want to be the woman of proverbs 31

I am looking for a dear friend. Her name is doris chinaemenma anyanwu. She attended MOUAU from imo state, mbaise to be precise. Last time I heard from her was 2012 . I lost her contact and she's nowhere to be found on FB. She also hates giving out her pix or taking pix in group so I don't have any of her pix. Please if any one can link me to her or better still, direct her to this post , I will appreciate that a lot.

I had hoped to settle down at 26 years,everything was on course until he decided that we move it to the end of this year which I agreed to. Mid year, stories started. Whether na jazz person give am, or he did it on purpose, I can't tell but I kip praying to God to touch his mind and give him d courage to do the right and loving thing .

Unibenstudent: What's his moniker

Check through the thread 'at what age do u want to det married' his comment is on the 2nd page. His moniker starts with 's' and ends with n , an 11 letter word. I pray that God touches his heart for good cos I love him so much.

Bootybuttchic: hmmmn.....am surevit aint seun

Nope, it ain't seun. It's an 11 word moniker

Unibenstudent: What's his moniker

If I tell you, he will get angrier. It starts with 's' and ends with 'n'

Onlinebiz2012:

He's a nairalander and might even be on nairaland as we speak. I pray that he has a change of heart soonest.

What about this latest one? I was at my lowest ebb emotionally. Can someone explain it if it happens over a period of 8 months?

I hope he gets to read this

There are serious flaws such as lying or having double standards, that we need to change for us to be better . However, if you discover that a friend has a different personality say being quiet in the midst of others, as long as you can put up with it, then love them as they are. It would be wrong to change them to loquacious beings just because u love being social. But annoyingly, some will pretend that they like u for ur character and later use it against u.

I do agreee with some of the points the OP raised but some of them sha are somehow
no weapon fashioned by ranting men on Nairaland against the OP shall prosper.

hispinkolo: No one size fits all my dear,but generally I'd say it's better to love from a distance.At least until you study them and see what their attitude is towards you.No need doing unnecessary things cos the day you don't do,it will be held against you.
Everything should be in moderation.Polite,kind,considerate and respectful should be your watchword and even while you do all these,there will definitely be someone who may not be satisfied.
Just do your best and face front. Hopefully,you get into a family of people who genuinely love you and accept you.

My sister, e-hugs for this ur timely advice. I wish I had an elder sis like you but I'm d firstborn so I'm navigating these type of situation alone.

hispinkolo: My dear , when it comes to In law matter you have to do things in such a way that if you enter a court of law,you will be absolved of all blame.
Over salting food constantly will look suspicious..I'd rather poke holes in mosquito nets in her room so that the quitoes go chop am day in day out.How will I ever be caught?Am I a mosquito? ..This is just an illustration oo..You just have to learn to pass your message indirectly.

What I learnt is that I have to be verry subtle if I feel the need to attack/defend myself or simply turn the heat on hubby..

I have come to realise that this whole treat them like your brother,treat them like your sister no dey work especially when the people involved act like stubborn grasshoppers.I have resolved to give that privilege only to people who deserve it.As I said before,I am not Jesus.

Best is to be polite,respectful and courteous..from afar till you know if they really look at you as a real part of them..When people accept you as you are,you know it.Its in the way they address you,the way they listen to you,the way they act towards you.


@elektra
Pray for lovely inlaws,they exist.

Is it advisable to love dem from a distance evn before u marry into their family? Cos I tried it o and they are complaining that I'm too quiet and I don't socialise. Fyi, I stay in lag and they stay in d east. We only see in dec during d hols.

bodashee: That is where the problem is? I guess that is why life is life sha. Sometimes you come accross a sweet man with troublesome family members.....then u leave because of prospective inlaw wahala and probably meet an annoying asshole with a nice family that will always be there to cushion the effects of their sons's misbehaviours.....makes it diff to choose.

