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cococandy: And even if that were true,how does it subtract from the subject of the thread which is that abused women should find strength to leave such marriages.

Ha, I see you have a hard time grasping how to connect the dot too


Governor Chime's behaviour towards his first wife was not a secret. Clara knew what she was walking into as second wife... Just like Dino Melaye whose second wife just walked despite knowing how Dino treated/abused the first wife... Case in point, see your quote below

cococandy: That's great news for (clara) her.

Just that someone else will hurriedly jump into her shoes now.

So If you want to be expressing this sympathy to second wives who went into the union knowing how cruelly the same man dealt with the first wife, feel free to do your thing and leave me be to pitch my own tent with the first wives club.

Shikena

cococandy: I think calling someone you didn't personally know a prostitute is more vitriolic

I will call a spade a freaking damn spade.

***flicks hair*** How many of the runs girl in your university whom various potbellied old men comes to pick up directly in front of the halls of residence in full glare of the whole uni do you "personally" know

aisha2: Am sure you have evidence apart from "them say" to back your claims.

Governor Chime was renowned all over Enugu for dishing out picantos to the hoes he rolls with using government funds, she was a benefactor of his largesse and decided to marry him knowing she was not his only hoe. He was philandering before she came on the scene and was still philandering when she was on the scene. So what gives

Is Governor Chime the only governor that you have to think they are lying he is a known cheater Why haven't all the other Governors too be tarnished with a scandal of such magnitude

maestroferddi: I am surprised people seem to be absolving this Chime of a bloke. A state governor that could not observe basic continence. So his mandate in Enugu was to be a serial philanderer/orgy-maker. Never knew that this dude that looks so urbane and cultured is this irresponsible. *Tufiakwa!*

Gosh, so with all the big big grammar you are throwing around, your brain cannot connect the dot that my solely focusing on Clara does not mean I support Governor Chime's philandering ways and the way he spent money meant for the people in Enugu on prostitutes, smh

agitator: Your head dey for your shoulder. No mind people wey want put pepper, salt and maggi for wetin everybody know. Abi no be the same 9ja again? wetin be masters degree and PTDF job? Even commissioners, and big men daughters dey into runs.

some people like to hide the truth to protect themselves, but na only themself them dey deceive.

Don't mind them acting like ostriches with their heads in the sand, pretending as if they don't know whats up

aisha2: Learned the hard way that people tend to Judge others by their own low standards.

What is it with the vitrioilic comment What are you getting salty for

Like someone opined earlier, she is no role model for your girl power campaign. End of.

freshdude2: E maa binu na. It's just I don't believe in things like that. If he said so, he needs his head examined. Perhaps, she infected him with mental illness, or is it vice versa?!
Still, I take all such stories with a pinch of salt. Chime might be an asss but I'm not sure I'd call Clara a saint.

Lack of believe in a thing does not make it unreal.

aisha2: Am sure even if Chimes Daughter herself came here to say this is not true we will still say na lie, we have already painted and held fast a picture of what we want to believe. A bad version seems better for us to believe.

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That was what happened. You are the one with the rose tinted goggles trying to turn the story to a "hear ye all women, you can an abusive man and still be successful" ish. That propaganda does not befit this story at all.

[quote author=freshdude2][/quote]Governor Chime said she used diabolical means on him. Didn't you see this in her write up too and didn't you see how that was the only place she was conspicuously silent

aisha2: Runs girl working with PTDF? She went to school, got good grades, got a masters, got a good job and was starting her life when she met him. Haba

She is not from a silver spoon family and we all know what some girls get up to at University and we know they are glorified runs girls, so why are you pretending to be shocked

She met Governor Chime via his daughter and started dating him before he got divorced
That was why her own cousin spited her by having a baby with the same Governor cos they used to roll together, but she now only wanted the Governor to herself

Also didn't she get this job via "Connection" rather than merit.

aisha2: Am not telling the Nairaland version, am telling the personal version, she went to FGGC Sokoto, had same friends from then till now, it was this friends who got her help.

