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escortafrik:
I’m a lady in my mid-30s and life was going very well for me except for one thing everybody except me seemed obsessed with - marriage.

I have a good career, I’m financially stable, respected in my field, and I genuinely loved the life I built for myself. But every family gathering, every wedding, every phone call from relatives somehow turned into:

“So when are you getting married?” You’re not getting younger oo

Eventually, I met someone through mutual friends.

He was unemployed at the time, but that did not bother me much because he was intelligent, kind, calm, and surprisingly very knowledgeable in the same profession as me.

We connected deeply and for the first time in a long while, I felt like I had found the ‘one’

As our relationship became serious, I started helping him professionally too. I helped him restructure his CV, prepared him for interviews, connected him to opportunities, and eventually introduced him to my organisation when there was an opening.

Thankfully, he got the job.

I was genuinely happy for him because I knew how difficult things had been for him financially before then. And after he got the job, things became even sweeter between us.

And some month after he proposed to me ! my joy became complete! My family was overjoyed.

Then, just as our wedding plans were moving forward smoothly, the company we worked introduced a new policy stating that married couples could no longer work in the organisation together. Once two employees got married, one person would have to resign.

That was when the real problem started.

I assumed we would sit down and discuss it logically.

I have spent years building my career there.
I’m more senior.
I currently earn more.
And if we’re being realistic, my position is more stable at the moment.

But my fiancé shocked me.

He told me I should be the one to resign because:

“I’m the man.”

Initially I didn’t take him seriously but as the wedding date drew closer, he kept pressuring me to resign !

I then reminded him that I was already established before he came into the company. I was the one who helped him get the opportunity in the first place. If anyone should logically stay, shouldn’t it be the person whose career was already firmly built there?

But he said it would be embarrassing for him as a man if he was the one leaving while his wife continued working there, that I could do something else like supermarket business.

Imagine !

Since then, everything has changed.

Wedding plans have paused.
We now fight everyday
Even his family are supporting him, telling me to resign !
my heart is broken.

Not just because of the job itself, but because I genuinely believed I was building a life with someone who saw me as an equal partner.

Well I have concluded that I won’t resign and I will also make sure he is sacked. No one should call me wicked because he is very wicked for wanting to do this to me.



https://community.escortafrik.com/d/198-i-helped-my-fiance-get-a-job-in-my-company-now-he-wants-me-to-resign

fact is that there is no equal partner in any enterprise including marriage

Sonnobax15:
It seems you haven't met ladies who are under 30 who have built careers and structures for themselves.

My point is that men don't necessarily look for ladies that already have structure cos they want to be fed by the ladies. They do so not to be bothered by the ladies for minor wsnts

Men are also not looking for women to take care of them. But rather not to bother them with their troubles. Hence some men might look for women that already have careers and structure.

Sonnobax15:

The funniest thing is that I usually find it funny when I see ladies who are already in their 30's still doing shakara for men . They'll still be setting standards that must be met by men . Someone who should be hustling to get herself a man of her own cuz she's already close to signing MoU with menopause

themanderon:
Don't speak like an ignorant person And tar brush all poor people as evil. It's pretty naive and distasteful. No one chose to be poor and because you think you have made it in life doesn't give you the right to look down on anyone. You are not the hardest worker, nor are you the most brilliant or the most intelligent. Time and chance happened to all humans on earth. Everything you and I have today was given to us by God's grace so we shouldn't boast or gloat over it.
What the girl did is highly reprehensible. Condemn her and not all poor people.

I made an attempt to distinguish between the kind of poor people to help. Help only those who value to offer or who have a good attitude. But generally most poor people are wicked and have very bad attitudes. You can argue that. I have researched and see. It many times

Damilola0147:
Wonders shall never end. The reason I don’t like poor people

The poor are very despicable. Only draw a poor person who has something to offer. Zero value offering poor person is a no no

mayor1814:
They are not docile bro... nobody want to die... who want to die?

