stickle:
If you love her, fight for your love. People make mistake. Tell her to decide who she wants. If she chose you then she should cut the string with others immediately.
A year break in your relationship may have given room for all of this but you know her better and also understands the situation better than us.
Go with your mind but not until you have prayed about it.

Seriously, I am just reading all the comments here with so much surprises. Is obvious Naija guys don't have trust for ladies again .

I know this girl wella before we break up.
What I don't really is what transpired while we were apart.

I am not in the right place to judge her past, but all I want is a sincere heart for change . If I don't get that, I will walk away

Vortex369:
Of what use are you to her OP. She gave you 6k from her hustling not nysc, slowpoke.

Just having a dick is not enough. Dont you rhink marrying you will be a curse to her.

I strongly recommend she leaves you

Lol. U saw 6k and it u started having menstruations.

To show how stingy and poor you are.

I mentioned that part for lots like u to know she isnt the stingy type and someone who care.

I know you are trying to know what I did for her . But I am not here to brag about what I have done for her .

So bye

oglalasioux:
You've just been baptized into the world of women. If you want to get married stick with this one. 99.999% of women will do same thing. Worse things are in store for you if you dare try others. Live with it. That's how the universe was made.

Kaiiii. You are the only one that have since said something in my mind .

Baba, to be honest, girls dey fear me now a days . I see shit they do. That's why I ran back to my ex, but unfortunately, alot have changed in her .

Can I have your WhatsApp digit

dirolad:
See you u will be fine las Las. She's really attached to the married man, unless the married man decides to let her go. She even prefer making him fall in love. If u end up marrying her, just know u ain't alone. Stop questioning her anymore and have it at the back of your mind that you gon leave her someday. She's not sorry for her doings and will make you beg when she's wrong. Don't be weak because of love.

Thanks

Monaco2:


Thanks, how much is it?!?

Don't know now, but I bought 119k in October

Wanna sell mine though ?

Monaco2:



What brand of phone is that ?!?

Mi 9T

alexistaiwo:
She will be back.

When she does..... Give her a deadline to end it and if the deadline is not met.

Save yourself from unnecessary stress and take a walk.


Best of luck bro.

Thanks alot .

shortgun:

Guy, let me tell you the truth that no one have told you.
You see girls,....yes I mean girls these days. They have all learn bad things.
I don't know what came over them...yes all of them oo.

That your girl is a saint if I tell you what other people's wife/ gfs are doing you will go n apologize to her.
my concern is that she doesn't truly love you.stop deceiving yourself she doesn't love you.

From her response I can see that she's not into you or she's on a revenge mission for what you did to her b4.
My final verdict is for you to fleeeeeeeeeeee.

Sincerely speaking I am amazed at the level of what girls do now a days . I am just confused as to what came over them .

The way I am seeing it, if this babe is really into married men and she isn't willing to cut tiers then I will surely find it difficult to trust ladies again .

While we were in school, she was a a different girl . She changed completely within a space of one year and I am so sad about the development.

Should I leave this babe, it will take me a very long time to trust any babe again honestly

RisenPhoenix:
You are weak. What is there to analyse again? She's having an affair, wrecking a marriage, yet you are the one to blame for not trusting her? She wants to turn you to mumu; trusting the untrustworthy. Nice girl my backside.

Any woman that you wany to marry should be <21 years old. Anything more than that and having passed through university, is bound to have an odorous history that will haunt her and whoever marries her for the rest of their lives. Be warned.

Okay she is 20.

AshiraWealthy:
Someone says you've really gone beyond what you need to know and youre still there singing the national anthem of 'i love her, I love her'. Mumu love.

Truth is, after you guys parted, she moved on big time. You are only trying to wake up a long dead relationship and seem to be the only one in it as it is obvious she only agreed to come back maybe due to age no longer on her side and she just wanting a husband figure but her mind is no longer with you hence her behavior.

Move on and stop deceiving yourself. I wonder how you could play detective with her phone and not being able to detect she's no longer in love with you.
Wake up!

Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

FarFromAverage:
I was thinking of getting you one. She's very rare in nature. Very beautiful and intelligent. She's so precious that she's been protected by her squads. You dare not go close to her without the directives of her squads. You see - that's why she's rare in nature

I don't understand you Mr.

alexistaiwo:
So a girl should just wake up and erase people she used to know whether good or bad from memory because she just reconnected with her ex.


You fvck up by keeping silent and not be definitive with your feelings other her shenanigans.
Give her a month ultimatum to cut all ties with her past or you are done.


Nothing Alexistaiwo no go see for nairaland!

