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stillwater:
Not scared. Probably thought him a nuisance with her nonchalant attitude. You don't do such to people you claim you love.

Right, how can someone with a nonchalant attitude be UNCOMFORTABLE?

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923692#msg3923692 date=1243297714]tope, how do you know? she said she wasn't cheating. she was chilling. lol
don't twist her words now.[/quote]Are you minding Tope2000, its the girl's three threads, that is confusing her

tope5000:
True but my own agrument is still . . . the girl must have caused that insecurities

OK, so we are going with Tope2000's words that the OP caused the guy's insecurity, i.e. [size=16pt]TOPE HAS FINALLY AGREED THAT THE GUY IS INSECURE[/size] AND I AM SURE IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF HER FEAR OF LOOSING SHARON TO SISTER AMEBO NO 1


Phew, another one bites the dust

tope5000:
Its because she is cheating

[quote author=.amebo no1 link=topic=275438.msg3923682#msg3923682 date=1243297597]then i take d cheating part,[/quote]Well she has said she has not cheated on him before even with any of those guys, but WHAT SHE HAS NOT SAID IS THAT SHE IS SCARED, HENCE THE REASON I AM RIGHT. Two down, how many more to go

The girl is scared of the man, shikena

Let me go and dig out where she said she has never cheated on him to rub it in

tope5000:
God bless you
I think iyalode is being sarcastic

Tope2000, you too saw something for you to suggest back then that the guy was insecure na,

Oh I get it, oya don't worry i will make sure you have Sharon all to yourself tonight without that interfering intruder Sister Amebo who is always turning up unannounced and at the wrong time, you have my word

Now put on your thinking cap again and think back to what it was that made you come to that conclusion that the dude was insecure

[quote author=.amebo no1 link=topic=275438.msg3923617#msg3923617 date=1243296728]iyalode you are wrong, go thru all her threads you will see where she said, hes never asked her who shes with before

all the guy did was ask a simple question

a question i ask my man smtimes, and a question he asks me too, if you are not hiding anything why not tell the truth[/quote]So why was she UNCOMFORTABLE THEN

It is either because she is cheating or because she is scared of him, simple.

NOW judging from her story which unhelpfully keeps changing every minute, and the fact that another girl is in the picture, and her thread title which is that she wants him back, which of these 2 aforementioned option is true of the OP?

mandycini:
. . . he asked where i was i said i was with a friend,and he asked could he know my friends name ,i found myself cutting the call,he called severally i kept busying the call,

She found herself cutting the call means this is something she has never done before but could not help as she had been pushed to the wall by him and had had enough.

mandycini:
somehow i felt uncomfortable telling him my friends name while my friend was there and knowing fully well that he wouldnt let go untill i told him whom i was with

This is the internet where her identity is safe so she had no reason to lie and would have said she was cheating if she was, but she did not say that, instead she said she was UNCOMFORTABLE, and my question is WHY? If not that she was tired of the dude falsely accusing her of what she has not done.

mandycini:
and knowing him,he could possibly ask to speak with the person, am not doing anything with these guy i was with he was just a friend,

KNOWING HIM, hmmn what does she know about him that she is not telling us yet

mandycini:
At big bumper he has never asked me to put them on phone,he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first, i just had the feelings he might cos he had been talking on the issue

Which kain yeye feeling, you were so sure in your first post na, Girl stop covering up for him and tell us where it really hurts so that we will know how to tackle this for you.

C2H5OH:
Is this another one of those statements that is "implied"?
The boyfriend never got a chance to decide what is/isn't meaningless.  She hung up and never again picked up.

Stop speculating and parambulating and go and read her very first post again

WAke up and smell the coffee peeps, she is scared of the dude and his stiffling nature but she is more worried that she has lost him, hence her reluctance to tell the whole truth and hence the title of her thread

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923538#msg3923538 date=1243295778]the boyfriend doesn't find what she's doing meaningless.
like I said before, what she considered trivial (visiting her male friends and other things she didn't mention) were more serious offenses to her bf. So she is scared. At first she ignores it and won't listen to her bf because she considers it trivial but now she sees that she might lose him as a result and doesn't know what to do. Should she sacrifice her personal convictions and become a "whatever you say I do" girlfriend??