Its not the what people said story I am saying but the real life one. She didnt meet him married, thats the fact. She was happy the first year till he changed and then the abuse started

Ain't making this up, this is not dem say dem say matter, she knew what she was setting herself up for. She was a runs girl who thought she had struck hold unbeknown to her that na fish bone hook her neck. She snatched her friend's dad.

aisha2: You didnt read where she tried to run 4 times. Na wa oh. We always prefer a lie to the truth to sooth our own sentiments

The story has done the rounds on Nairaland more than 4 times, she is just trying to paint herself innocent and practise damage limitation. She suffered a more severe form of mental illness hence reason she was on medication/under incarceration FOR SAFETY REASONS. She is just embarrassed and trying to play down her mental health issue.


She was one of the many hoes Governor Chime was carrying around dishing out free cars to, whilst still married to his first wife, until she used juju to hook him.


So after all has been said and done, she deserves everything she got. She made her bed so should lie on it. Karma is real.

virago: Okay but we also learnt she was already dating Chime while he was still married to his ex wife and she was instrumental to the ex wife leaving. At that time she was a colleague/course mate/ class mate to Chime's daughter so she isn't totally free from blame. Karma is a bitch.

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Don't mind her.

Clara Chimes the Husband snatcher, depression is a mental illness.

You should have learnt your lesson when your cousin had a baby for Governor Chime, but chose to keep swallowing more rubbish.

You are a victim of your own handiwork, but as with everything Nigerian, as usual evil gets rewarded...



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@ Chaircover
Have just seen it. But truth be told, na only Tpia do the right thing oh like i have maintained all along, twas just that she did it in her usual no-brake-no-jam-no-sabi-busstop manner

Idowuogbo:
Iya oko miiii loool funny enough I dey folly cabarn o I come grease weekend.Don't mind him he's all into twitter and naruto according to him "Bado Nl tin sha mehnnnnn" dat probably explains y u haven't seen him.No worrries I will tell him his sugar sixteen dey miss am it will probs make his poporipo navigate ur momorimo

Ehn hen, na so abi, that una nor fit invite me to come collaboo with y'all, and you know how cold it is too. On my way to Euston Station to catch the train to Birmingham, wait for me oh

@Idowuogbo
Wey Follypimping na, I don spend the last week looking up and down for him on NL oh, abi I dey dream say you mention am ni

maclatunji:
I know you all well: women are very loving but highly emotional/irrational creatures. This knowledge does not make your naughtiness any less frustrating.

Ehn see insult, chai, you can't blame us oh, you wan try all the oestrogen and prostewhacchumaccalit and all these hundreds of hormones that drive us ni, plus that PMS that Idowuogbo mentioned, that even sef we don't know whether we are coming or going. One thing I always say on NL is that I THANK GOD I AM NOT A MAN THAT HAS TO MARRY A NAIJA WOMAN SOMEDAY, lol, and you men deserve medals for this annually. Women. . .necessary evil

chaircover:
Cant live with us cant live without us & yes you can never understand us.

Give BB and I a credit card each with £5k on it and watch us being the best of friends, kissing, hugging and arm in arm on a shopping spree on Oxford Street

Exactly, and we don't grow out of it apparently, everytime i go home and visit relatives and friends, there are always at least 3 people telling me "don't go and greet lagbaja cos we are not on talking terms" but i ignore them, as if e concern me what the catfight was about, especially fights wey go don over before the day ends.

Maclatunji has to increase that amount to £10k each oh, didn't you see what he said, he called us irrational, I am hurt

jennykadry:
I have heard my father say the above 1045680329279738392023 times

Men don dey suffer since time immemorial, honestly

chaircover:
LOL Moremi na £3.50 for the bus and £3.50 for lunch. His school is 25 miles away from home so its quite a distance but na ordinary school canteen lunch o! Things are not cheap in queensland o! ! I pay £1.57 for a costa coffee at work and that is supposed to be subsided. It is well.

Bisi O ga o! you were the one that mentioned emails again this morning now.

I have called you and will always call you bisi and if you want to fight me on that one go ahead 

Now for that one, we will fight oh , only my lolo C2HO5 is allowed to call me that Where is he and his sexy chcken feet sef

@Idowuogbo

Nor be only you say hmmm, if na only you, I for no suspect anything, walahi. Me I nor buy that long speech blaming myself and Ifyalways for the matter oh, yes Ify should not have withdrawn her support for Chioma, but don't tell me not a single one of these peeps could have talked her round na, afterall they saw people like Jennykadry begging her . . .nobody fit put bobo for my own eyes oh, and if you ask me I don't blame Ify here, but the elders in the house, but like someone once correctly mentioned, na only to sit ontop fence dey point finger dem sabi

queensmith:
I believe bluffs have been called, there may actually be no emails.

