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Martinez39:
Guys, note this:
PARAGRAPH 1: This is how women see you as a man. They see you as a utility. Once you can't provide, you are like a phone spoilt beyond repair. This is the cold truth. "You are just like an appendix in your marriage."

PARAGRAPH 2: This is just senseless rambling to insinuate that it isn't really the woman's fault. Note, women will always blame someone else for their bad behaviour. She is giving him false hope that he can still do something to save the situation but, in line with the aim of this rambling, she is covering up the fact that the man can't get the love of his wife without money. No money, no love. Also, notice how she implied that the man is supposed to provide and the wife is "covering up his slack". This is women for you. The financial sacrifices you make for the family is okay but the one a woman makes is "covering up the slack of the man". Your money is our money, my money is mine mindset. Despite having equal rights and opportunities as men, they think it odd that they should take on equal responsibility at any time.

PARAGRAPH 3: Further nonsensical rambling to hide the fact that it not about the money. This advice is ironic because to do these things to win back the wife, he needs money. So we all come to the same point — no money, no love.

Notice how she never blamed the wife for turning the kids against the man, an act that was unnecessary and cruel. Notice how she never said that marriage is supposed to a union where both individuals support each other through thick and thin and the wife is supposed to be helpful. It's always the man's fault — he is indulging in self pity and laziness. Guys, if you still think there is a NAWALT out there, you will suffer. Truth.

This is the truth and nothing but the absolute truth of what she wrote there, I can personally relate to all of this,
Women always blaming the men for her faults.

Martinez39:
Michellekabod2, Ubunja and Co. Was this not what we were discussing? Give a man power, money, and make him the bread winner, his family will benefit from him. Give a woman money, power, and make her the bread winner, her husband will see hell. OP needs to take the red-pill.

Even though the man is at home, his wife has turned turned the kids against him in the cruel and petty game of power dynamics. And many girls had the dishonesty to attack me when I created THIS TOPIC and they acted like parental alienation is not really a thing to worry about and the father should "just spend some time with the kid". Here is a man who is present in his home and yet the kid has turned against him (a case similar to that of emmaodet). Never underestimate the power of brain washing and the wickedness and brutal nature of women. Women are not fair players.

Indeed, Ilekokonit was right in THIS TOPIC OF HIS. Also the arguments and contributions made by ubunja and myself are valid. A family is supposed to work as a unit but the woman purchased properties without the man's knowledge, turned the kids against him, and disrespects him yet folks like funmisticqueen (whose personality is as ugly as she looks) turned this on the man insinuating that the man must have been cruel to his wife in the past. The op opened a joint account with his wife but now, the wife has gotten a secret account.

Any man that remains oblivious to female nature will suffer and get burnt.

My brother everyone you said about women is right, I'm married too, it's just that there are very few exceptions to them.

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Doktajay5:
Ogbeni keep shut... Just shut up.... U don't tribalise issues of house rent between tenants and landlords... It happens across tribes.... The one my father threw out last month is yoruba. We only gave him 6 months and he was asking for more, we threw him out fast no time....

So simply approach ur problems with the appropriate solution and stop the tribal blackmail at the slightest opportunity....

I am. Igbo, a yoruba man is my landlord and I pay him even B4 end of rent...

My father is a landlord too in my state, my brother is too... And mixed tribe live in out house... So just shut the bleep up OK...

You dey mind them?
All the people that went tribal on this issues including the op are slowpokes, the issue of landlord tenant wahala is usually personal has nothing to do with tribe,, but trust our resident tribalistic idiots to use it to score cheap shots, pray tell where do all the millions of igbos in Lagos live?
You would think they all live under the bridge because according to our resident tribalists, landlords in Lagos don't rent houses to igbos,
Even while many of the landlords themselves are igbos.

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crackhaus:
Then this is what you ladies should be helping her develop - satisfaction and nothing else. Encouraging her desires will only validate her feelings for the Telegram guy, which is a very good idea if the end goal is to ensure she cheats on her husband.
My dear Ujujoan2 is even telling her to threaten the husband...husband oo, not boyfriend. Nothing I no go read for family section.

I'm sure even after the man starts providing this emotional whatnot, the next request will be for him to start helping with the house chores, because some women have convinced themselves they are Princesses with no Kingdom.

I can't mehn...

Woman did not kill my grandfathers and woman has not killed my father, it is impossible for a woman to kill me.

