₦airaland Forum

The next president will come from APC. He will not declare. He has not declared. He is antecedents are top notch. The president loves him. He will be revealed few weeks to the convention. His name is Tunde.

His Excellency Babatunde Raji Fashola is the next president of Nigeria. You heard it here first

If APC will look in the direction of SE… it will be Ben Akabueze and you can take that to the bank.

Undecided APC members are waiting for the convention to know where to pitch their tent. The reason is not far-fetched.

If the PDP settles for Abubakar Atiku, APC will throw their hands open and give their ticket to someone that can assure them a landslide in 2023, money bag for money bag, political structure for political structure, geopolitical appeal for geopolitical appeal.

We should not forget that APC is just 8 years old and what appealed to Nigerians in 2015 is not the same now.

The APC governors want one of them to be president in 2023 but unfortunately none of them have the Presidential appeal.

Nigerians want someone who has the intellectual nuances of Osinbajo, grassroots connection of fayose, human feeling of zulum and economic shrewdness of Peter obi all in one.

Pauline kedem Tallen from shendam local government Plateau State is going to be Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s running mate. She is currently the Minister of Women affairs. She is an old political horse from her their SDP days. You can take that to the bank.

First and Foremost, there is a need for you to understand that you can not keep anybody who doesn’t want to be kept.

I always advise new couples that once they get married, they should try as much as possible not to allow anybody ( family and friends) to live with them in the first year of their union to allow them bond well.

Op, what you can do is very simple;

No 1: Have a sit-down with her to understand the accumulated pain, bitterness, her fears and concerns.

No 2: Ask her for ways resolve these issues amicably.

No 3: From your explanations, you seem to love her more and seem to have invested so much in her progress. What you have not explained is what is making her suicidal, depressed from wanting to run away from you. Are you wicked with words said, do you emotionally abuse her, did you hurt her after her post- natal adjustments ? Etc. if yes, make a promise to turn a new leaf and follow up with action ASAP.

No 4: You both should seek professional help from a bonafide marriage counselor who can help you panel-beat your relationship. If there is any underlying issues around her mental health, they should be able to detect this as well.

No 5: Before you allow her to visit her parents , set up a meeting between both families-parents on her need for space. This is to allow for them to know that anything she does after the separation is her undoing.

No 6: Above all, commit your relationship to a higher spiritual plane to do what mere mortals like us can’t and bring a lasting solution to your marriage. It is well with you.

PS: In Nigeria, a major reason why marriages or relationship fail is because of groupthink or consensus of opinion by ladies especially. Once they table their guy’s fault in the comity of their friends, they cast their ‘votes’ and majority wins. That is why it is important to vet the kind of friends your husband or wife keeps during courtship because they are the original CEOs of their though process. If 80% of his/her friends are materialistic, cheaters or have failed marital relationship, sooner than later, you will also smell the coffee.

First and foremost, i think Mafab Comms did their homework well and hitting the home run became a cakewalk (no pun intended).

The question we should ask is who is behind Mafab Comms. Dr Musbahu Bashir. What are his antecedents?. He is not a greenhorn in telecoms business. In fact, he is a very shrewd business guru who is on the board of Jaiz Bank, an Oil export pre-shipment and inspection company amongst other businesses.

Throwing big money behind such a person is not a big deal. The good news is that Mafab Comms will open up a new vista of opportunities in the telecoms ecosystem. One thing i understand about private equity/investment is that before they support any big deal, they take a painstaking look at the CEO's leadership qualities, his integrity threshold, his hunger for success and most importantly his team (if they can deliver). Since it is a wholly Nigerian company ( i think), maybe we should wait and see what they have in store for us all.

PS: To get full insight into how telecoms auction works, i suggest you read Mallam Nasir El-Rufai's Accidental Public Servant where he gave a rich and deep insight into Privatization, Public Private Partnership (PPP), Telecoms Auctions, Infrastructure financing and Contracting etc.
In that book, he also mentioned that his older brother, who is a Telecoms Engineer worked in IT/Telecoms and was/is a big fish in that space.

First and foremost, i sympathize with you wife because she has a big problem in her hands and that is not the newborn. My mummy, my mummy, my mummy... Bros, you are a married man and that stark reality should sink deep into your head.

She is your wife and the mother of your kids for crying out loud. At your age, nobody should tell you that you should never beat your wife like you are playing video games. It is despicable,ungodly and terrible.

That is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. Your wife is in a vulnerable state and she will naturally decline lovemaking from a man that beats her with reckless abandon.

Just imagine your son-in-law beating your daughter. Not cool right? .

