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daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

No matter how pleasurable sin is, it is not worth falling for. Sin is deadly and destructive as it steals your peace. The simple question is what do u stand to gain by sleeping with your ex then other than shame. Since her conscience is not settled, the solution is to open up to the husband and ask for his forgiveness.

Believe it or not, staying on Christ side brings true peace.
If your story is similar to this, accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and saviour and save your self from guilty conscience. Jesus saves!

nlfpmod:
Documents show Bashir Ahmad continued to illegally draw salaries months after resigning as Buhari’s media aide



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My concern is that a full professor don't earn up to 800k per month. What a country. Some people will sit down castigating ASUU for embarking on strike.

Oluwashina72:
Someone help my guy....
My urge for sex whenever I'm with money is killing me... I'm into long relationship,my gf will be through with school in two years to come,300level writing exams going to 400level... Im done with school, working and also stay alone but anytime konji hold me... Na to run to ashewo joint to kill my konji and na overnight.. I tried having a side chick but is not working... With this "ASUU" wahala she's able to write her exam in her school because her school didn't join the strike "ekpoma"...
"Hmmm everybody with hin own wahala na my own be that oo"

You need Jesus Christ bro
Give Him a chance and you see Him helping you out
Deep down in your heart you know you can't continue like this.
It is well

In this interview with ABIODUN NEJO, the Ekiti State Chairman of the Nigeria Union of Pensioners, Joel Akinola, alleges that the state government is treating the senior citizens with levity, ignominy, and disrespect

We don’t get to hear stories of pensioners collapsing or dying in queues while expecting their pay in Ekiti as it is elsewhere. What is your secret?

You are talking about monthly pensions. The Ekiti government has been faithful in paying our monthly pensions regularly. The government does not owe us pensions for now, except the previous one owed us before 2018. These are seven months for local government pensioners and three months for state pensioners that have yet to be paid after several promises.

How are pensioners faring in Ekiti?

Regular payment of pensions has been helping pensioners to keep their bodies and souls together, to buy medications, feed some people that require assistance and to help others. If somebody owes you money, particularly gratuities and arrears of pensions, there is no way you will not be agitated, more so if these gratuities, which are supposed to be paid to you immediately when you retire, are not forthcoming.

Gratuity is the money that should stabilise you either to go into one business or the other that could generate income, or even go into farming, or to finish your house if you have not completed it. But there is disillusionment when that kind of huge amount of money, running into millions of naira for each pensioner, is not coming. Everything put together for council and state government pensioners in Ekiti State is running from N40bn to N50bn.

What has been the effect on individual pensioners?
It has made life miserable, miserable in the sense that, as old people, we need more attention and care. The body is ageing and needs maintenance. If the money is not there to maintain the body that is ageing, that body is bound to fail one day. That is why our members have such a high mortality rate because they cannot easily access Medicare.

With the present economic situation in the country, even buying drugs that will sustain an average old man is a fortune. If somebody is old and money is not forthcoming, life will be unbearable. Again, the government should realise that we have people who are dependent on us. We have some of our children that are unemployed and in homes that need to be taken care of. We need to eat good food. If you don’t eat well, drugs will not work. If you have money with you, you will have peace because a lack of money is a disaster, particularly in our society. Without money, it is a multiple tragedy; you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of your children, etc. and it appears the government is nonchalant about it.

What are pensioners in Ekiti owed?

The government owes local government pensioners seven months’ arrears while state pensioners are owed three months. When the government paid one month to workers in December, we thought that we would be paid. We were promised that we would be paid, but up till today, the promise has not been fulfilled. It is humongous if you add the pension arrears to the almost N40bn arrears of gratuities. A government official once said our pension arrears run to hundreds of millions.

How come the indebtedness is this high?

The impunity started a long time ago. When Governor Segun Oni was here, he cleared everything. The pensioners were not owed any gratuity. It was when Dr. Kayode Fayemi took over that things started to mount. He was paid for some time until he said he discovered some discrepancies and fraudulent practices in the pay process. He stopped sending money there, but should that be the solution? The solution was to discipline the erring staff and continue the payment. That led to the mounting debt.

