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I concur, what you tolerated in your relationship, you must live with in your marriage

Divay22:
What you can't fix in a relationship can't be fix when married.

Insecurity is as bad as witch craft.

Hi Admin,

I need advice for my elder sister that is married for almost four years now. She feels like she has made a mistake and she is thinking of leaving. My family is torn on her decision. My father and my siblings are supporting her. Me and my mother think she should not leave.

What is the issue? The man she married has serious inferiority complex and trust issues. When they were dating,she thought the fact that he was always jealous and over protective was cute but now it has become a night mare for her. They were introduced by an uncle. This man is not that educated but he has made some money for himself.

Now,my sister’s husband does not want her to work even though she is graduate and also a master degree holder. He said he does not believe a woman should work because she will be exposed to other men. This was an issue until my parents intervened and he agreed that she can work.

My sister got a job in a real estate company and because she is very good,she brought in some deals and made some huge commission, but she had to.....see more



https://livelystones.com.ng/her-husband-wants-a-submissive-wife-she-wants-to-follow-her-dreams/

Hmnnn

Eromo and I have been friends since university. We became more like sisters. We shared secrets,boys,family issues,etc. Today both of us are married with children. We both live in port harcourt.

I have heard before that friends can betray you but I never ever thought Eromo can be that kind of friend. No,we have been through alot together. Especially when her father died,she lived with my family for almost a year. Eromo got married two years before me. Her husband and her are a perfect picture of a perfect family. They are also very good Christians.

Whenever I have issues with my husband,I confide in Eromo and she gives good advice or so I thought. I found out that my husband was messing around with my house help in June and I was so devastated. In fact,on close investigation,it became clear that he was probably doing this a long time before I discovered.

Like I said,I was devastated. My whole world came crumbling down. I could never imagine my husband sleeping with young girls right under my nose. The deception,the pain and embarrassment. The fact that everyone knew except me. It was just too much to bear. When I told Eromo,she was my confidant and with her advice,I.....more



https://livelystones.com.ng/my-world-has-crumbled-husband-betrayed-me-my-best-friend-lied/

Zimbabwean pastor, Uebert Angel has advised men to love their wife in order to avoid her malfunctioning. In an Instagram post, the pastor stated that God never told a woman to love her husband.

He however noted that it is a husband God told to love his wife.

Uebert Angel further stated that the reason why a woman malfunctions is because she isn’t getting love, a thing she is created for.

”DEAR SON .....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/god-never-told-a-woman-to-love-her-husband-pastor-uebert-angel/

Hmnnn

Eyah, only prayer requires now and faith

Often in Christian circles, sx and sxual desire are viewed as a problem, or viewed as wrong or sinful. When we talk about healthy God-centred romantic relationships, we need to remember God invented s*x. The answer isn’t to try and get rid of it somehow, but rather, line it up with God’s plan and purposes.

At Naked Truth, we come across people who are struggling and hurting. They feel like they have become dependent on pornography and don’t know how to stop.

Those who are Christian sometimes feel like they want God to take away their s*xual desires. That the problem is that God ‘accidentally’ made them with it.

Some even get angry or upset when they ask God to take it away and he doesn’t

At Naked Truth Relationships, we also come across people who are trying to build a godly relationship but feel like their s*xual desire is stopping that. They feel God isn’t interested in that part, and they need to overcome it somehow on their own.

Some even get angry or upset when they ask God to take it away and he doesn’t.

But God’s word seems to offer something different....more



https://livelystones.com.ng/lets-talk-about-sx-god-created-sx-and-sxual-desire-honest/

about what?

cooldipo:
You are not serious.....

Editor’s Note:

Hello. This is the continuation from yesterday’s story. Click here if you missed the first part of the story.
The lady in question has been through so much in her marriage and needs advice on what to do. She has been through infertility,neglect,emotional abuse,etc.
Please drop your comments and suggestions for her in the comments section.Don’t forget to share the link to this story.


