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babyosisi: Make una advise am to forget the bobo o and see if anyone in Nigeria will Marry her o
Before she go coo coo carry acid enter office begin pour una

it's such an unfair practice. and they keep shouting equality huh ? yet they find it hard to split the bills equally.

khanivorous: Apart from TVD werewolves....which other is sexy

*muttering* bladdy rabid dogs

kraftykc: Kunoichi means female ninja so useless he has ovaries I will say no

damiso: I take a non gender biased stand on the issue.If you both agree to it and all is peachy, fine do what works for your home.
Where I would be slightly wary is if you INSIST and then turn it into a very big issue.

I honestly do not want ti monitor my husbands every toro kobo cos I know he is responsible with money.Better than me sef.He is not a child.He managed well before we got married and I know we have a vision and where we are going.So why should I be bothered if he decides to give 200 pounds to that old school friend who they used to soak Garri together in Ibadan.He will tell me and I for one will never discourage him cos he is an adult.
I have friends who have said they want to budget all hubby spends to the last kobo.Because of that they choose the most expensive everything.Their reasoning is they will see where money for sina (runs ie cheating )will surface from.

I dont like control f.reaks.

jidegirl12: B you see I wanted to leave you on this one but your cho cho cho is really e-disturbing.

When I said my hubby is custom made and specially made for moi - he is and the best thing that has ever happened to me and we shared thesame values and affection, <= all that are NOT relevant with money.

Only a hungry mongrel from a broke background will be poking his hungry red eyes in other people's earning , as long as I play my part in the finances and whatnots, he really doesn't care what I do with the rest and we both lavish ourselves and kids with gifts too. There's MORE to a marriage than MONEY!

So you and your likes ( they know themselves) always spewing 'NL perfect marriage' is very condescending , I honestly don't know what y'all problem is the fact that we love our spouses and do baby talks here or cos y'all don't have??, why don't you leave NL housewives alone and face your green monter eyes front! you know I go talk!



#Jumps in the shower

sanniemoe: I like U.. U bold..I'm sorry if I hurt u..It wasn't intentional.u came with full derogatory force...I'm sorry..

damiso: And vice versa too i.e a girl who insists that she must manage all your resources.

Guitarlife: The replies on this thread are quite shocking. Taking into consideration that all the women that have brazenly defended why they have refused to become one financially with their husbands have one time or the other tried to pretend as if their marriages are eldorados.
Lets not decieve ourselves, the major reason why these women are so unrepentant about their divisive stance on marital finances is due to a chronic lack of trust in their husbands fidelity.
As africans we are perfect at pretence so I expect a good number of seperate account protagonists to spring up their defenses but we can all see beyond the veil can't we ?
The only reason they wouldn't wanna keep a common purse with their supposed husband , somebody they stood in front of man and God to proclaim undying love for and even go ahead to vow that they'd stick with in sickness and health is because of that fear of him running away someday with a galfriend somewhere and their money.
like I always say, these past generation has robbed us of everything morals, sound education, social facilities, they even made away with our innocence.
Most of these individual account protagonists are only acting based on what their own parents marital experiences have taught them. Imagine a child that grew up with a single mother whoose husband made away with the families savings and relocated to another planet with a younger lady.
Which oracle will convince such a child to trust a man completely ?
The effect philandering fathers have on the psyche of their young children is quite hazardous to the success of such childrens future marriages.
Another reason is GREED. most ladies are waaaaayyyyy too greedy. They'd have calculated that by having a joint account the financial responsibilities would have been succesfully shared into two which negates their afro-centric idea of the man being the sole provider in the home.
ofcourse, when the man turns around to act the real afro-centrism by being polygamous they begin to quote the bible.
I am booting out my present girl friend soon. I would have done it today but she is writing her exams and so I'll just play along till she finishes her exams.
Her fault, she doesn't think it's a wise decision to keep joint accounts. You mean you will expect me to place my life in your hands by eating your food, sleeping on the bed you lay, wearing the clothes you pick for me , spending all my money on our family and you think money will be an issue ?
If money will become an issue then maybe I need to start looking for somebody who can love me enough not to bother how I spend our money while still trusting me enough to spend it wisely.
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now that getting a man to marry in naija is as hard as getting a job Neeeeeexxxxtttt!!!!
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okay , sorry for the long post. I have been working since morning and just needed to let out some steam. lemme get back to work now.

