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I swear..
I have one like dat on my list Oo..

Nah play play I take collect her number sef..

She seems physically/mentally matured tho..but body dey do me somehow...

I asked her to tell me her age she refused..

Like..have avoided dis her questions many times..

But..for my mind I no say she no fit pass 16/17 yrs sha..

Was advicesd by a female friend to chyke her..

But...............

Abeeg no vex say I chuk mouth for yo wahala Oo

MAK I GIVE YOU EAR OPENER

BABA..IF NAH "MALE PASTOR"LEAVE HAM LIKE DAT..PEOPLE LIKE DAT WILL" BLEED BLOOD TO DENFEND IN YOUR ABSENCE Oo"

BUT..IF NA FEMALE PAITO ENH??

STOP RENDERIN ANY HELP..SHE BELIEVES IT HER RIGHT..BUT SOME CUD BE DIFFERENT..

Some GUY R LIKE DAT HONESTLY..

Back in the days in my uni..i have 2 close friends as per i'm not the talking type..

So I had Lil circle of my friends..

Infact ehn..I GAVE THIS 2 FRIENDS FULLY FURNISHED SELF CON FOR MY HEART..I HARDLY JOKE WITH THEM...

THE FIRST ONE WAS THE CHURCHY/LOOKING SO INNOCENT..

IN FACT IF I DASH AM 5NAIRA EHN..

HIN GO TAKE 5DAYS THANK ME TILL I WILL TELL HIM TO STOP EMBARRASSING ME..

BUT..U SEE THE SECOND ONE EHN??

E WAS SO POOR AND HARDLY FED..SEEMS HIM RELATIVES THREW HIM TO SKOOL AND LEFT HIM TO STARVE TO DEATH..

BUT..I ALWAYS DO MY BEST FOR HIM..STILL E NO GO THANK ME SHA..BUT ME NO EVEN SEND SHA..

WE GET ONE KAI BREAK FOR SKOOL LAIDAT..WEY DIS MY CHURCHY GUY GO SPOIL ME FOR THE GIRL WEY I WON DEY SERIOUS WITH DAT TIME..

THE GIRL CON CARRY THE MATTER GO MEET THE SECOND GUY EHN??

THE BABE..SAY TELL ME SAY NOTHING WEY DAT 2ND GUY NO TAKE DEFEND O..

HIN TELL ME SAY..THAT MY 2ND GUY NA VERY GOOD GUY..MAKE WE DEY TIGHT Oo..

REASON..FOR MY EPISTLE BE SAY"PEOPLE LIKE DAT GO BLEED BLOOD TO DEFEND IN YOUR ABSENCE"

for pple wey no like long story "NO VEX BIKO"

NAH..SCIENCE STUDENT I BE WE NO TOO DO SUMMARY FOR SKOOL..HELEP ME MANAGE MY EINGLISH LIE DAR

wwwkaycom:
I'm confused about this. Am I expecting too much from people? I had a pastor few years ago, do anything for this pastor, he will never say thank you.

There was a time he followed us as youth in the church at that time to a youth picnic on the instruction of our Senior Pastor, upon arrival, I mobilised the youth to appreciate him by presenting a gift of a very good quality shirt, he returned it and told us its too small for what he'll collect from us, he said we were big youths, we had to contribute more money to buy a suit and add to the shirt. He didn't at any time say thank you to anyone of us.

There was a time he did his mother's funeral, I travelled all the way from Ondo State to his hometown somewhere in one of the southern states, I gave him a token of 10k which was what I could afford at the time as present, no thank you till this moment.

I can mention 5 other instances in which I offered him gifts without even an acknowledgement that he got it.

One day while preaching, he said "if you do good to anyone and you're expecting him to thank you, it means you didn't have the intention of doing the good ab-initio". He was transferred to another state since 2013.

Again, I have a colleague in the office who have this same trait. He told me he doesn't know how to say thank you. Do anything for him, he believed he deserved it. He will never say thank you.

One day, our oga traveled to Germany and bought some beautiful shoes which he gave to us when he came back, that shoe would have cost 27k if purchased in Nigeria at that time. I got it through our secretary and sent an SMS to oga immediately, I also called him to thank him. The following day, I didn't see him, I sent an SMS again and the third day, I went straight to his office in the morning to thank him again.

This is the way I was brought up. We had to prostrate to thank our parents each time they paid our school fees or bought something for us in those days. My friend didn't say anything to our oga. As I was going out of oga's office, he called me back and said "can you see your friend Stanley? he will never appreciate anything". I asked Stanley and he gave me the same reply my pastor gave me years ago. " If you do good to anyone and you're expecting him to thank you, it means you didn't have the intention of doing the good ab-initio". He said must he now turn himself to who he isn't just because of a shoe? that's just who Stanley is.

