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fellis: Yes, but your point has nothing to do with this thread. This thread was started by jobless kids for the purpose of bashing black feminists and posting r£tarded memes.

haba,,,,,

fellis: And?
The point is what exactly?

i thought it was self-evident if you read the article
The say men leaving older for younger women caused evolutionin the older woman.//pam ! menopause arose

Hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings - menopause and its side effects can all be blamed on men, experts suggest.
Evolutionary geneticists from Canada's McMaster University say men's tendency to choose younger mates meant fertility became pointless for older women. In PLOS Computational Biology, they say this eventually led to the menopause.

lorretta u: if you insult ileobatojo,you have a problem with me.take your time!
Last warning

Lol... nothing spoil oo.//

fellis: Feminists are not responsible for that

ultimately men are being blamed....

consequence of pokey pokey...

offtopic...(still part of the gender relations though)

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Now men are to blame for a supposedly normal female phenomenon...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-22886668

Men 'to blame for the menopause'

Hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings - menopause and its side effects can all be blamed on men, experts suggest.

Evolutionary geneticists from Canada's McMaster University say men's tendency to choose younger mates meant fertility became pointless for older women.

In PLOS Computational Biology, they say this eventually led to the menopause.

But a UK expert said that was the "wrong way round" and men chose younger women because older women were less fertile.

Now men are to blame for a supposedly normal female phenomenon...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-22886668

Men 'to blame for the menopause'

Hot flushes, night sweats, mood swings - menopause and its side effects can all be blamed on men, experts suggest.

Evolutionary geneticists from Canada's McMaster University say men's tendency to choose younger mates meant fertility became pointless for older women.

In PLOS Computational Biology, they say this eventually led to the menopause.

But a UK expert said that was the "wrong way round" and men chose younger women because older women were less fertile.

'Preferential mating'

Researchers have long been puzzled as to why it appears that human are the only species where females cannot reproduce throughout their lives.

Previous theories had proposed a "grandmother effect". This suggests that women lose their fertility at an age where they might not live to see a child grow, and instead are available to care for younger women's children.

The menopause was therefore seen as the block to older women from continuing to reproduce.

Continue reading the main story “Start QuoteI think it makes more sense to see the human male preference for younger females largely as an evolved response to the menopause”
End Quote Dr Maxwell Burton-Chellew University of Oxford
But this latest theory suggests things work the other way around, and that it is the lack of reproduction that has given rise to menopause.

Using computer modelling, the team from McMaster's concluded "preferential mating" was the evolutionary answer - men of all ages choosing younger women as partners.

That meant there was "no purpose" in older women continuing to be fertile.

Prof Rama Singh, an evolutionary geneticist who led the study, said men choosing younger mates were "stacking the odds" against continued fertility.

He told the BBC: "There is evidence in human history; there was always a preference for younger women."

Prof Singh stressed they were looking at human development many thousands of years ago - rather than current social patterns,

'Evolved response'

In the UK, the average age for women to go through the menopause is now 52 even though the average woman goes on to live for another 30 years.

Prof Singh said this extended longevity - plus later childbirth - could potentially alter the timing of the menopause, over a significant period of time.

"The social system is changing. There are women who are starting families later, because of education or a career."

He suggested this trend would mean those women would have a later menopause, and those genes would be passed on to their daughters "with the possibility of menopausal age being delayed".

However Dr Maxwell Burton-Chellew, an evolutionary biologist in the department of zoology at the University of Oxford, challenged the theory.

"The authors argue that the menopause exists in humans because males have a strong preference for younger females.

"However, this is probably the wrong way round - the human male preference for younger females is likely to be because older females are less fertile.

"I think it makes more sense to see the human male preference for younger females largely as an evolved response to the menopause, and to assume that ancestral males would have been wise to mate with any females that could produce offspring."

He added: "Evolutionarily-speaking, older females faced an interesting 'choice': have a child that may not reach adulthood before your own death, or stop reproducing and instead focus on helping your younger relatives reproduce."

