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I only did it once, and that was in 2004.....she still respects me till today!

Rooneyboy, where we went together!

If I'm gonna do it again, its gonna be for my ONLY!

vivian chinaza: Yea, it came from a woman. Look, I know you must be hurt, losing someone you love sucks, alright?
And the wife cheated on him with his brother, that's a terrible thing, but sweetheart these things happen all the time, even worst. When life knocks you down, you and only you will decide to remain down or to beat it. And in his own condition, he chose to give up, not putting other people that love him unconditionally into consideration, including his lovely daughter!
I don't feel sorry for him, to me he was selfish, and stu.pid. And if my own brother for any reason takes his own life, a life that does not belong to him in the first place, not minding the impact his action will have on me? I will spit on his corpse!
A lot of us have passed through hell, we have been heartbroken, betrayed, and hurt. Did some of us at some point contemplated suicide? Hell yes! I know I did! Let's face it, there was nothing to live for, so we thought, so I thought. But we were wrong! There are plenty of things to live for! And those reasons are manifested in the faces of those who chose to love us no matter what, those who still need us.
The pains are excruciating, lord knows! But it gets better with time cos we must learn to find joy again through those pains, if not for anything, for the sake of those who love us! For the sake of that beautiful son or daughter who is gonna live without a father, who in ages to come would live with the shame, the psychological trauma and the stigma that her father committed suicide.

Now, if this man didn't think of all these? I'm sorry, I don't feel sorry for him, and I know as hell God will not!

I'm sorry if this sounds insensitive, this is just how I feel about suicide, and I'm not wrong.

I'm also sorry you have to go through this pain, I'm just mad that this pain is so not worth it.

Its easier said than done!

I aint saying u aint correct.

Believe me, this happens only to those who TOO love their wife......the TRAUMA aftermath......my wife opening her legs for my younger brother to swim through.....the woman I considered as my friend, mother, wife, lover......the sight of the drama alone is killing swthrt.

Its always more painful for men than women.....I'm talking about the seeing the action, just as the man saw his brother ramming the ONLY one he loves so much!

Believe me, that kind of guy has been very faithful to his wife!

No excuse for taking his life, but I love what 'Mac' said, "devil whispers into the heart of man at his weakest point"

We are not still sure if he did though!

maclatunji: If he truly loved her, her betrayal with his brother would have killed his spirit. I think those who knew about his condition amongst his family and friends could have done more for him.

The devil whispers into the hearts of men at their weakest point. Suicide is wrong but at that point- do you think the guy was mentally stable?

20000 lilkes

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The above sounds so strange and dates back to things we really don't want to remember (Modern Slavery as CNN would call it) I might be wrong!

Let's forget about this MODERN slavery of a thing....its everywhere. Even in Nigeria, we have!

Nobody forces anybody, its just an opportunity to get paid for what you are good at provided you are okay by the terms and conditions!

Its not like its hard labour. Even Nigerians subject Nigerians to hard labour, with a meagre salary, or nothing at all!

US is trying to reduce our rate of employment biko!

KUDOS.....it simply means our Government na OMO-ALE.....wetin we suppose chop here, we dey carry am go outside!

Gbenge 77: So Nigeria is more secure?......

Between US and Nigeria?
Nigeria is MORE secure of course!

How many natural disaster have you experienced here, besides the Ikeja Cantonment Drama!

Hide posts, they will not hide.
Ban people, they will not ban!

They just like doing the wrong thing at the right time and vice versa.....the thread has been abused...clean it up!

SMH!

Favourite?

Romance of course!

That place too make sense, its all in one...filled with intelligent and creative people!

Walexz02: Choi! This is soo tragic to the ear, bro I am sorry for the lost and at thesame time i bitterly sympathize this horible act with the family of your friend. But commiting suicide is a very bad option choosen by your friend, men should be very careful of the woman they marry. Oga o!

This one pass "men should be 'careful' of the woman they marry"

Everybody is always careful when marrying!

NA PRAYER SURE PASS!

Hmmmmmm.
For this matter, water don pass the garri.

I hope he is RIP.....God knows better!

Sorry brother!

MMotimo: . My paragraph 3 applies. For you, it's laziness. Safe to say it would not be a joint decision in your household and that's just fine. For those that choose the option, let it be "just fine" too.

