apache77:
This gon’ be quite lengthy

I have been in America, 5months plus 0now. I came on a Visa- B1/B2, but I came particularly to establish residency here. I am still within my i94- meaning, I have not overstayed yet, I am still legal and considering whether I should remain and forge ahead or go back before I fall out of status. Once I do- in next 30days, there’s no turning back.

Now, like I said, I wanted to establish residency here- the marriage route- probably fall in love, marry, get my green card, citizenship and enjoy the American dream, but now, am not too sure again. Life here is tough mehn, and atimes, I keep wondering if I should not just go back to Nigeria, and I am really tempted to pack it all up and go back.

America is not easy, at all, damn. It is one of the most difficult places to live. But at the risk of making it look like this is a hell hole, lemme quickly say that it is not that bad.

I started driving 10days after I got here- I bought a car (car no cost for this land, with $1000 I got a reasonable at the Auction) and go about where ever I want- I have never had cause to enter a bus or even train in this land.

Even before I bought a car, my friend used to come take me anywhere I wanted, once he was off work. I have a license too and where I stay, within the city, I sublet a room for $500 a month, in a 3bedroom apartment with one or two other guys I knew from home. Nothing fancy, just okay.

I still manage to TurnUp at the club (Naija or Akata Club) every Friday and can at least afford rail drinks for $10 or so- patron marguaritas, Tequilla, and draft beers for $5. At all at all na hin bad pass. I manage to take girls out for outings too where I can afford to buy them Quesadillas fajitas, crab cakes for $25 or $30 and run a tab upto like $60 or $70. Once in awhile. that is.

I got a minimum wage job at $9 an hour, 40hour week when I came but after two months, I couldn’t stand it and changed jobs. I was getting about $72, tax free but gave them notice of termination, a month ago- I was tired of their crummy job (lol). They knew I was working without authorization, through an agent and were probably thinking- where’s he gon go?’

But I did and at my new job now I earn double that and started a 2nd job last week where I earn similar pay. If I keep at it, am prolyl netting $300 a day or say about $5,000 a month (working from 10am to 12midninght, both jobs). Though I don’t have a wife or kids, I don’t know if this is the life I want at 36.

My friends have told me to hang in there, America is not easy when you first come, but things will improve. But when? With this clock in, clock out? I can’t even save, so I can’t even ‘do that iyawo thing’ (moderator, make una no vess) nor can I even get a girl and love her up soooootay I nudge her up to the altar (am I being too much in a haste?) after which, with my IT certifications, I can be getting $40 or 45 an hour.

But this not even about money- this land is a strange society, everything is inverted from what we know in Nigeria. You can make all that money and not still be happy. I’ll be happier driving a tokunboh car in Nigeria that a mint new car from a dealer on the Interstate 5 in Cali or I85 in Atlanta, with car notes to boot.

But then, was my life really that okay in Nigeria? Well, up to a point it was- till the last 18months when things got so bad I couldn’t even pay my rent. I was thrown out of my house and moved into an uncle’s empty flat, never earned a dime within that period and had to actually sell my offroader (jeep) and other belongings to fund my American journey. If I got 10k or 5k within that period, somone gifted me that money.

But with power of hindsight now, I was still happy, with people, with family, going to crowded markets, beer with friends in the evening, that sense of community and better weather(which I hated then anyway) And its not like I just woke up and relocate to America o, I have been visiting, but meeehn, the reality of living here is way different than visiting, and it seems I never even knew America.

So question now for my brothers and sisters- help me make a decision, and I have just a month to make this- should I go back to Nigeria or rough it out here? In this land that the girls even doing shakara for yo are these fat, obese overweight akata girls with three children? All wielding section 8 vouchers and food stamps, calling you with free goverment phone ala obama phone, or getting tax refunds from their w2 from care jobs. When you left sweet sweet girls in Naija dying for you, even when you couldnt afford fish for them?

In this land where english is a problem, as they cant understand your accent- where you always hear: say that again? You dare not do a phone interview, cos of your accent and your where your best bet is pushing for a one on one interview via mail, with the hope your appearance will make them overlook your accent. If they judge akata by skin color, they judge you by skin color and accent.

Where you cant even get a reasonable job till you show work authorization. In this land with brutal winters, where you cant get rich, just comfortable, but where you have all the basic amenities of life and security

Help a brother, and others hell bent on coming to America

Analytics:
That school actually do not like blacks , plus Nigerians have had a bad record there too. My advisor got her Bachelors and Masters there, but she is white.

bigjustine:
Hi guys, i have a very big issue right now, my school stopped giving out CPT to international student, this was an issue from the department of nursing, so i decided to go ahead and work with a firm that deals with people with developmental disability, but the issue now is that, i worked with them for 1 month and they started asking for my green card even after i have submitted my social and drivers licence, so i decided to quit, but they have been calling for it. i told them i dont have it, the HR said she is going to report that to the DHS. I am just confused, i dont know what the result might be. i need help.
has anyone ever been in this kinda situation before?

akin3102:
Please I sent you a PM.thanks

slimmy2005:
I'll send you a PM

slimmy2005:
Any nairalander in Mississippi. bbdd?

