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David Oyedepo

[quote author=كلورين][size=13pt]I hope you guys know he's most likely going to see this thread.[/size][/quote]thats the essence

Who do you think is capable to steer the affairs of this nation in the way we desire

[size=17pt]if you follow him on twitter kindly send him Mr hypocrisy and unfollow him[/size]

I got married to my darling wife five years ago, and it has been a wonderful relationship, up till last week. Something happened that nearly eroded the love I have for her. I’m not saying that we have not had our share of the ups and downs in marriage. With a good job, two lovely children and a peaceful home, we cannot possibly ask for more. I love my wife a lot and I respect her so much. But I received the shock of my life last week when I got to know that she was seeing another man.
I must say that I’m not a saint because occasionally, in the past, I had allowed my flesh to get the better part of me in respect of the opposite sex. Even at that, I cannot be labeled a Casanova. The truth is that I had cheated on her before but unfortunately, she found out, although I was not caught in the act. Need I say that since then, she no longer trusted me?
Whenever I came home late from work or went out with friends, the look on her face and her actions suggested that I had just left the bosom of another woman. Sometimes, I reacted angrily to her gestures but at other times, I understood her plight. I took it that her reaction could be a result of her lack of trust in me.
There was a time I had to swear to her by the Holy book to prove my innocence that I was not having an affair with a friend of hers. She just came up with this idea that we were having an affair.
In spite of all of these, we always managed the situation and it did not reduce the love I have for her. I have faced several cases of wrong allegations of infidelity. There is nothing she demanded from me that I refused her, even if it had to be done at a later time.
So genuine was the love I feel for her that whenever she was not happy, it became a source of worry to me. I never got relief until her mood was right. As a result of this, it appeared as if my world was crashing when I found out about her escapade with a man close to her place of work.
Some months ago, I introduced my wife to a pastor friend. But I was surprised to hear from him that she later went back to him to ask for a spiritual solution that would make ladies detest her husband; so much that he would not have the guts to make advances at them.
A few days before I discovered this, I had a dream that my wife was carrying a pregnancy that was not mine. Of course, I dismissed the dream as impossibility. I need to add at this juncture that I trusted Tejumola so much that I gave her the liberty to go wherever she wanted and I never doubted her; even when she returned home late.
I have never bothered myself to ask her friends about her whereabouts. She was free to go out with her friends. But one day, I felt that something was amiss when we slept together. Of course, I discovered that her private area felt differently. It was as if she had just had several rounds of sexual intercourse before returning home. I noticed the difference, but there was nothing to cry about since I did not hold any concrete evidence.
It was when I narrated my dream to someone that I heard of her escapades. The man of God that I earlier mentioned said he told my wife that what she was asking for was possible, but that she must preserve herself for her husband. He told her that failure to keep her side of the deal could spell disaster.
With that, my wife promised to come back after giving the issue a second thought; but she did not show up again. I may never have known had she returned to the man. He told me that he was not telling me these things to destroy my home, but he feared that my wife may have gone elsewhere to seek help, since she sensed that he was reluctant to do it for her. He felt that it was better for us to talk about the situation so that a lasting solution could be sought.
For the avoidance of doubt, he called my wife in my presence, put the phone on speaker mode, and I heard her telling him that she would soon come around to see him on the matter. Upon further enquiry during the conversation, I heard my wife confirm to him that she had sex with a man against his warning.
I was shocked and my heartbeat increased. I could not believe my ears and it was a miracle that I drove home safely that day. Before I left his place, I assured the pastor that I would handle the issue with maturity and that I would not do anything stupid.
Believe me, that was one of the saddest days of my life. This is the same person I trusted so much. Someone I went out of my way to please; that made life difficult for me whenever I returned late from work.
That is the woman that flaunted my perceived infidelity before my face at every opportunity; a situation of a pot calling kettle black. I wept.
You may ask what I did thereafter, but the situation of things remained the same as it was before the issue came up. Divorce is never an option or any other punishment. The reason was that I had cheated on her before and what about the future of my wonderful children? I cannot trade off their happiness for anything. If you care to know, I have not mentioned the issue to anybody and I will not. The reason is that her shame is mine too. Her sorrow is mine. As a Yoruba adage puts it, ‘Ko si bi a o se peri isu ti akoni pe ti ikoko ti a fise.’ She may have made a greater mistake, but I believe that she needs a second chance.
When she sensed that danger was knocking, she confessed to me on the day after she returned from the pastor’s place. We both wept sorely. She could not come up with any reason for her action than to say that her friend led her into it.
She begged for forgiveness and assured me that such would never happen again. I believe her and I have forgiven her but it is easier to forgive than to forget.
My concern is this: Can I really believe that there is an end to this affair from her end? How am I really sure that she will keep to her promise? How can I vouch for her that she would not approach another spiritualist in the future for a wrong I may do to her?
To have approached a spiritualist for such an issue is a manifestation of a desperate and selfish mind.
However, regardless of what happened, I still love my wife; I still want to trust her and continue to respect her.
We’re going on a five-day vacation abroad and I believe that by the time we get back, we would have put the issue behind us.
I want my home intact; but I can’t read her