My epistle is mainly for those for whom it is/will be a viable option but who are afraid of being called names by society.

I am pretty sure we have stay at home Moms in this section who would never admit to it because they are afraid of being called leeches.

As for waste of education, who says a SHM must be illiterate? And really, is it my business or society's, how much her education cost or what she has decided to do with it.

Ur siggy said it all!

U do not need to keep explaining...ur first post on this thread is enough for the wise!

This is the kind of people I'm talking about!
Women with SOUND virtues!

MMotimo: Don't know how many times this issue comes up in this section but I will say what I have always said. Culturally, Nigerian women, especially Southerners have been raised to believe that you have to bring in an income in order for your spouse and his family to respect you. Never mind that you have abused women with full time jobs.

A lot of people think staying at home makes it more likely your husband will abuse you. Please, spend time on courtship, know whom you are marrying. If hes going to be an abuser, chances are, you will see signs if you spend enough time in courtship. A very small minority of men can change overnight into monsters but that is not the norm. By the way, be careful that you, the wife, do not change into something the guy did not bargain for. If you were the saving type before he married you but afterwards, suddenly develop a taste for keeping up with the Joneses, that would not be fair to him.

Staying home (usually the woman in African settings) is a lifestyle choice and is determined by affordability and trust. I bolden this because for most people, it's not affordable but that does not mean you disparage others who can afford the choice. Above all, it should always be a joint decision and like most things in life, subject to change if it is not sustainble. No point doing it if one partner resents the other partner staying home or if it is not an affordable choice for your family

If the working partner's income is not sufficient to finance household expenses, you probably should not opt for it. When I say expense, that includes aso ebi, your Brazillian weaves, owambe parties, vacations, clothing, etc and any financial assistance to relatives/friends on both sides. I may be able to run my household on N50000.00 a month but maybe yours runs on $8000.00 per month. The same question still applies - can the working partner sustain the expenses? If so, for how long and at what cost?

At this point, I must say that if you don't have direct access to the income earner's accounts/earnings, if your assets and liabilities are not in joint names, then you should probably not stay home. Already, there's a comma in the situation if only one party makes and controls the financial decisions. In order for it to be successful, there has to be trust on both sides and each side should be comfortable with the other's spending habits.

Life insurance policies are available in Nigeria, same as in the West. It is called insurance in case the unexpected happens, fear of death should not mean you can't stay home and raise your kids if that is your family's desire. Sadly, the vast majority of Nigerian women that work, still have no net worth to show for it. It is still the constant hand to mouth, keeping up with the Joneses, dodging randy bosses at work who derive joy from chopping another man's wife.

Why are you staying home? For the vast majority, it's to raise their kids. For a few, it's simply a preference. If your spouse is fine with it and you can both make it work, do not let the mischievous sow discord in your home by calling you names.

If part of your self worth is tied to your career or how much money you make, it's probably not a good idea. For some people, working is not about money but about self worth/esteem
If you are going to miss the workplace environment, you should probably just keep working. If you are going to feel embarrassed and useless because you are not working, then keep working.

A much as possible, let your value system be based on experiences, not on acquisitions. I tell you, life becomes so much simpler once it's no longer just about acquisitions. Focus on building NW while at the same time, building your children (those that make the choice for kids).

Finally, yes, I stayed home for a couple of years, in Naija and in the West. I work now, because our kids are much older/independent and household expenses have grown. My extended family do not pry in my business so I didn't have to explain to anybody but I know it took a lot for my Mum not to say anything. She started working at 18 and only retired when she had a solid gold pension and left with a sizable package. If she were dead, she might have turned in her grave, she drummed career mum into me at an early age.

I stayed home but I have always had access to everything my husband has/earns and vice versa. I am that wife that knows where everything is and whose husband will "sign here" without a second glance because of mutual trust. It doesn't matter which gender plays the lead financial role, trust is non-negotiable when it comes to money, epecially for a Naija couple.

https://www.nairaland.com/1257575/because-wife-does-not-work#1257575.2

Some people coming on here and soliciting for funds...let's be careful, or rather authenticate "stories" before dishing out!

I know what I'm talking about!
Let's help those that are INDEED in NEED!

r231, are u aware of those?