Atmmachine:

Jesu.
These clowns dressed like my 73 year old uncle when he came to America.

How in the world would you wear agbada over a turtleneck sweater and a jacket over the agbada and then a muffler on your neck, it's not even that cold in the UK

slimmy2005:
Nigga was spending like a toddler. The internet package says it all. He was just paying like a kid.

mevisbleek:
Good day Guys,

It

Return ticket to Denver = $586
Rent= $900/month, paid 2 months = $1800 (1 bedroom apartment close to bus station and grocery store. Most importantly, very close to Wing Stop, lol)
Cable & Internet- 150mbps (Comcast) = $99.99/month + $100 deposit since we didn't have SSN= $199.99
Power= Got this setup but expecting first bill in the mail in Sept. forecast $40/month
Security Deposit = $200
They had to do background check before signing the lease= $100 for the both of us (Never heard of this in Canada)
Stayed in Hotel on the first day = $135 + $12 parking + GST
Wifey registered for 3 courses which cost = $7500 ($2500 per course)
Health Insurance= $2660 for one year
Car rental= $56/day for 9 days, used EZ Rental = $504 + GST
House furnishing, student style which includes couch, tv, bed frame, mattrass, etc = $1800
Walmart shopping which includes grocery, pillow case, microwave etc = $386

Total expenses for the 9 day welcome trip cost roughly $15k

imperiouxx:
Finally, this night I got in mail an acceptance letter to study medicine as PA (Physician Assistant).

I would be specializing in Surgery (Cardiothoracic).

What a marvelous gift for Xmas. All thanks to God.

Cheers!

slimmy2005:
Bbdd,

Hope you're holding up there.

AgapeHate:
Considering the new developments and hick in data. I hereby inform you that these are the new things I will be doing now.
1. No more clicking on snake threads, Davido baby mama threads, toke makinwa threads and wizkid threads.

2. No more 2 pages on any thread. Once my comment is not on the first 21 posts no need to comment. Someone else already said what I wanted to say

3. Replying of mentions has been strictly ignored. If you like abuse me from now till next year. I am saving data

4. I will not like your comments again. No matter how solid you sound I will not waste 1kb to like your comment no I will just nod my head. That is a proof I like your comment

5. No more alternatives. If I get banned that is it

6. Most of nairaland mods will not ban again. They need traffic and a lot of people will not be online. It will be stupid to ban those available.

7. No more clicking on threads with pictures. If you like give me a thread on how to make 1million and put pictures. I will not click.

8. I will do background restrictions. No need for pop ups. If I don't want notifications they don't need to come up. In fact no more Instagram, Facebook, Skype, snapchat, tingo, tinder, IMO. I am ok with whatsapp alone. Too much of everything is bad

9. I will only come online in the morning and night. To check and reply messages of last night. Then to reply messages the next morning.

10. No more clicking on links. If you create a thread then you said "click here" God will judge you

Fortissimo502:
bbdd how market naaaaaaaaaaaaa . Lol just kidding. Hope you're good.

Shym3xx:


Lol.

Isn't it shocking that you don't know what what middle America means, yet you're brazen in ya ignorance? Looool

Lmao @ disappearing from NL. Win, lose, or even if he gets assassinated - I'd still be posting on NL if I want to.

Shym3xx:
Lol.

Trump lost his cool towards the end but he did what he needed to do to appeal to the demographic he needs to win the election. He kept it real and even the biggest Clinton supporters would agree that Trump won the debate about economy and trade.

Middle America only cares about economy and trade - and Trump delivered lol. The guy is a businessman loool.

coccoduck:
you are a Clinton supporter so I am not surprised you made such a comment, you guys hate Trump because ipob supports him, but with or without Trump Biafra will come.

sureb0y:
Hi guys. lol. more positive reactions. See as my pms full hahaha, Una don use style turn me to motivational speaker. Abeg o, I'm just sharing my experience. It's been great for me. All of una wey wan come my school lol There are hundreds of better schools na, no be compulsory make una come here. I just dey happy say I gain admission into this one. No more long posts. Another thing I noticed. The lecturers here are NOT "lecturers". They are your buddies. Them dey burst my brain and I never even meet them. I'll show you two mails: First from my course adviser then from that lecturer wey I say I famz, wey help me get the application waiver when I dey Naija.!

project4OO:
Tithes and Offerings, like seeds, are in tandem with the Law of "Give and Receive".


It is one principle of nature that is unexplainable by any known Law of Science.


When you give, you will ALWAYS receive.

emorse:
This doesn't guarantee gold. A mere waste of funds.

