₦airaland Forum

Inkopere:
School matter, some people are struggling very hard in school 4 this economy, please my fellow graduates

Should we tell him?

tell him what exactly? you are just a pessimist, looking for a crowd of like mind as you to cheer you on. first class is still relevant , and would continue to be.
if you claim education is a waste, not getting educated is even much worse. so stop discouraging him and pick up yourself. there is hope for you, even if you are presently struggling , be positive.

tuh, to the OP, yes, tiu can still make a first class, but work hard to meet up

having the ability to read is good, interpreting what you have read is of much preeminence.
The plane was bought in 2015 and last serviced in April, 2021.
The report didn't say that was the first time ever the plane was being serviced. "last serviced" means the plane had been serviced in the past, but the last one was just a month before the crash.

whatever it is, mistake happens, but unfortunately, nobody will investigate this matter.
everyone should go home



who do us this thing in this country[/quote]having the ability to read is good, interpreting what you have read is of much preeminence.
The plane was bought in 2015 and last serviced in April, 2021.

don't stop caring for your child whilst she is still with the mother. pay her fee directly to her school and keep her teller. reduce the feeding allowance . Any how the mother wants to spend the money is up to her.

that your ex wife dirty gaan. getting pregnant for another man while still married to you to the extent of carrying it to term. tueeh

just get a lawyer who will put you through on how to get your girl's custody. please try and check up on her, she is suffering. please go over and bring gifts along let her grow seeing you around.

Madam you are lucky that none of your family member died from this horrendous act perpetrated by your maid, you might not be lucky next time. firstly how old is this said maid ? find out why she has do e what she did, and send her back home. and if you can , forget about housemaid. I work and I have 2 kids, ages 3 and 10 months. I keep my home front clean and make home made food twice daily minus breakfast when we eat cereals and fast food. and I am still pushing through. I'm planning to go for my second degree next year, start open a business while still keeping my job. is not easy , bit I won't let a maid into my home. is too risky.

all I'm saying is if you can afford to, leave maids out if your home. imagine she has poured in a more harmful substance? you could all be dead you know. she not eating shows she is well aware of what she did. I think you are using a minor as a maid though. it an offence ma'am

it isn't God's fault that your brother died. but the fault of the country refusing to take health facilities especially emergency ward seriously. people die every time even people of faith because of poor infrastructure.

look at America for instance , they are not religious , but they are more likely to live longer because of good infrastructure.
even a sinner in america is likely to live life at its fullest than a righteous man in Nigeria .
just pray that God won't let you be in a situation that you will need Nigeria emergency medical ward.


remain in faith and stay bless!


I do find it surprising that those kids were born same date. I like it.

Ifyyy25:
Chai I wish I did D and C in my own time too, see me now a single mom and depressed, some days I’m suicidal it’s just the thought of leaving my little girl behind that keeps me

The child is already here. stop wishing you aborted her. love her and hold on to hope. is not easy , but there is light at the end of the tunnel. hold o !

IntentionTremor:
The day I seek Madam's consent I'm a dead man o. Just, so you guys on NL knows. LooooL

I'll like more explanation on that part where you said you've "...been there and also thought your past mistakes caught up with you"?
This myth of abortion showing a woman is fertile is too mysterious for me. Can you also explain ?

Now I want to say that you criticize and support yourself at the same time so I don't get where you stand on the abortion matter with respect to fertility. Also remember the abortion I've been talking about here is D and C.

Thanks understanding my plight. And how did you overcome this challenge..??

in my own case when preggy was not forthcoming, I thought I was the D&c I had in uni days, then pregnancy came, I had miscarriage, still felt maybe nature was dealing with me. then I discovered it was an underlying issue. which definitely had no issue with the D&C I had. I met with many specialist in this season and all said D&c is the safest way to terminate a pregnancy. even when I had my first miscarriage, D& c was conducted to evacuate it.
just so yo know, I have kids now and I'm the one running from pregnancy.
I know gals, in fact my best had over 6 D&c and now have two kids. she , too is tired of getting pregnant . I can go on, but righteous Nairalanders will come for my head. but those are in my past. I am just saying , cut that woman some slack and atop blaming her for having a D& C. it was youth exuberance. she is just unfortunate. I advise you guys skip the whole surrogacy ish , is expensive, emotionally and physically draining . if you are not using her egg , but donator's why not just find one young girl and hit it up with her? madam just have to let you have your own kids one way or the other.
others might asked if I were the one woukd I have allowed my hubby ? yes, I would. in fact, when I wanted pregnancy and it wasn't forth coming, I have decided I so t let my own inability affect my hubby ability to procreate. Africans love kids, men want kids, especially when he knows he is the only male . it isn't wrong to seek solutions to your problem. CIA!

