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I have dry iron

I've paid for the pressing table

I've done fliers

I planned using my residence for now and when d business expand will rent a shop


My main problem is the Washing machine and generator...

I need to know d quality product to buy and as things be now e be like say na one out of d two my 100k fit buy...

Guys, I'm starting a laundry business very soon and I'll be buying a washing machine this coming week. I planned to start from home due to my teaching job, I don't want to leave it now, so I'll be doing the work after I close from work and the weekend.

Even though I'm still hustling for capital but I have seen 100k and I want to make judicial use of it.....guys pls recommend d washing machine I can buy and pal recommend d generator that can power iron for me...i know 100k won't be enough I still plan to look for a little more money to d money on ground.

Guys, I'm starting a laundry business very soon and I'll be buying a washing machine this coming week. I planned to start from home due to my teaching job, I don't want to leave it now, so I'll be doing the work after I close from work and the weekend.

Even though I'm still hustling for capital but I have seen 100k and I want to make judicial use of it.....guys pls recommend d washing machine I can buy and also a generator that can power iron for me...i know 100k won't be enough I still plan to look for a little more money to d money on ground.

Is there accommodation and what's d pay like?

Politics is really a dirty game

That's politics for u

Congratulations to His Majesty Omo N’Oba N’Edo Uku Akpolokpolo Ewuare II

binarymachine:
I thought you loved me… you used to be so charming and nice to me, texting me almost every second of the day…..oh babe, you’re so nice, you’re beautiful, we are so compatible. Come meet my mom. Two months into the Relationship, Boom. The real narcissistic personality comes out. They are not able to regulate their emotions any longer. They become very angry quickly especially when they’re not getting their way, they become very hypersensitive to criticism. They literally doubts you on almost everything leaving you feeling like you’ve gone crazy.

Narcissistic partners are very captivating at the initial stage of a relationship and with time, the relationship becomes very challenging, how well do you know your partner? How well can you tell if they have these traits? Accordingly, There are certain things to look out for in your partner to conclusively tell he or she is narcissistic.

The term “Narcissism” is most times used in recent years without understanding it’s indept meaning. Let’s look at the meaning of narcissism.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism as otherwise seen as Narcissistic personality disorders (NPD) by psychologist is defined as a trait that solely relates to insecurity, a pattern which is characterized by lack of empathy, controlling, arrogant, inability for one to manage any kind of disappointment, chronic validation seeking, feeling entitled, grandiosity, extremely self centered with some degree of selfishness. Study shows that there are 4 types of Narcissism and not all Narcissist are the same. For the purpose of this topic I may not want to go into that. Alot of people have either found themselves in relationships with such partners or encountered people who exhibit these tendencies.

Who Is A Narcissistic Partner?

Narcissistic Partner is an insecure person in a relationship who seem very charming and nice at the start of a relationship but later becomes that person who lacks empathy, feels entitled, always expecting special treatment to be given to them but nobody else, they’re very concerned about their appearance, very prone to throwing tantrums, with too much sense of self importance, they get angry very quickly especially if they don’t get their way.

How Well can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?

Ever noticed your partner liking and showing so much care at the beginning of the relationship and later declines as the likability decreases, they only tend to appreciate you when in need? They become highly self centered, Your value comes when you’re able to meet their needs, they get hurt and lash out easily, their only concerns are their goals and reputation, lacks empathy whereby your significant other should be loving. They are all about knowing how you feel about them. all about themselves. Desperately needing validation and adoration, Very controlling, watch their reaction toward criticism, do they over react? Are they very manipulative and defensive? Do they make you feel bad for ever speaking up? Are they the type that’s always on the “ I know more than you” side? Feeling too important, acting like they know more than their partner while their partner is always wrong? Projecting everything they can back at you leaving you feeling You’re not enough, Are they ready to sacrifice anything on the platter of their ego? With too much sense of entitlement? These are signs you should look out for in your partner, if you find these traits in them, it’s safe to say they may be narcissist.

Ultimately, Being in a relationship with a narcissistic partner takes alot of work and patience because they make you feel very special until these feelings start to shift , as soon as there are some stress in their system, maybe things not going as planned, work day didn’t go the way they want, kids behaving badly, they become manipulative, Gaslights you, egocentric, extremely self centered and you begin to blame yourself for their actions, you devalue yourself, you loose focus and self esteem.

