₦airaland Forum

banni:
In short ,senate make you hear your people !

banni:
In short ,senate make you hear your people !

4 Play:
This will prompt an uprising from women that will make the Aba women's riot look like child's play

Make police hold them oooo

You want the God fearing people of Nairaland to advise you on adultery

Bawss1:
Its high time the Senate moves a bill to outlaw extravagant weddings!

_{The thought of a talk-of-the-town weddings scares me royally}

In short ,senate make you hear your people !

well actually if its under 1 week maybe a lovely hotel with plenty of room service will be nice too.

35 and 23 is nothing.When you see 65 year old carrying 20 year old for nigeria that na problem

ashaby:
What an interesting topic! a timely one too.
I was telling my friends recently that my wedding reception will be within the range of 50-100. They have dared me and ive taken up the challenge. Y waste all your effort on just a day's events. Some even go as far as taking loans! imagine.
As for me elaborate, big, gigantic or society weddings (or whatever it is called) is a no-no. I hope i get a man who can reason along with me!

My dear,finding man who agree with this no hard.Even men who like to pose  go jump if you say this.Finding the woman is the issue

This is why you go check before you open leg.
Women need to worry espically in Nigeria.Man who no trust the child is his does not even need permission like abroad but can take the child sample and sent it off for test.

you dey nairaland which get plenty nice ,educated and enlightened men and you still dey follow this rubbish thing?
Come on dump him !

Ghana

CS is not suppose to be an option in delivery unless there is a need for it.
It amazes me people now consider it as an option when they can have a vaginal delivery

just marry him.

bablawo@yahoo.com go sort am.
No laugh na modern age even jujuman get email.

Real Man:
I overheard some one complaining that he is not scared of how much he will spend in his wedding.Even if it is to take him two million naira. He is ready for that.

The only problem , according to him, is that he does not have friends that can come for the wedding. He said that he is so scared of being short of guests on that day because he does not know anybody and a kind of introvert.

DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT PEOPLE


what do you all think about this?

That na story.If you organise huge wedding people go appear like magnet.He just want talk.You never see wedding where they invite 200 people and 2k show up.This na nigerian wedding ,if you book venue for 5k e go full.That is why people who want small wedding dey use small venue .

nwando:
definitely not in Igboland.
TUFIAKWA that a woman and her family should pay to have their daughters married.
Thank God for some smart ancestors
In our culture,the man pays for everything.
From the time he sees the girl and says nne how now,he starts paying
from iku aka (knocking on the door)
to ibu mmanya ( wine carrying)
To uno uka (Church)
na im money
the girls parents are just special guests at the wedding
na them born the pretty bride,that's enough contribution already.

so girls if the man is doing shakara and no want pay,head towards Okija area

Na wa ,thank god for rest of Nigeria! No be by force.

A good definition of love is good communication,joy been near the person,sacrifice and i no mean goat oo(comprimise,acceptance,going out of their ways to please even if it steps on your beliefs)
Sadly,word love is used anyhow.Good sex = love for many and they run into problems when married.

@pretty .Again a good point.He/she who wants the big do should be ready to pay for it even if just for the principle of it.
We are all equals man and woman .So if you want something lavished then maybe that person should pull out the wallet.
Once in a lifetime event(and lets face it with 50% ending in break up it might not be) does not mean you should now break your bank or bang drums for the whole town to hear.
There is plenty of responsibilities after the wedding to think of and maybe that is where the families should focus their attention.

I am a man.But why would a man want to speak from his pocket since he is not paying for most of it usually?
Usually he has to spent on the introduction and carries less of the burden money wise at traditional and way less for the reception .
If i recall right he pays for the licence and a few things only.
I would think a man would speak from his views  and heart on this.
This might be why you rarely hear complaints .Women usually opt for a big day and the man goes with it simply because its not his side running the money like water and he just stands and smiles away!
A woman i would understand if she does not want a big wedding  as it is indeed expensive if we are talking about money only.

Its better to know and then deal with it and forget.Past is past .
At least that way there be no shocker in the future !

This one is hard and heartbreaking.
You are a good woman who really loves him for him and is not bothered much that he has no money or anything.This makes you a very prized gem to keep.
And the reason he moved out and asked you to get on with your life is he is depressed and feels he is not worthy of you.
Try and talk to the family again and see if this can be resolved.
Both of you seems like good people and this is just a sad sad thing to happen

Ha ba maybe nah the woman who no want big band perform
But then again how often is it that a man is bothered to have a big ceremony?Another intresting topic

In Nigeria an unwed woman is looked upon badly .
That is just the culture.

Like jkpretty said its not always about the money.
Sometimes it might just be what one person views as an acceptable way of marrying without 500-3000 people running all over the place with loud music that makes it look like a musical festival rather then a wedding.
When you consider that in Nigeria we have our own wedding and adopted the english way of marrying it is actually a longer ,larger and yes more expensive venture.
But like jkpretty also said most times due to the culture we live in ,the person who wants a small wedding almost always loses out and accept it even if he/she does not wish it , to satisfy the other person who too might be under pressure to start with.

There is no right age .
However I read somewhere that in Europe its 28 for women and 30 for men as the average(this does not imply this is what works for everyone).

How Do You Agree On Views Of Weddings?

Ok how important do you think it is to compromise when it comes to weddings?

Someone wants a big ceremony, another wants a simple one.

Where is the meeting point and do you think its possible to reach a compromise?

This is becoming more common now in Nigeria as much as it is in abroad.