But if thats the case and people no longer wanted to help due to these 'emails' and shyed away from chiomas case then thats pretty bad. Situation was a bit serious to be playing with like that. Afterall a child was involved.
O well

Bluff ko, fluff ni, lol. I thought there was fuel scarcity and fuel subsidy, where una both get the 2 fully loaded tankers of petrol una bring come this thread ehn, all this bleudy marketers sef [s]na person una wan push inside well una want, get thee behind me onijogbon[/s]

maclatunji:
Women! Women!! Women!!!

Una just dey sabi ni, lol. Una see reason why I always advocate men stay out otherwise you men always grab the wrong end of the stick when you try to intervene between two women

moremi2008:
Wait a minute, 7GBP per day for lunch and transportation?!!! What are they feeding him? Caviar and Smoked Salmon Bruschetta? No be ordinary school bus? Aren't you paying UK taxes? What exactly is the charge for? Or are you sending your pikin to Eton? Hey! Mama Queen is using your hard earned money to buy herself more diamonds! You better Occupy UK before they bleed you dry oh!  

PS - please abeg, don't encourage BB to bring the emails on here. We all know that will lead to WWIII and this thread will be 30+ pages before the drama cools down.

Thanks for seeing through her and what she is trying to do And na them dey like to shout "its over/move on/let it go pass.

soapdish:
You people should stop this, it has gone on long enough. Alternatively, post this email for all to see. Mi think you guys did a noble job in trying to assist  the girl. This bickering should stop please.

Don't worry, it is all over, this is just frayed nerves and egos being soothed over. You are a woman so you should know this

^^^
Already responded to you up there If you remember after my last post to you back then, that I ended with "NEXT", you came back to post that I was blowing things out of proportion to which I did not reply further, YOU EVEN CAME BACK TWICE TO SAY LET'S MOVE ON, SO WHAT CHANGED? Why come back again, biko let dead bones rest abegi Abi nor be you write this many many many many many moons ago

chaircover:
This whole thing has been blown way out of proportion At the end of the day a life is involved here and that should be the focus still.

After all said and done, the baby is still there requiring help

queensmith:
Oya show us the emails u have been ranting about since morning so we know its real!!! Lol

Nope this ish was done and dusted 3 days ago. . . now i am only responding to someone who brought it up, so this is just a response, not a rant. . .thats all

chaircover:
You brought it out in the open and have repeated it severally and have used words such as bilious to describe the content of these Emails.

This is the first time I am even mentioning it and you are asking me to let go. So I ask again, what was in those Emails that was so bad?

Yeah i mentioned the email in my response to people querying that they could not see anyone infer on this thread that I was a scammer, so what gives. . . I am sure you don't have a problem with me or anyone else for that matter, doing what we registered for and responding to people's query on this Nairaland forum. . .And let God be the judge of the adjective i used to describe the emails too PARTY OVER

chaircover:
And what was in those Emails that I was supposed to have said that was so bad?

I am sure you still have a copy . . . OTHERWISE let go and let God . . .

chaircover:
My keeping quiet sometimes doesn’t mean that I am guilty of anything or don’t know what to say but I learnt a long time ago that sometimes it is just best to let things go. That is my style, that is me and anyone can call me any name he/she do desires.

People keep on talking about the NL charity. I don’t know where I said that all donations should go through the charity. The first mention of the charity was in post 171 and I reconfirmed what I said in post 193. I don’t know how to quote so far back or I would have quoted the post here.

The background into the NL charity statement was because Chioma and I had a brief discussion about school fees which I didn’t understand and I didn’t want to ask too many questions at the time. Her exact words were “ please help me to remind aunty ify about the 150k school fees that the Nairaland said they will give me”  I ran it past R321, thinking that she meant the charity with a view to raising the money if need be and he said that like all other cases, there had to be a formal request and that is why I came on here to ask her to go through the charity. I was also thinking that it will work to Chiomas advantage because then she can let everyone know what her requirements were as she may have other needs than the school fees. At that point it wasn’t clear that other people were involved or running around for her.

