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funmisticqueen2:
they have middle names in the mum's language na. And probably one in English

It is what it is.

They probably do. I am not arguing for anything though.

ImaIma1:
As long as they are in agreement. She married into the family, it should be fine.

These days, when people ask me where I am from, I mention my LGA and husband's own as my new LGA.

When it comes to naming a child, both of them should agree

Both may have conflicting interests or mutually exclusive preferences, permit me to say that.

It's not as cut and dry as you'd like to think. I prefer to be called tioluwani than the English equivalent, lol, but all these things abo ut name and who gets his way sha, wetin dey worry me sef? Perhaps boredom.

Mizwisdom:
It's my name but my dad has a nickname for me, that's what he has been using.

Oh that's nice.

Mizwisdom:
I will call them a name I chose, that doesn't stop my husband from calling them a name he picked for them. My mum always called me and siblings by the native name she gave us, her relatives also call me by that same name whereas my dad calls me by a different name, while I answer a different name officially

Oh that's good, but If I get you, the name you're answerable to oficially is neither the name given by dad nor mom? Then who gave you the name?

Are you trying to avoid pre-marital sex?

ahnie:
Because he was scared that if i give my son my tribal name....dats the end.

i cud remember vividly on the dedication day...when i went to write the names of our son to present to the pastor....my husband took the list from me.. he then cancelled the isoko name, but left the english and igbo names....funny enough that was how our son was saved from been isokolized.

But i kinda loved it now...because whenever the names of my kids are called...one would easily decode that its an intertribal union.

Simply put...we've settled ourselves ...he has the boy,I ve the girl.
I'm a big fan of inter tribal marriages.

Ahnie, yesterday you no gree me sleep. I just dey read your post up to the 17th page. Your comment for diary section na die. Your hubby must be a lucky sombori and at the bolded, your hubby no send. Sharp guy, he could see that equal rights doesn't mean equal influence, so he has to exert some authority lol.

Do you mind if I follow you on NL?

From your comments, I understand you lived in Kano; I am job hunting there presently. Any place you'd suggest that can land me something to sustain body? Lol, do you still speak the language? And how do you understand Yoruba? This Isoko woman sef lol.

forzarush:
I don't think it matters once the couple is in agreement. I and my husband are from the same tribe and our son is named after my FIL. That's his first name which most people know but he has other names and he answers to them. My husband marvels at how at 2plus he answers to about five different names,lol.

Oh nice to hear that ma'am. It actually doesn't matter but some people still see culture as an essential parts of who they are and they carry that thought with them. You can imagine Yorubas discriminating against themself (my mom point blank told my brother that she doesn't approve of his union with a woman from Kaaba) so how much more when we have to give up something as important as naming. Bidemi, Temidire, Ajoke, I'm honsstly imagining the trauma of that Igbo wife.

ahnie:
It's just understanding between the parents.... my husband is ignore,I on the other hand is isoko...

My first child has both igbo and isoko names...but she's well addressed with her isoko and she's even answering the name as her first name in school and enmarked on her certificates.

The Igbo name comes as the second...her dad is the only person that calls her the Igbo name.

Whilst my Son has only igbo name...no isoko name,not one.
My husband really fought tooth and nail against my giving him isoko name.....
It was really a big issue,but we are cool with it.

Like I said...it's just understanding...and nothing more.

Haha, your influence is really strong oo Ahnie. Chai, action woman. Why did he object to your son having Isoko name?

Winneygirl:
Whatever works for one.
.
I do not believe that a child belongs more to the mother than to the father because she carried the child in her womb for 9 months
So all these concerns about the man naming the child, thus sidelining the woman who carried the child through the gestational period...
I don't get it.
.
What works for one home should not be the standard by which other homes follow.
We need to learn to live and let live.

Yeah, whatever works for one. How about you. Imagine you're a Igbo and next thing hubby tells you is "Dear, our son's name is Mosadoluwa" would you object?