That's what it means to be docile, only wikes army are prepared to die on the matter

Onkoolos:
We know the ojoro they did for burnley yesterday. We know premier league want to let them win it. Premier league is nosense to me…

Haters and bitter people

Nwaikpe:
Wait, but do people understand the meaning of this statement:
"Personnel Involved in Kidnapping, Robbery, Extortion"



If we truly do, then dismissal of "some police" is not the solution. Dissolution of the whole police force is.
It means that some people whom you are paying with your tax to protect you, are using your money to harm you.
It's just like identifying cancer in a part of the body, and then trying to pick out those parts when the parts can be removed totally to regenerate or to save the other parts.

The police officers are not the problem.
The police force's culture is the problem.
It was the culture that encouraged and protected them to do it.
The police force should be totally purged.

The new IGP is doing a good work. I am conversant with these cases. Those guys are criminals and their mode of operation was well stated

techbro1:
Very weak man. He's just like GEJ

That was why he was picked in the first place

Jman06:
Poor diagnosis is a big challenge currently facing our healthcare system. Even those presenting to hospitals early still don't have a definitive diagnosis for their illnesses until things get out of hand.

If you have ever been admitted or had someone admitted to a Nigerian hospital, you'll understand what I mean. Doctors upon doctors would be referring you to different tests and even having you repeat tests you did before yet they won't be able to pinpoint what your sickness is. That's how you'll keep wasting funds and time until things get out of hand.

Honestly, our healthcare system in this country is in serious crisis!

This is a serious crisis. And it is the reality. The depth of knowledge of diseases and symptoms in Nigeria is low.

BioData45:
In as much as we demand loyalty from women, men should also do the same. Enough of men has the right shenanigans.

Discuss your promiscuity ability to the lady before marriage so she will know what she's going into. Or tell her you're not a one woman person, if she agree to marry you fine. Men hypocrisy is too much abeg

I really do pity women who think they call the shots in marriage matters. Women cannot go for men but men can do so, yet women think they have same rights as men? Women keep trying to dish out what they cannot take

msacent:
Has anyone here ever been rejected for a loan from a commercial bank for their small business? What reason did they give you?

I don't know. Banks hardly give loans to people, except their proxies

alanto:
Lol for the sake of criticism you didn't take time to think deeply of your comment.

Why did OBJ, Buhari, Yaradua, Jonathan not start with power?

When OBJ was making telecom reforms, how many people could afford GSM phones when they came out?

How many people could afford SIM card? How much were we calling at business centers per minutes?

That even if you make mistake and spend 1 minutes 2 seconds you'll pay for two minutes but 27 years later I can't remember how many phones I've used or how many SIM I've used. Change doesn't happen overnight and you know it. If people that came after OBJ have embarked on other reforms we'll not be here by now. If they have allowed anybody to build refineries or railways, or generate power, are we going to be here right now? Again change is slow and so far this is the only government that has not window dressed but been doing what they got to do to make Nigeria good.

Why is it it's only Nigeria oppositions that are not seeing the good in our government?

All world organisation agrees with his reforms and the result it has been yielding but you opposition will rubbish coaster highway, rubbish Sokoto badagry, rubbish warri, Port Harcourt and Kaduna refineries repairs, you'll rubbish nelfund, rubbish GDP growth, rubbish IMF ratings. You literally rubbish everything and still cry that the man ain't doing nothing.

If I told you now that for the first time in history of Nigeria things went up and them came back down something that has never happened before. You'll ask me how much did he meet those things like there's a government that has maintain the price of anything in Nigeria. Make we de fear God small small. There's no way anybody would remove subsidy on fuel and dollars and still keep prices low. How will they do that? Is that now how this present government was able to blackmail Jonathan into not removing subsidy on fuel? Because they know like he does know that when he remove subsidy things will go up and it will be used against him and he doesn't have spine. I just tire with the way you guys stay hypocritical all day.

Subsidy removed. Yet no money for projects. Loans have greatly increased. Borrowings have trippled

Image123:
Has he destroyed Dangote yet? Are you among those destroyed or what's the definition of destroy? All your aboki BDCs and subsidy cabal sucking the country dry, hungry politicians, are those the destroyed people you refer to?

He only has empathy for the elites

Image123:
It's why we call him the Jagaban. Like him or hate him, he knows how to make money.