No.1: Set healthy boundaries and respectfully let your mom know that you are a "married man" and there is a limit to how she can control you without making it seem like your wife is putting words into mouth.
2. STOP BEATING YOUR WIFE AGAIN. You are not Sugar Shane Mosley. STOP IT PLEASE.
3. Communicate your needs with your wife and listen carefully to what she also needs (understand her love language(s))
4. You both should seek a marriage counselor/therapist urgently (not your mummy) to help you panel-beat your relationship .

PS: This is for the unmarried ladies out there...Don't always discuss your relationship/marriage especially when there is a problem with female friends but an elder who has been married and whose marriage is sweet. Be careful who you get married to. Don't be carried away by money alone. Don't just marry someone who is ready because time is going so you don't marry wrong. I understand that financial security is important but marrying someone who will help you fulfill your destiny/life goals is more important. Is he OK mentally/psychologically. Does he have bad habits?. Kindness, generosity, humility, selflessness, God loving attitude, how he treats his family, his close friends, his resourcefulness, how hardworking he is, his hunger to succeed within the ambit of what is legit, his life goals and ambitions, how he handles crisis, his drive to make you succeed in your career etc should be the things you should look out for because the superficial qualities you want while dating is miles apart from what you need when married.

Also listen to Mrs Ibukun Awosika's video titled "Don't marry a fool" on youtube for more clarity as per what i am saying.

Girl you really need to stop trying to mound him into what you want him to become. There comes a time in a man’s life when he is absolutely confused about what to do with his life especially in his 20s. You know his strengths and weaknesses. Support his ambition and pray for him. From what you have written, he seem like a good cool, calm and patient guy with a good heart. There is no perfect guy anywhere. Hypergamy isn’t bad but you can have a sit down and ask for his aspirations and from there work things out. If he is hardworking, smart, patient and humble please don’t discard him. Cheers

Good leadership traits also include being proactive, having High EQ, abundance mentality and the ability to galvanise his/her team to achieve a common goal.
More importantly, a good leader must never eat alone. He/She must learn to eat last.
If any member of his/her team is not doing great, he must ensure it is fixed because he/she is as strong as the weakest link.
He/She must be very innovative and always see the big picture. His/Her view must be panoramic.

nse ambassador.education in nigeria is a mess.someonr develops solar panel.he or she gets 10k.someone sings abt weed.he gets fendorsements ofrom an institution that is meant to promote education

now I know where tobi got all her beauty from.lsmc badore repping

There is no difference between a man that does not read and a man that cannot read. It has been said that an intelligent man is a blessing to any society.

Readers are Leaders: Reading develops the brain. Sapiosexuals would tell you that the brain is the sexiest “reproductive” organ. Marry a man that knows a lot about a lot of stuffs. Food, wine, literature, sport, politics, government, economy, health, music, movies, real estate, agriculture etc. Just about anything and everything. Marry a Google man. People like Yemi Osinbajo, Mark Zukerberg, Ufodike Aroma of WWTBAM fame, Jimi Disu, Fashola, Ali Baba, Dangote are alpha men because of their brain quality.

Men that read are mind Readers: You do not need a psychologist when you marry a man that reads. He can discern outcomes of results easily. They can discern fake from real. They are deep, psychic and mystic. Real recognizes real e.g. Awolowo, Tinubu and Mandela.
They are innovators: Readers are always trying to create new stuffs. Googling up stuff, reading business books, reading about the stock market, calculating, passionate about creating, discovering and building up businesses e.g. Jason Njoku, Simdul Shagaya, Ben Bruce, Elizade etc.

People barely understand them: They are contrarian. People see them as weirdoes. They are different in the things they do. They are stubbornly passionate about what they believe in. They are unique in their own way. As a result of their high/restless brain power, they may be tagged as eccentric. They may have weird dress sense, have a passion for weird hobbies and have a peculiar lifestyle. Steve Jobs, Awilo Logomba, Fela Kuti, Sanusi Lamido Sanusi, Vladmir Putin.

They know how to make and manage money: They usually know how to manage money. They are learners. Always finding new ways to solve problems. They seek value in most of what they do and understand that value begets money e.g. Pat Utomi, Pascal Dozie, Adedotun Suleiman etc.

They are hopeless romantics: They know how to make women drool. They are seekers of knowledge. They know all the best fun spots. They most likely would have read the latest edition of Kama sutra. They know the newest aphrodisiacs. They are organized and know how to become poets, singers and most especially “Iron Mike Tyson” in the bedroom.

So if you go to a guy’s house and you find no library or books. Do not go further. N.B Kindly forgive my typos.

How can you register a coy name with your gf when your not sure marriage is in the offing. What is wrong with you. Think with your head & not your heart. Stop spending too much on the babe. You need to recalibrate your emotional intelligence. You are not an Alpha male. The girl is too emotionally naive to understand what you are trying to build in the long run. Her mind is busy.very busy in another place. Give her space.Let her sort out her life.if you are still young,you can wait for 3~5 yrs for her.My only fear is Hbp fit don de knock at your door by then. Use your oil and gas brain.You are way smarter than this.

