My 2 cent
It seem she's willing to take anything and i don't understand why
There should be a line that can't be croosed
So she's willing to still marry such a guy
Na wa for women ohhh

Abeg she should move on and stop wasting her time with such a man jare.
Abi is she not fyne ni

She better go for any of the other guys serious and stop waiting for obodo oyibo guy

He's not wasting her time

She is the one wasting her time,money and effort.

Don't compromise

She should delete his number and not pick his calls if she wants to move on with her life or not she would be 40yrs and saying the guy is a bad person but he's not she's the one that can't use her head.

So wat does she want the guy to do before she moves on.

He's married or paid or not but once baby enters it then agreement is finished which states he's enjoying oyibo so much that he can't use condom.

You're not the intended mrs anymore,u're now the mistress he's cheating with.

I've read quite a few comment here and am quite ashamed to say the least of some the advise i read

Why are people to quick to say divorce,

Even though am not married but with six sisters all married and loads of cousin,

If ur husband is not physically or mentally abusive(no woman beater)

Don't cheat on u,while you're working helps around the house and try to make things better for u

Your husband is still a good man,u just have to behave like a good and supporting woman,

Don't understand men sef(if he had taken his time to marry someone closer to his age instead of marrying a child an 18yr old)

All this might probably not happen as well,

The poor child probably wants to enjoy,

She has been caged for so long and this is uk

Such a shame though

If your husband has a good job in nigeria
i'ill advise not to relocate on visiting visa due to uk recession and not much jobs at
the moment.
When the highly skilled migrant visa is re-opened then you can apply for that
at least you guys won't be illegal immigrants.

If you decide to go for the options both of you are tginking about.
You will need God on ur sides n be prayer warriors for your young marriage not to crumble.

Just come over to visit n go back and enjoy your married life in nigeria jejeli,

Now that's another dimension

you stated relocating

What sort of visa are you coming over with

To answer your question to get a work permit now it's almost impossible as a lot of chnages has occurs.

If you had the work permit from naija that would have been the best sort of visa to relocate with.
I've heard that such visa has been suspended by british embassy at the moment.

Give more info and can give you more info.

If coming over
is.it on visiting or work permit
will you have finished your sgudies before moving
are u moving with your would be husband


Good and bad

Good reason first
Marry first before you BOTH move down(distance not advisable)
You will need to be very submissive to your husband as in uk
it doesn't work the way naija work
your husband or b/friend can't give all those things you get now
you'ill both probably be earning almost same amount so you have to join funds
and plan together.
If you can both plan your funds then you're fine in u.k
if it mine money n i can't contribute then unhappiness n frustation creeps in.

I need to ask a few questions to be able to answer honestly

Are u married or single

Once you've answered that then i know the dimension to take you question.

If you don't trust her
Why bother
So you're wanting someone to clarify something she's too you
This love gan self,

Why are all eating the girl raw

Didn't any of you see the below quote

Posted by: eatme

He can't possibly like me.

He made many comments that convinced me of his negative intentions. Moreover, I introduced him to one of my cousins in Naija. And he's apparently chasing the girl now and trying to sleep with her. If he's serious and truthful with his intentions, why would he want to sle.ep with my blood relative?


Anyways, I need some coaching on how to eat him mugu.

Should I tell him I need assistance with my tuition payment? Or maybe I need money for my upkeep? I need a good story ooo


Anyway Poster,
I just feel you should class yourself above eating the guys money except you're really upset that he used you while you were in naija.
If nit why give 2 hoots since you know what game he's playing,
Abeg leave the guy let him go to the next lady with his game sinve you state you're not interested,

People telling you to talk to him are all wasting your time
Leave him alone jare
he's not worth the stress
4month and all this drama already ohohoh

You're young someone that's worth your time and attension is nearby,

When there's no communication then there's big wahala
Did he communicate with her that he would use the borrowed money to include payment to buy the car
To her the husband bought her a gift(Car)
To him since his gift is more than borrowed money then it should be a clean sheet

Bottom line
since he didn't communicate his intention to his wife
Then she feels cheated,she probably doesn't feel priorty for a car yet
When he lent her the money he said he was borrowing it


But to put joke aside there is proper break in communication with this young couple if you say they are married
If they can't discuss and manage handle their finances properly

This also sound like my money and ur money not OUR money,

op
u better not let all these single people deceive you
the advise blazey n rest gave are the best advise so far
be a man n resolve this with iron hand not by been thick headed but by doing it wisely.
just follow blazey n others along blaey way n i can guarantee it would pay u big time

Dressing good is important but not amongst the priority for a loving marriage.
Talk to him while he's begging you about how he dresses and if he's willing to make an effort or if he's fine with you choosing his clothes and going shopping so you can help him choose cloths that you like him to wear.
At least if that's the only reason for breaking up and he's willing to make an effort then go back to him.

