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CrimeRe: Nigerian Prostitute Dies After Her Madam Pushed Her Off 6th Floor In Dubai by BarrElChapo(m): 10:55pm On Jun 09, 2022
Ifeanyi4491:
Ije dị na ogwu
Ego oburo ije
Foreign AffairsRe: Active Shooter At Smithsburg, Maryland. Multiple Persons Killed, Suspect Injured by BarrElChapo(m): 10:07pm On Jun 09, 2022
America has turned to Anambra State huh
RomanceRe: Guys, Have You Ever Been Asked Out By A Female? by BarrElChapo(m): 6:30pm On Jun 09, 2022
Kingjaydenthril:
I was asked out by this sweet 42yr old German lady...omo the rest is history we are still together ❤️..
You don finally get the kpali ?
RomanceRe: Guys, Have You Ever Been Asked Out By A Female? by BarrElChapo(m): 6:29pm On Jun 09, 2022
abobote:
Bruh, I de reasonam at times, but e no easy
grin I understand
RomanceRe: Guys, Have You Ever Been Asked Out By A Female? by BarrElChapo(m): 6:19pm On Jun 09, 2022
abobote:
Yes, about 5 or 6times even as I no handsome sef.
The first girl held me on a lonely road and kiss me. Then I was 20 and she was older. I like her as much, and the relationship lasted.

The second one was my neighbor in a rented apartment, I don't like her, but we became sex mate. Then, she starts getting jealous about how my girlfriends visit me, I stopped the sex with her.

Third one was in my office, I codedly rejected her, coz I was broke when I got the work and wanted to build my future from there, so no room for distraction.

Fourth and fifth I turned them down coz I don't like them.

Even as a married man now with kids, one single mother is still disturbing, calling me every night.
Not that I'm faithful to my marriage, but she's fat. I don't like fat girls
Bros try dey pity that your wife
PoliticsRe: Reno Omokri: I Campaigned For Tinubu Because Osinbajo Is Harder To Defeat by BarrElChapo(m): 2:23pm On Jun 08, 2022
Between FFK & Reno Omokri who is worse angry
PoliticsRe: Prof. Yemi Osibanjo Welcomed To The Podium With Applause (Video) by BarrElChapo(m): 12:29am On Jun 08, 2022
Report for none of them grin grin

Chijeep:
Like for TINUBU share for OSIBANJO
PoliticsRe: Anambra: I Don't Believe You - Soludo Reacts To Fr. Ebube Muonso's Prophecy by BarrElChapo(m): 10:43pm On Jun 07, 2022
Well said Gov. Leave that clown to keep talking
Christianity EtcRe: Pastor Adeboye Reacts To Owo Massacre by BarrElChapo(m): 4:36pm On Jun 07, 2022
Utanisco:
Pastor stop giving us soft reaction

Tell us to carry guns as Christians
Tell us to carry matchets as Christians
Tell us to kill them all in retaliation

The violent take it by force

This s the right time pastor

Stop being soft
Jesus Christ wasn't soft in the temple
But he was soft from garden of gesthemane to the cross given its time we stand up and fight for ourselves this comparisons doesn't follow.
BusinessRe: TLK Voucher: Ademola Ajibola Creates Own ‘Currency’ In Ijara-Isin, Kwara State by BarrElChapo(m): 9:36am On Jun 06, 2022
SensualMan:
Little girl lemme school you, Lagos was once the capital of Nigeria until Yorubas invaded the land, polluted it and made a mess of it. It angered IBB and out of frustration he relocated the capital of Nigeria to Abuja.
God bless Buba Marwa, Father of modern day Lagos who cleaned up the city, attracted and invited his igbo billionaire friends to invest in the dilapidated state. To God be the glory, Lagos is what it is today all thanks to General Buba Marwa and the Igbos. When ur god of yoruba land is disgraced today, wait for us in 2027
We are coming for Lagos state governorship to take it back. Tinubu won't be there to save you people.
You know what you're talking about.

Tinubu that actually took Lagos backwards to thuggery is being celebrated lmao.
BusinessRe: TLK Voucher: Ademola Ajibola Creates Own ‘Currency’ In Ijara-Isin, Kwara State by BarrElChapo(m): 9:33am On Jun 06, 2022
Brushstrokes20:
Good thinking, GOOD PRODUCT
# thinking OUT OF THE BOX
# man wey sabi

..... Unlike the bunch of USELESS, brainless, self serving RULERS parading themselves as Nig leaders undecided
Yoish Kan Yoish kan nai grin 'loosely translated'
BusinessRe: TLK Voucher: Ademola Ajibola Creates Own ‘Currency’ In Ijara-Isin, Kwara State by BarrElChapo(m): 9:05am On Jun 06, 2022
Nice, this is good thinking.

