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just imagine the kind of lives people live in other countries

the trick of the devil is to use your fear against you. People that fear things or people or situations often end up in that thing they fear. Do not be afraid of anything

Husband beating wife cuz of house help na wa o husband wants to impregnate the house help by force. Kai konji strong ooo if and if konji never existed in the life of a man, how sweet it would have been

EfemenaXY:
I just about managed to struggle through one-third of the story. The reporter wasn't very objected and quite frankly, came across as biased - to the point you'd think he'd been an active listening fly on the wall.

But then again, these are the sort of stories Mr Bennyrazz thrives on

how do you want the reporter to write the story? a woman left her husband home (not divorced yet) for another man because of money. Not that the man was not meeting up to his responsibilities but his wife became an oliver twist just after 20yrs of marriage, don't you find that strange? her husband paid for her school fees still she graduated from school so you could understand how in love the man was to have done that at the early stages of their relationship. Running away to lagos with her children and another man is enough trauma on the man alone, now she's dead, politician is on the run, children are rendered motherless including a newborn and all you could type is "I thrive on stories like these" i mean, what do i gain from this? why i said i wanted to see your comments was that, you have never been objective on cases the concerns men and you just did that by writing "the reporter came off as being biased". If it was a man that died in this case, you would have been jubilating with all those funny emoticons. My point is, be objective.

Mindfulness:
I just read the beginning. I don't like the word "snatch" in this context. He snatched my wife. No, she didn't. Your wife made her choice. Stop deceiving yourself and deal with it.

her choice has led to her death, left her 3children with an unborn baby motherless and yet this is all what you could type? reverse would have been the case if the story was about a man who met his death after eloping with another woman, i sure would have seen comments likes "serves him right". I wrote about married women keeping boyfriends for financial gains earlier on a thread efemenaxy was on. Even if the comments were out of context on that thread, it is something that some married women do which is totally crazy. Likewise in same vain, i will also chastise men keeping concubines or mistresses.

EfemenaXY:
Everything's wrong with your earlier comment:



1. You don't know the full story or how exactly that accident happened.

2. Irrespective of the number of kids a parent has, be it 20 or just 1, every one of their kids is precious. It's not your place to make claims and assertions that the amount of love parents have for their children diminishes with the number of kids they have.

3. While I do agree that the parents should be held responsible as they have a duty of care to their child, freak accidents can happen to anyone. You're implying that the parents directly caused this. You might as well state that they doused her in fuel and threw a lit match on her...

I repeat, nothing is wrong with my earlier comment and nothing is wrong with my assertion. Who made the firewood? who put cooking pot on the firewood? the child? even in a house where you have kids, they are electrical appliances here and there and most times you protect your kids even toddlers off those stuff till they know the dangers of them. The kitchen is off limit for children below 6 and so many other precautions. The bible says "people perish because they lack knowledge, wisdom is principal"

Go to the Northern parts of Nigeria, when former first lady patience Jonathan made the statement "We no dey born pikin troway" a lot of Nigerians crucified her when in-fact she said the truth, she was referring to almajiris in the North (the root cause of bokoharam) It is a pity such has happened to a little child which I still think the mother should pay for the crime against this little girl.

waiting for comments from madam Efemenaxy and mindfulness

EfemenaXY:
That is a horrible, horrible thing to say! What's wrong with you?

Every life is precious.

Every life is precious in the eyes of God. Nothing is horrible about my comment and nothing is wrong with me, I'm just being frank. If God gave them just one child, they would protect the child with all they have. What does a 4yr old know? left to me, her parents will be in jail by now and if possible, I will take her away from them because they are simply wicked and selfish

Interesting

Carelessness of her parents caused this. Probably her parents have up to 8kids so loosing one wouldn't be a problem to them. May God have mercy on them

EfemenaXY:
Based on the write up, the woman is innocent, and her husband's claim unfounded.

Thus the point I made was, why should the accused be forced to put up with unproven nonsense, to the point of pacifying the accuser? Does that sound normal to you, oga Bennyrazz?



She is the accused and therefor the victim.




I raised the point about the tables being turned. Why're you repeating what I've already said?




How does that apply within the context of the story here? Did this woman leave her husband or indicate that she plans on leaving him? Isn't her upset based on the fact that after over 35 years of marriage, he accuses her of what she's innocent of?

Come to think of it, maybe she should have done just what you're implying.



Is that your interpretation of this story?

That this 60 something year old married woman has got sexual boyfriends, financial boyfriends, and whatever category of boyfriends you've come up with?



You don't believe in Jesus.

You're an apprentice juju priest.