When Governor Ayodele Fayose succeeded him, he continued to owe, saying since Fayemi could owe that much and nothing happened! At a point, Fayose started paying N10m in gratuities per month, which could not cover that of one person because an average permanent secretary would collect almost N13m to N14m in gratuity. Fayose did that for a few months and stopped.
Despite the fact that he collected several intervention funds, he did not do anything. It is still the debt that Fayemi ought to have paid then during the first term that we are agitating now. He is about to complete another four years of nothing. It is becoming another debt now for the incoming government.
What could be the genuine way out of the debt?

If the willingness to pay is there, the government can source funds from anywhere and pay. Any money paid to an average pensioner in Ekiti will circulate here, it will even generate income among traders; the economy will be enhanced; and it will help the revenue generation of the state government. It is money that brings money, but if you are hoarding money and you are not paying out to those people that should spend the money and employ more people, unemployment will continue to rise. The government can go to the bank and pay us. This money will generate itself back. We will spend it. When you spend money, you are improving the economy.

Another way was that there was a time the Fayemi government thought of going to the capital market. A large number of our members agreed, but it appeared the government was not serious. It was the same government that brought the idea that killed it.

That time, after consultation with our members, it was agreed that the maximum a pensioner could let go was 15%, but at the point of implementation, the government did not take the union along again. They called those who retired from 2012 to 2014 and said they should come to the Pension Transitional Arrangement Department. That is an arm of the government where the gratuities are being paid.

By the time they got there, it was discovered that the government had changed the 15% agreed with us to 25% with a circular backing it up. Our people went wild that they only tried to tolerate the 15% they had earlier agreed on. That was how the government killed the whole thing. Though the government denied that it was not the one that caused it, till today, no official of the government had been punished for that infraction.

But last week, Fayemi accused pensioners of allowing opposition elements to deceive them…

I read it. When politicians talk, they try to justify their actions. How could politicians deceive us at our age? We are elderly people, not civil servants — how can they deceive us against our will? Were we deceived by politicians to agree to 15% against our wishes? If the government has a policy, it is not everybody that will support it, but if the government has the will to implement it, it would have done it more if it had consulted with the pensioners and the policy was optional. It was not compulsory. If you are interested, go for it. If you were not, leave it. That we were deceived by politicians is out of the way. It is a defence mechanism by the government to shirk its responsibility because that method was purely optional. They gave us options of 0%, 5%, 10%, and 15%. The maximum was 15%. If the government really wanted to do it, it could have done it for those who were ready. We are old people. We are very vulnerable, and it is not in this old age that we should be rejected by the state that we served for 35 years or so.

In the civilised world, pensioners are treated with dignity and honour. They provided all the means of life for them so that they would enjoy what they had done for the state when they were active, so that there would be no cause for them to agitate. In fact, one would be happy to retire if the government treated pensioners with decency and gave them their rights at all times. I appeal to the government that they should prioritise the interests of pensioners.

Are you satisfied with pension reviews?

To some extent, pensions are not being reviewed. There have been many situations where the government ought to have reviewed pensions. That is why we have the situation of some pensioners earning N4, 000 or even less per month.

Every time there is an increase in the salary of workers, the government should review pensions accordingly every five years. That is what is in the Nigerian constitution, but unfortunately, the government is not doing it because of impunity. Where you have immunity, there will be impunity. They do whatever they like. The issue of pension and gratuities is statutory, but because pensioners are weak, we don’t have the power to strike or protest – can we go to the streets now? That would be very calamitous! That is why we have maintained our peace, but we will always use all legitimate means to demand our rights.

We will continue to talk to the government to listen to us. We are elderly people. We cannot fight. They should assist us because we are their parents and they should treat us so and not allow us to suffer in our old age. We have done our best for the state and we should not be allowed to suffer.

Across the country, it is the same story of neglect and abandonment of pensioners that we get to hear. Why do you think your members are being so treated?

It is because of age. As you are getting older, you are getting weaker, and your ability to agitate is waning. Our case is different from the case of workers whose agitation can paralyse the business of the government. In fact, Ekiti once had a governor who referred to pensioners as dead people. He said that he had not paid the salary of the living, much less the dead. It was very unfortunate that he could refer to elderly people as dead because they are weak and could not threaten his government.