As for helping and who did what when etc. Let God be the judge of that. We can all write a million lines of justification, judgment, the ifs and the whys, hows and so on but God sees the heart so we are all just wasting time trying to prove ourselves to man. The most important question is “What does God think”

If there is anything that I have learnt from this is that together we stand divided we fall. Whether we want to accept this or not, previous beefs, misunderstanding and misconceptions stopped people from working together and facing the same goal which was to help Chioma. They say that when 2 elephants fight it is the ground that suffers and Chioma did suffer as a result.

Did we fail.? . . .  .Yes woefully. Everyone who read that first post failed in one way or another. Was Chioma better off than when she came here last Sunday? No because she still had to put her baby on her back and take her to her family which is what she could have done last week without any input from anyone. We have 17 pages of talk but nothing really to show for it.

The sad thing is that rather than broken relationships being repaired, things have gotten worse and so this kind of scenario can easily play again. We forget that this is only an internet forum. Strangers we don’t know, strangers that we will probably meet in the street and not know. Strangers that when you shut the lid of your laptop, they disappear. Strangers who we might even sit side by side in a plane and not know. Isn’t there enough trouble in the real world without adding faceless people into the mix. We should put things in perspective.

If you ask me, Life is way too short to be carrying around internet beefing baggage.

We all can come here to postulate all we want, but I maintained quietness too, especially with the set-in-stones emails I saw, which you were a part of . . .regardless of the "false front" you are trying to put up here.

. . .Moving on swiftly sometimes it is best to just move on, cos we still have our personal conscience to go back to, instead of trying of trying to abdicate oneself and apportion blame to make oneself come up smelling of roses. . . the more fingers we point, the more that points back at us. . .just saying. . .and the bottomline is that people are adults here I hope so should not be forced to work together for something to be successful. . .I played my God given part and came to say "over to you". . .my post is still there too

r231:
bebe. . . how bout we talk about this over dinner or lunch or maybe sandwich with a little bit of salad on the side or something. . . .

I am tired of talking about this girl and all. . . . even somebody want to take my wife because of this whole crap saying i am too ugly to marry but as you know money no fine but mama like am

at least we happy the kid has a home now so whats the deal let me take you out for breakfast now abi



thank God you show up

won tin bu mi lataro ooo

Nobody fit collect ya pretty wifey, what God has joined together, a thousand moremi cannot put asunder jare.

Me breakfast, or sandwich, wetin i wan take goat food do, when there is amala joint


[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=851929.msg10077766#msg10077766 date=1327887816]How did I miss this thread?

ROTFLMAO!!!! Lie lie.

Ok lemme see if I can catch up  from page 1.

How many ppl are you guys helping? [/quote]Awon Ekiti parapo wolu o,

Na which one be how many people? Una nor fit read the topic ni, ehn Sule Igbira Eko e re, Olorun je o b'oko And when I tell you you should have come from "Ile Ife - the fountain of knowledge" you no go gree, mschewww.


[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=851929.msg10077769#msg10077769 date=1327887947]Ok, Obviously, I can't.

Why the fight?

And can you guys please post in standardized English? Enough with the text talk.[/quote]You see the username moremi2008 on a thread, you dey ask "why the fight" instead of "when is the fight" or "how was the fight"

Slowly backs out of this miso-ogini-esque thread in full session, and I can see every member is present except Pro01

queensmith:
Nice to know all these old nlers are carrying their old grudges. I was getting worried this place has become dry. Now r23 and BB wht are u guys fighting nau

We are not fighting at all Ma'am, just untangling crossed wires

r231:
there you go again tone bi ti ba yo

i am typing not talking

jenny pulled me up where . . . . . you must be studying NL like school cus serious i don't remember crap from here. . . . anybody can say whatever they want here. I keep repeating myself over and over again. . . . When this thread came out, thats not the title nor the content

heard there is a baby that needs a home NOT a baby needs a home and school fees needs to be paid

This is the reason why wires keep getting crossed, all that was needed was a temporary home for the baby, nothing else, and this is still the situation. Everything else was supposed to be voluntarily, and with in our culture, the arrival of a baby is celebrated in cash or kind hence reason i invited anyone who wanted to donate anything to bless the baby to do so, to make her feel she has families, especially us NL Uncles and Aunties.

