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Yo Bimbo, what's your problem? This matter was over and you decided to rehash it. Why? To what end? Is this a case of 'i discovered this thread late but I must be noticed' Jennylov has wisely agreed to refund and you are trying to discourage her. What's your problem? I refuse to believe you are Jennylov. If you wish to buy the bale, that will be highly welcome. It's 115,000 naira. Please buy the op and collect from Jennylov.

Thank you

What concerns tribe in this matter? Jennylov was criticized by all, even Igbo people. Na wa o. So you think if she was Yoruba, she would get a free pass
Everything is not about the irritating ongoing Yoruba/igbo war on Nairaland. The thread for that exists everywhere. Go there and vent.

If the op is truly willing to wait till end of the month, it's ok. But it will be better if Jennylov is willing to sign an undertaking to that effect. If that is done, it is legal. It is binding and the thread can come to an end. Jennylov, will you be willing to sign an undertaking to the op that on or before the 30th of September, all monies owed to her would be fully refunded?

Jennylov:
I have done business worth millions of naira frm
Aanu etc. I have not scam dem talkof scamming
peach.God of fatherless is not asleep.I know I'm
wrong I did not communicate with her.I'm sorry
about that. but I have reason for it.the reason
was that I told her when she will receive d bale.
but it did not come d way it planned. becos it
was handle by another crosser not my maim
crosser.custom seized all my customers bale
purchase on Dec.I have to look for a way to settle
dem.which I'm still doing up til now.we are
human got Christ sake.if I'm scam I could have
activated my account d first day I collect money
from her.but I still makes sales from here.plss I
beg all in d name of God we serve. I'm not a
scammer plss I will never be.you guys can crucify
me in everything but the truth I will always stand
that I'm not guilty of d allegation levied against
me.I did not intend to scam her or anybody. after
all this pple choose not to buy from me.I'm not
bothered because God has all power to do and
undo.peach I'm sorry for everything I put u tru. is
because of d pressure I had with customers. also
for baby items u said I delivered late.rember I told
u that I'm not always in Benin that everything I
bought I kept dem in Benin.so plss I beg u in
Gods name u serve pls let this issue of pple
callng me names let it end here. September
ending I will settle and go on with my life and
business. I have learnt my lesson in online
business. now I choose to focus on my business
more than before. No distraction on whatsoever.
this all I have to say.if NLanders like let dem
believe me or not. I have poured out my Anger.
sorry for those I curse and said all my manner of
things I do all that cos I was angers seeing my
name dragging to d mud. over money issue.Good
name is better than Riches of this world.thank u
all.

Oh Jenny dear, if you had posted this at the beginning of this thread, a lot of drama would have been avoided. I am happy you are contrite and have apologized to Peach. So people abeg pity the girl small. She is human and is now taking the right step. The ball is now in her court....

Hello Jennylov. hi. how far. I don't know you so I will not start calling you names. but Come on! u sef think am from another person's view. she gave you money for something, custom seize am (not really her business. it is your duty to make sure your papers are good, but it happens). You say you lost her number (In the era of social media, she can't be that hard to find, but let's wave that, it happens). BUT blocking her on Facebook is a deliberate act and it is a provocative one. How can you not see this? How can you not see how wrong you are? You broke this deal when you failed to deliver. you cannot hold her ransom by saying the bale must be sold first. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

Now you should do some damage control. I am sure you have been a good business woman in the past. Do not let 115k ruin your good name. If you can afford it, like you say, return the money. It will not remove anything from you. I am sure you can resell the bale (clothes no dey spoil). You cannot win in an exchange of insults here. All it is doing is turning everyone, even the neutral ones against you. This would have turned out so much differently but for your initial posts. if you remember, Nairalanders first asked that you defend yourself. They didn't start attacking you until your somewhat tactless responses to the OP. Let it end now. Enough of the whole God will judge......That is not helping.

A great thread being ruined by people who won't read but feel the need to comment...not nice

@Op, it's horrible that in 2015, we still experience such. Can't the banks hire their own security.....heavily armed professionals

And no one thought to take a photo? Yea right

Finally!!!!!

What a vicious article. Shame on you @op.

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I have been taunted with my weight all my life. It took me many years to find my voice and confidence. I did all the fad diets to no effect. My mama said i will always be fat. I should learn to love it. How can anyone love being overweight all their life?
After my baby and crazy weight gain (115kg), i got off my ass and changed my habits. Home workout and a reasonable doable diet, i got down to 85.....
I will always struggle with my weight, but i will never give up and let myself go......

flyca:
Will I still see all the wonderful people I have on this thread there

Ofcourse u will. Just tag them in d new post. Then u may make front page and people will stop asking what happened

@op, i think u shd re create the thread.......

ademega:
Well , this is a Tru life story . they Dont stay in the same state with their parents . yea , the wife claimed it was bruise he sustained during a big fight , but failed to explain how come the dip bite and belt marks. And she doesn't have any to point to . yea, for two years , It was a gradual levels of abuse . from bad to worse . the husband thought he would change but she was getting worse till that day .
Funny enough , do you that was the last time any abuse occoured in that house ?

