I swear all these stupid and fake crocodile tears during engagements is as irritating as a bad 9ja movie.

All these going on knees thing (for marriage proposal) is so foreign and unnecessary.

Blame Hollywood for this irritating trend. Why the stage-managed engagement BULLSHIT?

When it is time because you both should have defined your relationship before hand,, there is no need for all these hullabaloo nonsense

When the man is ready, let him simply ask the lady "'when can my people come and see yours?", And she will understand. That is a proposal on its own.

All the hullabaloo about proposals, pre-wedding photos, bridal shower and other nonsense is what makes people forget that marriage is serious business, and then when they enter they begin to complain.

Just after the wedding, in some instances, the couple will be dead broke and all the busybodies that attended the elaborate show of extravagance called WHITE WEDDING will vanish

Yes, this is mostly the case in Nigeria.

Why can't we keep the tears in intact and shed them when it is necessary?

You cry during engagement, you cry during wedding, you cry when cheating happens and you cry when it hits the rock.

Abeg, na only you waka come?

Cry-cry all the way.

Please, you guys should stop disturbing us

Some even go as far as fainting.

Ladies please stop irritating us with the crocodile tears.

Sometimes, the couple even shop for the engagement ring together but the woman will still put up a crying performance. Copy-copy on steroids.

Sometimes Na d girl go even buy ring

What were you expecting my dear? Do you think the idiot did you a favour by proposing?

So you were not sure of what you guys were doing over the years?

Eating Ogbono soup together and all?

Stop it now, wipe your tears and shut up.

If a hear one more sound from you, I will come over and give you a reason to really cry.

Shhhhhh , I don't want to hear peem from you.

This thing of buying engagement rings that are ridiculously expensive is whose idea exactly? Men, save the money ,you will need it in the marriage

Am dead and Die, The Thing don stop again..

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GAZZUZZ:

check brake oil level.

All Oil Perfecto, But i checked all the Oil levels now, And afterwards i got back inside the car and the brake light and abs went off and the gear is working back perfectly, Shey them this my village people don sleep off ni Lol

GAZZUZZ:


you carry scanner?

Nah Nah!! Nothing Of Such

GAZZUZZ:


interesting...... do and leave that village, ur village people got the car. Branch MFM on ur way back

Lol ���, I no fit get almighty Gazzuzz And Them go show me pepper for this place, Lets fight them together abeg

Watch the Handbrake light on and ABS

Came Out Okay Brother!! Its On

GAZZUZZ:


step on your brakes, are the rear brake lights working?

Gimme 2mins lemme check that immediately

In Layman, I Should always engage Handbrake first before putting my gear on ‘P’ You meant?

U got any experience on hooked gear without warning? a car i just drove from Ikeja to Ijebu ode with no issue whatsoever suddenly hooked

Good Morning Guru In The House, Gazzuzz And Co, I took my car to my hometown for an event with no initial issues whatsoever, After going from one town to another etc i got back parked and got in after 2 hours or so i came out again to quickly go somewhere started engine came out with the good and nice sound and the gear didn’t move out of ‘P’ i looked at the dashboard there was ‘ABS’ light on and Handbrake light On.

The Gear still didnt move like it was hooked, I opened up the little compartment close to the gear and pressed the little black like button down and immediately the Gear Engaged, But i haven’t gone far though But would like to understand what really is the problem and my handbrake is not on.

Would like to know, Can i manage the car back to Lagos with pressing the little compartment to engage gear whenever am moving or is there something else to do else cause i no trust the mechanics there? Help please am leaving here tommorrow

How Many picture want be Tinubu son own? Different pictures online, Like seriously person don die, why una dey find picture wey them no hide, Obituary go soon comot and una go see hin picture, Where una dey go see all this Mechanic Pictures wey una dey post.

The op wey post this one sef, If u gather brain well well sef and them tell u say this Mechanic Na tinubu son and u accept and come post for them mumu like u abi?