Narcissistic partners projects issues or fault back unto their partners, they say things like, “you made me do what I did, you didn’t allow me to finish what I had to say, you interrupted me” . Once this happens, you may not want to confront them any longer, they dismiss you with that, they make you understand their point is more important than what you had to say. The point you’re trying to make at that point doesn’t make any sense. They make you look like you’re the controlling one while they are ,trying to make you feel you’re the one with the issue here, and you’ll just pull back and begin to apologize. This is exactly what they want ,they want you to feel you’re the one with the problem and not them. If you try to point their mistakes or remind them, maybe they forgot to pay some bills they promised, they will be like” because you’ve done it before, please face your problems.

People in this relationship always feel they’re not enough“ If I was enough, he wouldn’t cheat on me, if I was enough, he wouldn’t insult me, if I was enough, he would be present when I needed him, if I was enough he wouldn’t do this and that” These aching feeling of not being enough is one of those Signs you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist, you keep making excuses for them , hoping they’ll change, but no matter how you try, they just make you feel you’re never enough. Oh please, just stop this, the truth is that it has nothing to do with you, they just can’t regulate their self esteem, they’re are now insecure, they now feel entitled, broken inside, they tend to protect it by all means, they feel no one is better than them.

Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality often see nothing wrong with what they do, as such there’s no point for change in them, in as much as a narcissist cannot completely change, there are certain things they could do in hope to recovering such Relationship. Narcissistic partners should break out of the norm and focus on showing more empathy for others, they should care about how others feel, they should drop their ego, Stop thinking they are better than others, they should welcome critics as a step to their growth and reviving a narcissistic Relationship.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/06/25/narcissistic-relationship-how-well-can-you-tell-if-you-are-dating-a-narcissist/

I can't believe I'm a typical example of this

I want to change pls

I have a business in mind to start and I need 100k to start even though what I needed is more than that but with d 100k I will start and hope d business grow to get other things I needed, but my problem is I don't know to raise this money, i have nobody that can help.

Pls, guys give me an opinion on how u think I can raise this money as soon as possible pls....im so determined to start this business, hunger bad o...

I have a business in mind to start and I need 100k to start even though what I needed is more than that but with d 100k I will start and hope d business grow to get other things I needed, but my problem is I don't know to raise this money, i have nobody that can help.

Pls, guys give me an opinion on how u think I can raise this money as soon as possible pls....im so determined to start this business, hunger bad o...

My then gf told me... YOU ARE ALWAYS BROKE

People preferred and trust bet9ja cos it's well known

Hoping to start laundry business soon....So help me God

We are now living in a society where u are forbidden to speak out when the govt is not performing its duties.
Tribalism, nepotism, and partiality is d order of d day...

Is this how we are going to continue?
2023 another person from another ethnic group will be elected probably and he too will want to be partial and favour his tribe...

Na like this we wan be like Dubai?

We are really in one chance in this country...

Igboho and Kanu should be free, d govt should try another strategy, putting someone in DSS custody for years is not working, y not try going for d Peace way....Make peace and address some issues that led to secession cries and let's peace reign.....

Na their time, make dem use am well...Citizens are crying every day, d leaders never seized to merry on any slight chance.

I know God will not abandon his people

Bad news everyday

The citizens are used to bad news .

We live a world of fake life and fake love. May God save us from those that love us with their facial expression and despise us in their heart.

tuna85:
Blackmoran has a great point, it's either you do a locational survey within an urban area to enable you understand the success of laundry business + start up capital.

Laundry business will not thrive in the rural region. You can as well keep applying for better paying jobs at same time.

Wish you the very best Bro

Tanx......its a grade 1 rural area....Not too rural Lol

enthronedbyGod1:
TB Joshua died and was highly honoured by the world and Christians at large. SCOAN held a week long programme to mark his death.
He was eulogized by the high and mighty to the extent even Israelites had delegates attending his burial.

I promised myself not to say anything about him again either good or bad , but something was stirred up in my spirit last night as I had communion with the Holy Spirit and this led me to open this thread.

I read threads how a lot of people( prophets inclusive both false and real eulogized him and it got me thinking so much ).

After I went through his burial pictures last night , I went into deep thoughts. I was thinking and praying in the Spirit non stop , when the Holy Spirit started ministering to me and we had a lovely communion and I want to share some of the things I got from that.

