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0hsisi:
Nigerians that marry these foreign wives really do have a burden on their hands
You have to constantly explain and re-explain yourself
Give ample notices,excuses and answer a million whys
It must be very tiring
I can't imagine a husband always explaining what a particular food is called,the ingredients,translate not only his local language but pidgin English too.
It's hard enough to marry from another tribe where the spouse doesn't understand the language but at least the Nigerian experience and expectation is very similar.
If I go village or anywhere in Naija with my oga and the generator is broken down,I will happily use lamps at night,happily draw water from a "drum" with bucket,bathe out of the bucket and happily pour a bucket of water into the toilet to flush.
But these our men have to bend over backwards to cater to the comfort of these their foreign wives.
God forbid the generator breaks down.
He may start apologizing and may be forced to fan the woman all night while she complains of how hot the place is
If the gas cylinder is empty suddenly, how will she cook with a kerosene stove or firewood sef if need be?
These men dey try o
If I be man,I no fit carry that kain load ,marriage is hard enough

ufos77:
I wanted to surprise one of my past girlfriends with a new Homda City car for her birthday which was 3 months away.
But due to her level of thinking like that of tolutara and co, she told me what she wanted which was a Blackberry phone.
I ended up giving her what she wanted and she lost something greater, I would have given her.
MY GIRLFRIEND WAS MATERIALISTIC AND I THOUGHT I COULD CHANGE HER FOR THE BETTER. SHE IS MARRIED NOW AND STILL DISPLAYS THIS INSATIABLE ATTITUDE BY MAKING DEMANDS ON ME THAT HER HUSBAND CANNOT GIVE HER. WHAT I DO IS GIVE HER MONEY EQUIVALENT:
A friend of mine was thinking of building a bungalow(real asset) in his wife's name for her birthday-this was their first house ever and he was thinking of doing it to protect his wife friom relatives should he die prematurely. But just like tolutara, his wife requested for a BMW X5. That told him she was not mature enough to handle the family finances if he were to suddenly die. He gave her the car and built the house in his name.
LESSON: Ladies learn to be realistic and let your man give you what he can comfortably afford rather than living a false life to please someone. IF truly the ladies really know their man, they will not need to tell him what they want before he provides it so long as it is within his power. UNFORTUNATELY, THIS IS THE SAD CASE OF MOST NIGERIAN LADIES. NO WONDER PEOPLE SAY NIGERIAN LADIES ARE NOT ROMANTIC-IT CONFIRMS THE SAYING: NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE.

chaircover:
Tolu I’m with you on this one. I am comfortable enough now with my hubby to tell him what I would like for a gift. I have fond out that there is No point in stressing over something that has a solution.

Some people are blessed with making good choices, good at shopping, have the time to shop around and are able to pay attention to detail while some aren’t too good at choosing suitable gifts.

In the early years I used to get really upset each time I opened an inappropriate present yet once again and used to think that my husband didn’t love me enough to go the extra mile to actually work out what I really wanted instead of buying things I would never use. I used to wonder how even though he had a whole year to plan and get it right, he could still get it wrong.

I’ve received sat Navs for Christmas (The irony is I use it only 10% and he uses it 90% of the time), exercise balls on Valentines day, picnic baskets for my birthday, and every Christmas I get a bottle of Christian Dior poison. I used to wonder why he choose the name poison (was he trying to tell me something) and price tags left on cards & gifts etc

Most present either doesn’t get used, is given away or returned to the shops. Now he gets me a smaller present that he chooses and he gets me something else that we have both agreed on. I usually make sure that the presents get increasingly expensive each time So I am happy and he is happ that I am happy

He can surprise me in other ways & there are a thousand other ways to be romantic but We have both agreed not to do present surprises at least for now until he overcomes his shopping mall phobia

Princek12:
My intelligent and wonderful people of Nairaland,

Many Nigerians who are neither legal residents nor citizens of the United States travel to the U.S. solely for the purpose of giving birth to their children for obvious reasons--to acquire USA citizenship for their newly born. It appears that a U.S. citizenship is mostly sought after by Nigerians, even more than a UK citizenship. As a matter of fact, a consular officer will deny your visa application if you show any sign of pregnancy at the interview. The USA Constitution provides that any persons born on U.S. soil is a U.S. citizen, and many Nigerians have taken advantage of this Constitutional provision. Sadly, many Nigerians come and accumulate thousands of dollars in hospital bills upon given birth, and simply abandon the bills when they leave. This has given Nigerians a very bad reputation among emergency hospitals, for some hospitals frown at many pregnant Nigerians who come to their emergency rooms while they are in labor (they are assuming that they won't pay their bills and run back to Nigeria).
The parents now take their newly born child, who is now a U.S. citizen, travel back to Nigeria and, without contributing anything to the U.S. economy, they expect that 18 years later, their child will come back to the U.S., a country to which they have paid no taxes or help develop, to benefit from several government programs provided for U.S. citizens.
Do you think that these practices is fair, especially after accumulating and ignoring a substantial hospital bill?

