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Good day all, hope your day went well? We thank God its Friday.

Firstly, we want to thanks all of you friends & fans for your support so far in this journey.... commenting and sharing our stories. Daily we are receiving testimonies on the impart of your comments. More are joining our telegram group to be a part of the good work. God bless and increase your wisdom.

We had a story yesterday where the OP wanted advice on her four years old relationship. However, we extracted this from that piece want everyone to participate.

#Courting
#Relationship
#marriage
#Dating
#Financialsupportinwedding
#Desperate
#Love

Question:
1. Is it proper for a lady to support her fiance financially toward their wedding ceremony?

2. At what point should she start supporting him.

3. Supporting your fiance financially towards your wedding is it a sign of desperation or excitement?




LS

My dear, the hand writing is clear. Prevention they say is better than cure

Hi,

Please hide my ID . I have a quick question to ask you people please. Kindly post this on the blog so I can see the comments later.I have been with my fiance for four years and every year,he keeps coming up with reasons why we cannot get married and I am tired of waiting for him.

I am a very principled girl and I knew that I wanted to date to get married. So,when we met four years ago,I told him I do not want long courtship. He then said,he will like to be prepared financially before he get married. Well,to show his commitment,he engaged me.

Since that time,we have been saving for our wedding. Every month we put money in a joint account. We were supposed to get married last year but the money he said was not enough for wedding. That he cannot do wedding that people will think we are suffering. I told him I don’t mind cos my wedding is my business. I don’t care what people will say..but he still refused.

So my hope was that....

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https://livelystones.com.ng/four-years-of-savings-he-bought-a-car-instead-of-our-wedding/

Hi,

Please hide my ID . I have a quick question to ask you people please. Kindly post this on the blog so I can see the comments later.I have been with my fiance for four years and every year,he keeps coming up with reasons why we cannot get married and I am tired of waiting for him.

I am a very principled girl and I knew that I wanted to date to get married. So,when we met four years ago,I told him I do not want long courtship. He then said,he will like to be prepared financially before he get married. Well,to show his commitment,he engaged me.

Since that time,we have been saving for our wedding. Every month we put money in a joint account. We were supposed to get married last year but the money he said was not enough for wedding. That he cannot do wedding that people will think we are suffering. I told him I don’t mind cos my wedding is my business. I don’t care what people will say..but he still refused.

So my hope was that....

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https://livelystones.com.ng/four-years-of-savings-he-bought-a-car-instead-of-our-wedding/

Lol!

Gracespecial101:
Who cheated on you...Him or his gift

Supreme01:
If you have what to say, u'll surely conclude the story and stop playing with my emotions before i unlish hell ...

What a wasted life! RIP

The killers will run to Lagos, sleep under the bridge at night and hawking umbrella during dry season

Good day Lively Stones,

Am into a relationship with this guy we both love each other, anything I want he will do it for me, we have been into this relationship for almost 6months, now I trusted him, and I love him, but I find out his  not worthy it.

A girl use his phone to send me a message telling me to leave her man alone, I confronted him, he beg me and said that she is forcing herself into his life, then another time a message came again this time to 12midnight saying the stubborn flies fellow the coffin to the grave.

I was badly hurt I called asking what kind of message is this again, he said it....

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https://livelystones.com.ng/my-boyfriend-cheated-on-me-should-i-return-his-gifts-to-me/

Dear Jzhane,

I met up with a dear friend of mine last week and what she told me has been troubling me ever since. A mutual friend of us who has been friends with us since year 1 in University of Ibadan appears to have lost his mind and reasoning. And this is all thanks to the woman he married.

Kola is a very intelligent guy. He was the brightest in our class in the department of Civil engineering back then in school. We became friends in year one,first semester. Him and me and Shade used to read together. Kola came from a very humble background. His father had died when he was younger and his mother is a petty trader. Kola went through school by the grace of God and with the help of friends like us. It was tough but he was determined to make it.

After we graduated,Kola was posted to the East. To Imo state to be precise. He served in a Construction company where he met the owner's daughter called Ugonma (not real name). They became friends and Kola told me that he was going to marry her. I never met Ugonma ....