That is exactly my experience and utmost fear. Family of ur hubby to be are much more powerful than that of the lady. Imagine them putting so much pressure and unnecessary fear in the young man going as far as wishing death upon themselves just because they don't like their son's choice. I pray that God gives us women d strength to fight this battle and come out victorious cos even before marriage, the battle with in laws have started for some.

I only got to learn of the tradition of a certain village in abia state, the men from that village only marry women from their village but their women can marry from any state but preferably d next village. The village starts with 'I'. Ladies should find out about dis beforehand cos in my own case, u'll regret it when it's too late.


Another tradition is paying bride price to the father of the girl whether he was responsible for her upkeep or not. If a woman struggles to take care of her children singlehandedly, the bride price should be hers or bettter still, pay it to the law court.

Very insightful pointers. Thanks op. I will save this article and constantly refer to it.

andromida: Don't enslave yourself to this family in the name of marriage. Do yourself a favour and fly away.

My dear, my mum said the same thing after she heard her sister speak( the phone was on speaker). I pray for courage and strength to take that step and never look back. I know with God on my said, all will be stories later on.

mencade5: madam, God will not hear you....may you receive more torment like never before.

Thanks all d same

Please send to adhasarrived@yahoo.com. Thanks

[quote author=mencade5]hahahahaha.....i like this.

Seeing them biiitches wailing and crying of heartbreak. I wish they could use their brain and check that guy they placed on that zone.


Hahahahaha




If I have friend zoned anybody knowingly, then I accept it but if not and all u have to say is the above, May God do to u as you have spoken and add more thereto

kellystech: sister u just have to endure the pain,i understand what ur going through now,its not easy to date for that period of time and one day u wake up to find out everything is over when the problem did not come from you. You really need to ask him to tell u the truth y his mother hates u dat much and u hav to speak to the mom to know where the problem is comin from.

I just spoke with his elder sister yesterday and she said that his mum says I'm too quiet for her liking. I am naturally a shy person but I love reading a lot cos of my background, dad being a principal and mum being a teacher. Is that enough reason to hate me? I have asked them if there's any other reason but that's all they are saying. She requested that I come home to their village this dec so that all will be discussed at the family meeting. I will kip u informed as my story unfolds

I am undergoing one presently, he said his mother said that it will be over his dead body for him to marry me so for that he has decided not to go ahead with me anymore. He refused to tell me what I did wrong to her so I can apologise. He said that his mum gave the reason that she doen't know me too well. I have volunteered to go and stay with her in d village so she can know me better(fyi, I have gone to the village wit my boo r times in a row and each visit lasted up to 2 weeks in a row) We've bin dating for 6 years now and we were supposed to tie the knot by dec 2014. At first, I caught him cheating on me with another girl from his village. He apologised and I forgave him. I've never cheated on him, I've always given him my heart , body and soul. At night, it feels like my heart wants to stop, I've thoughts of suicide . I want to stop the pain but it won't go away cos I love him so much. He's my first , only and one true love. He's also a nairalander like me. What did I do wrong? All my life, all the men in my life have let me down . My father left my mum and us when I was 8 years. The next man to come into my life is my fiancee. Father help me cos I'm losing my mind.

Forgive me nairalnders for the long epistle, I just had to pour out my heart.

Honey, put on the gen. U must teach me how to play video game today. I want to be ur game mate for life

DanjaNinja: Just finisihed writing, however i think my test questions had errors. I couldn't access the site normally so i tried to open a google cache of the website and it worked. One problem with this method: there was no chart for questions 10-19 - the questions on programming,database and web developement packages. Please, if you have written the test, i would like to know if is this was a general problem or was it cos i used the google cache version of the test site?

My daer, I was just picking any answer cos at first , I thought the questions were not complete on my screen. Please what how did u answe them?

MzMariah: No mind them, when them begin see money now them go forget their root.

Na so, they change faster than chameleon

Please send to adhasarrived@yahoo.com. I need it too. Thanks

The waiting na wah. Any news or is this another ruse to divert funds for election cos I'm losing faith in themm