IntentionTremor:
The first pregnancy was after some rounds of fertility treatment after two years wait. All the same it's history. The way forward is the main thing now.
Are you sure about your conclusion, that RARELY does abortions (D n C) cause infertility?
Well , feel free to educate my ignorance. Thanks

seriously I understand your plight. have been there and I also thought my past mistakes have caught up with me.
just so you know, abortion rarely result in infertility, on the contrary, it shows a woman is fertile. That why a single woman can have an abortion up to 15 times, and that still won't make her infertile. I am not encouraging abortion though, neither am I belittling what you guys are passing through. trust me, is hell. only those who have never walked a mile in your shoes will call you names and give you advice as though managing childlessness is equal to a walk in the park.
if your doctors have done all they could, and result to surrogacy as the final option, rather than spend money and go through the emotional pains of all the whole process, seek madam's consent and marry a second wife . it is not a sin. do this while still respecting your first wife and never rub it at her face. she's is just unfortunate in all of this. is not her fault. if she has carried a baby to term before, then the abortion even if it causes infertility, is not responsible for her fate.
if madam will not give her consent to you seeking solace outside, then that is up to you to decide what next.

9jamum:
This should be a joyous news for some mothers with special daughters like mine.  I am confused. My daughter passed the common entrance into JSS 1, should i allow her go off to secondary school? Isn't she too young?

just saw that is an old post. your daughter should be a "sisi eko" now. how is she faring academically and what's her social life like? All best to her

DumbGeek:
I was learning plumbing, but due to health issues, I had to stop for now.

I'm also applying for nursing school admission.

if the admission comes, how do you expect to pay for it really? what exactly are your challenges?

9jamum:
This should be a joyous news for some mothers with special daughters like mine.  I am confused. My daughter passed the common entrance into JSS 1, should i allow her go off to secondary school? Isn't she too young?

you have done well by allowing her test the waters of writing entrance exams. please leave it at that and let her graduate from primary school before moving on. life isn't a race.
I'm a teacher, I can boldly tell you that you will be glad you let her be. Nigerians are in the business of pushing kids , they take pride in how young the child is amongst her "supposed" peers, forgetting is it not all about the appearance, which could also be affected, but failing to consider the psychological well being and maturity and readiness of that child.

teach your daughter that in life we grow in steps.

Hold on, don't give up, at least not yet. There is light at the end of the tunnel. What can you do with your hands if given an opportunity?

Tab4kids:
The most important thing a father can do for his child is to ensure that he doesn’t play away match and birthing a child outside without the knowledge of his immediate family. Because when he dies those kids he had outside will want to cause serious trouble for the kids and the mother that had toiled with the man for years.

Dear men keep your peniis intact, first to do no dey pain

is that your best really ? what if the man didn't die even when he is way beyond hundred ?

Queenyprinxex:
Stop embarrassing yourself.
Investing in landed properties means the money is dormant? Sometimes you Nairalanders reason as though you don't make use of your brains at all. If you don't know something then please ask, okay?
And if he opens a shop as you just advised, he is duty bound to follow up on the accountability, restocking, supervisions, further expenses and more and more. Ask people in your area, ask them how much a parcel of land was bought in 2015 and how much they sell now.
Isn't that stressless enough than to start running around thinking of how to maintain a business when he has a bigger commitment?
Bleh.

well, I do not remember directing my suggestions to you.
secondly, I do not also remember where I said buying landed property makes money dormant.
he asked for suggestions I said what I think will be a constant source of money. it is left to the op to say no just like he has been saying to some suggestions that didn't go well with him. my advice might not resonate with neither you nor the op, that doesn't mean it doesn't to someone else who might just be reading .
you could have pass your message without using derogatory words. The world is actually bigger than where you are sitting
madam BIG BRAIN

No matter what you do, Never, Never give up until she is set on the right path. I always wish I had someone who stayed through for me, maybe my elder bro. I guess I would have been better off. at 16, she is definitely vain, and materialistic. tell her to cool it , work hard, and at a time she will be able to buy whatever fashion item she desires. and when that time comes, she will realised life is more than what we possess, and those items won't mean much. I look at my shoes collections, and this pandemic make me realised how useless they are. they are gathering dust, but on that rack lay thousands of money.
if you don't nib the bud at the time and season, if your family can't meet up with her demands, she will slay to get those things anyhow. if you stay put , she will be glad that you did. do not mind anyone who will tell you to leave her to make her mistakes. my dear some mistakes, if not most, especially those that have to do with our lives are irredeemable. they leave us with a scar deeper than "leave the past behind" talks.

correct her in love, not by criticising, she will only plunge deeper into materialism.

Kingsley2001:
Gosh! That was me being sarcastic.
I typed that because for the umteenth time I have explained it's impossible to juggle most available businesses with my course of study.
Thanks

if you don't do something with that money, it will only loose value. you can employ a sale person to stand in the shoo for you. in all, don't leave the money dormant

Kingsley2001:
Thanks bros.
I will build a hospital with it or buy syringe and invest.

build hospital ? what type of hospital will that amount build? can you start a groceries ( provision) and drugstore?