you are getting it   [/quote]GBAM

H202 is finally getting it, knew he wasn't a lost cause I blame the brain fog

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923512#msg3923512 date=1243295474]thank you big_bumper for getting the point. [size=14pt]Where did you find that quote?[/size] I didn't see it in her original post but I deduced that was what she meant and I was right!!
She didn't tell her bf where she was because she was scared. . . not because she cheated.
Her bf doesn't like her to be with her male friends so of course she will lie to him or ignore his calls when he asks.
That's why I said they're both at fault.[/quote]Telepathy baby I used telepathy to find the OP's posts

tope5000:
Iyalode . . . its because she has something to hide jare
If he is so controlling why does she want to win back his trust else it shud be good riddance to bad rubbish . . . no?

mandycini:
theres this particular girlI used to tell him I think she loves him,now its like they are soo close cos he replies her messages ,takes her calls etc . . .

Tope2000, that above, is the reason she wants him back at all costs She even said she can no longer breath again, lol

You too miss road Tope


Modified too

mandycini:
I get what you guys are saying,but He wouldnt have been happy if I told him I was with a guy, i just couldnt tell him,

Why can't she tell him she is at a guy's place Isn't it because she was scared of his controlling nature

oops wrong thread, Pastor JJtou i feel you o jare

Na una all sabi, now that the dude has moved on to better things, watch the OP come back to really spill the bean on what happened, and how stiffling and controlling the guy really is and
I will singlehandedly make all of you eat your words

Mukina2

Was online, still online, been tryna buzz you since.

davidylan:
Would it be "normal behaviour" if your fiance was with another woman you didnt know at 8am in the morning? Answer pls.

Hence the reason i said i do not totally support her act, but truth be told, the guy is a control freak.

mandycini:
I have been in a relationship with this guy for sometime now,we really meant business in this relationship cos we designed to marry each other,at a point i became careless with the affair cos of reasons I thought were reason enough ,he spoke to me severally over my actions but somehow I just didnt see myself listening ,partly because i was inexperienced and partly cos i thought there wasnt any need for the talks cos part [size=14pt]though a very little part of his talks have been bothering on his being able to trust me with my male friends[/size] which am 1 million percent sure i have absolutely nothing with them,I mean I love this guy but i would accept i was careless.The last straw that broke the carmels back was that one  morning he called me,i was supposed to be at work but was just chilling with a friend(male) nothing was going on,he asked where i was i said i was with a friend,[size=14pt]and he asked could he know my friends name [/size] ,i found myself cutting the call,he called severally i kept busying the call,somehow i felt somehow telling him my friends name while my friend was there and [size=14pt]knowing fully well that he wouldnt let go untill i tell him whom i was with and knowing him,he could possibly ask to speak with the person,[/size] am not doing anything with these guy i was with he was just a friend, but this has destroyed my relationship with the man i love, am not saying i was right in my actions but i dont know what to do to win him back, i suddenly realised all he has been telling me, everything now makes sense, i cant imagine throwing away the dreams we shared ,the plans we made , this thing is killing me, please advice me , what do i do to get him be the loving, caring and patient guy he always was.

iN RESPONSE TO THE THREE POINTS HIGHLIGHTED ABOVE;

*He does not trust her having male friends, WAS SHE A PROSTITUTE BEFORE?

*Yes she was supposed to be at work, but when the guy called her, she told him she was with a friend, WHY DID HE WANT TO KNOW THE FRIEND'S NAME

* She cut the phone because not only would he have asked for the friend's name, he would have also requested to speak to them

IS THIS A NORMAL BEHAVIOUR

davidylan:
what has this to do with anything? the critical thing is that you based your entire claims on a FALSEHOOD.

How was the guy "insecure"? A guy who had NEVER bothered asked who she was with before? Funny how people will defend the indefensible.

Dafidi, go and read the girl's story again, especially the first post Like I said the rest of her posts is her trying to win him back cos she thinks she has lost him, and hence is ready to downplay the guy's fault, check the thread title na

tope5000:
[size=14pt]Agreed maybe the guy have insecurities issue [/size]

Come again Tope2000, can you repeat what you said, I didn't see that

davidylan:
Big bumper . . . you obviously didnt read the OP's post or you read it upside down . . .

for instance you said this - Let him go and work on his insecurity issue, you don't need such insecure being around you. You have not had an affair yet he can't trust you amongst your male friends to the extent that he asks you to put them on the phone whenever he calls you and now you have resorted to telling him lies about your whereabouts

Actually that's flatly UNTRUE if you read this portion from the OP - At big bumper he has never asked me to put them on phone,he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first, i just had the feelings he might cos he had been talking on the issue,his main argument was that i should be careful cos of my inexperience people may make me do what i do not want to do, and it makes absolute sense cos i have experienced it,

where did you get the idea he was "insecure"? All these "wise" people na wa.