Bros nobi small thing o, I'm going through similar stuff right now, I provide to the best of my ability for my family, but no sex, it happens only when she wants it mostly once a month, now she requests that I mesmerize her before she will give in.
I've been trying to figure out what she mean by this, though some time ago she listed all the things I must be doing for the sex to happen regularly.
Bros I just give up I have to climb mountain Everest and back just to have sex with her lol.
One thing I found out is women can't be satisfied at all
I have decided to zero my mind on the sex thing o jare.

DenreleDave:
I think doing wedding is a bad idea. How can you spend your life savings on a woman when then end result is children and responsibilities. As in, I have seen many ladies that have been bleeped and bleeped several times, several body counts. So one man will come and spend his life saving on such woman.

How can a man spend all the money he has saved on a lady who is a virgin or not a virgin sef when he will still have to cater for responsibilities after wedding?

As in, my guys for there carry lady come sleep anyhow and later later, another man go carry this lady, wan kill himself untop her, they run helter skelter on top her. What do we guys tend to benefit in marriage, is it not just sex and probably kids (kids is both advantage for men n women) but again you get to carry responsibilities upandan.

I'm beginning wedding or even marriage is a scam sef, it's way of bringing a man into slavery.

Maybe baby mama is the way out, I'm beginning to reason with some guys Here on nairaland oooo.. Baby mama things

Guys wake up, I think this marriage and wedding only favors women, we men are at big disadvantage aswear


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I've been married for 7 years myself, I think marriage favors women more, like you rightly said only foolish men will spend their last card on wedding ceremony when there are still responsibilities ahead.
Marriage itself is mainly challenges and not much of enjoyment particularly when responsibilities start coming,
Like one of my friend used to say, it's 20% enjoyment 40% challenges and 40% trouble.
And it favors women more because the kids will likely tilt towards their mother because of closeness while the man maybe away hustling himself to stupor in other to provide for his family.
Las Las it's a struggle just like life.

farady:
You're seeking.validation to go for the second lady because you're pained and unhappy. Bros cool down. Dat thing wey dey shack u go soon clear for your eyes. I be wan slap dat ur head but com chill.

Take your woman at home out on a weekend treat.e no dey cost, just eatery and take an evening walk in one quiet area and ask her what the matter is, her concern, her fears anything. Trust me she will open up. Then try and see things from her perspective, then assure and alay her fears and worries. Like someone said, you were once in love, so you need to rekindle that fire. Forget about that second lady oh. You are too young for the stress and wahala that will come out of it.

Oga looks like you are not married, this one you are writing is story o, after the outing nko, patapata one week later they will be back to quarreling and fighting.
Once you aren't compatible with your partner, you aren't compatible that's it there will always be fights, unhappiness etc

xteve:
na so this marriage thing be?

Bros nobi small thing oo, i tell you marriage nobi moi moi o no matter what they tell you marriage is serious hard work in fact there is nothing sweet about it, I have thought of it severally, challenges here and there wahala here and there.

Ryan03:
nobody is bitter that he is reconciling with his dad (I can only speak for my self tho) but him forgiving his dad doesn't mean everyone should, I can forgive tho but can't do such reconciliation. Everybody papa different, some people are just sounding like you must forgive him because even him didn't have it easy. Like what da heck? What if my mum abandoned us the way he did? Where would I have been today?

I don't think any sane man will just wake up and abandon his child/children, unless those deadbeat fathers.
Some women make it very hard for a man to have any relationship with his children due to their personal issues, particularly those headstrong iron ladies.

BRATISLAVA:
Men only love their fathers because of red pill movements and because they usually become the monster of their childhood in later life.
So you think mother's only nag? Do you know if fathers nag? With the way men complain about almost everything about women from coming to cleaning, who do you think nags most? Even when mother's are bread winners, at the end of the day comes underserved love and respect for a man who prioritized other things over his family. Because people need to recognize fathers. Whatever that means.
I've noticed a lot of hatred for dead beat mother's and love for dead beat fathers. Why? Sexual bigotry. Nothing less. Nothing more. All I see are ungrateful kids. They always think their mothers are evil when they've grown up and swallowed the pills, and that they need to see things from his side, even when he abandoned them or abused them. Men don't suck in emotions; they are downright bitchy too. That is why they take it out on their families by being absentee fathers. If women dared to try this...! And yet, the children always look for them. Not because they are good. But because society has made even evil men have a side. Even murderous men have a side. As if evil is justified simply by fatherhood because if you don't apologize to him you will suffer. Fear.