How this one go be hin Son!! Are u people MAD, azzin are u People Crazy? �� Na Lasisi talk am no be me Ooo

Weborg:
@VIVIANGIST

Dutch football club, Fortuna Sittard who narrowly missed emerging winners in their first season, raked in two awards on Wednesday as 17-year old team captain Perr Schuurs clinched the Bronze Bull as the Best Talent while Nigerian-born team coach Sunday Oliseh won the Bronze Bull award of Best Coach.

In his reaction, Sunday Oliseh who was voted the best trainer of the first season said; “I am very honored to win this prize because this is the result of hard work and a lot of help from my players, fans, assistants, our chairman Isitan Gün and above all God.”

“There are so many great talents in the Jupiler League at the moment that I did not really expect to win the Bronze Bull. I was really surprised. Of course, it’s a good idea to win an individual prize, but the next prize I really want to get along with the team”, says 17-year old Schuurs who was named team captain by Oliseh.

Meanwhile, Turkish businessman and Fortuna Sittard Club Chairman Isita Gün is very pleased with the awards. “The whole club is very proud of Perr and Sunday. We may have missed the title in the first season, these Bronze Bulls indicate that we are on the right track. Everyone in the club has given a strong energy boost for the club to stay on the road and even take a step further. This is really great!”, he was quoted as saying.

Born in Nigeria, Oliseh who once graced the Bundesliga – and is now coaching Fortuna Sittard in the Dutch second division, is the only head coach from sub-Saharan Africa coaching in professional European football.

VIA : http://www.viviangist.ng/sunday-oliseh-wins-best-coach-award-in-holland/

cC; lalasticlala

Person wey go still use Arrogance spoil everything, He is good no doubt but he is the africa version of Mourinho with attitude though, I no know about winning rate

The status and rights of the mother do not supersede the rights of the husband, rather the husband’s rights are greater and take precedence over your mother’s rights. Your obedience to him takes precedence over your obedience to her, and the wise wife strives to please her husband by doing what he wants so long as it is not contrary to sharee’ah, and she strives to honour her mother in ways that do not go against her husband’s commands. If there is a conflict of interest, then she should put her husband’s commands and wishes first.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about a woman who got married, and was no longer under her parents’ care. Which is better – honouring her parents or obeying her husband?

He replied: When a woman gets married, her husband has more authority over her than her parents, and obeying her husband is more obligatory for her. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husband’s property)” [al-Nisa’ 4:34]. And in a hadeeth the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “This world is temporary conveniences and the best of its comforts is a believing wife, who when you look at her she pleases you and if you tell her to do something she obeys you, and if you are away from her she protects you with regard to herself and your wealth.”. In Saheeh Abi Haatim it is narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a woman offers her five (daily prayers) and fasts her month and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from whichever of its gates she wants.” In al-Tirmidhi it is narrated that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.” This was narrated by al-Tirmidhi, who said it is a hasan hadeeth. It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi who said it is a hasan hadeeth. It was also narrated by Abu Dawood with the wording: “I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands because of the rights that Allaah has given them over them.” In al-Musnad it is narrated from Anas that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is not acceptable for any human to prostrate to another, but if it were acceptable for any human to prostrate to another, I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the rights they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if there were sores from his feet to the top of his head flowing with pus, then she licked them, she would not have given him all his rights.”

And he quoted ahaadeeth about the virtue of obeying the husband.

There are many ahaadeeth on this topic from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Zayd ibn Thaabit said: The husband is a sayyid (lord or master) in the Book of Allaah. Then he quoted the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “They both found her lord (i.e. her husband) at the door” [Yoosuf 12:25]. ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: Marriage is slavery, so let one of you look to whom he is giving his beloved daughter to be a slave to. In al-Tirmidhi and elsewhere it is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I urge you to treat women well, for they are like prisoners with you.”