Continuation…

Dear Jzhane,

I am just on my own in the marriage. He processed traveling to Canada in the year 2016 without my knowledge but he was rejected. I confronted him but he didn’t respond rather he used question to answer question. If he was given visa that is how he would have gone and abandon me.
There is nothing I say that he listen to. There was a time our house was bugled, When armed robbers came to my house then and took all my valuables away then, I expected my husband to buy me at least phone to forget all the things stolen, but no. I bought it my self.
When grandma(my big aunty? died last year, I was staying with her since the death of my mum. So apparently, that’s where my husband came to marry me. She is as good as my mother. could do believe that my husband did not contribute anything to the burial rite. He left me to cater for all the bills. I couldn’t tell anyone. I dropped the money apportioned to us and said my husband said I should give them. During the party, everyone was greeting him with the saying in Yoruba that eku inawo o believing he was the one that gave me the money.
It took me another five months to gather myself together again at my shop.Even the house he built my name is not on the agreement.You needed to see me sometimes ago when I needed money for my business.I looked haggard. No money to take care of my self and all. All this I didn’t tell anyone.
But I thank God for everything. It hasn’t been easy but I give HIM all the GLORY. Age wise am growing, men have the grace to impregnate woman even at 70. But that does not happen in women’s case. What will now be my faith? Because if my husband could be desperate to accept the pregnancy of that lady even when it was obvious that he is incapable of impregnating a woman, then anything can happen in the nearest future.
Also this is someone that in the beginning I assisted because I believed we are about building a home together. During courtship, he started a clothing business , I noticed his commitment and having seen that he has spent a lot, I gave him 150,000 to add to his business.He thanked me and appreciated it. Well, along the line, his mom put interest was overseeing the business. I don’t have problem with that. To cut the long story short,.....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/childless-neglectedall-i-wanted-to-be-was-a-good-wife-pt-2/

Don't know why its most cases this way. Right man wrong woman, Right woman, wrong man

Abortions:
AN UNWORTHY MAN WITH A GOOD WOMAN.. WHAT A COMBINATION

Editor’s Note:

This is a long read so we have decided to make it a two part story. The second story will be published tomorrow. Kindly bear with us,not everyone likes to read long epistles.
The lady in question has been through so much in her marriage and needs advice on what to do. She has been through infertility,neglect,emotional abuse,etc. Please drop your comments and suggestions for her in the comments section.Don’t forget to share the link to this story.

Good afternoon ma,

Thanks for the good work you are doing on livelystone. I have been following your blog since beginning of this year and recently joined your whats app group. I must say I have learnt a lot. I have something’s bothering my mind on my marriage and I want to quit it. I feeling like sharing it on your blog …
Now let me start.
THE BEGINNING: HOPE & FAITH
I have been married for over 6 and half years, And the issue of fruit of the womb has been there. After a year of our marriage, I began to worry and went to hospital, series of test was done after which I was ask to bring my husband, he went and we were told he had low sperm count, But I didn’t see the result to know which level of the low sperm count,
Well, he was given drugs then but while taking the drugs, he said he had some reactions taking the drugs and I encouraged him to continue that its just for the main time, He insisted that he will stop using it and told his mum.
Instead of her to encourage him she agreed to what he said that he should stop,I was really pissed but what can I do. I kept on believing that all will be fine.
So after so much pressure and all, I told him to let us revisit hospital, He resisted. After so much pressure from me for another one year he obliged, So we changed our hospital from a private hospital to government hospital.
Another series of test was carried out on me and was told again to bring my husband, I did and he was ask to run a test. This time again it was .......see



https://livelystones.com.ng/childless-neglected-all-i-wanted-to-be-was-a-good-wife-pt-1/

Men! God will see you thru

Editor’s Note:
This is a long read so we have decided to make it a two part story. The second story will be published tomorrow. Kindly bear with us,not everyone likes to read long epistles.
The lady in question has been through so much in her marriage and needs advice on what to do. She has been through infertility,neglect,emotional abuse,etc. Please drop your comments and suggestions for her in the comments section.Don’t forget to share the link to this story.

