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BoredBerry:
Contraceptives fail...

tommy589:
I am disappointed that this comes from a woman. Shit do happen. My homely,pretty,religious younger sister through no fault of hers has been a single mom quite a while. She did not wish it

Our dreams and aspirations is for a better future. But is it for us to decide?

Prettygirl200:
This is my opinion, for those singles guys out there that like to marry single mothers, or like taking full responsibility of their kid or kids am not against them, it's their choice. But if am given the chance to advise any guy I won't advice him to and if am to b a guy I won't marry a single mother that's it.

Mammie330:
I met this guy at a time.
It was at a hangout, and he had his eyes on me.
I noticed he was stealing glances at me but I pretended not to notice.

He wasn't my spec persay but man’s fine with good dress sense.

At That same gathering, my spec kind of man was also vying to get my attention, and I reciprocated to both.

We exchanged contact, and both of them were calling consistently, and we were vibing. (I'll call the first guy A and the second guy R).

I wasn't open to being in any relationship at the time so I didn't bulge tho they weren't asking too.

I automatically brother zoned R when I discovered he's a family friend and I kind of preferred A (first guy) .

Not too long I discovered he was really egoistic beyond normal phallus egoism.

He was friendly so I was still cool with it till he started acting like my boyfriend when he never asked me out. �

He gets angry when I miss his calls or always jealous when he sees guys around me.

At a point we drifted when he called me and my number was busy and he got really furious.

Anyways he didn’t ask me out until I got a boyfriend. But I didn’t leave my boyfriend for him. �

Ladies egoistic and self acclaimed Alpha Males will frustrate you.

luminouz:
You are missing out. Big boobs fall after childbirth. Hell, some even fall before childbirth, especially after some mudafuckers manhandle them like squeezed oranges.

Ass is king. Big ass helps your BP normalise, cushions your diick and it doesn't fall, only gets bigger and wider. Can double as a makeshift pillow.

Prettygirl200:
Yeah I hardly smell even on my period u won't know. Am clean!!!

Kobojunkie:
He had no problems doing chores, if that is what you are asking. He even taught me how to cook om several occasions..

Kobojunkie:
See what I mean?


I never said I grew up watching my father serve my mother since that never happened. You can't seem to wrap your mind around the Idea around what a partnership in marriage is because in your understanding if the woman is not serving the man then it must mean the man is serving the woman. It is hard for you to imagine that instead of a woman serving a man or a man serving a woman, the two can both exist as partners.

For the umpteenth time, I never had a "high value" father since he never subscribed to such idiocy. He was confident as a man and a father,and raise his children to be as well.

Kobojunkie:
Given that you grew up watching your mother serve your father, this rather than live as his equal in life and stand, I can understand why an equal partnership in marriage is hard for you to fathom.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your "high value" standard are meant for fathers who are insecure in themselves. My father isn't one of those..

2. As I explained, she was a partner in her marriage so she definitely didn't care what insecure folks thought of her or her marriage as well. And you must understand, raising kids is 70s/80s/90s Nigeria, there were lots of insecure beings who felt it their place to dictate to others how their marriage ought to work instead. None of that dettered my folks in anyway..

3. For the umpteenth time now, what they had was a partnership, not a master/slave relationship. So, you claim here's makes little sense as far as the reality of their marriage.

4. That is exactly what a marriage is like. It is a contract/ an agreement between a man and a woman. Those who understand the basics of what that mean go on to experience the best of marriage, irrespective of gender.

The business which you invest your time and efforts into building and maintain is your family, you and uour your are both owners and employees who ensure the company is run successfully.

Kobojunkie:
Do you understand what a partnership is? A partnership is such where no one partner bears all of the burdens. There is a huge divide between a partnership and a master/slave relationship.

So. My dad did chores, and so did my mum. He provided for us and so did my mother etc.,

Kobojunkie:
As I already explained to you, theirs was a partnership, not a master/slave relationship.

Cheasystickylov:
I am in email. Can't find it yet I am still waiting. Thanks

Kobojunkie:
No attempts made here to rationalize anything since my own parents thought me it was paid as a symbolic gesture and not meant as an actual purchase of the woman as a slave by the man.

Kobojunkie:
Yes, he paid the bride price which was symbolic.... or was that not clear in my retort?

Cheasystickylov:
I just replied you

Kobojunkie:
Such things carry with them no more than the symbolic meaning they were meant to have in a partnership.

For instance, do you tell your business partner that because you paid the business registration fee when registering the business, you are not really equal partners?

Kobojunkie:
Such things are meaningless in a partnership.

Cheasystickylov:
I am not scared. Just don't have the courage to leave the kids. I am just scared what they will be exposed to when I am gone.

Kobojunkie:
He had no problems doing chores, if that is what you are asking. He even taught me how to cook om several occasions..