Now I have a neighbour in my street, every morning I'll pick his two kids and take them to school since their public school is very close to my children school, these children will never say thank you. They just hop in and hop out of the car every morning and sometimes in the evening if they see us while passing the front of their school. Funny enough, their parent also haven't appreciated the gesture at any time, its like an abomination for them to say thank you. One day in March, before the lockdown, I went to my kid's school by around 11am in the morning to submit school fees tellers, I saw one of the kids I normally pick to school in front of their school gate, I stopped to ask her why she isn't in class, she told me they asked her to go home because she was feeling feverish. Instead of going back to my office, I took her home. As I was driving, I asked about her parents, she said they'll have gone to their business places and that his dad's phone rang but he didn't pick it when the vice-principal tried to call him while her mum's phone was bad. I took her to their house, ask a nurse who also sells medicine in our street to treat her, I paid N1200 for the drugs, nothing like thank you from this 12 year old girl and her parent didn't say anything till date even though the nurse told me she narrated the whole story to them.

Last Saturday, I attended the landlord association meeting, I heard the assistant secretary of our association saying that he paid 2k on behalf of the man for a particular work we're doing in the street and that the man didn't even show appreciation or make effort to pay back his 2k. This man just said "its only God who deserved thanks, I'll pay your 2k next week".

Are these people really right? Is it wrong to show appreciation for good deeds? Our parents taught us to show gratitude for good deeds when we were young, were they wrong? I'm not so clear about this.

Still waiting ma..
Hope u e not gon make me wait forever huh??




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Only karma can Bleep yo dad bro..
Nigeria ain't u.s.a..u can't sue your dad u will only end up wasting yo Lil money..

My dad..left my mum that sponsored him in higher institution after he got a well paying job..jux when I was 3 yrs

Jux thrive and pray to Jah to bless your huzzle someday..

sirciao:
Hello everyone
Have been pondering on this over the years and I think i need wider view and advice on this.
I'm from a family of 6 my father separated from my mom several years ago and remarried another woman and has several other side babes
now he paid our school fees wen we wer in uni but has neglected every other aspect of fatherhood.
we hardly see him because he stays in a different state
He did a court marriage with only my mom. so please what can we do because its becoming unbearable, i decided to concentrate on my self and hussle but its getting unbearable seeing your father with so much money squander it for another woman,side chicks,church etc and neglecting his very own family.
The last straw is he wants to stop paying rent for my mom claiming he has no money due to covid 19 but i got Intel that he just rented an apartment for another side chick. he will retire very soon and his gratuity should be nothing less than 30 m. He has no property for his children only a huz in the village and several cars he lavishes money on.
What can we do to salvage this situation
should we continue to look on as he waste his money and neglecting my mom that started life with him.
Can my mom file for divorce and will she get any benefit from it.
Can we the children out rightly sue him for neglect?
Mods please help push to front page so i can get wider contribution
please share your experience if you have a similar case like mine and how you tackled it..

Oh babe..
No mind dem..doubting thomas jare I do believe u if dey don't...

Can u pls send me 500 card for them to see how freely u give..perhaps that might change dem..

I really do need it..

10ks in advance ma'am..

Christie06:
Smiles.
I have. Countless times.
If someone's need is within my capacity, i will help without looking back or wanting anything in return.

I wonder what's soo hard in that.
SMH!

Go for Samsung then..

Something laidis is happening to me now..

Been talkin to one Smallie like dat Oo for close to 3months..

She..even was expecting me to ask her out and even told me if I was inlove with her..

I eventually did the asking out and she wanted to start "hard to get"but deep in my mind I was like see dis one Oo..

A week later..she saw me with one yellow pawpaw and decided not to pick my call for a week..

When..she eventually did she was like "AM A PLAYER AND ACCUSED ME OF DATING THE OTHER GIRL..

FeliciaOja:
See what a Christian on Nairaland wrote about rape

U getting twisted dear..

Assuredly, the evil man will not go unpunished

jesus.com/topics/Punishment-Of-The-The-Wicked

Proverb 11 verse 12

Must every relationship lead to huh??

What if the guy has chopped and want out ehn??

What if the guy's spermduct was filled to bursting and he needed to offload ehn??

Isn't something he wud say to get his aim achieved huh??

Be careful Oo
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Heiterkeit:
The fact that he forcefully bought her a fridge just few days after they started dating, according to information available, is not reason for him to think that he has a right to quit the relationship whenever he wants. He promised her marriage so he must fulfil the promise, if he truly wants peace.

Malik1338:
I've done that this evening and I feel relieved after crying tho

To slap u jux dey hungry me Oo..

