₦airaland Forum

adedayourt:
....HANS UP HANS UP!!!

austinosita:
I am an igbo guy, born and bred in Yoruba land(Lagos).
I grew up amongst the Yorubas and 90% of my friends are Yorubas. I did my primary and secondary education here in Lagos, except my university education.


I got a job years back and left my family house in Lagos and got an apartment of my own, where the settlers around are predominantly Yorubas.


Because I am a jolly fellow and I love hanging out, I discovered a place close to my new apartment, where I could hang out with people and gist over some bottles. I made friends with some aged men and some younger guys in my age range. I often prefer to hang out with older people because of their wisdom and knowledge. So I often go to this bar close to my house where we all hang out, drink and gist, mostly on Thursdays, Fridays and Sundays.


We all live very close and gist like close friends and brothers, even the aged men among us. The ones in my age range were not more than 3, the other 9 were aged men in their late 50's or early 60's.


I'm sure we are all aware of the tribal wars and hatred, most especially the biafran struggle. Recently, the youths of the Arewa Consultative forum gave the igbos an ultimatum of 3 months to vacate the north. And some south eastern Governors met and decided to evacuate igbos, but the kaduna state Governor; mallam El rufia intervened.


Now, the crux of the matter. This night I was with them and one of the aged men brought up the issue and said the igbos should ALL be killed for wanting to split Nigeria. And he looked at me and said, "yes, I know you are an Igbo man, you should all be killed"! And immediately, I was shocked!


I summoned courage and I told him that how could you ever wish a fellow "innocent" Nigerian like you to be killed? For what reason exactly? He said for wanting to split Nigeria. I replied and I said: "I cannot deny my tribe. My people feel that they are being marginalised in their own country. All the major positions in ministries, parastatals, Govt agencies and even major political roles are given to hausas and yorubas. If my people feel they are being marginalised then they have the right to protest and show their grievances in their country.


I also reminded him of the video footage that went viral online, about biafrans that came out in a field to pray for the departed biafran souls, and all of a sudden, buratai's men came into the field and started shooting and killing these innocent souls. About 200 biafrans! These biafrans never destroyed any property, they never disturbed the peace of the society, they were only carrying out "civil duties" as an aggrieved people who are being marginalized in their own country.


This man replied me and said; that if i decide to be part of them, and in fact from what I'm saying, I'm already part of them and that I'll die too. I'll be killed! I was so shocked! This is a man I see as a father. I take him out at times and drop him at home after the groove.


So I asked him a question. I said, so "daddy" if they start chasing and killing igbos in Lagos, you would actually betray me, and he said YES! YES he would! He hates biafra!!


And then I told him that during the biafra war, my dad was in the Nigerian police and he was asked to leave the Nigerian police and go home, even with his high rank. He resigned but didn't leave Lagos. So one day, the soldiers started killing igbos in Lagos. He told me that it was a Yoruba man, his closest neighbour that saved him. He was hidden in the roof by his Yoruba Neighbour and the soldiers ransacked his house, they didn't see him and they left. He was saved by a Yoruba man he trusted and the man never dissapointed him. Then I told him that I'm shocked that you could say this after all we've done together and shared together.


While all these were going on, the other Yoruba aged men and those of my age range were all laughing and supporting him. I was shocked to my bone marrow! So this is actually all they had in mind all these while.


Ab initio, I never wanted to tell them my tribe cos normally you would never know my tribe, reason being that, I write and speak Yoruba fluently. I speak igbo very well too, but I made it hidden. So, one day I decided to let them know because of the closeness and the trust I have in them.


It would interest you to know that I was even present during the "eyo festival". I know so much about the tradition and I say the "eyo incantations" very well!



(Just a tip: eyi wa gbo, wa to, wa molowo, wa molese, wa gbo timo'n timo)
(I also know the igbo masquerade well.....odo ma'gana)



I am not in support of the secession, I actually want one Nigeria. I want the major tribes to be represented equally in government. I want peace. I want a better Nigeria and I want a better life. Now, I am so confused with what happened this evening and I have vowed never to go there again or hang out with them or any other Yoruba man.