So the woman is like a slave of her husband, or like a prisoner; she should not go out of his house without his permission, whether she is told to do so by her father, her mother or anyone else, according to scholarly consensus.

If a man wants to take her to another place, so long as he is doing what is required of him, and observing the sacred limits of Allaah with regard to her, and her father tells her not to obey him in that, then she must obey her husband and not her father, because in that case the parents are wrongdoers, and they have no right to tell her not to obey someone like this husband, and she does not have the right to obey her mother if she tells her to leave him or to cause trouble to him so that he will divorce her, such as demanding more maintenance and more clothing, and demanding (the deferred portion of) her mahr so that he may divorce her. It is not permissible for her to obey either of her parents by divorcing him if he fears Allaah with regard to her.

In the four Sunans and Saheeh Ibn Abi Haatim it is narrated that Thawbaan said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when there is nothing wrong, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.” According to another hadeeth: “The women who ask for khula’ and the women who make a wanton display of themselves are indeed hypocrites.”

But if both or one of her parents tells her to do something that involves obedience to Allaah, such as praying regularly, speaking the truth and fulfilling trusts, and tells her not to squander or waste her money, and other things that have been enjoined or forbidden by Allaah and His Messenger, then she must obey them in that, even if the command comes from someone other than her parents, so how about if it comes from her parents?

If her husband tells her not to do something that is enjoined by Allaah, and he tells her to do something that Allaah has forbidden, then she should not obey him in that. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator.” If a master orders his slave to do something that involves disobedience towards Allaah, it is not permissible for him to obey him by disobeying Him, so how can a woman obey her husband or one of her parents by committing sin? All goodness is in obeying Allaah and His Messenger, and all evil is in disobeying Allaah and His Messenger. End quote. Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (32/261-264).

This is a strong answer based on knowledge, and it is sufficient to explain what is meant, which is that it is not permissible for your mother to spoil the relationship between you and your husband, and it is not permissible for you to obey her in that, and your husband’s right to your obedience is greater than your mother’s.

Women have more right to custody of children than men; in principle custody belongs to them, because they are more compassionate and more kind, and they know better how to raise small children, and they are more patient in dealing with the difficulties involved. The mother has more right to custody of her child, whether it is a boy or a girl, so long as she does not re-marry and so long as she meets the conditions of custody. This is according to scholarly consensus.

The conditions of custody are: being accountable (i.e., an adult of sound mind etc.), being free (as opposed to being a slave), being of good character, being a Muslim if the child concerned is a Muslim, and being able to fulfil all obligations towards the child. The mother should not be married to a person who is a stranger (i.e., not related) to the child. If one of these conditions is not fulfilled and there is an impediment such as insanity or having remarried, etc., the woman forfeits the right to custody, but if that impediment is removed, then the right to custody is restored. But it is best to pay attention to the interests of the child, because his rights come first.

The period of custody lasts until the age of discretion and independence, i.e., until the child is able to discern what is what and is independent in the sense that he can eat by himself, drink by himself, and clean himself after using the toilet, etc.

When the child reaches this age, the period of custody ends, whether the child is a boy or a girl. That is usually at the age of seven or eight.

With regard to the effect of travelling on transferring custody, if the parents have separated and are disputing custody, any of the following scenarios may apply to their travelling:

1 – If one of the parents wants to travel without moving, i.e., he or she intends to come back, then the parent who is staying put has more right to the child.

2 – If one of them wants to travel for the purpose of settling there, and the new city or the route is dangerous, then the parent who is staying put has more right to the child.

3 – If one of them wants to move and settle within the same city, and the city and the route is safe,the father has right to the child than the mother, regardless of whether the one who is moving is the father or the mother.

4 – If both parents want to travel to the same place, then the mother should retain custody.

5 – If the place is nearby so that the father and child may see one another every day, then the mother should retain custody.