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https://livelystones.com.ng/my-friend-sold-himself-cut-off-his-family-to-marry-from-a-rich-family/

Early on,we reported the engagement of Celebrity Chef Fregene & Actress Kemi Lala


Here are first pictures from their Traditional wedding which help today:

https://livelystones.com.ng/traditional-wedding-of-celebrity-chef-fregene-actress-kemi-lala-pics/

Is this true love?

you're a man indeed!

Editor’s Note:

This is the concluding part of a gripping story from one of our whatsapp group members. We have shared part 1 & 2 of the story (read them here & here). For the concluding part,I want us to start a discussion:Do you think there was anything the man could have done differently?How would you advice him to move on after this?Is there a possibility of his marriage to this woman to be restored?Please drop your views in the comment sections.

Cheers.

Dear Jzhane

For one year and six months I refused to grant her divorce as I kept on begging despite all I had gone true in her hands and also kept on fighting for custody as i was not ready to give up my children for anything or anybody.
THE EYE OPENER.
One day in court a female lawyer called me aside and said her group has been following our case. She knows my wife and they both lived on the same street while growing up. Said she also knows the politician my wife dated before meeting me, that as we speak now, that politician is also in a High Court in his state to divorce his own wife and that she suspects that it is their plan to get married after divorcing their spouses.
She pleaded with me to let my wife go (Grant her the divorce she badly needs so I can have peace and be alive for my children), that at the rate my wife is going, she can do anything to get what she wants. She said as female lawyers her group have engaged my wife several times to back down and make her home work but she has been adamant saying.......


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https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage-pt-3/

This is heart breaking. Not seen a meek man like this

Hmnnn

Sure!

Frodos:
This is how you decide

Nice one


Divorce:I Did Every Thing Under The Sun To Keep My Marriage-Pt 2

https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage-pt-2/

Share This Story :


Editor's Note:
This is the continuation of a heartbreaking story shared by a member of our whatsapp group.If you missed the story yesterday,please read it here. This is part 2.Part 3 will be released tomorrow.Please share this story and leave your kind thoughts in the comments section.

Cheers!

Continuation...

S*x was used as her negotiating weapon to force my hand to bring out any amount of money she needs.

All through 2010, Almighty God in heaven been my witness, I was paying #10,000 to my wife anytime I sleep with her. Without this money NO SHOW. If I don't have up to that at home, I will have to beg with #5,000, she will grudgingly agree and write the balance of #5,000 down in her 40 leaves exercise book. I complained about this to our Pastor who confronted her and she said "he is the one giving me oh".

Our Pastor now said "he gives you? Your husband? And you take it? Then you are a prostitute if you do this. Our Pastor talked to her and asked me never to give her money for s*x again. I was to suffer for not paying my own wife for s*x again.After 6 months of strictly no s*x, I could not resist her beautiful body and i gave in and released the whole money #1,5m for her trip.

Before she made that journey, her BEST friend who ...


Read and comment on full story on the blog :

https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage-pt-2/

Its well , just see what this man went thru:



Divorce:I Did Every Thing Under The Sun To Keep My Marriage – Pt 1

https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage/

Editor's Note:

This is a heartbreaking story sent in by one of our Whatsapp group members. Its a story of how he fought to keep his marriage of over 9 years. Please read his accounts of what happened and how it affected him. Also find out many lessons to be learned from this story. This is part 1 of the story. Parts 2 & 3 will be published in the coming days. Stay tuned!

Dear Lively Stones,

This is a very long read but I plead that you read on to the end. I have also tried to explain as explicit as possible, giving so much information, date and details just to make us all understand the walk, pain and love of a Father for his family.

I was 25 when I met Mandy. Saw her waiting for a cab one lazy Sunday evening in the year 2001. Stopped and gave her a lift to her house and we hit it up from there. I was a young man that made so much money at 25 that I was living on my own with 2 good cars packed outside my one bedroom apartment. I had about 3 girlfriends at the time I met Mandy and they all knew themselves, each one hoping that she will be the last one standing. My Mum never liked Mandy from the first day because she preferred a lady I had dated for about 4 yrs prior to my meeting Mandy.

