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andromida: I don't think wifey has mental issues or spirit husband. I just see an unhappy woman who is out of control.

omonnakoda: being vindictive She has problems with neighbours,with her own siblings and ? her mother. does she get on with anyone or have any friends? Even when the truth is so clear we are still denying it

ileobatojo: First of all, in my first post, I made it clear that I only thought it was a possibility not a guaranteed diagnosis, hence I said "your wife may have bpd". I am not discounting any body else's opinions. They are all possibilities too.

Now, my initial reaction to the story was similar to many other's but I read it again and some things stood out.

- She has serious problems with interpersonal relationships. She has problems with almost all her siblings, she has problems with their neighbors and the previous places they have resided. She trusts no one and believes people are after her diabolically. It's not just her husband that she has issues with. Yes, she may have pretended before marriage and now become a beast. But what's the reason why she has so much difficulty with interpersonal relationships with other people around her. What's the reason for the extreme paranoia, lack of trust? Even if as you say, it's because she was badly hurt by someone in the past, guess what? That's mental illness too if it's now manifesting to this degree in her life.

- She is very volatile in her mood. Angry one moment, crying the next. Could she just be manipulative, yes, but manipulation is a symptom of borderline personality disorder too.

These are the two main things that made me take a second look at the post. So, you are entitled to your opinion and I'm also free to post mine. No need to come at me with your snide condescension.

ileobatojo: I'm sorry, did she say she was married? Why shouldn't she socialize and give out her contact number to a guy who claims to be single?

ileobatojo: The problem with you is that you have stigmatized mental illness (psycho card? wth is that?). That's the reason why you want other things considered before mental illness. If someone has a stomach ache and is vomiting, will you consider other issues before medical? (Yes, there are non 'medical' issues that can cause both of these). So why must you consider all other issues first before psychological? If you don't understand why I have a suspicion for possible mental illness why not just ask?

bolaino: lol, why side hug?

debrief08: I am sorry, I refuse to believe the mental illness theory, why were all the issues hidden before marriage?

Havilah93: for all of arsenal's pressure, its scezny who has had most to do. Swarchzer has barely been tested in goal for fulham

Reference: Can anyone tell me what Arsenal is playing around the box.

Havilah93: he deserved that red card. His feet were too high

4 - Since the start of February, Arsenal have conceded only six goals in nine PL games, keeping four clean sheets during this run. Tight.

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@InfostradaLive: Martin Jol has won one out of 10 #EPL matches against #arsenal. He failed to win in all 8 North London derbies as #spurs manager

pro01: The more patient a man is, and the more tolerant, and conciliatory and 'decent' he is, the more likely his wife is to constitute herself into a ruthless she-devil. I have noticed that the no-nonsense men generally have the ideal wives, i.e., women who would shut the eff up and do what they are told.

I don't think I would tolerate one tenth of the behaviour you just described here. I guess she is emboldened to come up with more BS by the soft way you have been dealing with her, and by your conciliatory approach to her crap. Push her out of the damn house back to her parents' house. If she stays there for a month or two, and still doesn't learn from her mother how to be a decent wife (the old-fashioned, traditional way), then she should not bother to return to your house. Thousands of nubile and eligible women are fasting on mountains from Isale-Oshin to Ajaokuta, praying to find a well-to-do husband like you to call their own. They would be more than happy to replace this bitch. Thankfully, you have just one child so far. Dash her that one and prepare your sperm-bank to shoot more into the wombs of more fertile and subservient women that are lining up to replace the exiting bitch. Nonsense.

Truckpusher: ...Wahala dey oooo