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Hello, sir. I have some questions
1) Are you a registered business yourself?
2) How did you get the contract?
3) Was there an agreed price?
4) Most importantly, was there a contract? Not necessarily hard copies. You talked about iPad and what about. It shows there was an agreement (like you have proofs of communication even though there wasn't any legal frameworks) like email address chats or something?
nnekacynthia: I don't even know where to start from, when I rented d huz newly I said to myself dat I av arrived n won't move out of d huz till I get money for a bigger huz, when I entered newly d landlord this brothers behaved like a good people n asked us to be fetching water from tank, all of a sudden dey locked d tank under 2 weeks we moved in. The next thing I noticed was dat he only likes do rent his room to single ladies, all d rooms in d compound are all ladies dat is living there. I Neva knew his motive until i noticed dat weneva am alone or maybe am sitting out d veranda or maybe I wnt out to buy something and am coming bk the landlord younger bro will bring out his d**k n start romancing it, he did it d 1st n 2nd time n I ova looked it. i say if he mumu too much i go report him to landlord, i neva knew d landlord own worst ��� . Not until one day, he came out stark naked in d middle of the night, flashing light 2ru d windows �, if he flash light on his d**k, he will flash in d window���, until 1of my neighbor noticed n woke d rest. they rained insults on him still he refused to go, he was just smiling n romancing his d**k. Am still Saving money for a new apartment, I will not live in the same compound with a landlord. It's not funny at all.
You went to disgrace the babe. Why? This is the irritating character that made your husband look elsewhere. When all you give him is stress, Man will seek succour in the arms of a mistress. The ministrations of a mistress will help him calm down. If not he would have kicked your troublesome yansh out of his house.
The man is the victim here. What a pity.
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all of you quoting me to disagree. Ori yin ti gbale. Shey you cannot see the garage behaviour of this cantankerous wife? A pity the man has to live with her under the same roof.
Any wife that embarrasses her husband like this is not worthy to be called a wife. She must be returned to her father’s house and the bride price must be refunded with interest to cover inflation.
ThIs innocent hapless man is enduring a toxic woman in marriage. Sad.[/sup]
She has the rights to be jealous, angry, and act appropriately. She's the victim, not the husband.
HolyTrinity: Smiles. Glad you don't know my identity. Now, to your question,
Smiles. Haha! I am more than happy to take you on this one.
HolyTrinity: Logically, polygamy is not mentioned per say in scripture just like "smoking, pornography, etc" are not categorically stated in scriptures as sin. But you and I know some things not mentioned in the bible are wrong. As man evolves, sin evolves with man.
I have to make bold the word "logic" because some sanctimonious ones are notorious for shoving their beliefs on others by holding onto 2 Tim 3 : 16 (All scriptures is inspired and...) by saying "I know you wouldn't believe me. It's not your fault. You need the Holy Spirit to interpret...". So since we want to use common sense and still be very, very true to God and scriptures, I think we are good to go then, haha.
Okay, you said polygamy isn't mentioned in scriptures. No! Old covenant is part of scriptures bro. I mean that is not entirely true. Unlike smoking, pornography, and other vices, polygamy didn't evolve with time. The old dispensation talks about marrying more than one wife. In fact, it assumes it as normal. I am not going to quote copious texts here but here's one.
Deuteronomy 21:15 “Suppose a man has two wives, but he loves one and not the other…."
If this not polygamy then I wonder what it is. The great law giver who saw God face to face and whom scriptures likens to no other man, Moses, had two wives. Many righteous men were polygamous.
If the Bible didn't mention a "vice" as old as man, don't you see how corruptible and fallible scriptures is? Like, a "sin" as old as man getting overlooked in the Pentateuch? Never! People were adulterous and God kept quiet about it? It should have been a part of the ten commandments bro.
HolyTrinity: See, Genesis 2:24 ''Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife (not wives): and they shall be one flesh.
This command laid the foundation for marital relationships.