Mandy was very quiet and beautiful and I imagined having beautiful kids by her. Immediately she came into my life, she gave me an ultimatum that every lady around me must go if she will have to stay with me, and because I loved her I started trying to send them away. A year after I met Mandy, she got pregnant and because I did not want to have kids out of wedlock I decided to marry her.

I called my girlfriends and told them i have decided to marry Mandy and stay faithful henceforth. None of them took it lightly as they were all in my life before she came. Two of them said the same thing on the same day "You are the only one that does not know that this lady does not love you and is here because of your money". I waved this statement aside sighting jealousy and went on with my thing. Since i had money, in four months we arranged a Traditional Marriage and a Court Wedding with an elaborate reception since our church refused wedding us due to her been pregnant. (Feb.2003)

We moved into a bigger apartment in Cocain Village in Port Harcourt (Nigeria) and started living together. Six months into her pregnancy she told me she needed a house help to help with house chores and we asked her Mum to get us one. I came back from work on day and met a little 2 year old girl at home. I asked her and she told me that this is the house help the mother got for us. A two year old child as house help? What can this one do?

I immediately called her Mum who told me the little girls father is dead, her mother can't take care of her and does not want her again and we can take her as our child so she can grow with us as a couple and she will also suggest I change her name to my name so that people and even our biological children when we start having them will not know she is not our biological daughter.

I wasn't happy with it all, but as days went bye I started having love for this little girl. I called the Mum again and told her that we will still need a house help but for this little girl, she will be our first daughter and I am letting her answer my name and will stand as her father till death.

Her Mum was so happy and so was my wife. My family called me stupid but i stuck to my gun and everyone just kept calm and watched from a distance. They insisted we put her in a government free school so she will will have time to serve us at home. But I said NO and immediately registered the little girl in a private school and I can remember paying #55,000 as her first school fees in 2003.

Our first son came in Aug. 2003 and we were very happy. Prior to now, I ...

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https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage/

Hmnnn, can see full story from....

sistar007:
You Not Completing The Story Is A Qunishment You Not Completing The Story Is A Qunishment

You’ve heard it said, “Behind every great man is a great woman.” I’m a testament to that truth. I know that whatever success I’ve achieved in my work, ministry, fatherhood, and anything else, is in large part due to the help and support I’ve received from my wife Cindy. But Cindy and I also believe that behind every great marriage are others who help.

We’ve been blessed over the years that we’ve had a number of people who have invested into our marriage. They have been there for us at critical junctures or when we’ve facing important decisions. That is one of the main reasons we feel God inspired us to start Marriage Missions International. We want to give back to others from what we so richly received......

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https://livelystones.com.ng/behind-every-great-marriage-are-others-who-help/

Hmnnnn, everyone that wants to get married must prayerfully seek God's guidance and help else your story may be like the above

nice one

Exponental:
Marriage is not a must. If Ade wants you, marry him..... your sister was helping you then.....claim him if marriage is a must for you.a

Editor's Note:

This is a heartbreaking story sent in by one of our Whatsapp group members. Its a story of how he fought to keep his marriage of over 9 years. Please read his accounts of what happened and how it affected him. Also find out many lessons to be learned from this story. This is part 1 of the story. Parts 2 & 3 will be published in the coming days. Stay tuned!

Dear Lively Stones,

This is a very long read but I plead that you read on to the end. I have also tried to explain as explicit as possible, giving so much information, date and details just to make us all understand the walk, pain and love of a Father for his family.

I was 25 when I met Mandy. Saw her waiting for a cab one lazy Sunday evening in the year 2001. Stopped and gave her a lift to her house and we hit it up from there. I was a young man that made so much money at 25 that I was living on my own with 2 good cars packed outside my one bedroom apartment. I had about 3 girlfriends at the time I met Mandy and they all knew themselves, each one hoping that she will be the last one standing. My Mum never liked Mandy from the first day because she preferred a lady I had dated for about 4 yrs prior to my meeting Mandy.

