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do you guys really believe sex ed counselors teach people how pleasurable sex is? really do you guys think so.

[quote author=Missy ♥ B link=topic=532017.msg6949269#msg6949269 date=1287182793]Like I always say, each parent has his/her [explicitly or implicitly] defined roles.
It's general awareness that when it comes to intimate issues like this, especially with female kids, the mother does the observation and teaching.
She can later discuss it with father, in private.
Mothers teach female kids how to handle menstrual cycle, ignore sexual advances made at them, etcetera.
Hardly does a father do these things, when there's a mother.
Kids just tend to be more 'open' and 'free' with mothers. That's how it is.
'Include' is the word. Sex education includes those aspects and more.
It's a very delicate subject, not everyone can teach it, as it should be taught- The reason I opine it's best taught [first] at home.
There's no need refusing to talk to the child about sex pleasure. Every area must be touched- The pleasure, the pain, the inevitable urge, the possibility of overcoming that urge etc.
It's only understandable that I fear, having my kid learn about sex [esp. the pleasure part] from just any person [how am i sure he/she isn't passing the wrong info across, or presenting the issue in a wrong manner, like making fun out of it] and in the midst of young minds, ready to try out everything.
I, as a mother, have to lay the foundation first. It's my responsibility.
Nor I.[/quote]assigning the role of sex ed teacher to the mum alone doesn't make sense. this only encourages the tendencies for fathers to be absent from their kids life except financial. let me guess, are you the one who would teach your son about wet dreams, morning wood, wearing a condom? both parents should share both roles regardless of the gender of the child.

Kids just tend to be more 'open' and 'free' with mothers. That's how it is.

thanks to the expectation that men should be stone cold overlords when it comes to their kids. a behavior which you are indirectly encouraging. i do agree parents should teach their kids about sex first but there is nothing wrong with them learning more about it in school. sex is part of our nature (well besides the asexual ones among us) and learning about it shouldn't be considered taboo or restricted to mothers.

i wonder who you think should orphans about sex education.

I, as a mother, have to lay the foundation first. It's my responsibility.

again absolving the father of responsibility. no it's our responsibility, father and mother. we all know what happens to women with "daddy" issues so lets just say a foundation built by the mum alone is a pretty fragile one.

Dolemite:
In NIGERIA? AFRICA? I personally don't care but damn.

homos don't exist in nigeria abi?

big deal, i see nothing wrong if they are both gay or kissing. grown men doing their thing.

it's not as if they invited us to join right?

sagamite - leave our "young" women alone o.

kai fine girl like this. why is she ingesting illegal substances.

don't we do local drug testing before sending these people to international competition. we could have easily avoided embarrassment like this.

I think sex education should be done by mothers [at least, it should start from home] not school.
It's risky having your child learn from school or peer group, for fear of misinformation.
I can't trust my child with any other person, on that subject.

let me guess, it's wrong for a father to teach his children sex education?  what happened to our child?
what if i was a single father. should the children be taught by an aunt?

nothing wrong with sex education in schools as long as they are thought the pros and cons of having sex.  sex education courses typically include lectures on how how to effectively wear a condom, what diseases condoms protect and can't protect again, curable and incurable std's etc. sex education isn't thought with a kama sutra handbook nor does it encourage people to have sex.  

studies have shown participants in abstinence only programs have similar sexual activity rates to participants in comprehensive sex education programs.

oh oh wahala dey

dayokanu:
One 17yr old NL girl who just got to school in South carolina complained too that the Black girls in her school were always quick to attack her condescendingly as being lower than them.

Before she had the guts to stand up to them

well you guys do have a point

Kobojunkie:
Drink Garri and Be Healthy?? ROFLMAO!!!!!

that's a kwashiorkorlate diet.

Jakumo: Black migrants (many, but not majority) have too much false pride. They don't care to live 10 deep, They see and want, They aim to please rather than to achieve. Asians ban together and plan long term. Blacks live for the moment and cannot resist the "crab-inna-barrel" mentality. They abandon their culture and adopt the negative sterotypes of the US black natives.

this is a strangel comment from you considering your critic of the crab-in-a barrel rhetoric.

is this a slick comment to bash african americans?

dayokanu:
I get too much adrenaline today

I wan fight person.

Abeg make una open thread for us.