Well op, i know he is your family and u are likely to believe him over her. But in your start up , you said she was a good person too but then became a tiger. Keep an open mind dat your brother may have a different persona in the house. Many cases of domestic violence....people never believe ....ha that gentle man...that friendly man.....
This cannot be over 2 slaps. The wife used d words ' has been beating her" not " he beat her"
If this is true though, no one has monopoly of violence. If a woman slaps a man, he should slap her back on the spot

So for two years,none of his family members noticed all the bruises on his body from the heels or did they think he was a secret boxer at night? This story does not ring true at all. History has shown dat the quiet easy going ones are usually the worst sociopaths and serial killers. Seriously, u think the mum and sis will call and threaten over 2 slaps no matter how hot it is. It is obvious there was a big fight and the lady fought back hence his bruises. The guy lied to you all.
In the words of the great Judge Judy "if it doesnt make sense, then it is not true.

Thats victoria.... a wrestler who worked in WWE and TNA. Thats a terrible photoshopped ass
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This ruling is so wrong

your writing is very hmmmmm for a first class product in pharmacy
Bros, you are a man. Hustle. You dont have to have all new set of clothes as the session begin. start with some and buy more from your labour. squat with someone in school or live off campus until you settle yourself. Good luck.

i really like it in an artistic way plus she wore ankara

SwaGUnLimiTeD:
is dat pregnacare wat dey call abortion pill

yes. let her take it regularly. it works like magic

N A I R A L A N D! Full of N I G E R I A N S......not Ghanaian. Wrong forum sweetie. You don miss road.

True story... a bit long. It was more of a question and answer segment but easy to understand.. i believe

Elder Sister Bumni- I hate my sister, she ruined my life
My name is Bunmi and I have not spoken to my sister in five years. It is a long story, but I will try to explain it as best as I can. I have an immediate younger sister, we will call her Dupe. I am two years older than her. Six years ago, I met a man who wanted to marry me. My sister hated him for no good reason and went around badmouthing him to all our family and friends. We have a very physical altercation and she was hospitalized. I eventually got married to him, even though my parents were against it. My sister didn’t help me with planning or anything. She just sat there at the reception like a complete stranger. When our first child was born, she didn’t come visit, only sent a gift. I am her older sister. I am not supposed to go and beg her. She has not stepped in my home since we got married. I never thought we would ever have this kind of issue considering how close we all were. Infact, her bad karma jinxed my life and jinxed my marriage, because now I am separated from my husband and he is the process of filing the divorce. I blame her because all the negativity and all the bad blood that my family had towards him is because of her. The evil girl called me for the first time in years after my separation. She said she called to console me but I know she called to gloat. I won’t lie. I said some very mean things to her. Very mean. Now last week, I got an invitation from her for her wedding. She sent a letter with it asking me to be her chief bridesmaid. Can you imagine? after all she has done, she wants to rub it in that she is now getting married and i am now a divorcee. See why I hate her? Everyone is telling me to chill, to go for the wedding, to be the bigger person. no one sees my side. No ones sees my pain. My parents threatened to write me off if I don’t go for the wedding. It’s so unfair that i am now the villain and she is the angel. She broke my marriage and now she has stolen my family’s affections.

more explanation from Bumni
The reason why my sister hated my soon to be ex husband was that she said she had observed his behaviour with elderly people and with people of lower class. She concluded that he was arrogant, rude and obnoxious. That he would be a big mistake. she doesn’t have to like the man I am with but she does not have to go telling family that he did this to this person, he did that to that person. She made them hate him………….Yeah, she went to the hospital but it was not that serious, mostly hair pulling and I had kicked her mouth with my knee when we were pulling each other hair. She lost a tooth and went to the hospital. It is not as if I beat her blue-black over a man………… My sister and I were very close. No, I never saw her as a vindictive person and no , I don’t think I am misconstruing her intentions. She has always been an “I told you so’ kind of person. And I am sure she is very happy that she was right……..She is responsible for the break of my marriage because she brought in negative energy from the beginning. She caused friction all around with her big mouth and selfishness. She was jealous that I had found someone to marry because she had always considered herself the finer sister and she did her best to bring me down. Let her put herself in my shoes. shey she is getting married now. What if I decide to go telling family and friends that her husband is wrong for her. Won’t that bad air, that negativity ruin any chance that a marriage has to survive? I am not saying we were perfect. but we would have been able to work through our problems. I would have made some better decisions if i was able to go to my mother for solutions, but I couldn’t because they already hated him and they were all looking for a reason to bash him. Now, after I got separated, she called. She knows why she called and it was not to console. I am not mistaking her intentions. And to ask me to be her chief bridesmaid……are you kidding me? How dare she? I know I come across bitter, but I AM bitter. I hate my sister. She ruined my life.