When the child reaches the age of independence, the period of custody comes to an end, and the period of kafaalah or sponsorship of the young begins, which lasts until the child reaches adolescence or in the case of a girls, starts her periods. Then the period of sponsorship ends and the child is free to make his own choices.

Women’s rights to sponsor children. It appears from the comments of the fuqaha’ that women have the right to sponsor children in general, and that mothers and grandmothers in particular have this right. But the scholars differed as to who has more right to sponsorship if the parents are in dispute and are both qualified to sponsor the child. The Maalikis and Zaahiris think that the mother has more right to sponsorship of the child, whether it is a boy or a girl. The Hanbalis think that boys should be given a choice, but the father has more right in the case of a girl. The Hanafis think that the father has more right in the case of a boy and the mother has more right in the case of a girl. Perhaps the correct view is that the child should be given a choice if the parents are disputing and they both fulfil the conditions for sponsorship.

*Being The Report on Namusorg Ibadan Get-Together-*

_The Venue was the Agodi Gardens,Parliament Road and the date was 19th DhulHijja,1438.(10th of September,2017.)_


*The First salvo*

Despite an arrival as early as 7:30am at the venue, I was barred from having access into the facility to set up our post and prepare for the arrivals of other members.

The reason was that the Garden was being used for a movie location and it can only be open to us by 12noon.

This was considered a major setback to the plan.

*A Pandorax Box*

Though I had stationed a brother at the venue while I tried to move all other needed items to the location, it was really a blessing that the programme started late.

It offered us a lifeline to complete all vital assignments. This took us nearly close to the 12noon mark.

_*The Early Birds and High hopes*_

A sister _Mamamama_,who was a member hitherto unknown, was the first to arrive shortly after 10am.

This was to be followed soon by a brother, _Ademony_ who came all the way from Ife.

These two being the first arrivals gave a rather premature hope of a bustling presences to be witnessed.


*Commencement of Programme.*


The Programme which was anchored by bro Abdulwaheed Araoye commenced about 12:35pm. He gave the opening admonitions which was later followed by recitation from the Glorious Quran by two of the children present. They recited from verse 142- 149 of Suratul Baqarah.

4 brothers and 3 sisters were present at commencement.

*The Sessions*

The first session witnessed the Ameer gave his opening address and a presentation on Namusorg; its emergence, Missions and Visions, Goals, the various platforms and the challenges being faced.

Bro Sharafadeen Olayiwola( Passingshot) made contributuons on the role of Msms.

This was followed by an interactive session

Members commended the organization. However much comments centred on MSMS.

Issues raised include:

1) The MSMS form should be abridged

2) The matching process should be less cumbersome.

3) Provisions should be made to also cater for special cases like divorcee and those interested in plural marriages.

*The Beautiful Admonition*
The Lecture and the Q&A was the high point of the event.

Bro Abdulwaheed Araoye's description of the _Garden of Bliss'_, after the observance of Salat Dhur was so motivating and people were literally forced to stop coming forth with questions and comments after about 3 hours of discussion which witnessed us praying Asr midway into it.

*Refreshments*

Fruit Salad was served soon as members arrived.

During the cause of the Lecture, snacks were served and ,at this time, we had had more members and three guests arrived.

Cake, chinchin, Eggrolls(30pcs) and Fish rolls(36pcs)were prepared to cater for the estimated 30(or slightly more) attendees.

*The Newbies*

The guests took turns to ask for details about Namuorg which they applauded and thereafter asked to be accepted as members.


*Relaxation time*

All males participated in the football match while the kids served as ball-boys.

The females used the opportunity to have some private chats amongst them

All members,along with the kids, proceeded to zoological gardens.

This took us close to the time for Salat Magrib when members departed in teams.

*Attendance*

A total number of 10 brothers and sisters were in attendance.

11 kids were also around to add colours and fanfare.

*Challenges and Recommendations*

1) It was pretty hard for one executive member to shoulder the responsibilities of setting-up a venue that needed everything to be made functional. It may be considered to have more than one Executive member, preferably males, in Ibadan .