How does divine will prohibit polygamy? And how does scriptural silence, too, butress your arguement? I honestly don't get it. God could have created ten men and one women or vice versa. He could have created two men to reproduce and multiply if he so wants, so how does this forbid polygamy? It's like saying since we believe in divine providence, bearing in mind that I was born and raised to black parents in Nigeria, it is a sin if I seek greener pastures in a white man's country. After all, if God so desires, I'd be born there, or it becomes a sin NOT to sleep at night since God created the lesser light (night, in particular) to refresh man's body (sleep is meant to refresh man). But hold on for a minute, is this even a command? Is Genesis one of the instructional books? Do we, the adherents, receive the does and don'ts there? My point is we cannot use creation account story to conjecture divine commands. Get it? They are two different things. By the same arguments and following the same passage, some have followed your train of thought that it is a sin not to marry. I have met them bro. They claim that the quoted makes no exceptions: a man, all men, after all. No! Divine creation account is not the same as how God wants his creatures to act. He has moral codes for that.
HolyTrinity: Leviticus 21:13 "And he shall take a wife (note: a wife) in her virginity...but he shall take a virgin of his own people to wife.
This is specifically a priestly instruction and priests follow a higher code of conduct than the people, so you cannot argue that the Old Testament mandates people to follow a priest code of conduct since only the Levi are priests, except you're arguing for Nazirites.
And sadly, this passage doesn't even talk about polygamy or forbid it. In fact, one would assume that due to God's high demands on priest and the high priest, he should forbid them from marrying more than one wife, but that's not the case at all. In fact, with regards marriage, a high priest is required to marry only a virgin from his clan, just as you quoted. BUT NOTHING OF ADDING MORE VIRGIN WIVES.
HolyTrinity: No hint of plurality. "a wife'' (Monogamy). Anywhere you see the bible mentioning WIVES, it is with respect to the multiple possessors of the women. For instance, ''the sons of God took them wives''. Take note of the key words WIFE Proverbs 5:18 ''Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the WIFE of thy youth. Proverbs 6:29 So he that goeth in to his neighbour's WIFE; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. Proverbs 18:22 ''Whoso findeth A WIFE findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Ecclesiastes 9:9 ''Live joyfully with the WIFE whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life,...
You quoted Proverbs, Eccle, and yet, the author has more than one wife. Why should we follow people who don't practice what they preach? Does it make sense? If Solomon is asking us to marry only one wife and he married more than one, I'd rip the pages of the bible, wouldn't you do that too? But no, Solomon is not being hypocritical. He could have said "wives" too bro. We shouldn't carve out commands from human preferences. Mere examples. By that logic, we run into tons of problem.
HolyTrinity: Jeremiah 3:1 ''They say, If a man put away his WIFE, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted?... The above is also a strong indication against divorce which God also frowns against. Well, this is a matter for another day. Malachi 2:14 ''...Bcause the LORD hath been witness between thee and the WIFE of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the WIFE of thy covenant. The above gives a more solid and specific claim to monogamy being the standard for marriage. Malachi 2:15 "And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the WIFE of his youth. With the above, a strong credence is given to monogamy.
There is no contention here as I am strongly anti-divorce myself. God's word forbids it. Very strongly. Now let me back off a little bit because of Deu 24. Moses permitted divorce (as spoken by Christ) because if you read scriptures very well, some instructions in the Mosaic laws weren't direct commands of God. One of the strongest litmus to know God's command is when Moses starts with "Then the Lord said to me..." other than that, it could just be the wise counsel of a holy man which should be followed nonetheless, until another divine revelation surfaces. For instance, Moses himself admits "Deuteronomy 24:22 …That is why I am giving you this command." If you search "that is why" from the NLT, you would see atleast 2 instances where Holy Moses differentiates divine commands from his. We can always trust Moses so we should obey him too, but not surprising Christ had to call him out for his fallibility. I am saying that because I know where you chief arguement is heading.