Dupe- I dont think settling is in our nearest future
My sister and I were quite close growing up. We had a good relationship. I was always stealing her clothes. We fought. We played. normal normal. My sister put on a lot of weight at a time. I didn’t. I think that is when we began to have a little bit of serious friction beyond normal sister fighting because she started saying some mean things. But it was nothing serious. Then this guy came along. Let’s call him Desmond. Desmond was a very ok guy. Good job, good house. I was happy for my sister that she has found someone to marry. We used to hang out together, the two of them and me and my now fiance. I began to notice something off about him. He had the nastiest mouth ever. He was always rude to the three of us, including her and said nasty things to complete strangers. More than 3 occasions, Desmond had gotten into fights when we were there and Goodness knows how many when we were not there. He was borderline rude to my folks and my sister knew all this, but for some reason, she seemed ok with it. I was not. I had a very bad vibe and I knew if he could do this to strangers, imagine what he would do to her if they marry. I talked to her. She said he was good to her and that’s all that matters. Yes, I did discuss the matter with two female cousins who we were also very close with and were older than her because obviously she was not listening to me. I did not go about badmouthing him, but I guess the gist spread. Yes it was partially my fault, I will agree but my intentions were good.

My sister and I got into a fight. It’s been 5 years. I cannot recall what led up to it, but all I know she slapped me first and I retaliated in anger. She knocked out my tooth, didn’t come see me in the hospital and asked me not to interfere in her life. So I didn’t. She did not involve me in any of the wedding plans. I didn’t go to her wedding and sit like a stranger. I was busy running errands for my mom all day long, serving guests and making sure the wedding did not fall apart. I didn’t go and dance with her. That would be hypocritical of me and knowing my sister, if I had gone to dance, she would have embarrassed me. I was very excited when she gave birth. I thought that things would be better by now. So I asked my mum to stylishly find out if it would be ok if I came to the hospital. Her response to my mum “What is she coming to look for?’. So, I didn’t go. I sent over a very expensive gift for the baby. There was no acknowledgement and no response. I figured that obviously she was not interested in settling with me and I let her be.

When I heard she got separated, I was very sad. Yes, I didn’t approve of the marriage but I never wanted them to break up. I called a month after I first heard the news. It took all the courage in the world and she gave me the insults of my life. I remembered saying that ‘Wow, Desmond’s bad mouth had rubbed off on you sha’. She continued with the expletives and I hung up. Maybe I should not have said that but being insulted was very annoying. A year later, I was getting married and my mother said that this rubbish with my sister had gone on long enough and I needed to fix things if she won’t. So I sent her a letter. I was not going to call again. I apologised and begged her in the letter. I asked her if she would do me the honour of being my chief bridesmaid because I wanted her to have a major role in the wedding. I thought that was the highest title I could give her. She didn’t respond but I heard gist from family members that I insulted her. I have been told my approach was wrong, but I didn’t think so. It was not as if she had gotten separated yesterday. I couldn’t have asked her to be mother of the day, so what other major role would I have asked her to play?

When I read your blog and realised that she thinks I ruined her life, i was shocked. How? How do I ruin her life? Which kind of negative energy? Is she calling me a witch? She painted me as one vindictive malicious devil and I have to say I am very disappointed that she thinks like this. Why is Desmond not being blamed and I am? I love and miss my sister, but that person that wrote that on your blog is not this sister I knew. That person can kill me. I sincerely believe so. I have a wedding in 2 months. I would want my sister to be there but the hatred is too much for me. For her to says she hates me and I ruined her life is an indication that even after 5 years, she is not ready to make peace. My parents are also pushing me to settle. I don’t mind settling but she has to let go of the bitterness. She has to be willing to sit down in a family meeting. She has alienated everyone, not just me. And it is all my fault?? Those commenting that she should forgive me. what did I DO that was so awful?? I have been carrying this fight for 5 years. I am tired and right now, I don’t think if settling is in our nearest future


THE matter pass me, make i no lie. And it is still ongoing

recycling a 5 year old story. Nairaland COME ON!!!

wetin dey worry u?

choi! hiding my head in shame

I remember your last post. Honey, I dont know if your mind is made up or you are just really upset. The first year of marriage is brutal for most people. Most issues can be resolved and one day, you may smile at the time you almost divorced. Please be sure.
In the event you are sure. If u did registry, you need to file a petition under section 15 of the Matrimonial Causes Act. As earlier stated, you will use the marriage has broken down irretrievably clause.....You will have to go into details in your petition as to your reasons. Your spouse will answer or cross petition and the whole legal drama may take 2 years.......A conference will be held at a point to see if you guys wish to reconcile......do you want any maintenance from him for yourself or your kid, if any? You can petition for both.

If you dey Lag, the courts are on strike. It will be a long while before they sort out the backlog talk less of talking new cases. So ample time to settle. heheheh #hatedivorcecases

very convenient.........sometimes i wonder at the gullibility of Nigerians.. ....

tbaba and i are from d area. i know of the animal. As a mother myself, i dont see how d boy can still be alive talk less of begging that he wont do it again. the audacity!! Even if i dont wish to make the girl suffer more given the useless nigerian society, i will make full use of the useless nigerian ways by locking him in a guardroom for a month torturing him within an inch of his life and make him wish for
death. he will never touch a woman again
Arrrrrrgghhhhh i am so angry.

stop lying jare.

he had four wives... the first wife died in 2003
those r probably female students.
google is ur friend man