1025:
@poster,
do u have a mind of your own? if yes, who do u think is the most popular candidate and why?

i live in the south but its for those who live in the north

haba 

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very soon

they are

nuhu ribadu
mohamodu buhari
Atiku Abubarkar
Aliyu gusau
Bukola Saraki
Ibrahim Babangida

among the general populace in the northern part of nigeria, who is the most popular candidate out of all these

personally i think what nigeria needs in a sincere dictator,a fine military man who is ready to cleanse the society by killing people like OBJ ATIKU IBB Jonathan MArk Bankole etc and rule for awhile just like jerry rawlings

DapoBear:
If it is 10K rather than 100K, and some sort of 50/50 venture in which the gov't eventually phases out its involvement, I'm less opposed to it. Like I said, they also need to be careful how they deal with danfo drivers less they create unemployment and hurt the economy.

have you being to the apapa ports lately?these ports were operated by govt employees and many rouges and touts now govt has  concessioned it.surprisingly many of these rogues were employed and were able to conform to regulated environment.this implies that the danfo driver can still be employed but with adequate training so,no job loss

DapoBear:
Why not then just legislate higher standards with the existing danfos? It makes ZERO SENSE for the gov't to be spending money on what is effectively a private business!

Legislate higher standards to improve quality, don't waste enormous sums of money like this.

95% of the time, when a gov't gets in trouble, the root cause is it getting involved in a business that is best left in private hands.

i doubt if govt will own these buses 100% ,it will definitely be a PPP thing just like BRT and besides i think @op meant 10000 not 100000
they cant leave in private hands alone.do you know how huge the investment is?it will be too expensive and motive defeated

vigasimple:
with respect to our able Governor,  Buses are not the solutions to Lagos Transport.

Light railways is the answer. it ticks every boxes. but we appreciate his effort.

fine,buses may not be the ultimate solution, but anything that will reduce private cars on the road is the deal.do you know that 75% of vehicle on Lagos roads are private cars?which  most times carry just one passenger?why no convenient alternative!!!!!!!!!!!!! if these buses are truly neat,convient and cheap i will drop my car!i think it will go a long in alleviating the problems on the road

violent:
Face out danfo== more jobless touts in the system!

does it occur to you that this will employ people too?so it can lead to loss of jobs

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Ujujoan:
Still, I can't help but marvel at how short-sighted you've been. You've been working for five years and in all that time you've neglected to focus on building your life. And now you want to do it overnight? You were living in your mother's house, eating her food and driving her car. It never occured to you that you should try and gain a little independence

Jeez, MEN! *shakes head*

your comment is cruel.do you want me to shed tears over my family problemsi am not a fool you cannot understand why.i lived with my mum not because i dont want to be on my own everybody loves freedom and space but due to her illness.you dont expect me to leave her when my sisiter is married and gone.i take practical care of her.

am overwhelmed with everybody's outpouring of comments.i am really grateful.

this below is her reasonsher reasons are these

that she cant leave in 2 bedroom but 3bedroom
that corolla 2001 is too old/small but something like 2008
and that i want to disgrace her with wedding plan of 1.5million.


*she is ibo too so the whole burden is on me.she is jobless.i am very confused i need help

to be frank with everybody in my heart of heart ,my desire and real capability is to spent about 2million for the house car and wedding but because of her displeasure each time i make this known to her.so i decided to delay and probably do some runs to shore my capital to this amount.after this nothing will be in my account.i really wish i could please myself because this is what i am really confortable with. i feel heavily burdened i love her and want to marry.i cant date 2 girls simultaneously but never felt i wish i had someone else any other time than now.thanks you all.

i am overwhelmed with everybody's outpouring of comments.i am really grateful.

this below is her reasonsher reasons are these

that she cant leave in 2 bedroom but 3bedroom
that corolla 2001 is too old/small but something like 2008
and that i want to disgrace her with wedding plan of 1.5million.


*she is ibo too so the whole burden is on me.she is jobless.i am very confused i need help

to be frank with everybody in my heart of heart ,my desire and real capability is to spent about 2million for the house car and wedding but because of her displeasure each time i make this known to her.so i decided to delay and probably do some runs to shore my capital to this amount.after this nothing will be in my account.i really wish i could please myself because this is what i am really confortable with. i feel heavily burdened i love her and want to marry.i cant date 2 girls simultaneously but never felt i wish i had someone else any other time than now.thanks you all.