At a point, I became confused over egg consumption matter. I stopped listening and reading from those 'experts'. I just take whatever makes me feel good and satisfying with my regular exercise of course!

rokiatu: Now topics like this need to make front page.

Amazing.

Only topics that can fetch Seun more MONIES via postings dey make front page!

MMotimo: Don't know how many times this issue comes up in this section but I will say what I have always said. Culturally, Nigerian women, especially Southerners have been raised to believe that you have to bring in an income in order for your spouse and his family to respect you. Never mind that you have abused women with full time jobs.

A lot of people think staying at home makes it more likely your husband will abuse you. Please, spend time on courtship, know whom you are marrying. If hes going to be an abuser, chances are, you will see signs if you spend enough time in courtship. A very small minority of men can change overnight into monsters but that is not the norm. By the way, be careful that you, the wife, do not change into something the guy did not bargain for. If you were the saving type before he married you but afterwards, suddenly develop a taste for keeping up with the Joneses, that would not be fair to him.

Staying home (usually the woman in African settings) is a lifestyle choice and is determined by affordability and trust. I bolden this because for most people, it's not affordable but that does not mean you disparage others who can afford the choice. Above all, it should always be a joint decision and like most things in life, subject to change if it is not sustainble. No point doing it if one partner resents the other partner staying home or if it is not an affordable choice for your family

If the working partner's income is not sufficient to finance household expenses, you probably should not opt for it. When I say expense, that includes aso ebi, your Brazillian weaves, owambe parties, vacations, clothing, etc and any financial assistance to relatives/friends on both sides. I may be able to run my household on N50000.00 a month but maybe yours runs on $8000.00 per month. The same question still applies - can the working partner sustain the expenses? If so, for how long and at what cost?

At this point, I must say that if you don't have direct access to the income earner's accounts/earnings, if your assets and liabilities are not in joint names, then you should probably not stay home. Already, there's a comma in the situation if only one party makes and controls the financial decisions. In order for it to be successful, there has to be trust on both sides and each side should be comfortable with the other's spending habits.

Life insurance policies are available in Nigeria, same as in the West. It is called insurance in case the unexpected happens, fear of death should not mean you can't stay home and raise your kids if that is your family's desire. Sadly, the vast majority of Nigerian women that work, still have no net worth to show for it. It is still the constant hand to mouth, keeping up with the Joneses, dodging randy bosses at work who derive joy from chopping another man's wife.

Why are you staying home? For the vast majority, it's to raise their kids. For a few, it's simply a preference. If your spouse is fine with it and you can both make it work, do not let the mischievous sow discord in your home by calling you names.

If part of your self worth is tied to your career or how much money you make, it's probably not a good idea. For some people, working is not about money but about self worth/esteem
If you are going to miss the workplace environment, you should probably just keep working. If you are going to feel embarrassed and useless because you are not working, then keep working.

A much as possible, let your value system be based on experiences, not on acquisitions. I tell you, life becomes so much simpler once it's no longer just about acquisitions. Focus on building NW while at the same time, building your children (those that make the choice for kids).

Finally, yes, I stayed home for a couple of years, in Naija and in the West. I work now, because our kids are much older/independent and household expenses have grown. My extended family do not pry in my business so I didn't have to explain to anybody but I know it took a lot for my Mum not to say anything. She started working at 18 and only retired when she had a solid gold pension and left with a sizable package. If she were dead, she might have turned in her grave, she drummed career mum into me at an early age.

I stayed home but I have always had access to everything my husband has/earns and vice versa. I am that wife that knows where everything is and whose husband will "sign here" without a second glance because of mutual trust. It doesn't matter which gender plays the lead financial role, trust is non-negotiable when it comes to money, epecially for a Naija couple.

I know that God has been blessing u real good, and he will never stop blessing u real good!

U have said it all beyond how I could have!

U are INDEED a wife!

U are gonna make many enemies though!

Hmmmm...The Return of Daddy Showkey!

Thought they have left the industry for the small boyses!

So far its not God that is forgiving!

Its funny though....now indecency being accepted as decency, and people are confortable about it.

The society is at the peak of TOTAL UNREDEEMABLE crumbling....IMPLOSIVE!

Got this from BC.


The following are Questions and Answers between Husband (H) and A Psychologist:

P : What do you do for a living Mr. Bandy?
H : I work as an Accountant in a Bank.