Good afternoon ma,

Thanks for the good work you are doing on livelystone. I have been following your blog since beginning of this year and recently joined your whats app group. I must say I have learnt a lot. I have something’s bothering my mind on my marriage and I want to quit it. I feeling like sharing it on your blog …
Now let me start.
THE BEGINNING: HOPE & FAITH
I have been married for over 6 and half years, And the issue of fruit of the womb has been there. After a year of our marriage, I began to worry and went to hospital, series of test was done after which I was ask to bring my husband, he went and we were told he had low sperm count, But I didn’t see the result to know which level of the low sperm count,
Well, he was given drugs then but while taking the drugs, he said he had some reactions taking the drugs and I encouraged him to continue that its just for the main time, He insisted that he will stop using it and told his mum.
Instead of her to encourage him she agreed to what he said that he should stop,I was really pissed but what can I do. I kept on believing that all will be fine.
So after so much pressure and all, I told him to let us revisit hospital, He resisted. After so much pressure from me for another one year he obliged, So we changed our hospital from a private hospital to government hospital.
Another series of test was carried out on me and was told again to bring my husband, I did and he was ask to run a test. This time again it was .......see



https://livelystones.com.ng/childless-neglected-all-i-wanted-to-be-was-a-good-wife-pt-1/

I see RED flag.

Tealess:
Follow ur heart dear

Hmnnn, you have not seen my dear. But we pray God take control of marriages all over the world

dingbang:
Even if the story were to be true, what the man did was wrong! No matter what,there is a command, do not deny your wives your body..


People dont fear God these days .

Hmnnn

That's true.women like this are rear nowadays

Iamtosignno:
It very rare to see woman like this nowadays
I pray God Resolve Every Misunderstanding and problems In Your Marriage

Good Evening Jzhane,

Please hide my identity. I have been married for almost nine months but I have realized that I have made a big mistake and I no other option but to quit now. My husband and I are having serious issues and it looks like there is nothing anyone can do about this.

We dated for a year and a half before he proposed to me. He was such a sweet guy then. I loved him with all my heart. Our was fixed for December 2017 but he lost his job in November. It was a huge shock for him. So we had to move our wedding to early this year and got married in February 2018.

That day was the happiest day of my life. I did not mind that my husband did not have a job cos I was working and providing for us.But I noticed he was not happy I was taking responsibility of everything. I kept encouraging him and telling him not to give up as he would soon get a job.

Sometime in June,he came back home and told me that where he went for an interview,he was offered the role of an executive assistant to the MD. He said he refused the offer cos he cannot work for a woman that young.I told him I didn’t see anything wrong with that so he took the job and resumed the next month.

That was the beginning of our troubles. He worked late and several weekends for this woman. I was telling myself to be patient but for over a month,my husband did not touch me. He was either too tired or was not around. When he did,it was less than five minutes.

I became worried but I still told myself to show support to him instead of complaining. Cos the time I tried to complain,he blamed me and said that he told me he didn’t the job but I made him take the job…sadly,that is true.


By the end of July,my husband had barely touched me less than three times. I am a newly wed. I am at my ends wit. I told him to start looking for another job cos I couldn’t continue like this. He said he intends to be at the job for at least two years before getting a new job cos he didn’t want leaving too soon to affect his chances when looking for a new job.

I was frustrated and anytime I could,I started to imagine....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/all-i-wanted-was-a-job-for-husband-but-he-blames-me-for-cheating/

Good Evening Jzhane,

Please hide my identity. I have been married for almost nine months but I have realized that I have made a big mistake and I no other option but to quit now. My husband and I are having serious issues and it looks like there is nothing anyone can do about this.

We dated for a year and a half before he proposed to me. He was such a sweet guy then. I loved him with all my heart. Our was fixed for December 2017 but he lost his job in November. It was a huge shock for him. So we had to move our wedding to early this year and got married in February 2018.

That day was the happiest day of my life. I did not mind that my husband did not have a job cos I was working and providing for us.But I noticed he was not happy I was taking responsibility of everything. I kept encouraging him and telling him not to give up as he would soon get a job.

Sometime in June,he came back home and told me that where he went for an interview,he was offered the role of an executive assistant to the MD. He said he refused the offer cos he cannot work for a woman that young.I told him I didn’t see anything wrong with that so he took the job and resumed the next month.

That was the beginning of our troubles. He worked late and several weekends for this woman. I was telling myself to be patient but for over a month,my husband did not touch me. He was either too tired or was not around. When he did,it was less than five minutes.