You might not like the things I say here, but your opinion on this wouldn't really matter cos God gave me a scripture as my motto when He called me ( Let God be true and every man a liar) . This has been my guiding scripture all my years as a Christian.

Op like seriously after watching d funeral I have this urge in me to serve humanity and be good...I pray God helps me with this mission im embarking on.

When youre doing good, ur good deeds will publicize themselves. TBJ good deeds publicize themselves not him publicizing them.

It is from this earth we'll know how our heaven will be. The prophet is resting well.

Blackmoran:
guy while teaching there are you not looking for other alternative or you are not so inspired so you stay in your comfort zone? I will rather be jobless than earning 25k in a Month in this economy!!! She is nice to you because she knows that most people will not tolerate that bullsheeet of a salary.... An secondly am into laundry business over here in Lagos which is very technical because most of my client jobs are white collar and for you to deal with suit and some other technical material you have to be a professional, but since you are in a rural area if you know how to iron and wash perfectly you are good to go my advice for you do not charge per items do bulk wash simply because urban dwellers have so much time for themselves..

Thanks

AKAyomide:
I actually made a mistake it was for another thread. I am so sorry for the wrong input.....

I thought as much...its ok

FashionCapital:
Asin ..me self tire ....

I have a friend that run a dry cleaning biz along side teaching .He has employed an helping hand now as the work is too tedious but he still hasn't quite his job. He earns almost the same pay as you ,i guess 24k thereabout ..He bought a washing machine and a pressing iron for a start but now he has a generator and he even furnished his room with both streams of income ..the lesson here is that you should never quit your source for now , no need for loan save and start small when the biz grows employ an helping hand and when it boom no one will tell you to stop and they might just lay you off.

To your question

Make sure you carry the woman along in everything you do. Let her be like a mentor to you but never let her tie you down with employee tactics. Be focus and stand your ground , you can only achieve this when you start small explain to her how you intend to operate both bisiness without letting anyone clash (you must be smart, straight,manly and a little bit charismatic when telling her making it sound like an opinion but not advise ): she might even be your first client who knows. But when you "smell an attitude" kindly withdraw yourself..also plan for negativity make sure you have a financial backup cuz you might end up losing your job but who care when you are focused...
I wish nl add a voice note features ...i hate typing...
Sort and add up other advises .May God continue to pave way for we the legal hustlers, it's not easy out there.....shalom

Thanks so much for this

AKAyomide:
I sincerely the love the way she was opened up to you earlier to avoid playing eith your emotions not even the finance you would you spend in fake and pretend relationship. I wish I were you, I would had forgotten about the existence of her and put my mind in a good frame of mind...
She had saved you for future sorrow bro!

Is this for this thread or another?

CrazyMan:
Any employer paying his staff a salary of less than 30k to his employee naturally shouldn't expect him/her to stay there forever.

You're a man and you aren't getting any younger, sooner or later your aged parents will start bugging you to get married and settle down.

Back to your laundry business...I don't know your location, but to be honest with you laundry business is an urban area business. It doesn't move very well in rural areas, reason being that you don't have so much working class people there, and the few who are working earn peanuts which will make them feel that taking their laundry to the drycleaners is a waste of money.

If I'm to advise you, I'll tell you to look for a business in that location you know moves very well and engage in it.

Good luck.

Thanks, sir for this...Truly, this place is a rural area but its development is so high at d moment, a bank to be opened next week and a tertiary institution is moving there very soon...

I just think it's better to be a lion in d jungle than a rat in d city....

There are some into laundry here but not serious with it... I plan to drive off d little competition and get myself settled as d main laundryman in d town...

faithfull18:
Bad advice, he should go and die ba

This is not even a good time to join the military

Good morning

Good morning

Good morning

zolajpower:
She knows you will leave one day . So I will advice you give her notice ...... You might need her in future , especially for background check on any employment in future ( laundry job fit no pay all your bills) .
As you climb the ladder of success , always remember your little begining . You will need her tomorrow.
#GIVEHERNOTICE #DONTSHOCKURMADAM

I'll definitely do that

AfroKnight:
Then no problem. Her behaviour during your last month will let you know how your relationship with will be after leaving.

25k is not enough for you. You have to think of your future. You have served her, and now I t’s time to move on. Try to make your transition as smooth as possible. Don’t burn bridges.

Thanks

Nozino:
Since she’s nice, open up to her. Tell her the reason you want to leave. She will support you sef

Thanks