P : Your Wife ?
H : She doesn't work. She's a Housewife only.

P : Who makes breakfast for your family in the morning?
H : My Wife, because she doesn't work.

P : At what time does your wife wake up for making breakfast?
H : She wakes up at around 5 am because she cleans the house first before making breakfast.

P : How do your kids go to school?
H : My wife takes them to school, because she doesn't work.

P : After taking your kids to school, what does she do?
H : She goes to the market, then goes back home for cooking and laundry. You know, she doesn't work.

P : In the evening, after you go back home from office, what do you do?
H : Take rest, because i'm tired due to all day works.

P : What does your wife do then?
H : She prepares meals, serving our kids, preparing meals for me and cleaning the dishes, cleaning the house then taking kids to bed.

From the story above, who do you think works more

The daily routines of your wives commence from early morning to late at night. That is called 'DOESN'T WORK'??!!

Yes, Being Housewives do not need Certificate of Study, even High Position, but their ROLE/PART is very important!

Appreciate your wives. Because their sacrifices are uncountable. This should be a reminder and reflection for all of us to understand and appreciate each others roles.
All about a WOMAN ....

When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.

When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.

When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.
Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted if you have got one.

Tattoo.
"I have never done tattoo on my body because as an actress, you have dynamic roles, if you are acting the role of a village girl, you don’t have to have tattoo. One day, I was watching a movie where a village girl who was suffering had tattoo on her neck and we were like, a village girl with a tattoo? If you know what you are doing, you are not supposed to have tattoo as an actress because you can be called upon to play any role........"


https://www.nairaland.com/1253823/single-parent-m-paying-price

The parts that caught my attention!

-Tattoo
-pains and gains of being celebrity.

"Unscripted".....flexibilty coupled with intelligence and smartness!

Make e no go be like "my oga at the top" drama o!

And all this for the money and fame aight?

What a shame....I gez he is a gay!

Well, its not a problem if that is his alter ego truly cos I also have some WEIRD and FUNNY ones!

RUBBISH!
Why can't they pass the 6yrs single tenure instead of the divided by 2 8yrs single tenure!

Let a President come and prove his/her worth for a 6yrs....SIMPLE!

Not by washing plates for 4yrs and using the next 4yrs to eat from it......another will come and wash for 4years.......and the procudure continues!

CELEBRATION OF DIRT(S)!
SMH!

I'm not a fan though, but atleast make it simple and 'kinda' hidden!

What happens to the other 13%?
Dem be she-goats?

#smiling#
And yet the glasswares are losing the gels to the blocks!

Purple Haze by Jimi Hendrix
http://c.mobpartner.mobi/?s=333984

Johnny Be Good by Chuck Berry
http://m.mp3juices.com/search.php?q=Johnny+B.+Goode+%E2%80%93+Chuck+Berry

Every man wants a woman that is good in kitchen and in bedroom.....not Indomie and Missionary styles everytime!

I decided to put this in the General section since its neither "Romance" nor "Joke"

FACT!

TELEPHONE CONVERSATION
BETWEEN LADIES
Mary: Hello Love!
Sarah: Hello babes-how are u
today?
Mary: Am fine dear, I have
missed u a lot.
Sarah: And me too
Mary: I am calling just to inform
you that I will pay you a visit this
afternoon.
Sarah: Ok my dear; it will be a
great pleasure to have you. I will
be expecting you sweet.

*AFTER DROPPING THE CALL
Mary: Am going to visit that dirty
girl again.
Sarah: This witch is coming here
again, she thinks I will buy her
drinks with my money again, she
must be joking.


TELEPHONE CONVERSATION
BETWEEN BOYS
John: Bastard how far?
Francis: Mad man I dey? How ur
drunkard father?
John: My Papa dey! Ur ashewo
mama nko?
Francis: You are a fool. How far, U
dey house?I dey come charge
phone.
John: Ok! No wahala, bring money
come make we drink
beer..
Francis: Idiot like U. Later now!

*AFTER DROPPING THE CALL
John: That Francis can be funny at
times but always great
companion anytime.
Francis: John is just a reliable
friend.
LESSON: Girls are always nice to
each other but they never like
themselves.
Boys are always mean and rude
but they will always have each
other's back.
TRUE or FALSE??

Mine: Its soooooo true!