King went to America saw how it works and brought it back home but our politicians will go there but continue to revel in their wickedness once back.
PoliticsRe: APC Presidential Ticket: 17 Govs Stand Behind Buhari On Preferred Aspirant by BarrElChapo(m): 4:05pm On Jun 03, 2022
can't wait grin
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 12:07pm On Jun 03, 2022
Chibudollar:
nahh, the joy is to watch breaking bad first, that is the right order
But better call Saul is the "prequel" to breaking bad. Breaking bad t evolves from the story in BCS.
Christianity EtcRe: Church Member Becomes Mentally Deranged After Burning Her Village Shrine by BarrElChapo(m): 10:02pm On Jun 02, 2022
RoyalDiadems:
You're right, but then the issue of legal grounds and legal authority comes into play. If she has not yet settled both issues before undertaking the task, then anything can happen.
Very very true esp the authority part.
Christianity EtcRe: Church Member Becomes Mentally Deranged After Burning Her Village Shrine by BarrElChapo(m): 9:46pm On Jun 02, 2022
RoyalDiadems:
I don't think it's a matter of capacity. If God did not send you on an errand and you go presumptuously to execute it, you won't have His backing. You're actually on your own.

That's the Hallmark of foolishness.
I understand but that's what she did isn't entirely to be condemned.

See it from the point of her wanting to liberate herself and clan from the shackles of idolatry.
RomanceRe: How Do I Control My Girlfriend Sharp Mouth by BarrElChapo(m): 1:05pm On Jun 02, 2022
Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.
That's her weakness, you either stay and consciously work her or you focus on her strengths.
Christianity EtcRe: Church Member Becomes Mentally Deranged After Burning Her Village Shrine by BarrElChapo(m): 12:59pm On Jun 02, 2022
She hadn't built up capacity for the battle she undertook. May God show her mercy whether now or hereafter.
RomanceRe: Please Help! Should I Attend The Wedding Or Not? by BarrElChapo(m): 12:58pm On Jun 02, 2022
Kollins11:
Even if I had nothing doing on that day, I would rather cook half bag of beans, one by one with candle flames.
grin grin or go to a nearby river and try to empty it with a cup
SportsRe: Liz Cambage Denies Racially Insulting Nigerian Players During Pre-Olympic Match. by BarrElChapo(m): 1:13pm On May 31, 2022
Smh
PoliticsRe: Peter Obi Wins Labour Party Presidential Primary As Pat Utomi Steps Down by BarrElChapo(m): 2:05pm On May 30, 2022
grin grin
CelebritiesRe: Sabinus Sues Peak Milk, UAC Gala For N1.1B Over 'Something Hooge’, Cartoon Image by BarrElChapo(m): 1:27pm On May 30, 2022
This kind brief dey sweet smiley
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 4:29pm On May 29, 2022
OneKinGuy:
Yes
https://pahe.li/you-season-1-complete-web-hd-720p/
Thanks a million bro. You're the best !
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 2:24am On May 29, 2022
nani667:
Time to finish this ⬇️⬇️⬇️
What site is this bro ? I'm looking for YOU seasons 1-3 don't know if it's on it. Thanks
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 2:17am On May 29, 2022
OneKinGuy:
Stranger things Season 4 part 1
https://mega.nz/folder/VfkXFYQK#74PWUzH34YERa46XmSkYUQ
Pls is the series YOU on this site ?
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 2:12am On May 29, 2022
Guys pls where can I download the season movie YOU at least 480 or 720p. I can't find it on tfpdl or todaystvseries.com which are my go to for movies. Anyone can help me thanks.
TV/MoviesRe: What Series Are You Watching Now? Part 2 by BarrElChapo(m): 2:10am On May 29, 2022
Gidah:
If you like breaking bad it would really interest you in watching better call saul it would make you appreciate the genius or Vince Gilligan and Peter Gould.it tells all the story before Walter white start cooking and how Jimmy become saul
My is joy is that I watched BCS first, about to begin BB.
PoliticsRe: Bashir Ahmad Loses Gaya/Ajingi/Albasu APC House Of Reps Primary by BarrElChapo(m): 3:29am On May 28, 2022
grin grin grin Tasty !
PoliticsRe: Pictures Of Tinubu In Akure by BarrElChapo(m): 2:36pm On May 27, 2022
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RomanceRe: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by BarrElChapo(m): 2:24pm On May 27, 2022
NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.

The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.

So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.

I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.

So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.

We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.

Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.
Go make peace with your God and wife for you're neck deep in adultery and it may ruin all this "perfect double life" you've been living soon.

Don't you even have a male friend even one that can tell you the hard truth ?
PoliticsRe: Obi, Ekweremadu, Abaribe Withdraw From Presidential, Governorship Race by BarrElChapo(m): 7:59am On May 26, 2022
Foreigna2:
The South East PDP is fool of cowards and politically dumb leaders.
Say what you will about Rochas, he will never pull out.
Can Rochas win in any election apart from his local government in imo state ?
Try critical thinking skills.
PoliticsRe: Abba Kyari Escapes Murder In Prison, Considered For SSS Custody by BarrElChapo(m): 7:54am On May 26, 2022
Marabouts grin just seeing that made me believe this article grin

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