The accusations of the man in the story are just cheap blackmails to get his wife off his back. He knows he is cheating and instead of admitting, he is also accusing his wife of same. The bottom line is, he is a serial cheat and it only takes an encounter with God for serial cheats to change. The questions I asked further are not related to the story above and are not within the context of the story. And madam efe, I am an anointed man of God I don't know where you got that juju jargons from

When will all this tiwa and tee billz brouhahaha stop To be couples, the number one rule is never marry someone that would make you commit adultery

Madam efe, The question is how do you handle infidelity accusations in marriages not the story been peddled up there where the woman is being painted as the victim, if the table was turned the other way, would you have made this comment? How many women have left their marriages seeking for greener pastures in the house of other men? Married women now talk about having sexual boyfriends, financial boyfriends etc the thing is men and women of nowadays are not contented with what they have and because of that, cases of infidelity will not cease till Jesus comes

EfemenaXY:
What nonsense.
The accuser should be pampered for spewing unfounded trash, because the accused is made of stone and wood without feelings.
It's tiring reading "advice" from "men" who can't stomach their own advice if the tables were turned.

EfemenaXY:
Oh pls!

Going by the following excerpt, men are also guilty (and very gullible) of this too.



A man married his heartthrob. After almost 10 years in the marriage the wife became an Oil tycoon. She runs a thriving business that takes her to almost every part of the world. The husband. Still scraping by.
The woman loved her hubby. He drives her everywhere and she seeks out his opinion on almost all matters. Jolly fellows. The husband has 5 out of the 9 cars on the fleet. With the least being a 2012 Prado. Big boy. His wife takes care of him.
Okay the meat of the story. The man was with his friends at a regular hangout and the conversation that ensued is both hilarious and a huge lesson:
Friend: "You! I am sorry for you. Your wife has used your destiny. She's soo rich whilst you're merely scraping by. Doing fake big boy. We all know your wife is the source of all your bigboyism. Oloshi! You better think twice. Snatch your destiny away from her!"
Husband: "Thanks for the advice. You see let me tell you something you don't know o. I am 45 years old and for 35 years I never knew how to use my destiny. I was suffering. Even to eat na wahala! Now I got married 10 years ago to my wife and she knows how to use my destiny. Now I ride latest cars and travel with her to any part of the world that even you my friends haven't been before. I am going home now to inform my wife to continue using my destiny o. Infact! She must make sure she finishes it all. It must not remain"=

Source: Unknown.

interesting story you wrote up there. Truth is, both men & women are guilty of listening to advice from unfriendly friends but women are more guilty after all the woman was deceived first before man. She was in transgression first

my papa in those days says in Yoruba "tin moba feran yin, mo ni se gbo gbo nkan ti mo se fun yin" meaning if I don't love you, I would not be doing what I'm doing for you. He says it when he has this emotional outburst. Then he goes on to blackmail, saying in Yoruba "mo ro bo ya eferan mi?" meaning "you and your brothers don't love me", then I end up replying him thus "Dad why would you say so?" indirectly, he has told me he loves me and I have told him, I love him too. Same thing goes to my mother, she uses cheap blackmail to get you say "I love you mum". Any conversation between my mum and brother always end with my brother saying I love you mum. Imagine a grown ass man with kids saying those words to his mother. When parents begin to age, they start behaving like little children, I don't know why.

those that compare themselves by themselves are foolish. Women running to their friends for advice in their relationship usually end up getting the wrong advice. I wish people could learn from this, your best friend may be your greatest enemy it only takes a discerning spirit to recognize this. Nice article @op.

seems the woman is bewitched.

@op, I can relate with all what you wrote above especially with the issue of blood group and forging health certificate. I signed a fake lab result for a friend, never knew what he wanted to use it for but he coerced me into signing that he was AS meanwhile he was AA. It was after the whole deed was done i figured out the whole truth, when i confronted him, he didn't deny. Why he did that was because he had already impregnated his own fiancee's friend ( long story). And he had done introduction with his fiancee, friend to fiancee he impregnated said she will not abort and he was caught in the middle. He knew his fiancee was AS and he knows she could commit suicide if he dares break up the relationship and not continue with marriage. So the only solution was forged blood test result and it worked. The fiancee he wanted to marry had to let go while he finally settled with his fiancee's friend. She has four kids for him now.

There is another case of a woman that deceived my friend. The lady had done surgery to remove fibroid once before, I don't know the type of soup she cook for my friend o, they ended up marrying each other despite several warnings from my friends family. At the end of the day, after about 7months after marriage, she was always complaining of stomach ache, stomach ache, friend thought she was pregnant or she had ulcer or something Meanwhile all her lab test results before marriage were all forged. It was at the hospital they did scan, did all sort if thing and it was discovered that the second fibroid was growing in her womb. My friend spent huge amount of money to get her operated upon and rehabilitated. After a while, he filed for divorce. He relocated from his house straight up. Lady started begging us to settle the matter. We all said OK. That was how they divorced. Prelude to marriage, women may be deceptive, men may be deceptive. You have to pray hard, open your eyes, apply wisdom when looking for a spouse.