I became worried but I still told myself to show support to him instead of complaining. Cos the time I tried to complain,he blamed me and said that he told me he didn’t the job but I made him take the job…sadly,that is true.


By the end of July,my husband had barely touched me less than three times. I am a newly wed. I am at my ends wit. I told him to start looking for another job cos I couldn’t continue like this. He said he intends to be at the job for at least two years before getting a new job cos he didn’t want leaving too soon to affect his chances when looking for a new job.

I was frustrated and anytime I could,I started to imagine....more


https://livelystones.com.ng/all-i-wanted-was-a-job-for-husband-but-he-blames-me-for-cheating/

Good Evening Lively Stones,

I’m 27 years old I have been dating a guy for 4 years now. When I met him I was working with an NGO in Kano state, we are from the same state (Kastina state precisely) so when we met it was easier to link up as I was not in a relationship then.

Just 3 months into our relationship he lost his job, but I stood by him and encouraged him that things will get better, I later got another job in Kaduna which was better than the one I was doing in kano so I had to relocate to Kaduna.

He became so insecure that I was going to leave him because even his friends were saying the same thing, but I assured him I will stay except if he is the one that decide to leave, after 1 year I rented an apartment and I ask him come stay with me at least we have better opportunities in Kaduna than Kano.

He came and we kept applying for any available vacancy then finally he got a job in June 2017 he asked me to marry him and I gladly accepted the proposal. Then suddenly, his behavior changed totally.He became aggressive getting angry over every little thing, I complained about it severally but he will change after sometime he goes back to his old ways.

I told him to rent a house since he now has a salary. We still went ahead with the wedding preparations but deep inside of me I’m convinced he doesn’t love me anymore I try ....more




https://livelystones.com.ng/we-are-getting-married-because-it-is-too-late-to-stop-now/

A tempory separation is for now

TheApologist:
This is serious. While I do not support divorce, staying in a relationship with an overtly abusive man is a dangerous game to play. Like it's normally said, the only way to win with a toxic person is not to play but unfortunately, the evil in the hearts of men can be concealed for as long as it's desired to entangle unsuspecting prey. Sincerely I really do not know what to advise but I'm more concerned about your little daughter. Children raised in such environments themselves turn out to be aggressive, unlovable and unkind. For now I think you do need to give him a space, find somewhere else to hold up for now, you can then try to appease him from a distance but most importantly make yourself independent of him especially financially so as to be able to cater for your needs as well as that of your daughter. May God give you strength to carry through.

Hmmnn, why not walk away instead of going violent

spyg1:
Sorry about the way your hubby is maltreating you. Why did he break your phone? To be honest I can do more than that if I discover that you're cheating on me.

Newly weds, Sharon and Phillip Frimpong,got married a few weeks ago. Daughter of Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, now Carrissa Frimpong (also known as CSO) shared a few never seen before pictures of her wedding and honeymoon on her Instagram.

See pictures below:


https://livelystones.com.ng/pastor-chris-oyakhilomes-daughter-cso-shares-honey-moon-pics/

Dear Jzhane,

I have been trying to reach you for the past two months. Well am in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage which has lasted for 4 years 9 months. We and dated for a whole year before marriage.

To be honest, I saw all the red alerts but I kept telling my self he loves me and can’t hurt me. Through out the courtship he will quarrel,yell and get angry at me at the slightest provocation but I thought it was the pressure of planning the wedding.
Plus his mother disagreed to him marrying me so from the start. There were complications but I felt standing by him will solidify our marriage. Just few days after the wedding ,all his characters of abuse intensified but I kept giving excuses for him.
Also he had to collect a loan for the wedding from where he works which couldn’t cover the cost of both the traditional and white wedding. So from day one we were struggling financially. I kept faith hoping he finished servicing the loan things will normalize but still it got worse.
Immediately after the wedding also I got pregnant so all the pressure I was getting from him was affecting the pregnancy. I almost lost it getting prepared for the baby was strenuous but my mum helped providing most of d baby things.
Six months into the marriage he was cheating with a lady whom he introduced to me ...more


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