I also have ex's I have been with before going back to her . I cut it off immediately cos I don't want drama.

Nah, have never been silent . Have rebuked her openly when I started seeing those stuff. Though it was before we got back together.

But I was plain about the two she is still in touch when th especially the married guy . Which she promised to cut tiers .

For messed up when I saw she is still in touch.

I rebuked her again and she was like giving me her phone to end it if I believe she won't end it herself.

Our argument last nite really pissed me off. And right now , I feel is just over

ImaIma1:


Let me see if I get the facts right.

She has/had an affair with a married man; meaning she has no respect or regard for the institution of marriage. If she can sleep with a married man, would it be hard for her to sleep with someone else when you both are married?

She still communicates with him and he probably still sends her money. What does she do for him to get this money? Is she willing to let go of the monetary benefits?

She took a picture in your bedroom and sent to another guy? While you guys are dating?

She has no regard for you. You are the nice broke guy (she sent you money) that will be there for her to settle down with. She will probably be doing her runs and giving you money from it.

If you still want to go ahead, stop checking her phone because you will continue seeing things

Okay, she doesn't send me money . I do the sending . She just sent that 6k after she received her allawee to help sort some stuff.

Well I get your point . I want to move past this, bit also want to make it right if is possible for her . Cos to me , everyone deserve a second chance

LilMissFavvy:
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.

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She is serving

fulaniHERDSman:

Read their conversation and see that she has no plan for repentance. She has abused another's marriage and karma will surely descend on hers. While this guy will be the innocent collateral damage. An audacious slut indeed.

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If Karma really pay us all for our deeds, then we all be gone by now . There will be none left on this planet earth

Kevsmart88:
If I were to understand you, you are feeling bad u snooped on ur girlfriends phone and discovered all this...wow! I would be damned if I find out my girlfriend ever dated a married man and didn't call it quits instantly....Little wonder why crazy things keep happening in this world now, we now do things our forefathers would frown at in disdain without remorse these days....imagine the effrontery telling U that U went too far, a girl u wanna marry and she knows u have good intentions. Young Man pick urself up and stop whining like a baby, what makes u think she will cut ties with this married man after marriage, she would just upgrade the oga to a family friend(benefactor) asap, leaving gullible U believing he's just a nice man...Our young men and woman have totally lost it, I'm scared what our progenies would become...

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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

Mutemenot:
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...

Yea. I have always done that . I am willing to stand by her and correct her . I sees it as her past.

I just realised it takes a second for someone to change . I wasn't expecting her to remain the same after I left .

My issue is, will things remain the same after I told her my findings ?

Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

Good morning all. Just downloaded Yowhatsapp. But can't change the theme and can't download or upload pictures .

What's the cause ?

kahal29:
Once the Supreme Court has entered judgment in a case, that decision is final and will remain so for ever. The law may in future be amended to affect future issues on the same subject, but for the case decided, that is the end of the matter.

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I doubt if you read the article .

Go back and see what Oputa said in that article

Xiaomi to the world

genius43:


Have you checked gallery settings?

Have checked it. Don't just know how to stop it

Still asking . How do I stop donwloaded videos from appearing in my camera row.

This is very annoying

Bahddo:
pawn abi?

Don't understand

How do I stop donlwnloaded videos from appearing on my camera roll photos ?

fibonacci2526:



Exactly, dunno y people are particular about this feature.

That record good shaa. Depending on the work you do . To avoid , you someone saying stuff outa of the book, record official conversation

genius43:


It is a general problem with Mi 9T because no much phones using the Sony IMX 582 as compared to 586 on the Pro variant which is much more common. So you have to make do with what you have till there is a dedicated port for Mi 9T

Okay. Thanks alot

genius43:


It wasn't you but I knew I have posted it here before check this post

https://www.nairaland.com/3092803/xiaomi-thread/6726#85881682

You can follow the guidelines on this link to learn how to apply XML file

https://www.androidexplained.com/redmi-7-install-google-camera/

Thanks . Downloaded and installed . Also applied the XML file .

But slow motion still closes and there is no blur lense option

genius43:


I shared a link with a config link with you sometime ago. It seems like you ignored it. Check your nmentions

Checked , didn't see any. The link u shared was for my RN7.

Talking of MI 9T.

genius43:


Which one do you have?

Here is it. No blur lense and slow motion close when I tried using it

Scarpon:
Guys please has anyone received android 10 on Mi 9t pro? Am just stuck in 9 beta

Got mine , but disappeared before I could download it.

Downloaded from a telegram group . 2.2GB. But I didn't noticed any changes ohhh