THE ONLY REASON SHE is desperate to win back his affection and is trying to paint him in a good light and thereby unwittingly making herself come across as the baddie is because SHE THINKS HE HAS MOVED ON WITH ANOTHER GIRL. Bet you missed this out of her story.



Though i do not support her act, she lied about where she was going and refused to pick up that call BEC AUSE THE GUY IS PLAIN INSECURE.

Michelin89
When I said the same thing along the line of yours, nL'ers asked for my head on a plate, see link below. You are wise beyond your years Thank you Sisthren for seeing what myself, Builder and JJyou are seeing
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-275559.0.html

AtupoyoyoAstuto let us know when you grow the balls to make up your mind, you hia

MRbrownJAY:
have you considered the fact that she lied/hang up and lets not forget that she was SUPPOSE to be at work? but instead she was CHILLING with some dude.hello!!!!
as the poster claimed, she was CARELESS before in that relationship. so any wise person will have doubts if someone just keep on messing up until its too much and they just give them the boot.
if a person has NOTHING to hide, they would never lie!

Something, no make that a lot of things led to that, the dude pushed her into that position.

And judging by the way she used the word "careless", I think she meant she was carefree and thought she could keep things open with him by letting him know she had male friends, because her hands were clean. Hope i don't have to eat my words

Her lukewarm answer simply indicates that either she has swapped the guy for you or she is waiting for the guy to make a move You are not in the picture for now

Let him go and work on his insecurity issue, you don't need such insecure being around you. You have not had an affair yet he can't trust you amongst your male friends to the extent that he asks you to put them on the phone whenever he calls you and now you have resorted to telling him lies about your whereabouts

You are not yet married to him and he is controlling you like this, what if you eventually marry him, will he screen all your friends or start embarassing you to hand over the phone to confirm that the person you are speaking to, is truly a lady

Methinks you just had a lucky escape, you just don't know it yet.

inspiragh:
I was so involved in the relationship that i can't seem to concentrate on building a new relationship here in UNICAL

what do i do?

Maybe you don't need to embark on a new relationship for now Try and find yourself first, and get yourself back on track.

Moonstone:
Amen! I miss him jare! NL has been too boring these days . I need more stupid views on this site.

@ topic - She's no longer your chick. Just face your other girls.

Hello stranger

I think Adamu is back with another handle with a $$ at the end, not sure what the name is again



Disclaimer; Adam B, you know I love you from the depth of my soul, I don't want your trouble, the [b]keyword[/b I used was I think so handly me gently if you have to respond to this post

Why would he crucify you when you have firsthand proof that he was/is cheating on you Is he a violent guy?

Is the affair still going on?

follypimpi:

Well don't blame me now,the Youngiez need sum grownup loving too.

Heck no, Gators should face her studies, I have told her she is not allowed to have a boyfriend till she is 27

tope5000:
what is going on hia

Oh dear, the villageBMX seductress whose blom blom brings all the boys to the yard is here What chance do I stand with my deflated bathroom slippers I guess I can't have it all

Follypimpi mon darlink, don't believe anyone's profile picture you hear, its all photoshop, and even if you see them in the flesh, its silicone courtesy of plastic surgery

follypimpi:

At some point i thought i was caused with Possessive girls,cos i saved my Momma's # as Honie Mie,One of my ex once called her,didnt wait for the poor woman to say nothing and started cursing my momma,also rememba one deleted all the girls # on my phone,Heaven break lose when i found out.Bumper,i didnt get the proposed txt msg you claimed to have sent moi Or do i have rival??

Aawww shoot I can explain, its my Personal Assistant Fl_Gators's fault, she is practically in control of my diary , so she comes online daily with my Big_bumper ID between the hours of 8.20pm to 8.40pm to manage my NL account So she must have gotten carried away and posted that nonsense as me, you see

Where do you get those crazy-arse girls from, ^{when you wouldn't stop following serekode's like Tope2000, Fl-Gators and Platinumnk} I am already in love with the one who deleted all the girl's number on your phone, she is a girl after my own heart