What are you bitching about?
Are you angry that he made peace with his father? So you want him to keep hating his father despite now seeing things clearer? Nawaaa o
@op never listen to any negative opinion, one thing I always tell all boys/men is no matter the relationship you had with your father while growing up, never ever fail to find out why your father acted the way he did, hear him out before passing judgment, no matter what your mother may have told you about him, when you have come of age. Because what goes around definitely comes around.

Qualitygadgets:
What’s funny ??

You need to put the details to your post, like the pictures the model etc

Lol

[quote]I am not excusing your wife's behaviour. You are the one i heard and replied to when you want a change you go for it if you want to wait for the other party to change before you change then you've settled for a hard situation and i can see you just want to be happily married. Tit for tat will not work it just escalates the situation. The question is how long are you willing to play the "she did this, i will show her game"?

I notice that love looks like pain and punishment and showing eachother to too many people. If there is an easier route to happiness why won't you take it? Your becoming a better person is not even for her its for you! you become happier, you drop unncessary ego trips, hidden anger you grow up! so whats wrong with changing for you?

Just to be clear i am not excusing anything bad attitude is bad attitude. Your wife has bad attitude you "show" her with your own bad attitude, how does that help you or your marriage? So its up to you at the end of the day you lead by becoming better she follows suit. Nothing wrong if you teach her by actions what you expect from her instead of sulking, blaming,hurting quietly and planning how to return the hurt.

The problem with this your advise to him is he becomes the weaker person in the marriage, and his Dignity as man will constantly be stepped upon, because he is expected to always make the ultimate sacrifice to be happy in his marriage.
While his wife is free to live her life and express herself however she wants knowing that her ever submissive husband will always be the man and come to beg her for peace to rain.
Trust me I'm in this type of situation now, and I'm not ready to be the man by being the one who makes the ultimate sacrifice for peace in marriage, if my wife wants peace as much as I want it then both of us should make the needed sacrifice for it shikena.
If being man in marriage means always suppressing my natural Dignity to please her while she is free to bring in all her drama even when they hurt me deeply, then I rather be the baby.

I got tired of reading those Grammas and quit along the way

omenka:
South Easterners, search your souls honestly and tell us deep down, do you really believe yourselves when you tell yourselves BUHARI HATES IGBOS?

Has there EVER BEEN a government in Nigeria that patronised Igbo owed businesses than Buhari's?

Be honest with yourselves.

What is this obsession with Igbos?
How many are the Igbos you know hating this government?
What about the Igbos that are in love with this government?
The topic at hand is not about Igbos hating buhari's govt?
You talk as if all Igbos hate this govt, and yes Igbos are marginalised everybody knows that, are most Igbos not happy with the way the country treats them, yes, but are there some Igbos that love this govt of course, why are you focused only on some that don't like the govt then talk as if all Igbos are haters of what is good?
Are all Nigerians enjoying under this govt, the answer is no, so why the obsession with Igbos?
This topic has nothing to do with hating or anything but you just had to bring that in as if all Igbos are haters and this is so wrong.

BrokeFucker007:
Typical "average" woman, never guilty of anything, nothing is their fault hahahaha :-)

My wife is also guilty of this, any time she does something bad and I confront her she gets defensive, blaming me for acting the way she did lol

thesicilian:
You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

Well said, my wife won't even let you near her not to talk of initiating anything lol

iammo:
i will gladly buy what he is selling, we need to support this looters in changing their looting mindset

Look at how you apc goons are talking as if apc politicians are any different, when someone who doesn't know what's up see this now he/she will think only pdp members are looters in Nigeria

Seyilome:
My brother a Yorubaman, married an Ika(agbor) woman, I tell the woman uses bleaching cream for all her children including boys,and my brother is a dark skinned person. Ibo usually use bleaching cream for their children right from baby,FACT.

You are not making sense at all,
WTF!!
What rubbish.

Solvik:
Maybe he is not hungry or he lost appetite.

It is only a baby husband that will reject food made with his own money, simply because he had a misunderstanding with his wife.

There is nothing baby about it, for some of us it doesn't feel right eating the food of someone that just finished insulting you.
When I'm angry at my wife, I lose any appetite for her food

post=83727694:
Kogi State Wise up!