HolyTrinity: Matthew 5:32 "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his WIFE, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
For the love of God, answer me. Can we paraphrase Matt 5:32 as, Whosoever shall marry another wife saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery. Lol. Is that correct, lol? If he's adding wives, can we call her an adulterer?
HolyTrinity: Jesus gave no indication of anything outside monogamous marriage.
The express focus is WIFE. In fact, the below verse says it all.
Matthew 19:5 ''And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his WIFE: and they twain shall be one flesh. Mark 10:7 ''For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his WIFE.
Jesus didn't talk about whether a man could marry more than one wife, sir. In no place did he. And no one asked him to explain his stance on that, either. J You like many people I know seem to argue for silence, if the Bible only talk about wife, then wives is not permitted. God will not be silent on this "vice" that is as old as man if he did not permit it.
In Matt 19, someone asked Christ if a man should marry more than one wife? For goodness sake, no. So all you can ever come out with, like other passages is a conjecture. They are taking about rice and you're taking about beans lol. Christ gave a perfect response to their question, as pertains to divine will as thundered from the lips of the prophets, so it was a perfect response. One, Holytrinity is like Oh Christ, did you just say a man cannot marry another wife because God made them one? Christ: Nope! That isn't what I was asked. If you want to know about that Holytrinity, you may ask.
HolyTrinity: 1 Corinthians 7:2 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his OWN WIFE, and let every woman have her own HUSBAND.
1 Corinthians 7:4 "The WIFE hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the WIFE.
(how many women are to hold authority over the man's body?)
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the WIFE depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his WIFE.
1 Corinthians 7:27 "Art thou bound unto a WIFE? seek not to be loosed...
1 Corinthians 7:39 "The WIFE is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
A woman for a man.
Ephesians 5:33 ''Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his WIFE (not wives. one man one wife) even as himself; and the WIFE see that she reverence her husband.
1 Timothy 3:2 ''A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one WIFE, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach
1 Timothy 3:12 "Let the deacons be the husbands of one WIFE, ruling their children and their own houses well.
Are only the bishops and deacons commanded to have one wife alone. Not at all. See below;
Titus 1:6 "If any be blameless, the husband of ONE WIFE, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly...
The above sums it. No need for much talking. We ere because we know not the Scriptures.
I have written to much bro. I don tire. People in the church were polygamous that is why Paul laid a great moral code on church leaders otherwise this instruction would not make sense. If monogamy was the norm, why tell priest as a matter of command? I don't want to argue for translation sake but modern translations translated it differently. I don't know which is correct though, but it still doesn't forbid it, just like all Israel weren't command to abstain from wine except the Nazirites.
Every woman deserves to get married no matter her condition. How do you expect a marriage to work if the couples are not permitted to have sex at specific time, like a woman menstruating one week in four or divorcees or woman who just gave birth and require atleast 2 months to recover? Sure, self control is key, but the all knowing God didn't forbid it for his own good reasons. I am out.
HolyTrinity: In discussing sensitive issues as this, one ought not to sound overly religious due to our differing faiths and beliefs. However, on the grounds of the christian Faith (by virtue of new testament doctrines), HE (any man who does) WILL NOT ESCAPE.
Not everyone will receive this. No, not everyone. We've got to make our choice. We decide our choices and our choices define us.
Okay, lol, sister, I like how you assume from my opinion. I respect your opinion about this though. It's one thing to say that polygamy is wrong and another to say that God's word condemns it. They are two different things. Saying that a polygamous man will not escape divine retribution isn't just a barefaced lie but extremely dishonest. Could you kindly quote any New Testament passage that prohibits polygamy? I am honestly curious. Thank you.
HolyTrinity: ValCon88, how's it man's primordial right to go about sharing his seed based on the analogy you gave. I think you're sexily wrong. Such act is criminal. I'll explain why.
Firstly, if you're refuting me on traditional or cultural primordialism as a way to justify and abdicate men of sexual robbery; then in the real sense of it, originalism invalidates the claim of primordialism and makes it an erroneous belief under moral and scriptural grounds. From inception, it is one man one wife. Nature itself affirms it.