AgentOrange:


https://www.naij.com/912092-wickedness-man-chops-off-wifes-hand-not-getting-pregnant-photos.html

slimmy2005:

I hope you'll see fortissimo. It was nice hanging out with him yesterday. Great and smart guy.

slimmy2005:

Hardly you'll see Nigerians here spend like this. Naira to dollars would still be ringing constantly in their head, it would take a while to erase such. Stay away from alcohol, please don't ever drink and drive(3% alcohol or so in your system might lead to revocation of your visa as an F-1) if you're pulled over by a cop. DUI is a bad record, keep your record clean, and stay safe. If you're taking alcohol this summer, what then would you take during winter? Ethanol?

I still have advice for sureb0y, who is so carried away by pu**y. He'll land himself a rape or assault charge if he doesn't thread carefully. Two Nigerians in my school so far have been landed with rape and assault charge. After long battle they survived it, the other later was dismissed for plagiarism.

SirShymexx:


Michael Brown was shot dead with his hands up by a racist pig for shoplifting and eye witnesses alluded to this. Even the FBI report alluded to what the eye witnesses said, but decided to go with what the officer claimed. So you're the clown here.

Yes, I never thought Brexit would happen because the atmosphere when I made the prediction wasn't really on steroids until about a month to when people voted. Most of the people regret voting Brexit now, anyway - and even Boris Johnson who led the charge has caved in and he's begging the EU for more concessions, in place of Brexit.

As for Jeb, that was at the beginning because I never gave Trump any chance whatsoever. And Trump stole Jeb's votes. Elimination by substitution.

SirShymexx:
Missy89

I just saw the two states where Trump got 0% votes among black voters. They are Ohio and PA.

However, he has 43% of white votes compared to Hillary's 33% in Ohio, while both have 40% each among white voters in PA.

So, with the 10% gap differential in Ohio, the black votes there are inconsequential since blacks only make up 13% of the state's population, apart from the fact that a lot of them won't be eligible to vote - most of them won't even bother to vote. Even with Obama, those who voted weren't even up to 60% of the eligible voters. They will be lucky if 40% of the eligible black voters vote this time around.

SirShymexx:


That's just posturing to appeal to the senses of far right groups. He's a businessman and he has toned down his rhetoric of late. Even someone as rabid as Newt Gingrich now supports black people against police brutality. Honestly, I don't even think Black Lives Matter is really about black lives, hence most black men don't support the movement. The leader is gay with a white boyfriend and the movement is funded by George Soros. That alone should tell you that it's another political liberal tripe to lead black people astray. No serious black person cares about BLM - they argue for black lives independent of the compromised movement.

They will get behind Trump soon. Scott Walker and John Kasich will deliver both states to Trump. Hillary has zero chance in those states, sorry.

SirShymexx:


Trump and Bernie are very similar albeit Trump is just a nutjob. And I believe a lot of Bernie's supporters will vote for trump.

Trump should win both Ohio and Wisconsin. And both Michigan and Pennsylvania will be very close. Trump should also win Florida with ease - most of the hispanics there are republicans and majority of them are Cuban Americans. So whatever xenophobic thing he said about Mexicans has nothing to do with them and a lot of them support his agenda. Hillary should win Virginia. I'll give Trump most of the swing states.

Anyway, my focus is primarily international politics, especially US foreign policy and perhaps how blacks in America would be treated. Trump seems like a better option because we all know what Hillary will do. She'll end up bombing more countries and use African Americans, while effecting more policies to destroy them like her husband did. Obama didn't do anything for AAs and I believe they need a president they can antoganise and force his hands to do something.

bonechamberlain:
u live there and u are still uncivilized. Sorry, u need to go back to wherever u came from and stay with your likes, you are disgrace to that society where u claim u live.

bonechamberlain:
stop drinking the panadol either and mind your business.

SirShymexx:


Well, I've been saying this way before Trump got the nomination, after Bernie lost out mathematically. And Michael Moore also alluded to the same thing a few days ago.

Trump should nick one or two of these states: Michigan, Ohio, Pennsylvania and Wisconsin. And he should also win majority of the swing states, while maintaining a clean sweep of the red states, with the help of Pence. With white men around and Bernie's supporters still feeling slighted by Hillary, Trump is the next POTUS.

SirShymexx:


Lol. Most people don't understand that yanks love people they can easily connect with, regardless of how erratic and crazy they're, hence Dubya was able to win two terms.

I don't even see Democrats winning back to back, especially with someone as disingenuous and fraudulent as Hillary. She's just too fake and she's a product of the establishment most yanks are tired of. I also don't think most yanks are ready for a female president, especially with how most white males are anti-feminist agenda these days. And once you look at what started the tea party movement and the role the movement played in reducing democrats to a minority in congress.

Trump should win majority of votes from white males. Most black voters won't votes because there's no love for both candidates and I doubt Hillary would win up to 80% of votes from the few that will vote.

Regardless, the swing states would be the deciding factor. Pence should give Trump the republican votes he needs. And the swing states could go either because that's middle America and they're the most patriotic. But I doubt most of them would want anything to do with Hillary based on her track record.

Hillary is 3rd world war waiting to happen.