May the best candidate win.

Someone that will change the lives of Kogi people positively. 

How we wish kogites can vote for a very good candidate outside PDP and APC.

God bless Kogi state.

God bless Nigeria.


You can say that again sir!

I've been seeing you most times, believe me this is one of the best comments you have made on this nairaland.
Keep it up

gobuchinny:
. Your comments made me laugh loud. Like I said I dont indulge atheist but why NOT!!

Your first point. Y cant it be a dog that parked d car? Have you seen dogs drive? As strong as man is, dont you c d limitations? Man in all his strength struggles to make life better for themselves yet die like everyother thing. Like a dog, a cow, even the trees, man dies like every other being. Man does not have power over death. Can you be in America and dictate what happens in Lagos? Man is limited, it shows there r other forces . Have you seen evil? Hmm. If you have worked in the armed forces and see d wickedness of man, you will agree that there is a DEVIL. You see a man and see the embodiment of a devilish/wicked force because the things this man does even you and me as wicked as we are cannot imagine ourselves doing such

You asked if there is one president or premiership of the whole world? bros but there is one world naaaa. Every nation or premiership club acts as one world. ONE WOLRD ONE GOD. even the premiership has one FA BOSS. The presidents have one EU boss or AU boss. These r institutions of men which proves that a man can preside over a people so y is it strange that one God can do same.

If you were a reader you will understand that the ancient people who did great things and who are still studied till today understood the essence of a God. We r lazy in this generation because we are at ease . Internet, cars, planes, things are easier for this generation so they have forgotten the God factor but d issue in ancient civilization was not if there was a God but which is the true God . There all understood that they is a supreme being in charge of the cosmos, something this generation does not understand.

Bros like I said, you and I dont ave words together. What agreement has the temple of God with foolishness. I have no issue with you for I beieleve it's only weak and foolish men that say there is no God

Even the movers and shakers of this temporal world know that there is a Heavenle being tho their opinions r distorted hence the cults and satanic beliefs. In a war, the people that gets cut up first are the lukewarm people. Those who dont know that there is a war. People like urself who dont understand the happenings of the world before they were born. For everyone born into a family must understand the workings of that particular family for it will be foolishness to assume the family started with the birth of urself. There is a history.

Read and understand the world you are born into . A FOOL SAYS IN HIS FOOLISH HEART THERE IS NO GOD. can the police come to your house and say you are not the owner of your household. That you kidnapped your wife and children? Wont you laugh them to scorn? God laughs at the foolishness of men who shake their hands at Him and says there is no God. . My last comment to you. I have no time for athestist as they are weak, foolish and unintelligent . I studied science in the university and have learnt that science is subject to God. For science explains the act of God without acknowledging Him . The laws of gravity, Newton's laws? principles? Who set these laws? Who initiated these principles?

DNA was discovered by Watson and Creek but does it mean there was no DNA since inception? There r millions of microbes in the human physiology yet these microbes were discovered when? Does it mean they were not there all along?

These world is full of spirits . Weather you see them ot not is ur business . Dont be foolish. Hide your head under God. The world is evil and will get worse

My last comment brother. Enjoy your life. . You and I are not in the same school of thought. You r meat for the devil in this world. Your end will be sad and destructive because you know not the God of Israel . You r a statistic in this world . And when your miserable life ends . Your knees will blow to the Yeshua. The Son of Man. . For no matter how hardened a criminal is, when he is sentenced to imprisonment or death, he is humbled and no matter how he resists the sentence, it must be carried out. This is in the operation of men, what about the operation of the spirits where you have no power . For when you sleep, your emotions and will are irrelevant as sleep over powers you and the dream of your head you cannot influence

Most of these your curses are gibberish, the truth is no one has absolute knowledge of how the universe came about

So where are you typing from? Heaven or hell? Lmao

Odidika95:
You will hear more

What's the processor and RAM?

laribari:
Obviously, u know u can't win this conversation, so you are avoiding them. If u can annswer me and prove to me God doesn't exist then we can talk. Even in your logic reasoning (as all atheists talk based on science, logic and philosophy), I will still confound you. Science is the most confused when it comes to this topic and energy is science.

So since many scientists now believe a God exist somewhere, then you don't know what u are saying.