But make I jux chill ehn..

Why Ona go dey cry for a girl wey no no your worth now??

Is been single now a crime??

Girls sha!!!!

Heiterkeit:
Don't call a woman a hoe. Of course, men are not scum. He can't dump her after all she has done for him, doing so is wickedness. He promised her marriage and he must marry her.

Go deposit back to the bank..

Or better still give driver or petrol attendant..

South African..have always been hypocrites dont be deceived

Pics of Alexandria in Johannesburg South Africa

I love the write up op..
Kinda amazing

The guy too should post a pics of your sister on the net..

So..we can also get to see what are Co fornicator face look like..since u have all decided to be stupid!!!

Currently serving in enugu too..
Got posted to one village in awgu lga..

Nice to hear u wanna focus on yo studies..

Never get yo foot off your academic pedal..

BTW..what's your discipline hun??

Prettyvirginia:
Thank you hun. That's a very soothing advice from you. I have lots of pressures but i try to manage them. My education is Paramount to me right now. Every other thing will wait

sacajawea:
You get me eh
And even at that the odds are so low

Bro..

I'm 27 and I'm just as scared as u..
Infact with the way Nigeria is ehn..

But then sha..
I'm still 1000% optimistic..
I know we gon make it ijn(amen)

Adeyeye09:
That's my best sir. You could check around for other options at 35k sir

Okay sha..

Adeyeye09:
45k sir

Ahhhhhhhhhhh..
Below my budget..
35 nkor??

How much Las Las??

Adeyeye09:
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Issokay..
So no medical aspirant among dem..

I'm 1000% sure dat dos ones with jamb score of 110 will be the ones that chose medicine and surgery..

Leave this woman Biko..

I think she's transparent enuff..

Even if she's a scammer..let God simply be the judge..

PrecioussB:
Lol. I've got pride

This answers yours question..
Probably u r the picky type..
U ain't getting young Oo..

Okay let's me start somewhere..
No vex Oo..how old r u??

PrecioussB:
I am young and beautiful but when it comes to dating maybe because of some failed relationships, i rather stay on my own. i remember even on valentine's day since i had broken up with my bf, i just decided to chill by myself. walking to the store, met some guys yoy know how they toast now, telling me why a beautiful girl like me is not on a date? and i jokingly reply, i have one or just joke along.
now I'm thinking, i might be wasting my beauty and youth because i have not been dating for long, have the zeal and will but don't have the strength. shouldn't i enjoy all those things now before i start looking old? My last relationship really exhausted me.

I understand..

I jux pray the man is really serious..

Cos honestly..some guys will make promises jux to gain people's attention..esp ladies

mytime24:
u're right bt same time if she has found an apartment or d house agent find one for her, they c'nt keep waiting for her fr too long

Calm down..

Maybe you should give him a Lil mo time..

Don't expect everything to that fast..

Hopefully e will do something..

bjprodint:
people who want to help me are unable to help me due to this post,i hope i didnt offend you thats why u didnt help me.my mind is clear.sir,you own your help and can help whosoever you wish to help,how can i force you.i didnt work for you to even expect such help.i got no help from you but it is well with us all,amen.

Good morning/otutu omma/e Kaaro..


Well..heaven has it on record that u really wanna help your fellow human..but she doesn't want to be helped..

So pls kindly leave her to her fate as well..

Like a popular saying"A corpse doesn't hide his/her unclothedness from someone willingly ready to take his/her bath"

What if u decide to go with the rape aspect of it and she ends up denying ever telling you her story,just when NGO is ready to take it up??

What if the case eventually get to court and she ends up telling the judge the accuse never raped her nkor??


Wouldnt all this make you look stupid hun??


She seems like someone that cud do all that sis..


Think about it..

Denique:
The woman claims she'll end up causing trouble between I and father if I don't stop selling on credit to her. It happened to her...she wrote off the debts as no one was ready to take it up and pay for her. According to her, it was for several months before she knew her kind of person.

The woman claims the former and told me to ask around if I think she's lying. This is a mother of two girls and a very strict woman too...I don't see her enabling such incidence.

She came to me yesterday not to mention her name to the woman so, she wouldn't beat her...I declined cos it didn't make any sense for a mother of girls to beat you over a rape case.
Cc: dangotesmummy

Why u have to highlight my moniker??

dangotesmummy:
I suggest you do your findings about the girl to see whether she's another opportunist or someone in genuine need.to help people for naija dey hard person because Nigerians must always turn everything to money making venture.ask about her from her neighbours,friends, family and everyone connected to her or opinion B help her the last time and let her go . option C which I strongly recommend.invite her to church and let her know God herself