Make money and destroy people Im the process. That I know him for. He has zero empathy for people.

yemre:
Well, the op is right to a large extent. However, I still wouldn't blame Dangote. He's a business man.

Why is it that, of all the people that have been given the license to build refineries,none of them have started anything?

Dangote could do this freely just because there are no stiff competition from anywhere despite being the 6th largest oil producing country in the world.

Imagine having about 10 other refineries of same magnitude or even bigger, scattered around the country, why would he not comply?

It's not as if we don't have people who have such money to build but the greed and the immediate gain mentality would not allow us do the right thing.

...and as a result, we all bear the consequences of our inactions.

Lafarge, Bua, Mangal are all producing cement yet cement prices keep going up. There is something wrong with Nigeria regulators in cement and petroleum industry. That guy that was blocking Dangote tendencies was blackmailed by Dangote to resign, now he is having a free ride in increasing prices of petroleum products. Using AGO as a case study, before the war when crude oil was 71$ and exchange rate 1400, AGO was 1000#, now that crude oil is just 100$, AGO should not be more than 1400# at same exchange rate; it does not make economic sense at all that AGO is at 1900. Dangote is ripping off the local market regardless of the war.

Willy2025:
We believe and trust the Jagaban. With the way the ADC flagrantly disobeyed the order of the Court of Appeal, they may end up not having candidates for all the elective offices nationwide.

President Tinubu is hell bent on impoverishing Nigerians. No other explanation to his reforms than the submitted view.

iwaeda:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/04/nigerias-insecurity-has-reached-state-of-war-arewa-forum/

Exactly my point. It is bo longer banditry or Boko Haram. It is war in the north

Daguccizgreat:
This druggie is a monumental phool

He is very delusional. Very arrogant.

yarimo:
ADC vs ADC hijackers yet they will soon blame president TINUBU for this suspensions

Wike is the hitman of the political FG. Nothing will stop him from becoming the president of Nigeria. This is his template

CYBERWEAVER:
I am currently planning to get married. I’ve been with my babe for about a year now.

After several consultations, we agreed on a wedding budget of about 3 million Naira.

But I keep asking myself one very honest question: how do I commit that kind of money to someone who hasn’t really shown the same level of effort back, even in something as small as 5k, despite earning a little?


Asin, I never smell her 5k since we started dating.


At this point, it’s not even about the money anymore. It’s about intention, balance, and simple acts of kindness.

Even on my birthday, I didn’t receive a gift from her, and that stayed with me more than I expected.

I’ve never had to deliberately test her money, because genuine care and small acts of giving usually show themselves naturally over time.

To be clear, I’ve been carrying most of the financial weight in this relationship, and there’s hardly anything tangible she has ever done for herself without at least my 50% contribution since we met.

I don’t complain, but I also don’t want to ignore what I’m seeing.

As a responsible man, I’m trying to be honest with myself before I take a step I can’t easily undo.

So I want to ask people who are married or have real experience: if I go ahead and marry in a relationship where this is the current dynamic, what should I realistically expect in marriage?

I’m not trying to assume the worst, but I also believe experience speaks louder than hope.

Another episode of stories that have never happened

iwaeda:
The state government appealed for calm, adding that the authorities were carefully investigating the development.

Residents of communities in Kankia Local Government Area of Katsina State have been thrown into panic after suspected bandits issued a six-day ultimatum, demanding 700 cattle and 1,000 sheep to avoid an attack.

The demand was conveyed in a letter delivered to the affected communities on April 6 where residents were given notice until Friday, April 10, to comply.

The threat has reportedly triggered widespread fear across the affected communities, namely, Sukuntuni, Unguwar Tsamiya, Magama, Walawa, and Tudun Wulli, with reports of armed bandits moving freely on motorcycles.

A resident, who spoke on condition of anonymity on Saturday, said the ultimatum followed months of harassment and abductions allegedly carried out by armed bandits operating in the area.

According to him, a notorious bandit leader had earlier moved large numbers of rustled animals after a dispute with associates, before issuing what he considered a “tax” demand on local communities.

