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bolaino: ezme called u an elephant, are u gon allow dat pass? Lol.

bola don King....

cesc scores!

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bolaino: but seriously is this all a act or is this how u are in real life?

not really important
the important question is

ARE YOU ENTERTAINED - Maximus

Idowuogbo: Oga bee, I sting like a bee.

Nooo... im not going there
The lst time i had an insect themed discussion

biolabee: to where...., Like the greatest, i float like a butterfly and sting like a bee
#NothingDoMe

[quote author=j*****2]Pulls out all the wings and thoraxes off and chew the head off

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safeLove: I know she's not mad and am not particularly saying anyone called her mad. My point is that she's probably always have been who OP is seeing now,but never addressed it then.

Some people are naturally difficult to live with. A lot of people,both men and women, actually have the same characters OP described.Like I said,the hubby either didn't see those traits or just chose to ignore them.

Abeg,is OP the only man who works offshore? Do other guys on the rig go home to wives who nag them? So should he leave his work and stay by her like some posters suggested.

Am sure OP too has his own level of "Craze" but is downplaying it for the sake of the marriage.

Some women are just plain difficult to live with,even from some posts here on NL,you can tell. (No be me talk am o) lol!!

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u ladies are too expensive

hmm...

ileobatojo: Not trying to argue with you but this is not true. Psychopathy and sociopathy are extremely unlikely to respond to any treatment, that doesn't mean they are not mental illnesses. Regarding personality disorders, if they are severe (affecting function and relationships significantly) they can manifest as mental illness.



From the article you quoted, the OP's wife demonstrates 3 of the signs from what he has told us so far. I still have no idea what you are talking about.

ileobatojo.. all due respect i agree some of the signs you mentioned are there
My point is that the simplest things are usually the solution

The OP has his own issues and he is biased thatmuch we can all see looking at his mum

But anyhow.. as you rightly said, you are entitled to your POV.. so no wahala

nice one mason lockwood

elena v damon...
matt says no the new SUPER BLONDE CHICK... mistake?
katherine in cahoots with caro

getting steamy....

Whether na PD or mental illness all na brain tinz.. none is good
ish

Personality disorders are described in the International Classification of Mental and Behavioural Disorders (ICD-10) as ‘deeply ingrained and enduring behaviour patterns, manifesting themselves as inflexible responses to a broad range of personal and social situations’; they represent ‘either extreme or significant deviations from the way the average individual in a given culture perceives, thinks, feels, and particularly relates to others’ and are ‘developmental conditions, which appear in childhood or adolescence and continue into adulthood’ (World Health Organization, 1992a). They are distinguished from mental illness by their enduring, potentially lifelong nature and by the assumption that they represent extremes of normal variation rather than a morbid process of some kind.

http://bjp.rcpsych.org/content/180/2/110.full

interesting .....

There may be a proliferation of fakees on this land

omonnakoda: In other words "mental" possibilities should be considered LAST. What is the logic for that. Why not looked at first or second or third.
We do not know whether this story is real or not and have no reason to take it too seriously,Therefore we assume the OP is telling the truth and our responses are based on that assumption.It is NOT an exam.
His story suggests that there is a personality problem and therefore that should be considered. I see no reason to relegate that to LAST position.

ok.

ileobatojo: Why?



Why can't weOP look at all possibilities at once and determine which one suits the situation the best?

because we dont have all the information to make that call

SIGNS OF MENTAL ILLNESS

Concerned About?
If several of the following are occurring, a serious condition may be developing.

Recent social withdrawal and loss of interest in others.
An unusual drop in functioning, especially at school or work, such as quitting sports, failing in school, or difficulty performing familiar tasks.
Problems with concentration, memory, or logical thought and speech that are hard to explain.
Heightened sensitivity to sights, sounds, smells or touch; avoidance of over-stimulating situations.
Loss of initiative or desire to participate in any activity; apathy.
A vague feeling of being disconnected from oneself or one’s surroundings; a sense of unreality.
Unusual or exaggerated beliefs about personal powers to understand meanings or influence events; illogical or “magical” thinking typical of childhood in an adult.
Fear or suspiciousness of others or a strong nervous feeling.
Uncharacteristic, peculiar behavior.
Dramatic sleep and appetite changes or deterioration in personal hygiene.
Rapid or dramatic shifts in feelings or “mood swings.”

http://www.psychiatry.org/mental-health/more-topics/warning-signs-of-mental-illness


The OP is biased....you need time to sift through his mind to be a good grasp of the issues

[quote author=Lord_Reed]Irrelevant! The real question is why did you lift someone else's picture and let people think it was you?

Using false impressions of your lifestyle and looks is childish and immature (and borders on the neurotic); check yourself.[/quote]OUCH!!!

kish beke.... who is kishana sands

ileobatojo: This statement makes no sense. The poster gave no prognosis whatsoever.


If what you're trying to say is that his/her opinion is based on a lay observation of his wife, then I need to ask you, what is your opinion based on? Knowing her intimately?

yes exactly my point
i dont know the couple in question but what i o know is that the couple need some time alone together to thrash out their issues
He is also as a poster said not really open to feedback as he is looking to blame a third party

My own point is before we label a mental thing, we shd look at other possibilities

Winneygirl: She's unhappy about Ur constant absence from d home due to Ur job. Probably dat's Y she gets angry when she sees Ur gifts.

She wants U close to her, not gifts.

Have U tried 2 seek another job dat will not take U away for so long?
Does she have a job? Pls ensure she has a job/business to take her mind off issues.