Leilah:
HI, I have always had issues with the above and do not like her. But when I see her I smile etc. Anyway, we were at a party the other day and everyone was up grabbing some food, the men were out the bac garden chilling out. I noticed before I even asked my hubby what he wanted she had jumped up and served him along with her own husband. I FELT EMBARASSED. This woman works a lot of hours in work

Question is at a party, buffet type thing, do the women always serve their husbands the food? I see peopel coming back and forth with rice n soup etc but I didnt see one single man near the buffet area.

ayomifull:
Thanks, that actually scared me. I am no longer upset that my ticket was not issued due to issue with my card, i've had to cancel the booking to sort things with my bank. Now i am thinking of somewhere else. Will you recommend any please? Save enough and loads of fun for kids. Thanks a mill.

Liyola:
Waaoh

favouredjb:
@bgees
who be iya osun?

topsy25:
Bintab, emi o ki se tope2000 o, asewo ni omo yen emi ni farotika ti o yi awo pada si topsy25

alimat 2:
@topsy25
Ha no no se u be baba/iyalawo, anyway thank u for u concern and dnt be suprise that u are the boyfriend that am talking about.

topsy25ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Ife loni koma femi,ife loni koma ri mi, ti o ko bari mi o ko ni sun
ohunfa loni ko fa mo mi
ohundi loni ko di mo mi
ohungbe loni ko gbe mi ni iyawo
kosekose ni ti ilakose
koribe kosebe
poo poo pooo.
ase gun

namazon:
@Dave: I already have in mind what I want to do after I pass the boards this spring and that is to gain employment at a respectable hospital. I don't want to be chained to the bedside and I am striving to use other gifts I believe will enhance my life and career within nursing as well. To do this my goal is to work for 1.5 - 2 years MAX, then get my masters in anesthesia or midwifery, although I'm not sure if I will get my choice as to which area since I'm new. I am far aware of the humanitarian aspect, as that is the reason why I switched fields and acquired another degree to become an RN. My only qualm is administration and the milieu of nursing. There happens to be quite a bit of politics and it doesn't help that it is predominantly female dominated so there are enough problems there. I guess I just have to deal with the potential attitudes as I've been a tech/nurse's aid/unit clerk and have often bore the brunt of nurse's frustrations for whatever reason. I am hoping to build a thicker skin to withstand it because after all, it has taken me alot of time and resources and I would hate for a few choice people to ruin my experience by causing me frustration. I don't want to be going to work everyday with another reason to fear the plight of my license because I can't concentrate due to the amount of hateful horizontal voilence that nurses these days are exhibiting. In spite of this, I greatly look forward to finding my niche and making a difference in the health of others because that is just one of the many things that really makes me happy.
[/quote/)Have you heard the saying (nurses eat their young ones.)[quote author=big dave link=topic=405703.msg5628341#msg5628341 date=1267726730]namazon;
nursing is like a crude oil, so rich that you as an individual need to find out your interest area.its all about doing what you are passionate about;thats the only way you are going to enjoy the profession.i wants you to set career goals for yourself; set a time to achieve those goal.yes there might be frustration and distraction but never mind;pursue your goals.nursing administration in a challenging and interesting aspect of nursing;and there are several management courses you can do to add value to yourself.please dont be afraid,be optimistic.i have bsc.nursing administration too.today i work with an health insurance company to practice my administrative nursing.there are several places you can work base on your career goals.if you dont mind;you can paste those goals here,i might be able to help in advising you and i believe fellow nurses here will also contribute immensely. cheers

MCLOVIN:
Managing Sickle cell disorder can be a nightmare for both patient and care providers. Theres no textbook protocol for keeping a sickler healthy. What works for one may not necessarily work another.
The basics are keep warm, stay well hydrated, avoid physically strenous activity but take enough exercise.
Fatty foods do not seem to help so avoid. Supplements like folic acid and B complex and zinc are helpful. Make sure he/she gets vaccinated against pneumococcus and other possible infections.
Theres also NICOSAN a new drug that is supposed to prevent or decrease incidence of painful episodes, you might want to try that as well.
Some sicklers can live long as anyone else, i met a 73 yr old woman who is also SS recently. So it is possible. there are many who are already in their 50s married with kids so have a positive outlook.

namazon:
I am glad to see this as I am preparing for my boards in May and haven't started working yet. I was just wondering as a new nurse where do they typically place us as I'm not too sure I want to start out doing medsurg but I was told this is best if you need critical care experience to prep for Masters.

coolier:
My brother died and was buried seven years ago. We were inseparable in those days and I almost believed my life was also coming to an end. Often times I wished I could see him again, just one more time to tell him how much I loved him and missed him, how badly I hurt and how things are just not the same without him. But time they say heal wounds and in years to follow I was my old bubbling self again with sweet memories of him.