There is no other way you can proof that God doesn't exist than using science to back your points but truth is that men only study science, we didn't create it and it is the level of what people know that they can tell you unless they are lying. God is the God of all creation and knowledge (including science). Trust me, there is a big conspiracy in science and they know the truth no but cover it becos they rather work for the opposition. If you are smart, go and stupid evolution theory and at the point of LUCY which is a step away from being human, science met with the greatest hiccups and confinement in her history and till date they do not have the answer.

Mind you I studies science, so we can go scientific if you want and I will show u all the areas science has hiccups which makes science generally being now divided over the issue that God exists becos science cannot answer all the questions, yet a force is behind the science pulling strings, making things to happen.


I have put up an upload for u to read and even a notorious atheist (becos your own is baby atheist) has retired from atheism.

You can read the rest here.

https://upliftconnect.com/existence-of-god/

Oga you do not have deep knowledge of what you are dabbling into, the truth is both science and religion do not have absolute answer to that question, in your religious mind because you do not understand how human and the universe came to be therefore it must be some religious God somewhere who caused it all abi?
What if I ask to about who created God? Because you simply believed he caused other things to come into existence while he is the Creator of himself, how convenient.
The truth is both science and religion are yet to get the answer, but beauty of science is that they keep searching and studying as well as investigating, while religion is based on faith which is blind belief.
Further more the onus is on you who believe in something that can't be shown to be real to prove to him that God exists.

lenghtinny:
If na by hard work and dedication alone, bricklayers go get money pass engineers

There's more to this life than the physical, whether you believe or not is your choice. It doesn't change anything.

Those who work smart are actually the successful ones, work smart not hard.

Oshigun:
@Topic.

An Igbo cannot be President in 2023. This is the cold reality Igbos have to accept. Therefore, no point giving an opinion to a speculation that cannot happen. What Igbos, always too emotional to face the truth, do not get is that political Kingmakers are united concluding it is far too dangerous to cede power to the Igbos in 2023 or even 2031 in my opinion if things remain the same.

At no time, bar the period before the civil war, have Igbos been this openly restive and anti-Nigerian. Kanu and IPOB nailed the coffin. They are now attacking Nigerian elected leaders abroad and bragging about to even claim this is now their new and accepted protocol. Everyday Igbo too is busy online insulting others venomously and swearing allegiance to Biafra and IPOB. Igbos now threaten it is 2023 or Nigeria will suffer. No one likes threats and no one believes Igbo given they have done zilch in the past after bragging non-stop. You do not give power over your life to your enemy. This is how many view Igbos even if brothers from the SE don't wan't to accept this reality they caused for themselves.

The noise of Igbo Presidency is academic and patronising. Kingmakers in the PDP or APC are not entertaining thoughts of an Igbo Presidency in 2023 even if they make patronising speech in public about the SE being entitled to it.

Wow you must be a successful soothsayer to know exactly what is going to happen in 2023 and beyond as well knowing what kind makers in pdp and apc are thinking.

Cyberterror:
Northerners will never vote any of the leading parties that present an Igbo man as President or vice president. Let's stop deceiving ourselves when we know the truth. The hardship of buhari's government was felt more in the north and they were waiting to vote Atiku as his replacement with the obvious advantage it would give them until the Cameroonian foolishly picked Peter Obi who was not just Igbo but also a bigot.

Your types are the reason this country will not likely get better, you are the bigot here from your useless write up

Kapeter:
where was igbo mentioned in my post?

You must be talking of your family and tribe when you said omo nna, and nyamuris
GTFO

tayebest:
Simple question, but you keep hitting round the bush!

SMH

He is right and you should shut up. If we want a better country we should all collectively fight these bad leaders irrespective of where they come from, in all my years in Lagos State I have never witnessed such amount of bad roads as is currently the case everywhere today.
Instead of you to look at his valid criticism, you are angling to go tribal.

Kapeter:
omo nna, yan.miris always looking for who to fight their battle for them. Which of my people is border closure affecting? When we all know it's you and your kindreds that have been handicapped.

Smugling of fake products is no more allowed.

I laugh in ibo.

And who exactly is been oppressed in the country?
Who doesn't have any intl airport? Sea port? Rail line? Good roads?

I laugh in ibo again.

Why do you people have this ignorant belief that whenever someone criticises you or the apc govt, the person must be Igbo?
Does that even make sense at all?