Dear OP, I do hope you find and read this, I also do hope this will help someone else. you said your parent did care much for you when you were a child. They probably are protective parents who do everything for a child, but protective parent never teach their children self love. They believe all the type of love the child needs come from them. they are great providers, too. but do not teach their kids how to stand on their own. one effect of protective parenting is that their kids are vulnerable to being bullied by outsiders.
you have every right to be crossed with them, but then, that's probably the only way they understand parenting.
I could call you names like others who probably doesn't understand where you are coming from , but I won't, because I know the danger of wrong childhood foundation, and the extent this damage could go even in adulthood. your act of stealing is a way to rebel, for you feel your parents didn't do much for you in helping you discover who you are and what you can do. so you blame them for the wasted years. you have right to be annoyed. guess what, if you must heal, you must forgive , forgive , forgive , accept their errors and yours, and move on to achieving. be willing to start another end for your self. for if you continue on this stealing lane, you won't end well. you won't even aspire.
cut the stealing , talk to a therapist , get a trusted friend to talk to. if you are willing to talk to someone who understands childhood trauma and it's effect in latter life, you can send me a mail.
you need healing of the soul and spirit which will transcend to your body and allow you to aspire again and live your life

manychallenges:
I first experienced it when I was so young, I think when I was just around 6 years old, it was few minutes after we finished vigil in church, yeah, I first experienced it right inside the church. I was just lying there conscious but I couldn't moved any parts of my body but after few seconds, I regained my freedom, and till now I haven't told anyone about it.

And since then, I've been experiencing sleep paralysis but not everyday, maybe once or twice in months, even sometimes weeks.

And I always felt someone or creature or spirit pinning me down, it always very difficult for me to do anything or move at all despite the fact that am awake, this ain't exaggeration, I always feels/felt someone pinning me down during the periods.

This morning own was something else, it was as if the someone is into me somehow, I slept on my side, and I felt someone pinning me down from back like aggressively cuddling me. It was horrified. My asshole is even doing me somehow or its just my mind playing trick. Only heard about spirit wife, is there gay spirit as well?

I don't sleep naked and am a male of 26. Is sleep paralysis normal or my own could be spiritual? Am a Christian but not "real" Christian like that, only go to church once awhile.

God should just have mercy on me, I've been going through a lot couple challenges and this is even least of them.

What do you think?

I didn't want to comment, but on a second thought, I think I will to help you. what you are experiencing is spiritual. I used to have lots of it from my secondary school days. until one day, after I have rededicated my life to Christ, it happened again, but this time around, the lord opened my eyes to see it it was a a dark looking monkey ugly looking creature. I jumped up, I didn't pray, I gave a command in the name of Jesus loudly asking it never to come back ever else it won't go scot free next time. it's been over 5 years I haven't experience that. you can handle it spiritually and win, or handle it on the face level and keep struggling . life is spiritual.

Is your child not measuring up to his peers in academics? Remember Daniel whom God gave grace to be ten times better than his peers even his teachers.

She hasn't shown any talent, gift or hobby which makes her unique? David didn't show to be different that was why his father left him in the field when Saul came to anoint the supposed king.

Is he shy amongst his peers, and isn't the most eloquent amidst his friends? What about Mosses who had speech impairment, he was not bold enough to face pharaoh, yet he led a Nation.

She is not "beautiful" enough to win a pageantry? What then should we say of Esther who was a maid and obviously not the most beautiful or most dressed. But she found and she was crown the Queen.

Did they say your child is not strong enough, he doesn't do the things his age mates do? Gideon was much weaker, God called him mighty man of valour.

Does the child seem incapacitated because of a physical or mental challenge? Zacchaeus rose above his challenge to see Jesus, and he was celebrated.

Has family background relegated your child? you think he is disadvantaged? Jesus didn't come from the best background neither. He was from Nazareth, a very small, insignificant minority. He was even mocked. "can anything Good come out of Nazareth?

Do you even earn enough to raise the child to that standard you dream and hope she will get? You probably don't, So you are panicking. How can these things be? You thought to yourself, " maybe I should do this, maybe I should do that " calm down, the race has never being for the swifts, but it is the Lord who gives Grace.

Are you going through a circle of reproach? You worried what will be the fate of your child if this continues?

You probably had the child out of wedlock, and you feel trapped probably because you fear you might not
achieve much with the stigma society has labelled on you.
Your child is not a mistake, circumstance surrounding the birth might have been a mistake, not the child.

For he said somewhere in the book of Joshua " I knew you before you were born, and I foreordained you for a purpose"
In another place, he said his eyes saw our watery substance even before we became an embryo.
He also assure us assuredly that he has good plans for us a future and a hope..
No manufacturer sent forth a produce without building into that product all that it will need to thrive. So, rather than panic look up to God for providence, wisdom and guide. it takes understanding a manufacturer's manual if we must understand the product's use and purpose.

Quit comparing your child's weakness and strengths to others. No particular product does everything. We all came for that specific purpose the master builder intended .

Have a glorious night. remember, there is SOMETHING GOOD ABOUT THAT Child. it is beyond what the eyes can see. look