The School fees palaver came as a result of me seeing that she was using her fees to pay Hospital bills, and if Chioma had not wrongly thought everyone on NL was working together, the info about the fees would not have leaked the way it did. . .and maybe you missed it, but the baby is presently with extended family, so she needs our prayer so her parents would accept and not kick her out.

And i don't need to study NL, it is called having a retentive memory. Ha sorry i forgot i was talking to a guy, and several books have said men don't "read" and don't "hear" tones, sowwy.

^^^

r231:
^^^^Madam. . . . apart from offering the girl some money, really what do you have in place for her in terms of the baby like seriously

I suggest you go and read my first post to Tpia on this thread and every other subsequent post of mine Already said you didn't have to take anything I said onboard so what is it with the "tone", like seriously. Hmmm, no wonder Jenny pulled you up yesterday. . .

r231:
^^^^Madam. . . . apart from offering the girl some money, really what do you have in place for her in terms of the baby like seriously

jus cus you have a problem with an individual doesn't make the whole organisation collapse

we were not even trying to help the girl as an organisation cus the whole saga doesn't even have anything to do with E-Helpers.

FOR THE ONE MILLIONTH TIME LET IT GO.

if that girl is still here today asking for somebody to come for the kid at 4pm that means you failed just as everybody else SIMPLE.

I don't have "the" problem, i was not the person who posted followed by lots of knowingly "hmmms". AND ifyour organisation has got a few hiccups, deal with it instead of throwing a tantrum.

Now you claim you are not trying to help. so what was all that "when a msage to NL charity blah blah blah you addressed to Tpia all about, huh!

Who is holding on to the extent of withdrawing the carrot offered until it was too late?

I did not fail, i played my part and came to say "over to y'all", it is people like you - who instead of addressing the right person to put aside her ego, - was instead jumping on my post to appease her ego that failed Chioma, SIMPLE.

@Freecocoa

I only used your example to highlight the fact that I never knew Nigerian parents could be that evil hence reason I was shocked. You were the only one who addressed Tpia in a calm rational manner so trust me, I know you have got your head screwed on properly. . . I also noticed the start of a beautiful friendship between yourself and Queensmith, you both handled your difference of opinion maturedly and suddenly gelled, I was expecting to see fake weaves and and fake nails and brazillian hair flying, kudos


@The Delectable Dashing Dazzling Denzel2012

I noticed you too oh, and was coming to say hi, but I heard Mr-and-God-made-him-and-He-rested aka My Foinboi-Follypimpi was in the building oh la la, and I was like Denzel-who

^^^
Haba, eyi o wa poju

r231:
words of SAGAMITE. . . . . . A PRODUCT OF FAILED NIGERIA EDUCATION SYSTEM

MOOOOOORON. . . CRETIN, ASSWIPE


trust me it. . . . you don't even need to drop your baby social service is just round the corner one phone call does it all



cry all you want. . . . with God all things are possible

you want me to FAIL, but sorry to disappoint you I WONT. Sit down and watch all you want

all i am doing is trying to help why don't you try that for a change rather than coming here charting poo ODE. its cus of asswipe like you thats why nigeria is still like that today

Your organisation is still relatively new so should be expected to have a few teething problems, so people pointing out this issues to you should not be seen as a slight on your character but utilised as constructive criticism to go back on work on the group.

When i said "history was repeating itself" to ChelseaBmw, all i meant was that exactly the same thing that played out in Mr Obuh's case was playing out here again. And if not for JOHNDOE1000 standing on your head and Coogar chipping in his two cents in, y'all had already abandoned Mr Obuh's case and was cursing him, until Johndoe's comment prompted you lot to go and verify his story, only to come back and start calling the UK dude on the scene who donated N100k a horrible person for exasperatingly dumping Mr Obuh in the middle of nowhere. . .unbeknown to you all that the dude got frustrated that Mr Obuh rejected the 2 room apt they rented for him as too big, and rejected another one for being in the same compound as an herbalist. . . And cos they did not want to leave him under the bridge, found some last minute place for him.


How is Johndoe's and coogar's post from Mr Obuh's thread different from Moremi2008 here?