@op, he might love his child but maybe distance is another thing. I think there is no man on earth that does not love his offspring except if the man as sold off his conscience to the devil or he was born irresponsible (The don't take responsibilities for their actions) That's one angle.

Another angle is that, he might be carried away or deeply involved with another woman spreading the joy of his manhood to them. Maybe you are not the first person he has impregnated or turned to his baby mama. There might be other women which you yourself might know of. Take a look at his background, his he from a polygamous home? What is your own family background too? some things happens due to foundations, fate which causes transfers of all sort of things from one generation to the other.

Lastly about your child, he is still a toddler and its obvious you can't remain single forever. Now you need to look for a man when I say look for, don't go around falling in love with a man because of what he says or have. Those days love was blind, you made the mistake once, don't make the Same mistake again, Wise up. Make your new man understand you have a baggage (your son) and for the relationship to move forward, the way he treats you should be replicated to your son.

the woman as insecurity issues. Because her husband is a police? The proprietor of the school should do the right thing by sacking the teacher first and the police should set up a panel to investigate why an 8yrs old boy had to be arrested by one of their men in the first place. Really it's absurd but we would like to hear both sides of the story.

14yrs old girl? no surprises though. Boyfriend issue( Already blaming her bf for not giving her money mentality at an early age SMH) she hates parents because they correct her, wants to paint nail, paint face, wear skimpy dress, nothing new. How you all handle it is the major problem because the rate at which teenage girls are going about 30% of them might get pregnant before age 20. May God give you the grace to handle the issue @op

it's a good thing you bought him books on how to be a successful parent, partner and stuff but my own question to the OP is why indulge us in this story when she knew the problem and the possible answers to the problem?

I attended boarding school but my kids will not attend such. Survival instincts my foot, it breaks kids teaches them all sort of terrible stuff. They get to relate with some terrible children with terrible upbringing, poor home training etc. Day school all the way for my kids jare

an unfaithful woman will continue to be an unfaithful woman. If it were in the days of the old testament, she would have been stoned to death. (Imagine sleeping with another man on your matrimonial bed, what effrontery)

"a few nude photos on social media would make you rich and famous"

Twinkie8:
In the past when he gets caught, he apologizes and tries to lay low for a while till things are going well then jumps back on the horse. . I know he has fallen in love with her cos I see the I need to teach him a lesson he will never forget. I am tired of being the door mat. Am tired of forgiving and praying and tolerating. It's obvious that it's a lifestyle for him and not a mistake. Any advise will be appreciated.
Source: http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/

That part "lay low" got me rflmao .The only thing I would type is, no matter how you clean or bathe a pig, it will still go back to the gutters. I wish you luck in your marriage
I'm sure you married him for the benjamins

thorpido:
Belated happy birthday madam tearoses.

To those calling you grandma...........they are on the way too.


May you continue to grow in wisdom and peace that passes all understanding.

fellis:
So she is Pisces?
No wonder she loves submission and humility and other such things.
Pisces women just love being dominated by men

no need to wonder about anything, it is not a matter of her loving being dominated by men. It is a matter of doing what is right before God and man. Submission, humility, kindness as nothing to do with stars or astronomy. It is a virtue, an in born gift from God, it as no regards for the month anyone was born. Happy birthday madam tearoses aka chaircover, God bless your new age Grandma

Strahovski1:
I have sex 4 times a year(2015).. so what is your problem?

and this was the thread you created about having sex daily www.nairaland.com/2883377/6-reasons-why-should-sex


Back to topic @op is your husband a Pastor?

There is a maximum amount of temptation a man can bear. May we never get tempted beyond what we can bear.

@Tpia, I understand your concerns has to do with morality especially when they are not practicing what they preach but you should know some church denominations accepted them the way they are, being born again for a lady is all about modesty especially in dressing. But you should also know that some cleavage bearing women are out there for their own gains seeking attention from men. But the point they fail to realise is when you dress indecently as a woman, the approach you'd get from men will be indecent especially on social media. Those that seem not concern about revealing any part of their body are used to it, used to the attention. They want to attract the highest bidder. The only thing they offer is their kitty in exchange for cash. That is their gold mine, their mineral resources. I don't blame them cuz if they know some things about their future, they wouldn't result to such acts

the same pathetic condition you put yourself in is almost what some young ladies are trying to get themselves into. When a man is really serious with you, he deals with you like a wife to be. He makes his opinion known to you all the time about any particular subject, he wants to know if his views matches your own. He wants some kind of mutual understanding between both of you. He might love you but once he doesn't understand your ways, once you begin to take his advice wrongly, once you begin to feel overrated in yourself, the man might feel he is not your first choice and he might also feel you listen to other men. I hope you've learnt your lesson? quit stalking him on Facebook else you might commit suicide from your own undoings