You can then imagine my shock coming face to face with him on an International flight. I was seated right next to him. I fainted when I got to my seat and saw him and it took the flight crew some time to revive me and assist me to my seat of course next to him. I was still shaking all over when one of the flight attendants jokingly said to him "keep an eye on her now, will you", and he replied "sure". He spoke to the hostess, she saw him too! he made himself visible to her!

I looked at him again and he smiled at me. I couldn't have mistaken that smile I've missed so much, those lovely set of teeth! I didn't know what to say I just introduced myself and gave excuses for fainting. "It's OK", he said, smiling again "you looked like you saw a ghost". He then introduced himself and all through the flight I learnt a lot of other things about about him, his family, childhood etc.

And what do you know? He turned out to be my half brother, whom I never knew existed or met. He carries a photograph of my dad in his wallet. He was born exactly the same year as my late brother, anybody would have taken then for identical twins had my brother not passed away. You see, I grew up with my parents in a house full of love that is why this is so shocking and not once did my father mentioned him or his mum.

I never told him much about me during the flight, I was still in shock to do so, so he had no inkling of who I am. I just let him do the talking most of the time. Now I think of him all of the time. What do I do now? I have his number and email.

Fhemmmy:
This is like comparing death with sleep, there is no comparison at all.
In Nigeria you can be a holder of Nigerian driver licence without knowing how to drive.
No signs and nothing to follow on the road, everyone is just on their own.

joaoche:
i dint graduate in Nigeria, but i am planning to go to Nigeria for my NYSC and license, i would like to talk to a nurse who graduated in Nigeria if there is any on this forum

Kadin:
Hi
I've been separated from my Nigerian husband for years and finally want to get a divorce. He hasn't answered any emails for over a year and I only have rumours of his whereabouts. My lawyer wants me announce my intention of divorce through an ad in a Nigerian newspaper. Which one would you recommend? His family is from Lagos, but I think he's somewhere in the UK now. Since he is not cooperating anyway, there really is no need to actually find him,
Thanks for any suggestions.

joaoche:
@ Linguist

thanks alot , i have been thinking of where to go when i get to naija

please can u give me details of how you got your license, was it giving to you by the school you graduated from

or did you have to take an exam for the license, whats the name of the exam

fataiiyo:
DARA-MI,
  Aw u dey, am also from ibadan close to bodija and i have many friend in methodist grammar school but i finished from IMMANUEL COLLEGE HIGH SCHOOL, ORITA UI, what set are u in methodist? if u don't  ind we can speak on phone +23480six22zero74eight1, hope to hear from you soonest

selimot:
that's good enough. i can still help u more on what u need about proffessional nursing exams. but u can still visit http://onlinedegree-olasco..com/ 4 more info.

Linguist:
i dont mind getin info abt this exam o cos i really wanna rite too. i am a rn, know of any website pls.

the wb site is cgfns.org,you will get all the infor including fees and schedules.All the best.

seguno2:
Thanks for the link. I just checked the site. It is for government jobs only and seems to require citizens only. Do you know anyone who changed his status from F1 to work permit through this particular site? Look forward to your response.

seguno2:
i know someone who has BSN and RN from a US university and a State Licensing Board but who is now doing her Masters in Healthcare Mgt & Administration. Can your attorney work with her for her green card and clear her immigration status from F1 "Immediately"?
If yes, you can email me: seguno@yahoo.com

Emperoh:
Poster
Try the West African College of Nursing office on Herbert Macaulay in Yaba
It covers all West African countries. . . . .i don't know about countries beyond West Africa.
www.wacn.org!!

brianromel:
Potu, pls can u give me d website of pearson? Also i heard dat d profesional nursin exam is cald West African nursin examinatn board (or someting).d exam can b done specificaly in ghana or abuja.pasin these exams qualify u to work abroad. I hv a degree in nursing.im a qualified midwife,n i hv Hnd in public health.

Healthyman:
Hi Nairlanders, I am Dr David A.K.A Healthy man.I am very much elated to be part of this great forum.My main aim in this community is to contribute my own quota of experience,by delivering out to u relevant and essential tips on your health.So, sit back and relax how i reveal to u the secret of your new health and longevity in life as well.Thanks for reading through. God Bless NAIRALAND!

amstrongn:
My grandfather has problems with kidneys for as long as I know him. He has these hemodialysis treatments every week and I can see that his way of life is causing him great harm. He said to me once that his skin itches a lot from time to time. Can kidney problems effect skin? Is there any help there for him? Or will he have to endure it for the rest of his life?
please i need a serious reply,
thanks