2) The choice of a Sunday was perfect. Future considerations should be given,however, to Namusorg asking for a waiver to access the venue earlier than opening hours to the public.

3) The programme needs better financing. Provisions should be made for tents in the event of an unfriendly weather.

4) Though the venue was serene till about 4pm, it became rowdy towards dawn. Special attention should be given to securing parts of the Garden that are not prone to obscenity.

*Finances*

Venue's Access Fee:17,500
Drinks and Ice block: 4,100
Fruits Salad(36packs) 3,250-
Snacks-11,500
Serving packs,serviettes, tooth picks- 1,800
Football-850

Total- N43,050

*Conclusion*

The Namusorg Get together offers a great opportunity to other users of the Garden a unique narrative that Islam is an all encompassing way of life as many Muslims and non-Muslims alike shared the events with us.

We ask Allah for, forgiveness and ultimate reward of His pleasure just as we pray for growth for Namusorg.

JazaakumuLlah khayran.

*THE LAGOS MEET&GREET (HOW IT WENT DOWN)*

Sunday, 19th DhH 1438/ 10th September 2017.

�The event was slated to start at 10:00am, but due to issues beyond us, we started at around 12:10pm as a reasonable amount of members were already seated at this time.

�We started with the famed Khutbah al-Haajah, the members already on ground gave a brief introduction of themselves and Bro. Bluedome gave a beautifully recitation from the Quran.

�Bro. Olatuson came on stage, gave a detailed history of the organization, from its days at the Nairaland Islam section, its Mission and Vision, the Executives (those on ground were introduced), the Shoorah, the change of name from Nairaland to Nafih, achievements, ongoing tasks, challenges thus far and Umm Amina rendered same as regards the MSMS.

�Our respected hosts, eNarrate.com also gave us a summary of what they're all about and most of the members downloaded the app there and then.... At this point Salatul Dhurr had set in, we took the necessary break and observed the salah.

�On resumption, suggestions and recommendations on the Website, MSMS and all the pre-discussed matters came up. The website was projected for all to see so as to make informed suggestions and some of what was suggested goes thus;

*a) Website*
- Not attractive enough,
- The articles should be seen immediately you log on to it,
- Mails not delivered or not been responded to early enough,
- Latest events should be the topmost gist,
- The dot com domain name; suggestion have it that it should be a dot org since it's an organization,
- The brother managing the webpage and social media accounts was commended for a job well done so far,

b) Namusorg should try collaborate with other Muslim organizations who share the same values and beliefs.

c) MSMS should be improved on - the fact that we have MSMS and single brothers and sisters dominate the Lagos event is more like a clash.

d) More capable hands who're willing to give their best should be placed on the website and MSMS to achieve the desired results.

�First course refreshment was served prior to the salah break and while Q&A, suggestions, criticism and recommendations was ongoing, brothers and sisters were helping themselves to cake, chops and drinks.

�We tried ourselves at two fun games, each with its own peculiarity, pitching the brothers against the sisters, the men won the first one and unsurprisingly the women won the second.

�We had a brother gave us closing admonition on the dangers of show-off in acts of worship, vote of thanks was said, we ended the event with the expiation of assembly, observed Salatul Asr and goodbyes were said.

We had about 30 persons in attendance, with 18 being Namusorg members.

And Allah knows best.

Its here already, May we all have a cause to say Alhamdulilah Robil Alameen, come one, Come All

Very Serious Buyer!! 1.1m

Rules of Football in Childhood

1)The ball owner selects the players to play
2). The fat kid is always the no. 5 or keeper
3).The match can end abruptly if the ball owner gets angry or hurt
4). The best players are always selected first
5). You were allowed to change goal keeper when there is a penalty
6). If u play heavy shot the ball owner will warn you
7).Every tackle on the ball owner is a foul else, the game will end
. You can't substitute the owner of the ball
9).You will always go and call the owner of the ball in his house
How true are these

700

We have 4 days more to go! Please Signify your interest in attending.