I want you all to know that there's a big problem in this country. We are actually not living as one. some tribes hates some tribes so much. I am so much in shock.
That someone I have been with for years could actually wish me dead because of biafra. A struggle I never supported from the outset, because I want one Nigeria.


Why the so much hate?

This has made me so afraid and I can't even sleep.

I want matured response!

If you think I'm just trying to put this up just to aid the biafran struggle, please I beg you not to conclude yet. check my posts and threads, even the ones that have made it to the front page.

I know my igbo brothers will bash me too, but I still want one Nigeria.

This experience to me, is so disheartening!

#Which way Nigeria?

NtoAkwaIbom:
#OurMumEdongDo
You saw the million of people that trouped to Cardiff City, imagine the million they rake.
But dumb Africans will do church Thanksgiving service,
Africans will paint cow as Chelsea, and drink Cartoons. of beer and celebrate to some Victory.

Me my fan level stops at enjoying the game, mocking some folks and going back to my life.

Africans we need to wise up, during slavery, they came here to pick our bezt to take to their lands, so that they work, there and sell back to us.
Today, folks sell their house, to get money to do d perilous journey of going through the desert... just to sell themselves to same white slavery.

Our Best doctors, Lawyers, Engineers, Physics, have all sold their all to be in slavery, and we now have to spend billions to by the product they make for their masters to sell back to us.

Tb Joshua, brought business to the area he stayed in, but guess what, he is now going on to work for them, so that all the people going there will take the revenue that were accruing to us.. to Israel.

The Slavery, to their culture, to their opinion, to their choices, to their taste.. is what that is keeping Africa at its crawling state.
Just see that idiot, what did u gain as Barca won ?

Biafrareform:
Didn't you see how they have avoided this thread.
But truth must be told

stephenmorris:
I swear

Placiddust:
...Where r those juveniles in d habit of hauling pebbles at each other? Typical not to surface here and join the real discourse. Salient facts laid bare....

Those dry-fish brain mods won't move hot stuff like this to fp, fulani/ gambari asslickers.....


"Afete sile ma lo pa lapalapa"

Shame on all southern yoots, ****spits****

alexialin:
Awww thanks

But seriously ladies like us still exist . it just that due to past experiences, we are kind of careful .

And with this pepperdemgang? There is nothing to gain in it. Intact I don't even have time to be peppering guys when there is so much to do and achieve . no time .

I wish all pepperdemgang best of luck .

God will see us through .

alexialin:
U honestly do not look broke to me
U even have one white chikito by ya side
See enjoyment ! Chai!

luvinhubby:
The story is not true.

alexialin:
I can love a broke guy, if and only if am certain hisnlove for me is sincere and not because am financially OK or he's scheming to run away with my car . Then yes! I can love and even marry him . And am certain with time , he will grow and surpass my level financially .
All I need is simple. Are your affections truly sincere? Are u hardworking or just a lazy bum waiting to eat off me and will your family accept me knowing am well off but humble at the same time ? . If these three issues are cleared ? Then why not?

I definitely will

MzLarem:
Certain responsibilities are for the man who you are married to,note that.

For the fact he is your boyfriend doesn't mean he owes you anything, he owes you no dime, sister and whatever he does for you is only out of self will and the love he has for you just like you owe him no shit too.

About the issue of dating a broke guy shouldn't even be an issue... if you know you can cope, go right ahead... if you can't, then step aside. We all have different specs. But for you to start thinking your man owes you so much cos you are dating him, erase that mentality. You are not doing him a favor by dating him... it's a mutual thing.

Lastly, if you can't date a broke guy, don't be broke yourself cos it's like saying you can't date You.

MzLarem:
Certain responsibilities are for the man who you are married to,note that.

For the fact he is your boyfriend doesn't mean he owes you anything, he owes you no dime, sister and whatever he does for you is only out of self will and the love he has for you just like you owe him no shit too.

About the issue of dating a broke guy shouldn't even be an issue... if you know you can cope, go right ahead... if you can't, then step aside. We all have different specs. But for you to start thinking your man owes you so much cos you are dating him, erase that mentality. You are not doing him a favor by dating him... it's a mutual thing.

Lastly, if you can't date a broke guy, don't be broke yourself cos it's like saying you can't date You.