Guitarlife: @jide i know you get my drift. Those excuses about surprise bash are just cheap rationalisations and we both know. See I have no problem with people even hiding their age from their spouses but don't go all out saying it's the norm. Such a toxic information could damage the good mentality a young lady approaching marriage should have. That is the reason most marriages never make it past the first few years. Most people have been fed with toxic information about marriage and they enter into it with a deafetist and unhealtny defensive mindset. Anihillating all chances of survival that marriage could have had in the process.

Guitarlife: I know the sincere ones will agree with me that although keeping a separate account may be the reality it's not the ideal choice. Why do you think you are given a certificate when you marry ? Do you think if the priest had factored in divorce they'd go ahead and join you ? Like people are now coming out now to admit, the major reason is a lack of trust and anticipation of future separation thus a need to secure ones future in the aftermath of a bitter divorce. All other excuses are just cosmetic. It's a shame but as we have noticed it's rampant and that's the time we live in now. Laaawd help me as I hunt for a new girlfriend.

nedu2000: Maybe the thread isn't argumentative or controversial but too factual,it could be sensible but just too rigid and of 'cos unnecessary links & videos instead of summarizing it. youtube videos don't work in nigeria(with our networks),so don't post dem & ask that we go watch it

firestar: Dey der dey deceive unasef....

lovelydoll: yessss they are western ,thw wife is nigerian and the husband is african american.

WackyJ1: I dey for sakura back... *whispers*, that place is flat too, don't tell firestar


eh... i dey behind sakura

gmyguy: i've been wondering...if you were to do a wwf match up, like say...Iron cage death trap competition to get the last man standing, with a game of thrones bad guys' all stars...with kharl drogo, The hound, sandor clegane ( and his brother gregor ), bronn, ramsey bolton, jon snow, ser barristan, daario naharis, grey worm, the knight of flowers, loras, jaqen h'gar and ser jorah mormont. who do you think would be the last man standing?

WackyJ1: I was there, the thing connected

Fhemmmy: Words of wisdom . . .

echibuzor: .
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No give us dat tori joor... Wetin u carry come? Mathematical Problems is our food here, its all we ask for... LOL... Welcome Boss..

SageNaruto: Who was d 2nd pesin wit oro?! I'm thinking it shud be Karin, but it didn't luk lyk her.

bellong: My point was not specifically that good fathers always end up having good children. It was only to point out the weakness of David as per fatherhood. However, proportion of fathers who raised their children in the right way and their children turned out good are very high compared to the other.

What I personally observed over the years is that parents most times wait for their children to start talking before being trained or corrected about any negative character. You hear things like, he is still too young to understand, he doesn't know what they are doing etc....

Starting early and being a good father outweighs not being one. If at the end they turn out bad, at least you have peace on your part.

Jacob was a fraudster . The kids are already grown before he encountered divine transformation at bethel. We could also infer that because he hated Leah, he didn't pay attention to her children compared to Joseph and Benjamin from his beloved wife.

Samuel did his best and died happy because he didn't die of regret from failure of fatherhood like his "mentor" Eli.

mum2: @biolabee, baby_123, ifyalways, greatgod2012, Roland17. Thanks and thanks for your love and contribution. We are heading back to the hospital right aways. Thanks for your parenting advise. You people are the best

tsmith: [/b][b]

You should have gone to spec savers:

This isn't a religous topic per say, but rather how religion interacts with everyday issues, e.g marriages, work, family, tribal, inter country and inter continent etc.