Ellipsoid:
It was probably a joint decision to give their kids Igbo first names. Did you ask if their second/other names are Yoruba?

I once had a Dentist who said he and his wife, a Clinical Psychologist, decided to give their daughters unisex first names, then female names as the second. He explained their reasons and I thought it was a very smart idea and something I'd like to implement in the future when I've my own kids.

If it was a joint decision, that was probably because she succumbed to the man's decision, so yes, it was a joint decision.

No I didn't ask. I simply asked for their names and I got told. X, Y, Z. Whatever second or third name they have is irrelevant because even the mom called them by their Yoruba names in my presence.

She did the right thing though but I just came here to hear contrary opinion.

AnonymousRebec:
I personally don't think it should be a big deal because if two people from different tribes decided to get marry, then naming of children should have been one of the topics of discussions even before the marriage.

For the inter tribal marriages I know, the children end up answering a neutral English name.

Yeah I agree. It should be discussed earlier and that was probably why all kids bore father's tribe, but imo, that's stretching truth a bit too far. They might and might not discuss it. Do we also have to ask our wives if they would take our names? Somethings are just the norm sir. The woman did the right hand though, but I just want to hear dissenting opinion because it seems Nairaland is a bit progressive than the Nigerian society we live in.

cococandy:
I would feel okay with that. If you don’t line the tribe, then don’t marry that person. The kids can have names from any tribe out of the ones you guys are from. There are no rules to these things.

You don't have to like a tribe to like a person. You all are terribly mixing up human desires. I don't have to like or hate your tribe to like you. I am neutral on even my own tribe so I see no big deal in making human tribe an intrinsic part of one's identity. I could even take it a bit further: you don't have to like your spouse's personality to like them.

blazer90707:
I would be hurt because their surname already reflects their father's tribe so therefore I would give them first names from my tribe. I can't imagine carrying a child and not being able to give him/her the first name I want. It all depends sha, as a man that truly loves his wife I don't think you should have issues with her giving the first name while you give other names

Thanks for honesty voicing your own opinion on this subject, lol. I know if I were to ask this same question elsewhere like Reddit, I'd get polar opposite answers to what obtains here.

I'm interested sir, but it looks like one only makes 300 in profit? Pm asap.

ericsmith:
I don't see any fuss here, in nigeria every child as more than one name, via mom , dad, grandparent,aunty/uncle or pastor/imam. however out of these names a child is popularly known & called with one,
that davido calls his son "ifeanyi" a name from the wife side does not mean ifeanyi has no yoruba name, so the woman in question must av given her tribe names to those kids ... buh they are bearly other names.

Sir, I didn't say I am not aware of other names. I mean since the name gets to the forefront on everything official, the child is more likely to identify with it, and it is more than likely to be prominent. As the saying goes: It is better to be the king of a small town than a second-in-command. What's the point in having a name if only a small pool of people identify you by that?

Bukola, oya talk.

pocohantas:
You don’t know me. You assume you do. My values and ethics are bespoke, strictly mine.

Haha, if I don't quote you, it doesn't mean I don't read your opinions, haha.

ibkayee:
If my husband wants a particular name, we can discuss it, who knows, maybe he has a 'better' reason than mine. It's not a deal breaker nor a big deal in the first place for me. My point is that if the choice over a name were down to sentimental value vs just 'custom', I wouldn't be AS willing to just go with whatever he wanted, otherwise I'm not that fussed

As for the 'community' you're talking about, you're adding new factors to this discussion, I wasn't thinking of all that. Funnily enough, the OP said his friend's children are in the North, bearing Yoruba names

I don't think there is any sentiments in wanting a name from your region regardless of who is doing the asking. The woman in question is a northerner.

nuelyoyo:
Bros, you just asked the question on my mind. Her feminism is still on the moderate side.