Hotstepper: Most times, wives just love taking that of their hubby from wallet [size=16pt]cuz it seems to be sweeter. As in, there's this fullfillment wen u do but just small cash ooo.[/size] If I happen to see a top of say 3k, I would take dat from hubby's wallet but 3 times, a thousand each other day. At poster, find out why she does dat before u know what to do cuz if u block other means as u want to. She can start going outside which can be more deadly for ur marriage. Good luck

Fussbot: lwkm

Bro dat is even d worst tin to do in a polygamy,it is advisable for all the wives to live in the same house dan for the husband to rent dfrnt apartments for them

Dat is wat my fada did,got anoda apartment for the other wife but lives with us,u know wat she be like?"Ehen hen,na her(my mother)and her children get 2 head abi?dat's y he(my father)cannot live with me and my own children abi?we shall see!"Na serious gobe o!

wow... serious gobe...

Don't sweat it bro.. Frankly I enjoy the issues he raise cos they are real life stuff

I have family members who wan travel comot and guess who they wan make hin foot bill ......

That ajan's thread was mint!

mikkyphp: That is not what this is about. i was beginning to genuinely enjoy this thread and gain some valuable insight.
If this were the romance section, i wouldnt mind...

Polygamy's a no-no. Way too expensive

SuCcinct

Hmmm...

Guess there are some undertones which will still be present in all male-female interactions

Once the economic issues are sorted, you now have the normal infighting between females over whose child will do better

Note this also happens in a 'monogamic' setting (my child started talking or walking before yours etc bla bla bla ) but it is more subdued and is externalised rather than internal wranglings in a 'polygamic' setting

Nice points though

slimyem: My friend's father had two wives. He built his house such that each wife had her own duplex and lived in it with her children then the two duplexes were linked together with a small apartment and a large conference room that housed him.

He was hands on on everything. Their clothes were brought in boxes and if there were 10 boxes,it was going to be 5 for each mother. Food and schooling of each child was well taken care of too. They were RICH. All the children had the best of everything. There was no favouritism for anybody. On the surface,all was very well.

But all these didn't stop the silent competition or the buttoned up ill will or the innumerous issues that came with it when the man died.

Forget economic whatever. Nothing makes polygamy cool!
Nothing makes it enviable either!

jeffizy: Shame on you.
Coulda been your son ;-(

where have u been,,, oga.

He should have settled the woman since....

debrief08: Weldone to all the staff of these organizations for sleepless nights to meet targets, constant travels despite the risks involved and the time away from families so someone somewhere can go to be full

The NGOs really affect lives... yet in some parts of this country are slaughtered by religious extremists
They make an impact
May God help them

I enjoy your writing style @babyosisi.. i feel i am in your home watching drama... do u have a diary or write a novel

Afamdman: @baby hmmmmmm. I read a thread here, where u pushed against joint account. Hmmmmm na wah ohhh only for you to be robbing the man blind. Hahahahha, funny, his money our money, your money my money.

interesting insight...@afamdman...

OP talk to ur madam and express your displeasure...u guys shd work it out

Read some threads from other people"s POV

https://www.nairaland.com/1257382/what-wrong-taking-money-hubbys

https://www.nairaland.com/593165/does-taking-money-husband-make

CFCfan: Yeah, he'll be hoping to end his goal drought tomorrow.

They need to change their formation
Brazil is too predictable

They have no world class wingbacks no more.... O for the days of Cafu and R Carlos.. owning the wings for fun

Logged in

Neymar to exorcise his demons

Alles Selaccao

A practitioner of polygamy will never put women in the same living space

Looking for trouble be that oo

That is why it is an economic issue

How many men can afford two apartments, atlantic hall for all the brood, same uni for all the brood.

#dollar tinz

babyosisi: Thanks
I wanted to ask that question
I can imagine the first wife and her children feel the most cheated by the extra people that pop up

The house I grew up in had 4 bedrooms
I can't imagine an extra wife coming in and then I would be chased out of my room or have to share my room with half siblings

kulyie: the problem feminists generally have with black feminist is that they want to eat their cake and have it.they want to be feminists,yet marry and have kids.you want to be feminist yet collect money from men

so its more of a parochial thing than 'sisterhood' in africa.feminists support each other thats what they refer to as sisterhood,african women struggle with each other,slander,gossip,backbite and bring each other down because they are after a man,yet they claim they are feminists.even the feminist organizations we have here in nigeria e.g the nigerian council of women society,which is one of the many feminist organization was built by a man,i am refering to the one in lagos,v.i.i dont want to mention the name of the man but they received financial support from him.that cannot be feminism