SwiftyCool,
    You started a new story,Great
Don't put us in 2 much suspend this time ohhh
Loved reading your story and awaiting a new one.
Found something to occupy me

@ Sim i can now understand your mentality about this it's becos u're from the very bush part of Africa.
Even your president treat u like animals so i can understand where u got that behaviour from,my apology for trying to correct u for good manners.
Who born monkey banana.
Did u just learn the word nigga.
Instead of u to pick the good from the bad.
U prefer to pick the bad ones.
Keep going on nigga.If u think calling someone a nigga is like an insult then u need to learn n study things properly.
Since is a faceless forum n respect can only be given to those due,definitely U're not one of them n only illiterate behaves n write the way u do.
Saying illiterate doesn't necessary mean u didn't go to school but people with low mindset n trash speaking people.
Keep writing the bit of English u can write n from your writing it definitely shows how u talk as well.
Bush man.

@ Zim i can now understand ur mentality about this it's becos u're from the very bush part of Africa.
Even ur president treat u like animals so i can understand where u got that behaviour from,my apology for trying to correct u for good manners.
Who born monkey banana.

Did u just learn the word nigga.
Instead of u to pick the good from the bad.
U prefer to pick the bad ones.
Keep going on nigga.If u think calling someone a nigga is like an insult then u need to learn n study things properly.
Since is a faceless forum n respect can only be given to those due,definitely u're not one of them n only illiterate behaves n write the way u do.
Saying illiterate doesn't necessary mean u didn't go to school but people with low mindset n trash speaking people.
Keewriting the bit of English u can write n from ur writing it definitely shows how u talk as well.
Bush man.

@ Zim
When u're insulting towards others it does bother me but don't exchange words with fool like you.
Have you read your reply
I think it needs amending.
English lecturer that can't even write a sentence without an error.
Pls remove the dirt from your eye b/4 u remove some-elses.

Becos this is a faceless forum doesn't mean u don't respect each others feeling.
Most of nairaland members are so use to been disrespectful.

@ Zim
If you don't understand the English then ur comment isn't neccessary like anybody gives a shit
Other people that understands are living comment.
Been a man I wonder how ur wife or g/ f sticks you.
If u're going on about someone English such a nitty picky man.

@ Op
Go ahead n marry the man jare
At least one of your parent is in support.
Best of luck in your upcoming marriage.

My definitely changed with age
Initially fantastically fab sex
Now good relationship

@op
Others have said some the ans
Reasons for breakup matter a lot
Some people due to pride n lack of communication
Don't mind getting back with some n some no way wouldn't even think about it.
Really difficult for me to forgive my ex when offended.
Relationships is the most complicated thing in this life from my experience.
You're meant to be able to trust,love n wish the other the best but you don't know how the other feel.

T
Reasons for getting back really matter n wat n how does the other person feel n are they willing to work n commit their best.

It's funny that you're fighting for a man that doesn't deserve it.
A man always knows what's best regarding a relationship except if he's playing you for a fool.
If he really wants to be with you,he knows how to cap all this excuses his ex his using,
You don't defend a man that doesn't want your best interest at heart,
I laugh when you kept on attacking the lady,
We want to blame the other party instead of blaming the right person,


The main question i want to ask this
Is your b/f not man enough that you have to fight his fight on his behalf

He's going to dump your backside very soon,
That's for sure

When a girl feels threaten about something or feels something is wrong then definitely something is up in the air,

Don't fool yourself girl and don't be played as a fool
You better open your eyes very well.

Congrats
Wishing you safe delivery
Could feel is happy while reading.
God bless u and family.

@Dahbutter,
pls start your own thread.
No distraction on this particular thread.
Am especially is waiting for the conclusion from poster asap.
@op,if suspense is 2 much then ur mind goes off the thread.
The suspense has been enough.

Have both couples discussed the issue @ hand.
If they have,then she needs to stop having sex with him
then if the husband truly loves the wife
he'ill try to win her back by wooing her
that always does the trick
the feeling she had for him would resurface
past acts would be forgiven easily.
All women wants is attention n love.

Ha ha oga,complete this story now,
this suspense is captivating

@OP
Why don't u conclude this story
It's so interesting it's unbelieveable
It's a suspense as well

Very lovely piece
poster,pls complete the story
That guy is very patient n one to keep hold of
The woman doesn't know what she's got until she loses him
Very rare for a guy to be so committed and nice
From the story,she'ill lose the guy.
Such a shame.

@OP

I've just contacted her and she's like a big sis to me
I've told her u're my friend and i do hope u're a very goo person

She stays in Thamesmead and she was only concerned regarding the distance if you alright with that.


I'ill send her number to your mail box with name.

When u both reach a decision then you can get a address.

Email has been sent with information.

Alot of options for you but you'ill need to make a decision.

@ op
Where in London are u based,is it s/w or s/e.
I do know of someone that previous poster advise that's full time house-wife and also has certificate in child care
but also quite reasonable n well known to myself
So you can trust her.
If interested leave a message with your email address
And I can contact you with her number after speaking to her about urs.
If she wants to have more children for child care.

If you want to do 3some
then do it becos you want to try it
not becos he's promised you marriage
mennnn,they never stop been men
Honestly I think that's an insult
if he wanted to do it
let him to it without your knowledge n he should have
done all this childs-play before going into a committed relationship
like-wise yourself been interested even if u're wanting to experiment do it outside your relationship
A lot of insults would follow definitely that's a sure banker if u both do it while u're together.