As in eh, no be the Pocohantas wey I know.

delishpot:
So what if your husband also wants a particular name?
The only issue here is if the husband does not permit the wife to even pick a name for her child or be involved in anything except to cook, clean and breastfeed the child.
I would rather my child bear the name of the culture he is identified with. If hubby is Igbo, and child is Olawale and child is expected to thrive in an Igbo community, how does that work smoothly in our naija? Best bet is for the child to be given a neutral name eg Nelson

That is why I said she's fortunate to have married an understanding man.

@Alexandre7, pocohantas na jejely woman true true. Oya do the necessary. Don't waste tim. Yes, she'll marry you. She wouldn't be a burden. Lol.

Edit:He just left.

pocohantas:
Nobody hacked my account. Somethings are pretty straightforward and shouldn’t be overthought. This is one of them.

Hmm.

sassysure:
Ssw on front page an indian couple that named their twins corona and covid
How do we identify these ones?

Lol, it's funny no be small.

Corona, yes ma.

Where are you? Ma, I'm in the parlour!!

Doing what? Playing with my brother Covid

Do you want see us? See you kwa

Punjab says no. The Hindi man calls for their banishment claiming they are not Hindis, they get to every country and the citizens are like, nah you are not a resident here. Even Whites that bear White names reject these ones.

Which way for these ones nah?

pocohantas:
Hope you didn’t tell her anything. Make you no go scatter the marriage abeg.

I see no issue with it. If my husband is Yoruba, their first names would automatically be a Yoruba name. It is that simple.

Did someone hack your account?

Vyolet:
Those couple siddon jeje for their house living their lives, busybody like you wants to tell them what is wrong with their family.
Why not call the wife aside and tell her to fight her husband for giving their kids his tribal names.

Moreover, who says the wife cannot call the kids by her own tribal names if she wants to?

If you read very well, you'd observe that this thread is meant to get other women's opinion on the subject, not castigate or belittle the woman for yielding to the husband's way. I don't remember mentioning that I have problems with the woman's decision.

If the wife calls the kid by her own tribal name, nothing wrong with that. However, it looks like first name often takes precedence over other names.

ibkayee:
Lol why are you turning it into this? It's not that she doesn't like the husband's tribe, it's about children not completely losing their identity in favour of another. It's not an unreasonable point

@Blackmiserable
Most people I know give their children names from both tribes, but it's just tradition for the child's 'first' name to be from their father's side. Maybe this is the case with your friend? But I get your point, since the 'other' names are technically 'hidden' lol. Most of these things are just down to 'custom'

I don't think I'm that fussed, [b]but if there was a name that I really wanted my child to bear and be referred to, I don't think I'd be as willing to forfeit it with my husband over so called 'custom'[\b]

I'm happy you have an understanding hubby lol. Like we all agree that names have this distinction and meaning especially when we speak the language as probably a first or second language. If you call your son Chukwuemeka, that's nice. God's ... . If someone asks the meaning and he gets told, I think he would be wowed but not as much if he doesn't have to ask the meaning because he speaks the language himself. You get my point. Names have more meaning if we don't have to ask people to interpret it to us.

If there was a name you really wanted your son to bear, it has to either be a Christened name or your tribal name. Lol. More and more people get identified by their Christian or Islamic names but methinks it is not anywhere close to tribal names, even as first name.

delishpot:
As a woman if you can't stand someone identifying your child with the name of a particular tribe, why marry from that tribe? How will a let's say Hausa woman who has a thing against her children bearing or being known by any name outside of her culture and tribe decide to marry a man outside of her own? Does it make sense?

I'm not trying to argue for or against, I just want to hear opinion. Thanks for stopping by lol.

Sixfeetbelle:
No, I don't. Marriage to me works by understanding. If you'd prefer your kids to have your tribe name, it's best to marry from your tribe. Outside your tribe means the man gets to decide since the kids will bear the man's name as their surname.

Okay, just wanted to hear your opinion.

Sixfeetbelle, do you have problems with that?