Johndoe100:
It is becoming clearer that you people never really wanted to help the family without strings attached (you decide everything for them), all you were intrested in was to play "god " with the guy's life.
Someone asked what he would do with 100k, he will rent a 1000 naira shanty where they pay per person in the room and use the rest to level himself. That is most likely what he wants. It is truly amazing how the true motivations of we 9igerians are brought to the fore when we cannot tell people what to do. Morally you people are bound to use the money collected to help the familly, I don't understand why the man wanting his own priorities makes him any more insane than anyone posting here.

coogar: You took this out of my mouth.

we are only concerned about moving him from his wretched shed to a proper house. has anyone actually told mr obuh he would be given some tangible sum to open a shop where he can make daily income? if he knows there's income to be made from this, he wouldn't be so scared of the future. let's not concentrate too much on the accommodation!

give a man a fish and you have not helped him. tell a man how to fish and you have solved his worries.
ifyalways, you have come this far. you just don't give up on people especially a man like mr obuh who must be thinking he's dreaming with all these mouth-watering offers coming his way. a man that has wined and dined with poverty for eons will find it hard to believe his life is about to change.

let's take it easy with him.

Of course you are free not to take anything on board

queensmith:
Yes like THAT will happen! Face it, mama destiny will be a serious case study for nlers and underage sexers from now til we get bored.

Thats why most of us are here at the end of it. And for some of us to learn lessons and some to tell our children. Maybe even destiny will hear it.

Thanks for the update bb ur the only one that can shed some light on this, i dont know why the op was soo reluctant too it might have saved her some trouble and earned her more trust.
Anyways at least the baby is here hopefully she can get back to uni and do what she needs to do. Someone mentioned misplaced priorities. Its not, her education comes first in this case unless you want her to be living in a bq with a baby and living on glucose for the rest of her life. And noone is beyond mistake so none of us take a moral highground but mama destiny seemed super shady.
Hopefully we can get a photo. Ill like to see the baby. And hopefully she looks back on all this and can find the humour. I can honestly say i will never survive in her position but strength is beyond strength so i give mama d respect for that.
If anyone else finds herself pregnant early like this please think of the solution before 8months, thats the first step. Whatever decision you make is for the better of both of you. And always understand you have options, nigerians can sit and preach the bible till jayzuz arrives but in the end only you will be living your life, food for thought.

She could not talk/could not come out to defend herself because she was still holding on to the hope that they would not withdraw the help they had already promised her. . . Hence reason for her cry this morning that she desperately needed to be back in School latest today. . .

Sorry I couldn't talk about the glucose/food case earlier until she was out of the b/q, apparently, the Doctor fearing she would not be able to afford his fees stopped giving her food. .n . . . And when I asked around, people confirmed this to be true that this is what happens in Nigeria . . . Imagine starving a nursing mother, wow. . .

Is there anything else that can go wrong with that Country Nigeria!!! Sick and depraved society that prides itself on being culturally grounded. . .

moremi2008:
See how a simple case of charity turned into a slug-fest for egomaniacs, empty barrels and misguided moralists?! I have never seen a situation this terrible in all my life. Chioma runs on here pleading for help and all these people come out of the woodwork asking her to involve her parents, as if they have some information about her parents that Chioma herself doesn't have or as if they can love her daughter or care for her more than she can. What kind of ego or conceit feeds these attitudes? Why should true charitable donations come with conditions, commas, semi-colons, insubordinate clauses, modifying phrases and all manner of addenda? Why do we see our charitable contributions as opportunities to control and manipulate those in need? Na wa oh!

To be honest, I initially thought Big-Bumper was going on and on earlier in the thread because her feelings were hurt  and her intentions were misconstrued but I now see that she was the only one with a genuine interest in helping in the first place. Shame on the rest of you! Throwing out toys from your prams while a desperate young woman cowers in some BQ with an infant she can barely feed.

I hope Chioma and her baby are now safe. Chioma, may God strengthen you over the next few months as you write your final exams! I hope you find a good job immediately after graduation and are able to take back your baby as soon as possible.

If I was doing this for "hurt feelings" I would have scattered this thread and exposed everyone's fake yansh long time ago, I am sick to the teeth of the two-faced peeps but I had to contain myself cos I had my fingers crossed that they would not take away the carrot they'd been dangling before the girl . . . But they did. . .but God pass them all like I said. . .all is well that ends well, Chioma told me she is currently at her Aunt's who are gonna tell her parents tomorrow, so she needs our prayers for the news to meet her parents well. . .