Abeg in case you see anyone wey wan fight, Tell me, Cos my power dey intoxicate me

go to the arsenal thread. that's where all your rivals are

kabukabu, explain that handbag abeg 

jay bee:
hmmmmmmmmm

abi o. this is entertainment

oh lord, such hostility

tpiah:

you are a moderator in religion section and post there frequently even though you dont believe in God. Has anyone called you out on that?

how's that a big deal?

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lmao at the do not touch sign.

he is from west virginia right

i don't expect much better from hillbillies. carry go

stillwater:
We are talking about curves.
She's not ugly.

yeah she doesn't have much of those

Eddy vs Kenny St Brown
Recall I told you sometime ago about the break up between Ex-Remedy member, Eddy Montana and Gospel crooner, Kenny St Brown? Well, the lady accused her estranged husband of wife battery, adultery, etc, well Eddie replied her this week by granting interviews with most soft sell mags in Naija, this man talked too much about the whole drama, here's a little of the things he had to say about his wife and why his marriage packed up

Do you see any hope of a reconciliation? Eddy "Hardly! I will always love Kenny but I don't think that as a right thinking person, I should mend fences with her. Any woman that would pack out of her home that has two kids and she professes to be a christian, is not a wife or a mothers. She never wanted to build a family with me, she carried an Ogungbe passport in my house for 3yrs. It took my stubbornness to make her change her name from Ogungbe to Brown. Her family married her off because she was getting old but she wasn't proud of me or the Brown name"

They allege you beat her often
Eddy "That's a brand new lie. I never beat her."
Why did you two quarrel often?
Eddy "It was all due to her infidelity, she was very unfaithful. Are you aware that she dated D1?, Kingsley Ike, and one Bayo at Ajao Estate, long explanation, let's cut it short"

Whats Kenny's relationship with Essence(R&B singer)
Eddy "I started getting uncomfortable with her relationship with my wife after I walked in to find both of them in the bathroom naked, This is a woman who doesn't like me to see her unclothedness. What were they doing?"

They also accused you of infidelity
Eddy "Yes, I'm a man, which man would not look for pleasure outside when he's denied it at home? My wife denied me of sex for 8 months. She only came to me for sex when she needed it. That was to have kids."

They said you made your house help pregnant? Eddy "That's not true. My wife and I found out who impregnated the girl"

What's your relationship with Keke Ogungbe
"Keke has never liked me. When I married his sister in 2000, he gave me N25, 000 as a wedding present, and he didn't contribute a dime to my wedding, neither did he come for my children's naming" bla bla bla

ha ha, hilarious interview. did this dude just complain about his wedding present?

are you trying to say angie isn't fine?

semid4lyfe:
Eddie is a fukking crack addict and a chronic womaniser.

KSB should never have married him in the first place and she'll be making a big mastake if she accepts him back.

yeah KSB should just move on

we are talking about a rescue and you nuts are talking about some freemason secret society BS?

they should be made to watch lagos na wa

who knows, she might have lived a tough life.

the commonwealth isn't an age-grade competition though.

houseboy derrick? see disrespect.  well this season would settle the top PG debate once and for all. 

i see AI wants to make that marbury money. he should have gone to china where they love watching tall black men dunkon short asian men. Eurobasketball is lucrative and tax free too though.

jesoul don marry?  couldn't we get an evite or something.   were you scared NL'ers would start fight at the wedding  .

rikkyjen:
Yep, i attended Chrisland pry school Ikeja(Estate) 60 moons ago. . . 

Chrisland Opebi sucks ballz, man . I can scream this while standing on a Humvee in Fallujah (without wearing a Kevlar for that matter)

Man, do i know you?  . . .  Yepa, who dem dey follow me. . .or is u wiretapping my internet. heheheh

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you stole chic2pimp's girlfriend back then.   revenge is never too late 

Deion Branch welcome back into town. Hopefully you still have some mojo left from your SBs here.

ha ha and betty white is a playboy covergirl

in 4-5 games time. the bears should be leading the division by at least two games. in cardiac cutler we trust

his public outburst are undesirable.

considering his lifestyle and celebrity, it probably suits him to remain single.

i don't know about popping out babies though. baby mama drama

cute couple

monkeyleg:
We need strong leadership, all this rubbish pussyfooting gets us nowhere. In this case it looks like the government doesnt know what to do. Clueless as usual

what would the government do considering our non existent police force and witchhunting security services?