Because we are vulnerable, they treat us with levity, with ignominy, with disrespect, nonchalance, and as if we are no more. That is the problem we have. Among our governors, it is as if they held a meeting against pensioners. Even states that are very rich are still treating pensioners badly. It depends on the integrity of the leadership of a state. If the leadership of a state has integrity and value for human lives, he would pay pensioners. He would not allow old people to suffer at old age because he will grow old one day too.


https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/it-seems-govs-agreed-to-treat-pensioners-badly-retirees-chairman/%3famp

IPIGSRSHALLOW:
Bola Hamed Tinubu is the next president of the federal Republic of Nigeria.

You mean next President of Iragbaji community in Osun state
Funny people

What an irony?
No be JuJu be that?

Mister Crusher
Talk is cheap

iSense247:
https://gazettengr.com/ill-defend-islam-respect-other-faiths-if-elected-vice-president-kashim-shettima/

Defend Borno state first.

treesun:
In this interview with LEKE BAIYEWU, the National Chairman of the South-West Agenda for Asiwaju 2023, Senator Adedayo Adeyeye, says the attack by the Peoples Democratic Party on the All Progressives Congress over its Muslim-Muslim ticket is to divert the attention of Nigerians from the PDP’s breach of its power rotation policy



https://punchng.com/atiku-placing-personal-ambition-above-national-interest-tinubus-ally-adeyeye/

Adeyeye is a Joker
So is Tinubu that is not placing his personal ambition over national interest? Funny dude

Anywhere belle face politician

9jii:
Same thing BOKOHARAM have in common with IPOB aka OBIDIENT.

God help us from their Evil agenda.
Vote for Tinubu.

BAT followers and their reasoning is legendary
Shameful!

sojiboy:
*Ekiti workers to smile, as Fayemi restates commitment to their welfare*



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0STPz2GPYDAp2BKnqXcPj1Qhb9Dv5Li96hnWQhzWtyAbWoCbjwLsWonG8Qk5faq9rl&id=100069437032705

Pay Pensioners their gratuity

It wil sure be a miracle
However with God all things are possible
I believe in Miracles!

I don't expect them to say is fake
Power desperados

Don27tiky:
we keep blaming FG but we as individuals also fail in our responsibilities. Education is key to economic growth of a nation but when those saddled with the responsibility of educating the young ones Fail in their responsibility the result is a failed society. The young learn from those educating them and improve on it. If graduates today are called half baked, that shows that those teaching them are not good enough or don’t know it themselves. Our professors don’t deserve that title because we are not seeing it in those they claim to have trained and the society we live in

We will keep blaming the federal government

APC and lies

CuteEmma:
He’s right that many lecturers are not competent. The thing is that the whole system is fvcked up and they transfer their frustrations on students because they can.
To be fair, the behavior of everyone is terrible, both students and lecturers, but na the lecturers own bad pass.

Government own bad pass lecturer own

Dididrumz:
There's no doubt about having good lecturers.

But the reality is that the majority of them are copy and paste lecturers who derive joy in seeing their students fail their exams.

Maybe in your own department?
Dnt generalise cos there is no verifiable statistics to back that up

Tomilola360:
Go and sit down. Everyone cannot use what the senators earn as justification. Rather than spew this thrash, channel your energy towards protesting senators earning.

It is a justification.

Don27tiky:
join them if you admire their package and stop spoiling the future of young Nigerians in the name of a lecturer. You graduates students half baked students that cannot contribute to the growth of our nation yet you want more for failure

The blame lies with the government

Don27tiky:
in developed countries all lecturers in engineering, medicine and many other fields will be sacked if those they graduates are not making any impact. But of course it is Nigeria where anything goes. So many empty heads calling themselves lecturers with no meaningful impact directly or indirectly.
If truly we have professors, electricity will be a thing of the past
People will trust Nigerian doctors and stop flying out for treatment , we will have people carrying out research and bringing forth solutions

Again, you talk ignorantly
You are not truthful cos electricity is on the exclusive list. If a state like Lagos generates electricity, the state will have to handle it over to the federal government. Same as natural resources cos they on the exclusive list.

As regards Health the VP, Osinbajo is being treated presently in one of the Nigeria hospitals. We have capable doctors but what has government done to help the health sector? The fault still lays with the Govt.