indeed.. i admire your frankness,,,

Thanks.. @jenny

No beef

kulyie: in monogamy the wild dramas is reduced and curtailed to the bearest minimum.everyone still has boundaries unlike in polygamy where it is survival of the fittest.all hell is let loose.you can still see the head or tail of the will,you know where it is comming from and less crazy people to contend with in monogamy

secondly the ladies there were just been sentimental,the men were too sterotyped and egoistic as usual.as far as i am concerned,even if we are practicing feminism,its african feminism or black feminism which still gives room for male supremacy and culture.so i wont really call what african women are practicing feminism.you can read it up or google it.the real hard core feminists are the radical feminist who dont even get married in the first place and dont want to ever do anything with them and resisting anything masculine

Now you have gotten to the meat of the matter
A true feminist who deigns to marry will never stomach polygamy/cheating etc.. they will work out ... i pay my own bills

@babyosisi.. i have no issue with them.. they just prowl and attack out of the blue,.. ultimately no point,... just
On polyandry.... that will be novel
For me why would i share one woman with another man when i can have my own woman and more
What advantage does it confer on me...

^^^ it takes one to look for others...

mikkyphp: am tired of nairalanders especially those who've grown to have a reputation for bashing others on every thread they land in. you people should plan a venue and time and just fight. All these wannabees with a PhD in Cursing! Haba! @Ajanlekoko, how did this holy thread degenerate to this?

you have to grow a thick skin...hahaha

kulyie: even if he has,he will not enjoy any form of peace.at least we see what becomes of the properties of abiola and his kids,fela and his kids.check out how their kids arew compared to when he was alive.the properties sef,issshhhh.i see ojukwus properties going the same way too

valid point... however inheritance and legal issues also dog monogamic unions...

kulyie: i came across it and read it some weeks ago and chuckled to myself because the op himself knows he mixed truths with falsehood.EOD!

will have liked you to comment.... some of the female posters too were too emotional//

kulyie: stop the propaganda.you know very well that you are spreading falsehood.feminism is to empowe and defend women and not to attack men but chauvenism and misogynist cultures :/

i have nothing against social justice but some women have carried this equality spiel too far.
We can meet on the feminism thread and discus...https://www.nairaland.com/1254189/feminism-why-women-general-especially

CFCfan: Are 'feminazis' descendants of Nazis?

another term for ultra feminsists who will never see anything wrong in what women do

The man beats the woman.. its the mans fault for no self control
The woman beats the man... the man caused it by provoking her

kulyie: na lie o.the day husband dies,respect for inlaws don finish.i don see where them dey use charmed horse whip pursue inlaws comot for house when those ones told them to vacate that they want to sell their brothers house.infact that is when they will be united,since they are all fighting for a common thing.they will go to the extreme of diabolism,you will see first hand raw fury.those that know how to visit herbalist will,those that no how to go to court will.e be like say you dont know how this illiterate and semi illiterate women reason.this person that i know that they planned selling off their house after the death of their husband used all forms of legal and diabolic means to fight their inlaws.the day the man dies,that is the end of the respect.if they kneel down for them,it will stop,if they use sir for them,it will stop.today,they are still in that house albeit behaving like flat mates and minding their buisness.this happened to my moms friend who was one of the polygamous wives.

interesting story.....
seriously if a man no get moni... make hin no try polygamy...

@ileobatojo

Woman.. i thought u really wanted to have a discussion.... i leave u in peace....
i hope you pay the same level of attention to your home matters the way you nitpick through inconsequential parts of people;s posts...



@OP Sorry for the derailment//

About to start the series this weekend// will comment in now and then....

ileobatojo: xxxx

There is no premise and frankly its your prerogative to answer or not,

ur own point of view also stinks... was it insulted..no? but u r omniscient yes?

good luck on your egalitarian odyssey. I hope you get to the world you desire....

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]xxxxxxx[/quote]Good.. so what will be ur reaction if ur man/husband says he want to bring another wife,, (hypothetically since u guys are in the west where bigamy laws are strong)

ileobatojo: If you wanted dialog, you shouldn't have been calling people feminazi's. Or is that a term of endearment where you and your ilk are from?

i asked u a question
if ur man/hubby said he wanted a second wife, what will be ur reaction