Why does a man sneak around to cheat and try so much to keep it secret from his partner. Conscientiously, he feels it's wrong.
Penultimately, every padlock has it's own specific key. Meant only to unlock it. The ideal of owning a master key is for criminal purpose. Why will a man keep a master key when his padlock has it's own key? It is simply because the man hopes to open somebody else's padlock.
Everyone has the the right to choose and tread his path. We're all free moral agents.
To erroneously believe and rigidly so, that all men cheat or will cheat is a confusion beyond remedy and redemption on the part of whoever holds that believe. It is both a case of crass ignorance of enormous proportion and an overwhelming foolery transcending enigma.
I appeal to the men here to check their ways. A man who cheat is toiling with fire on his bosom. He might escape earthly retribution put will never miss eternal consequences. Blessings.
I'm sorry, you said what? Cheat or marriage? Do you mean a man who marries a second wife will never escape eternal consequence?
slimanyd: Din get scammed with the mindset of doubling your fund by rather put your money to a wise use . Perhaps you're interested in an E commercial platform where they you buy and they sell for you in 10 days and also pay you back your principal and profit every 10 days .
DTaj: Oh, Bayelsa! Pity, pity, pity! I watched a news channel yesterday where the Bayelsa Head of Service (or so) stylishly complained that Christmas bonus was last paid to civil servants in 2018. She also said the pension arrears have accumulated for so many years. Yet, Dickson, the big man with a huge ego, claimed to be the 'architect of modern Bayelsa state'.
One of the traits of majority of Nigerian politicians (APC, PDP, APGA, YPP, etc) is wickedness!
How could a tiny state like Bayelsa, with the lowest number of local government areas in Nigeria (only , and the lowest voter population, tiny land mass, BUT with one of the top 3 monthly revenue allocations, in addition to NDDC, 13% revenue derivation, Ministry of Niger Delta projects, foreign university scholarships to ex-militants, Amnesty Programme, etc, etc, be so full of impoverished people?
How?
How could purchase of luxury cars, by a bank loan, be the first executive communication to the House of Assembly, less than two weeks after being sworn-in?
So, ALL the many luxury SUVs and mint-fresh cars and SUVs in the long convoy of Dickson, have ALL become unusable?
From Alams, to Jonathan, to Sylvia, to Dickson, and now the Supreme Court boy, Diri, it's been wicked governance.
Pity!
This is one of the reasons I always wrote that the wickedness of Governors is far greater than those at the Federal level, but every critic focuses on the FG. The tyranny, and barefaced impunity at states is beyond belief!!!
Pity!
Very wicked governance bro. Very, very wicked! What a pity!
Ausrichie: APC = PDP The greatest Maths equation ever made in Nigeria. Like they say one fool is not better than two fools.
I must laugh. Oh Bayelsians, I am very sorry for you all, but I am even more sorry for Nigerians. When SU court sacked Lyon and Emeka, you see the guillibles carrying placards, roaming the streets, jumping to and fro on Nairaland. I must laugh. Let this be a stern warning that all politicians are essentially the same. No difference. The illusion of choice, indeed.
Ashirawealthy2: The serious ones have sent and are still sending their PMs and you're here drinking panadol for their headache. Its simple, if you're not interested, take a walk. You're not interested but you're requesting for pics.... Na so.
Jaubdu: I am the most happiest person in this world. I came to Nairaland looking for love, companion,a partner and a critic. I waited patiently,got a lot of pm from good ladies but I gun for the best Finally she came at first we talk about business interest but I noticed she is smart and intelligent so I began to explore.Here is what I found out:1 She has an open heart 2: She is honest 3: She has a positive outlook 4: She is smarter than me ( has her way with Queen English) 5:She laugh at my joke 6: She support my goals( with advice) 7She also has her own goal 8: She is kind 9: She remain calm in fights(oh we had a lot of it) and calm me down too. Sometime we do some crazy stuff together 10 She has a life of her own 11 She accepted my flaws 12 She does not bear grudges. Etc.I am truly blessed. [b]Funmi(Funmisticqueen,Funmisticqueen). I break a bank,I will even fight with the gods to make you, mother of my unborn kids. [\b] I live a low key kind of life but I have to make this public because I don't want any pm for ladies anymore. I am taken. I hope my Dove will understand.