Dont call her,text for 1month.Don.t pick her calls.dont reply her msgs. while you are at it, have fun.dress well.eat well.visit fun places with friends. Hang out with female friends but dont date. I repeat dont date. Just enjoy your self.learn to laugh. be happy for yourself by yourself..Hit the gym and change your appearance. You strike me as a beta male. You must learn to become Alpha. having wads of cash does not make you alpha. You need to practise control. Dont kill yourself over a girl that is trying to figure out life. it is Obvious she aint ready for marriage.She even told you she doesnt want to serve in Lagos. The hand writing is on the wall but you have decided to remain blind. I know you have invested alot but remember not all investment yield dividend. If you are still young & can take cowdung, wait for her. If not, get yourself a highly sophisticated,beautiful,humble,intelligent and responsible lady. Bro, you work with an oil company,stop being crude.(no pun intended). You are the best so go for gold. YOLO

Bro I empathize with you. I know how you feel but truth be told you need to learn self restraint. Stop being needy. You dont need a girl to be happy. She is still in school & she is 23 so she is just exuberant. You need to practise no contact for at least a month.Dont

op you saw the hand writing on the wall but felt you stood a chance. Truth be told, you did not act like an alpha male. You were too available & needy. You can never force someone to love you. The fact is, the person that invests less in any relationship gains more. Women are like shadows, when you run away from them, they move towards you. Op, you have a car, a job, a crib and cash, but you are a beta male. You need to switch on .the No contact rule for a month. Reboot and start dating other beautiful women.Go OUT.not to the club but to book clubs, art exhibitions and the movies where you will meet high quality beautiful sapiosexual ladies. Op, you made a mistake by showing her too quickly that you can 'die' for her. Women are emotional beings.They act on impulse not logic. Op,leave the damsel, the fault is all yours.You allowed her to take advantage of you. Rule No.1: Act like you dont care

For me i think Olamide erred on the side of sanity while Don Jazzy erred on the side of maturity. The real winner of the Next rated award should have been Kiss daniel. Boy been dropping hits back to back, front and back. . Flownrom woju remix, to laye, to the one he did with Dj shabsy and sugar boy and good time. He has proven without any iota of doubt that he is a force to reckon with. The only challenge he has is no doubt Gwordwide ent. They need a good publicist to aggressively push their artists to visibility. Connect them to corporates through paul okoye (upfront and personal). I heard Good time and i though it was tuface with femi Kuti on the Sax. Madt tune. I think smart corporates should quickly sign this guy before he goes international

Why Lil Kesh did not win: In the music business, there is the is the emotional side and the business side. On the emotional side, he wowed everybody. Efejoku, Gbese and shoki remix. But on the business side, he was not good business. His songs were banned by NBC. This is not good for business. Corporates hate controversies and a new artiste should never court controversies especially with NBC. Two, most of his fans are on the street and they largely did not vote for him. With my information "savviness", i did not know the next rated was a voting category talkless of brother kamoru and Aunty falila in mushin and bariga who just want to dance (wonfejoku) to his songs and nothing more.Nothing "consine" them voting.

Lil Kesh: you need to start with fresh tunes this year. you are neither obesere or Terry G. you are lil kesh. Super talented. You are not even upcoming. You have blown. You need to stop lewd and vulgar words. You need to stop risque videos. You have been falling under the hammer of NBC. Learn from teckno. He did Duro, wash and panya with bracket. Hts upon hits. He even produced a song fro Ice prince. Hit noni.

Olamide: You need to apologize fast because of your brand identity. You are signed by some corporates. etisalat etc. they would not like what you are doing. for the sake of the only pure talent on your label, Adekunle Gold apologize to your fans and the headies. You also need to sign artiste that signs different genre of music to have a medley of sounds. Some perceive YBNL as too "toutish". You need to prove otherwise. You also need to work on your temper. it is important for a CEO to be calm and composed. It is not easy to be young and getting it but please for the sake of your young label, you need to chill out.