Gets your fact right before posting unverifiable statements.

gbengaeed:
...Tell the Lecturer to quit lecturing and be a Senator, if he so much in love with the pay. Some works are noble work (Law enforcement, Farming, Clergyman/Spiritualist and Teaching) and at the University level you needs to be on top of the game not repeating same textbook for decades and coming to class twice in a month. Some of them have 3-4 lecturing job at major institutions at the same time using the same static methods while young educationist are roaming the street without jobs. They keep going on strike because of a request they made to the then Military Govt. and you know what they collect salary for not coming to work Think About That.

All this epistles means nothing
I dnt need to join words with you.You wrote out of ignorance as regards ASUU strike.
You can use your internet to check the pay of university lecturers in African countries (not developed countries) and the state of arts buildings the government did there.

The state of our public universities in Nigeria is nothing to write home about.

ben4ever:
Most are not competent.

What is your yardstick to prove that majority are not competent?

Don't talk out of hate or frustration
Bring you proofs
Guess you visited all the universities in Nigeria?

Tomilola360:
Thank God someone thinks just the same. Professors my foot. Na just title, majority of them dont have any impact on the life of their students.

How many impact does the senator has that he is earning over 30 million?

You talk out of frustration. Using majority is not acceptable.

Trilz:
Most of them don't lecture at all,
In my ND 2, my ICT lecturer only came to lecture us twice and that was all for that semester. During exam time he gave us questions he never taught.

Don't use your ICT lecturer to generalise that lecturers are lazy

We have good and competent lecturers

ben4ever:
I propose a competency test for all types of teachers especially the university tutors.... the type that axed the Kaduna NUT chairman.... put competent ones and pay to them well...

Who told they are not competent?
The country pays a senator to the tune of over 3o million with no competent test done and you expect a professor that earns less than 1,000 dollars to go thru competent test? Is that fair if I should ask you?

But a senator that say the hi and nay have it at the hallowed chambers deserves over 30 million as salaries?

Funny dude

Omicronvaccine:

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Eucharia Anunobi Supports Premarital Sex For Engaged Couples (Video)

Eucharia Anunobi has said that those who insist people shouldn't have sex before marriage are out of their minds, IGBERETV reports.

The actress turned evangelist asked why people who are engaged should not be allowed to have sex.

"The proponent of this wicked agenda of 'no sex before marriage' must be completely out of their minds," she said in a video shared on Instagram.

She added: "If they are not out of their mind, how can they recommend such a wicked thing?

"How do I get to know if my intended is good in bed?"

She explained that it's not easy to abstain from sex with one you're attracted to.

She went on to say that those who preach against sex before marriage are either "castrated eunuchs" or "dry females" who don't enjoy sex.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CgJyzY6lgWb/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Her thought doesn't make it right.
The Bible angle to what she mentioned is called Fornication . The last time I checked from the Holy Bible, fornication is a sin against your body and against God

dangerousd071:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xgGjsCKgLk



Buhari, Lawan Attend Unveiling Of NNPC

President Muhammadu Buhari and other government officials attend the unveiling of NNPC Ltd in Abuja on July 19, 2022.

President Muhammadu Buhari, Senate President, Ahmad Lawan and other government officials on Tuesday attended the unveiling of the Nigerian National Petroleum Company Limited (NNPC Limited).

The event, which is taking place in Abuja, the nation’s capital also has in attendance, the Minister of State for Petroleum Resources, Timipre Sylva and the Group Managing Director of NNPC, Mele Kyari among other players in the oil and gas sectors.

The transitioning from NNPC Group to NNPC Limited is in accordance with the Petroleum Industry Act.

According to the Act, NNPC Limited will run a commercial and profit-focused organisation under the Company and Allied Matters Act (CAMA).

Hope he understands what he is unveiling?

KGREAT:
Fake news everywhere. Pdp can never win Osun

Better wake up
I hope you are not tipsy �

APC ti lule

Newbie60:
I'm a 22year old guy, a virgin and might probably get laid in few days time.
I'm anxious and partially nervous. I would like to last long and make the sex pleasurable for the girl.

Can you recommend cool sex positions?
Does anyone know a nice sex lubricant?
How can I last long during sex?

Thanks.

You are about to commit fornication.. God will not be happy with you if u try this devilish move. Have a change of mind. Repent and give Jesus Christ is a room in your life.

Mathscum:
It is sweet die the girls always tell me i am hitting their womb,

What is sweet in sleeping with girls not married to? Is called Fornication. Sweet on the outside but the end thereof is destruction.. Repent and give your life to Jesus Christ. Don't die in your sin