Above all, U both need to talk abt it. No assumptions, no pointing of fingers, just 2 adults who want 2 get along fine.

shebi na human being be dis....

u made a conclusion based on a biased post and now me i need a psych eval...
SMH

unfortunate you also have believers in this your hypothesis

omonnakoda: Prediction ,dead right so where did I predict anything ?
At every single point you misused the word instead of diagnosis.
No one is trying to be right or wrong .
The information provide led me to suggest that the husband seeks advice.
Clearly you have your own issues and NEED to be right.
Me I don't even know if the story is fiction but based on what I read I would advise the husband to get psychiatric advice.They may advice there is no mileage there which is fine.You on your part seem to need to WIN some battle here. I daresay you too might benefit from a psychiatric consultation!!

lol..fresh!!!
gAWD,,, a clinical student on the loose looking for mental patients... HAHAHA
The good thing be say we plenty for this land wey no normal

lafflaff123: .....

suit yourself brah..

prediction.. duh

dude(tte) just accept ur psycho cards dont cut it yet

The post is biased and he wil make his wife look bad
stop hunting for mental patients

omonnakoda: My prognosis?
What prognosis? Do you know the meaning of that word? I doubt it very much.You,too,appear to have some issues, I'm afraid. Clearly you like to talk for the sake of talking !
As usual the louder the noise the emptier the vessel.
I have no prognosis please!!!

now i know you were just talking all the while
you read someones post online and next thing you jump to mental illness ....

its always exotic stuff never the plain simple things

na wa

Tashamania: [size=14pt]I really hate to say this but this is becoming a constant for a while now.
I try as much as possible to stay away from married men who approach me for friendship, knowing fully well that their "friendship" all bores down to one thing and that is : Spoiling you with good stuffs of life and at the end, demanding to see or have a taste of what is underneath!


Seriously, Why wont this married men let us be and enjoy our youthful lives just the way they've enjoyed theirs?
Is this some kind of wickedness of some sort?
Dont they know that by such doings that they are putting at risk their marriages?
Do they want us (the youths) to suffer the same fate in our marriages (i.e, our own husbands going after young girls too)
Do they want to marry us as 2nd wives or they are just out to spoil our future?!
Is it that they are not happy with their marriages? I dont get it!


I face these almost in my everyday life,the single guys keep coming with the married men ( even those that pretend they are not married) what da heck?! I received the most embarrasing call of my life #days back at about 10pm when a lady called me to stay off her marriage and if not, she knows all my details on where I school and would come haunt me down and am like what the heck again? Whose fault is it this time? The saidman told me he wasnt married! Nawao!
And I wonder where the silly man was at the time his wife was using his cellphone to make this call and threaten an innocent girl like me

Not just that am facing it in the real world, even here on NL, married men who dont even deny the fact that they are married keep disturbing for "FRIENDSHIP"! What kind of friendship do you wanna have with a single lady and online?! Abeg and abeg, I dont entertain married men as friends. I'm sounding this clear because of any married man on here that might have been harbouring such intentions! For GOD's sake, Na Swear? You have a wife - for the s.ex and companionship and kid(s), so what again do you want?
I'm tired of all these, I dont know what method to use in telling you people off again o!!

I want to know what such men want. What abeg? This is beyond me![/size]

lafflaff why is it always easier to start throwing jabs.. it seems u need to read the initial post again
she never complained abt single men but rather married men masquerading as single ones

ish

adabeke12: it is never a war with punk azzez and attention mofos like yourself

eh ya..... im waiting for you to go ballistic and start typing in CAPS....
are u a man behind that screen or transgendered?

you seems to dig that ish....

freaky little poster

omonnakoda: Not sure what you mean by your word concoction ,all we are saying the guy should consult a mental health professional for advice shikena!

your prognosis is based on a lay observation of his wife
he says she is paranoid
have u for one considered he may be the paranoid one or he jumps to conclusion when his wife has conflicts and blames her without listening to her side or that he is plain biased

I know you guys are excited on this psychosis/MPD/paranoia thing but i believe the simplest diagnosis is usually the solution

.ish

The trad na the main thing but it is the same faithlessness of humanity that made people discard it

They shd have done the court to cement the thing legally and then they can marry

people have been known to abandon spouses even after trad

lafflaff123: @ILE if you take time to go through her post you will see she said the SINGLE GUYS KEEP COMING.

If a SUPPOSED single lady is complaining about single and married men chasing her then do the calculation yourself.

So the solution is easy. Stop doing whatever you do that attract both married and single men to you.

Anything angle which nobody has looked at is( and i don't mean this as a disrespect to the poster) she might not be into men but likes women or just maybe she is in a committed relationship(no put your fruit for one basket oh in case he break your heart)

When a SUPPOSED single woman don't want single guys or married guys hitting on her, then my G-A-Y-O-M-E-T-E-R is fully on alert.

At poster

Dude, i dont get the bolded
A supposedly attractive woman should switich off and stop attracting men?!

She wants to attract men just NOT THE MARRIED ONES

omonnakoda: The truth is that there is enough reason to suspect a personality disorder and on that basis to consult a professsional.
a personality disorder is not a mental illness .
There is no other way to clarify that than checking with a professional.The husband can also try online personality disorder screening questionnaires which are a useful tool.

hmmm.... fair enough
but i still believe a statement based on a lay observation of his wife is at best pre-emptory

adabeke12: your r an imbecileee

oh oh,,, you want to start another e-war.. naughty naughty
show some good judgement eh...i know its hard but pls try and use those cells for once in your life

kish beke, who is kishanna sands