Don Jazzy: You will court a lot of enemies this year. People who feel that your own is too much. Even though SMB mavin crew are not too super talented, you have been able to manage them well. You really need to remain "humble". Maturity is very important even in the face of irrationality. I know you are trying to achieve cohesion with your team but they need to start working with other artists from other labels so that they do not get marginalized. You also need to work on Dija. She is a very humble, shy and homely person but in the music business you need to be a little showy. Now she should stop responding to tweets and instagram bullies about her bosom, neck and physicality. I rest my case

Ribadu made the biggest political mistake when he defected to PDP. The biggest loser in the last election was not GEJ but Ribadu. If Ribadu had stayed put in APC, he would have been the most trusted lieutenant of PMB because of his anti-corruption streak. He would have been the "prime-minister" and engine room of the Buhari school of spartan political movement. Infact, Buhari would even have been grooming him to take over in 2019 given the elder stateman"s age. He would have been looking at streamlining his political machinery with the help of JAGABAN to favour Ribadu if he wants to go the South African route ala MANDELA-MBEKI method. Don't forget everything would have favoured Ribadu. He is a muslim, fulani, young, sellable to the youth, passionate about Nigeria, hates corruption and comes from the same state with Atiku who will no doubt want to wrestle power if PMB decides to relinquish power to a much younger person. The only person that fits that bill now is El-rufai. Sometimes, when i think of Ribadu, i feel very pained because he was not well informed. His political advisers should get another job asap. Even the sagacious and highly educated El-rufai would not have been able to wrestle power from Ribadu if Baba buhari decides to relinquish power in 2019. The best thing Ribadu can do is to go back to APC and begin to see how he can remain relevant again bottom up but he should forget the presidency because he is a spent force. In Nigerian politics especially in APC, Loyalty is everything and he does not seem to have an ounce of that at the moment. I rest my case.

I got this from a friend: I met a young charming guy about 8months ago. We had two mind blowing dates (no sex) and I was swept off my feet literally. The guy is very intelligent,knows a lot about different stuffs, witty, funloving, kind, ambitious, truthful, love kids, very humble and a good dresser (GQ style). I got to know about his faith on bbm when he posted *Alhamdillilah*. I asked him and he confirmed he is a liberal spirit filled muslim.lol. There and then I knew friendship was the last bus.stop between us. I had to give in to an xtian guy that was also on my case but in all areas he cant hold a candle to the muslim guy's sun. I sent an sms to the muslim guy and explained why the r/ship will not work. Religious difference.. He asked for another date & he literally schooled me in bible knowledge & explained the unequally yoked meaning . I got to know he is a petroleum engineer ,(upstream), a poet and a professional chef. We maintained our friendship and he kept asking me for a relationship. He is very caring,matured(29) and family oriented.I was at his beautiful crib and saw his massive library.i have met his Sister (xtian), a doctor & she is very hospitable.He has made me a better person.in my faith (drives me to church),work, and finances. I have tried to make him jealous with my boyfriend on social media but he appears very calm but he has seem a bit withdrawn lately. he does not call anymore.I love him so much as I think of him everytime & cry at night.I have tested his love for me & he has passed 100% but my parents are strong xtians and they would disown me if they hear I am dating a muslim. He is from a dual religious home. His father, an educated Alhaji.mom xtian & they are yoruba.He says he wants to marry me & he would allow me practice my religion. I am from Akwaibom (26). what do I do.

I got this from a friend: I met a young charming guy about 8months ago. We had two mind blowing dates (no sex) and I was swept off my feet literally. The guy is very intelligent,knows a lot about different stuffs, witty, funloving, kind, ambitious, truthful, love kids, very humble and a good dresser (GQ style). I got to know about his faith on bbm when he posted *Alhamdillilah*. I asked him and he confirmed he is a liberal spirit filled muslim.lol. There and then I knew friendship was the last bus.stop between us. I had to give in to an xtian guy that was also on my case but in all areas he cant hold a candle to the muslim guy's sun. I sent an sms to the muslim guy and explained why the r/ship will not work. Religious difference.. He asked for another date & he literally schooled me in bible knowledge & explained the unequally yoked meaning . I got to know he is a petroleum engineer ,(upstream), a poet and a professional chef. We maintained our friendship and he kept asking me for a relationship. He is very caring,matured(29) and family oriented.I was at his beautiful crib and saw his massive library.i have met his Sister (xtian), a doctor & she is very hospitable.He has made me a better person.in my faith (drives me to church),work, and finances. I have tried to make him jealous with my boyfriend on social media but he appears very calm but he has seem a bit withdrawn lately. he does not call anymore.I love him so much as I think of him everytime & cry at night.I have tested his love for me & he has passed 100% but my parents are strong xtians and they would disown me if they hear I am dating a muslim. He is from a dual religious home. His father, an educated Alhaji.mom xtian & they are yoruba.He says he wants to marry me & he would allow me practice my religion. I am from Akwaibom (26). what do I do.

A LOT HAS BEEN SAID ABOUT THE MINISTERS IN GOODLUCK JONATHAN'S GOVERNMENT. SOME HAVE SAID SOME MINISTERS DESERVE MORE THAN JUST PRESIDING OVER A MINISTRY BUT MAYBE GOVERNING A STATE BECAUSE OF THEIR ADMINISTRATIVE ACUMEN. WHO DO YOU THINK IS THE BEST PERFORMING MINISTER IN GEJ'S CABINET AND WHY.