Salaam Alaikum Waramotulah Wabarakatul, May Almighty Allah Grant all our heart desires, Just want to use this medium to remind us all of the impending meet and greet events, Come with your friends and Loved ones. we have less than 12 days more to it. Come one, Come all

Salaam Alaikum waramotulai wabarakatuh

Please Signify your interest in attending the Meet and greet! We have just 12 days left

May Almighty Allah Continue to guide our steps in the way of the Ummah

Sissie:
As Salam Alaykum Warahmotullahi Wa barakaatuh

We have always organized RAMADAN IFTAAR in the past few years, Unfortunately this year it was not organized due to logistical problems.

In place of the RAMADAN IFTAAR PROGRAMME we bring to you EID GET TOGETHER

Are you in Lagos or Ibadan?
Do you want to share a beautiful moment with your brothers and Sisters in NAMUSORG?
Do you want to meet all the interesting members on this forum ? �����

If yes?
NAMUSORG ( Nafih Muslim Organization) brings to you after Sallah Get-together with special packages like
Meet and greet
Games
Admonitions
Nasheed
and so much more.........

Save the date:
19 Dhu Al-Hijjah 1438

September 10, 2017

Lagos Venue : 50 Johnson Street Off Bode Thomas Surulere

Ibadan Venue : Agodi Garden Oluyole

Please Signify Your Interest In Attending in the thread below
https://www.nairaland.com/4002267/nafih-muslim-organization-nairaland-muslims

Ma sha Allaah

Direction to the Lagos Venue:

50 Johnson Street, Bode Thomas Surulere Lagos

For Public Transportation, get a bus to Shitta roundabout Surulere, from there take Keke-Napep going to bode Thomas, Alight at Johnson Street, beside Yomi Casual Outlet, take a walk into the street and locate Women and Youth Muslim Center at No 50.

For Private Vehicle, get to Shitta Roundabout surulere and drive down Adeniran Ogunsanya, that's the road which occupies Shoprite and all, at the end of the road you get to the traffic light, and turn to your right ( turn on red ) drive straight down, you would witness another traffic light, that should keep you waiting ( don't beat the light, they are mufti police officers lurking around) then continue driving straight ahead but watch your left hand street signals, when you see Johnson just beside Yomi casuals outlet drive in and go down inside the street, just after another gate inside the close, there is the building beside the other gate.

For other route that doesn't need to come down to Shitta roundabout before linking;

From okoko, mile 2, orile coming down, drop at Doyin bus stop, walk into Doyin and take Keke napep going to bode Thomas / Adeniran ogunsanya, immediately the Keke turn into bode Thomas you request to be stopped at Johnson Street or Yomi casuals outlet. Walk into Johnson Street and look for No 50


From Ajah, VI, Lagos island:

Take a bus to Iponri, at the Total filling station look right and left for incoming bus then take a Usain Bolt speed across the road, take Keke Napep to Bode Thomas and alight at Johnson Street beside Yomi Casuals, and if you are an Okada person he can take you to bode Thomas too and alight at Johnson Street as well, but if you are taking a bike, the road is free and smooth so you should always be a tour guide to the okada man, May Almighty Allah Continue to guide our every steps.

Salam Alaikum waramotulai wabarakatuh

AhluSunnah:


just making you aware of islamic judgment on what you proposed

Thank you for your suggestion, May Allah forgive us all. Please do not derail

Empiree:
You had better include rilwayne001 and adelkabir

Brother, they need to signify themselves if they would be attending

Ibadan Venue

1. Penmight
2. Ybalogs
3. Passingshot
4. Abuklaw
5. Iamgenius

Lagos Venue

1. Balash
2. AgentXxx
3. Maclatunji

[quote author=AgentXxx post=59717033]Lagos... In shaAllah

Plus a brother though[/quote