Mandy was very quiet and beautiful and I imagined having beautiful kids by her. Immediately she came into my life, she gave me an ultimatum that every lady around me must go if she will have to stay with me, and because I loved her I started trying to send them away. A year after I met Mandy, she got pregnant and because I did not want to have kids out of wedlock I decided to marry her.

I called my girlfriends and told them i have decided to marry Mandy and stay faithful henceforth. None of them took it lightly as they were all in my life before she came. Two of them said the same thing on the same day "You are the only one that does not know that this lady does not love you and is here because of your money". I waved this statement aside sighting jealousy and went on with my thing. Since i had money, in four months we arranged a Traditional Marriage and a Court Wedding with an elaborate reception since our church refused wedding us due to her been pregnant. (Feb.2003)

We moved into a bigger apartment in Cocain Village in Port Harcourt (Nigeria) and started living together. Six months into her pregnancy she told me she needed a house help to help with house chores and we asked her Mum to get us one. I came back from work on day and met a little 2 year old girl at home. I asked her and she told me that this is the house help the mother got for us. A two year old child as house help? What can this one do?

I immediately called her Mum who told me the little girls father is dead, her mother can't take care of her and does not want her again and we can take her as our child so she can grow with us as a couple and she will also suggest I change her name to my name so that people and even our biological children when we start having them will not know she is not our biological daughter.

I wasn't happy with it all, but as days went bye I started having love for this little girl. I called the Mum again and told her that we will still need a house help but for this little girl, she will be our first daughter and I am letting her answer my name and will stand as her father till death.

Her Mum was so happy and so was my wife. My family called me stupid but i stuck to my gun and everyone just kept calm and watched from a distance. They insisted we put her in a government free school so she will will have time to serve us at home. But I said NO and immediately registered the little girl in a private school and I can remember paying #55,000 as her first school fees in 2003.

Our first son came in Aug. 2003 and we were very happy. Prior to now, I ...

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https://livelystones.com.ng/divorcei-did-every-thing-under-the-sun-to-keep-my-marriage/

Dear Jzhane,

I was raised in a very strict and religious home. My parents did everything to protect me and my siblings from evil but in my JSS 3,I got pregnant. I was just 14 years old. My parents found out and they almost killed me. I was messing around with a silly boy who claimed to be in love with me. And wanted me to prove my love for him y sleeping with him.

Abortion was out of the way for my parents. I stopped school and had my baby. I became a mother by 15. Life was hard but I made it. Eventually,my parents came to forgive me and I was able to go back to school after two years. Today,my son is 18 years old while I am 33. Dating and keeping a guy has been an issue for me. First,I am of the opinion that I will not have s*x before marriage again. Most guys want the cookie so bad. Second,once guys find out that I have a son,they kinda loose interest fast.

This has made me very unlucky with men. I feel sad that I am getting older and no one has been coming for me. I wonder most times if it was God still punishing me for getting pregnant at 14.However,towards the end of last year, I ran into my elder sister’s ex boyfriend,Ade. They dated for seven years before they broke up. Everyone thought they were getting married once my sister graduated but he got someone pregnant and they broke up.

My sister has moved on and is married with kids now,living in Lagos. When I met Ade,he was surprisingly.....


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https://livelystones.com.ng/is-this-fate-or-punishmentmy-married-sister-is-in-love-with-my-fiance/

I am standing for the healing of my marriage.

I will not give up, give in,

give out, nor give over

’til the healing takes place.

I am standing for the healing of my marriage.

I will not give up, give in,

give out, nor give over

’til the healing takes place.

I made a vow; I said the words; and I gave the pledge.

I gave a ring; I took a ring; and I gave myself.



I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words:

in sickness and in health,

in sorrow and in joy,

for better or for worse,

for richer or for poorer,

in good times and in bad…

so NOW I am STANDING.

I will NOT sit down, let down, slow down,

calm down, fall down, look down nor be down

’til the BREAKDOWN is TORN DOWN!

I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances,

or listen to prophets of doom.

I will not buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular,

convenient, easy, quick,

thrifty, or advantageous.

Nor will I......


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