Hah, is it now Nairaland's official Charity? Thought they didn't want it to have any thing to do with Nairaland, hence reason I found it ridiculously preposterous that Chaircover was telling me everyone should now go through them

OAM4J:
And your continuous over flogging the beef and the issue does not help her case either.

Anyways, she has sorted herself out. My heart goes out to the child. I pray God keep and be with her wherever she is now.

Overflogging what!!! Responding to a post within minutes is overflogging where you come from huh! Are you sure you are alright!!! Just asking nicely is all

By the way, "my opinion" however contrary it might sound is modelled on your signature so kindly hop off my tip biko

armyofone:
BB, thanks for clarifying. I think she should take responsibility at this stage.

she should get some pple like the Rev and Mutter lawyer's friend talk to her parents. whatever the outcome, so be it.

Well when i was suggesting earlier that we suggest ways to tell her parents, some people were telling me i don't know how some wicked Nigerian parents are and babies don't move some of them, and even Freecocoa chipped in a story which left me struggling to pick up my jaw from the floor.

This is Nigerian parents we are talking about na, where majority of children (even grown arsed ones, lol) still would not go against their wishes and if they say don't marry that guy, you have no choice because one still needs their blessings and allsorts.


Dunno why, but I sense triplets on someone. . .3 in one go is a lot, but children are a gift from God and so shall it be in Jesus' name, amen

jennykadry:
BB, so the bethrothed(parents choice) is the father of the baby? If so, the parents shouldn't have probs with her or the child

maclatunji:
This story is more complex than any Soap Opera I will ever watch. Big Bumper are you saying the baby is a product of Chioma's liason with a man her parents forbade her to see?

Forbidden liason with an unapproved fiance, so going to parent would mean more than the issue on the ground. . .besides it goes to reason that if baby goes to his side, his parents might not wanna give her back and slam the door on whomever wants to come and reclaim the baby, which might make Chioma's family throw a stinker . . .

Shame and sad that some people were privy to this information, yet pulled the rug from under her feet at the last minute, only bothered about their overbloated egos and the tears they were shedding cos they wanted to find out how someone else got her contact details. . . God pass all of them. . . and they are now pretending and acting shocked seeing the time constraint, as if she just came to open the thread today, and not since last week, mschewww. 5days old baby+thread opened last week=12 days oh, and I bet this is not inclusive.

And see them trying to paint the poor hapless girl greedy, saying they will not donate as if i was not the one that made reference to helping out financially with the baby. . . and as if when i made the plea, they are the only one that make up the whole population of Nairalanders, argghhhhhh. (((Arghhhhhh my blood is boiling))) Who comes out to voice out and say they will not donate! Who does this in a civilised society! How crass and vain and backward and full of oneself can one get, ARE THEY GOD!!! dang, na wa.

moremi2008:
But we can't know Chioma's parents more than Chioma does and we can't assume that her parents will help the situation. They might even make it worse by disowning her and THEN making sure she doesn't graduate in a few months. I have seen parents do horrible things in the name of discipline. Let's not destroy Chioma life by making unfounded assumptions about her parents.

coogar:
if she doesn't want her parents to know about it, her wish should be granted otherwise her purpose of coming here in the first place has been defeated.

her parents must not know!!!

Thank you guys for the insight. I too was screaming at the top of my lungs for us all to brainstorm how to bring her parent in the loop because this was not a spare chewing gum being put up. . . but judging from "those bilious emails" doing the rounds. . .i was able to glean that Baby Destiny is a beautiful by-product of the backward Nigerian culture that dictates that only our parents has the right to choose our future partner. . . in a nutshell Destiny is Chioma's bethrothed's baby. . .

Sincerely, how many people can go against their parents wishes if they refuse them to marry someone of their choice. . . i have seen around 3 polls in this section and in each, 95% of respondents said they would not marry against their parents wishes citing ridiculously absurd reasons as "we need our parents' blessings/parents knows best/what the adult sees sitting the adult cannot see standing/etc". . .SMH at Nigeria, the giant of the jungle.