No, I mean if you're talking of a serious relationship, we (men) pick you first. Put your pics on your profile. Not saying I'm interested though. A lot will pass, but the one who wants you will signify. It doesn't hurt, you know.
BabaO2: you are only too sentimental, it is a goose and gander judgements, on what basis did supreme court awarded fine on lawyers for Bayelsa's case, and that same ground was not contravened on imo's case? [b]Infact imo's case was a frivolous one ignorantly or intentionally caused by PDP and their lawyers for hoarding important documents/information for reasons best known to them[\b]
Exactly. The SC has been compromised too. Why impose fines on one and not the other when they are frivolous lawsuit?
greggng: You are the one that is dump cos I was waiting to see how you use yiur common sense to analyse the two judgement and tell us why u believe the man is dump but you ended up insulting him....cos you have nothing to offer
Exactly. If you claim someone is dumb, you have to prove it with logic but people allow sentiments to take over for obvious reasons.
Sagay is not dumb because he has a different political opinion than others. That's just dishonest and many Nairalanders here, I am afraid, are the ones who are dishonest. If truth be told Sagay is right. The effontery to ask the SC to sit on appeal against its own decision when it's not that there was crystal clear miscarriage of justice. It's all political interest bro. No, sorry PDP apologist, there wasn't any injustice here. It wasn't a clear kangaroo judgement, so there is no valid reason to file an appeal other than PDP is a SE party. The sentiment is based on the fact that PDP is a SE party but that is not always true on the ballot. In Nigeria, the best rigger always wins. Those lawyers deserve a fine and the dissenting opinion only goes to show how decadent the SC is, too.
Recap: PDP won election, APC disagree. APC sues INEC and PDP. During the litigation, judges tells INEC "Oya present your own copy of the result APC alledges was excluded" main body (just imagine that) could not provide it. Since they can't, atleast, says the judge, PDP oya provide it. They too couldn't. If there wasn't any incidence form to the contrary on why election was justly excluded in those areas and if indeed the results by the police officers is true, I can only wish APC the very best and demand that the dissenting judge be probed. Seriously.
Ps: I firmly believe APC is PDP and PDP is APC. I am absolutely nonpartisan in matters of politics
Beejaynma: Do love exist at all? can someone genuinely love another person without expecting something in return? Am married and have kids. My kids love me so much and I think they are the only people showing me that genuine affection. In my next world, I don't pray to ever meet the type of my husband let alone having anything to do with him. He's my worst nightmare. but is it so difficult to find true love?
czarr: I'm a simple man, i see ass, i press like....right?
Have you guys notice how most women try to shame men into lowering their standards just not to appear shallow?....like they do this all the time.
As a guy i am attracted to big booty and light skin ladies....women around me try to make me feel bad for this...any time a big booty lady passes by i turn and have a look...and other women give me disgusting looks..
Some give unsolicited advice...telling me that i should look at womens heart and not ass and boobs,and how inner beauty is all that matters.
Why dont they open their legs to guys with "inner money"
Inner money? Like, the wealthy in heart? I must laugh.
My dear friend, high five jare, ah, but the way the first lady lambasted you got me laughing, laughing really hard. She took her time to dig up your profile, perhaps she was interested but one comment, just one comment and boom. One must be careful what to say, you may say something hurtful and ten years later, the wounds are still there. That was really harsh of you to say though, if I am being honest. Looks like everything here was pre-planned just to give lurkers a very good laugh. 1m savings is enough to get married on low-key, but even more, you also have a job that pays 120k (something substantial is always coming in and that makes a world of difference), just some heads up.