“The situation has forced people to flee. Some have relocated to Rimaye, others to parts of Kano State, while some moved to Katsina town. About 10 villages are now deserted,” he said.

Concerns have, however, risen over the effectiveness of past negotiations between communities and armed bandits, which residents said previously brought only temporary relief.

Meanwhile, the Director General, Media and Publicity, to the Katsina State Governor, Malam Maiwada Dan-Mallam, on Saturday, appealed for calm.

He stated that authorities were carefully investigating the development and cautioned that the letter may have been intended to create panic.

“The letter has not been officially acknowledged by any authority. It could have been written to create fear among the people. And the government is working tirelessly to protect lives and property across the state,” Dan-Mallam noted.

It was, however, gathered that, despite official assurances, tension remains high in the affected communities, with many displaced residents remaining in fear about returning home.

https://www.channelstv.com/2026/04/11/katsina-bandits-demand-700-cattle-1000-sheep-from-residents-issue-six-day-ultimatum/

This is a direct war challenge to the Nigerian army and it is surprising to me how they are handling this issue. If it is in the south, the Airforce and army will start bombing. It is very shameful of the Nigerian armed forces manner of handling banditry and Boko Haram in the North

naptu2:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/04/aisha-yesufu-vows-to-oppose-peter-obi-if-he-exceeds-one-term-promise/

Photo: Peter Obi, Aisha Yesufu and Yunusa Tanko

Weti her support achieve before

apelikirk:
Kumuyi too spoke against GEJ 😒

just imagine the thought of it

stan4b:
I thought Oyedepo spoke out recently.

Oyedepo never spoke against Jonathan..except Adeboye and Bakare....a very shameful scenario

bolaayenimo:
Wike won't survive the coming battle. Bet it

No be cho cho cho ooooo....people who don't have capacity have no business in politics

Gotocourt:
Why looking for loan, Time to chase that Treasury Bandit in Aso Villa

All about stealing

advanceDNA:
U dodged my question…so I’ll ask again…. is that how he rapes the female in the office, their neighbour, and other women he happens to be close to? This isnt about hypocrisy, because it is not a sexual relationship of consent…it is rape and physical assault ….
yet somehow u are trying to justify and equate the man’s behaviour with innate animalistic sexual response triggered by just being close to a female…. Humans are not beasts in the wild, so saying his wicked behaviour is normal trigger because hes in close proximity to a female is the weirdest shlt i will hear this week.. and the week is still very young

Don't be hysterical about my observation. I will elucidate by saying it is how feelings develop and being in house. I do not excuse the behavior of the man but only trying to say that excessive closeness is potent trigger of sexual relations. Hence u hear of relationships between doctors and nurses, cases of office wives and office husbands, or choir relationships, pastors and female secretaries, as well as relationships between female secs and their male bosses even when they have wives, rev father's and nuns. I wonder how u are pretending that this is not the case. Self control is key but too much exposure to some environments is capable of destroying it

advanceDNA:
U are probably one of those pple that will say using minor as maid is a wrong… now that this maid is an adult, u still blame the woman……. The werey husband wey the nor get self control…. Is that how he’s sleeping with all the women in his office and the street?? Let’s call a spade what it is and not blame the women for the husband’s lack of discipline

it is what is. Right from the beginning, male and female do not stay close together otherwise sexual feelings will develop. Denying this fact is hypocrisy. Even for a woman, putting a male help who is always close to the wife, can also lead to catastrophe. The best scenario is for the help to come from the husband's family line or a male help from the wife's family. It is not a self control matter. Closeness almost always leads to sexual feelings. Another way is allowing such external helps to come for a period and not as live-in helps

advanceDNA:
Guyyyyy…. U dey blame the woman or u Dey blame the werey husband…?? stay one place make we know where to send thunder

Both of them to be blamed. U don't keep an adult female near a man when they are not related by blood. It is a clear temptation. I will not say further. But she should find the heart to forgive the man; after separating for some days

Lovelink1991:
With today kind of men it is difficult to get a good man. A lot of them just want to take advantage of her by sleeping with her with the promise that I wants to marry you. There are no good men

not those who want to marry