Karleb:
That happens when they can't handle their own failures.

Next time just compare him with the richest person in your street.

Epic

Sometimes, it could be as a result of not being able to forgive a spouse who erred.

Since you can't leave the marriage at that point, you wait for the trigger that breaks the camel back.

Just a little thing that means nothing to everyone becomes the cause of separation.

Staying back when you could leave just make things worse.

Marriage is not meant to be endured but enjoyed. When you have started enduring and tolerating so much just know it's time to step up and fix whatever went wrong.

Everyone has his or her elastic limit. You might just be hanging on because your limit has not been exceeded.

Let me know when this hits front page

sweerychick:
I will strongly advice you to forget that beasts of a family and allow whoever that wants to claim your late aunt's husband property do..
What even baffles me is the fact your late aunt still held on in the marriage despite all her traumatic challenge.. I'm even happy that her kids are sensible enough not to have anything to do with their dad's property. Imagine being told that you would die exactly two months after your husband death and it came to past!.

End-time mom-in-laws doing imaginable stuff with their daughter-inlaws.
When I gave my story here, it was like an African Magic movie.
My mother-in-law will utter words and it will come to pass and does horrible stuff to mess up the homes of her kids. She belongs to a terrible cult.

@OP, please your cousins are better off on their own without the property. They don't need the hassle or stress. Let the issue die a natural death. Yo'all should forget about the property and move on.

Imagine growing up amidst a lingering case that made one's life miserable!

That was my case before I met Litigator here on nairaland.

On the 2nd of September, 2021, a 23-year-old case instigated by some persons in the community against my dad was dissolved.

Governmental authorities declared my dad the winner of a case spanning more than two decades.


I am grateful for your consistence in monitoring events as they unfolded, giving legal assistance whenever we needed it.


You are a diehard individual who is only interested in getting only solutions and justice for his clients.

You ensure that the right thing is done and you fight for your clients.

You gave us undivided attention and confidence when it seemed the opposing party used tribalistic sentiments and money to buy their way.

Words will fail me to express my gratitude for all you have done so far for us.

May God bless your good work.

Thanks
CC: Litigator

Mindlog:


In our Nigerian clime whether rich or poor, do we have an overwhelming numbers of fathers who are free-spirited with their children?

Yes o they are so aloof ehn.

GboyegaD:


Can he heal without closure? Just curious though.

Of course!

It is easy to just comment if you grow up in the warm protection of caring parents and loved ones.

Growing up in the cold when you are used to everyone treating you like thrash, it's always different. It is a trauma. He needs to face his life alone right now especially when he is taking new steps.
Allowing users at this stage of his life will ruin him. He needs to heal from the emotional turbulence he has hard from childhood. Those siblings will just come around sniff him and gather information about him. His parents wants to know more about his progress in life.
If he opens up once in the name of help and being a good child that's the end for him.

I know of someone now whose progess now is in shambles because he refused to keep off from his toxic parents. Same happened to me.

What usually happens is that to others he might seem as hardest person you know who is set in achieving his goals because he achieved alot with minimal support.

When he gets married, his parents might want to interfere. The initial stone cold reception he gives them now will send signals to them that he is not to be messed with.

It took God's grace, faith in himself and alot of stubborness to make it this far. Ask the creator of this thread if he is stubborn or a diehard! He will tell you.

I know it looks it hard. Some situations in life need you to be tough if you need to come out it. His wife and upcoming kids do not want that stress right now. No matter what he does he parents will not value it because they never connected and his wife would see hell from them.

He might reach our later if he wants but he needs to grow in peace right now if he wants his new life to stabilize in peace.

You see the gospel I see preached about here, people preached it to me. I allowed those around me to know what's up about me. God has been merciful. I met people who were always willing to help me. It has pushed my success this far and stabilize me abit.

Everything started to crumble when my husband and I started reaching out.

Do you know what it means for your mother-in-law to walk from her house naked to your own for hours barefoot to cause havoc during the lockdown screaming and making a scene because she felt that was the only way she can ruin my reputation in my area?


Those in my area and my landlord made sure they sat with her and told her not show up again. They saw first hand why we never wanted her in our lives in the first place. Now they are the ones preaching complete isolation in peace.

I have videos to proof the story my claims. My Landord and onlookers made sure evidence was taken of her continuous harrasment because she never stopped.

My long story is just to strengthen this fact:

We don't need toxic people in our lives weather they are family or friends.

He should forgive them, and keep his distance. All this years he has been alone. What's so special now?
Oh because he is now trying to take growth steps?
Do you know if he has debts? Friends who helped him with cash and stuff along the way might need settlement.

I have being there.

Op you never existed don't try to exist now. Lurk in the shadows and grow in peace and silence.

My regards to your bride

GboyegaD:
One of the things I read here is ignorance on their part. One might be thinking he is punishing the other without recourse to jow the instrument used (you in this case) feels about it.

They have erred and deserve forgiveness. Having a relationship with them to know their person, ideology, and character flaws as a way of guiding yourself is no crime. You do not need part with your money to achieve this.

I went through this path believe me in my case it ended in tears.
He needs to heal up and start a new life without interference.

eyinjuege:
I must say you have done very well for yourself if your story is true. You've shown resilience, courage , determination to succeed despite all the odds against you.
Well done for that. Give yourself a pat on the back
With regards to your parents and their brood, stay far from them. You meant nothing to them in the past, and you mean nothing to them now. Your money may mean a lot to them though, so do not allow yourself to be used.
There are orphans who are living fine without any family.
Don't feel bad that you've refused their requests, afterall they never granted any of yours when you needed them in the past.
I would implore you to continue working hard and when you decide to marry, please marry someone who loves you and ready to help you grow further. Marry someone who is concerned about your welfare, who will be ready to stand by you through thick and thin. Do not let your partner pressurise you into getting close to your parents as they would be your downfall. You mean nothing to your biological parents unfortunately. Build your own family
I wish you the best.
Family are those who covered you from the rain and other elements, and those who you matter to.

I wish I could like this comment a thousand times. I also wished I got this advice earlier maybe I would have avoided the many problems and people that got entangled with. The Op story is my story though it's my mom who left me at 2 and didn't even care even when I got to look for her at 20 years of age.

Some parents are really careless and heartless. I got married without her. I have 3 kids now. Make the best choice of a partner, please like the quoted post mentioned. Marry someone who will be your sister, mother and everything and work hard to get back everything you never had.

You were not shown love, you need dose of it. Marry someone who will love you, pamper you to death.
Associate with people who will make you accomplish your goals.

Always plan. You know you have no one but yourself. Plan what you want for your life today, in 3 months, 1 year.

I made a mistake of trying to allow my mom into my life because of what people said about repercussions this and that.
That period was the darkest in my life. I almost lost everything.

Change your numbers and if possible your location and keep to yourself. Stay close to God. Forgive them but disassociate. Be good to all yet stick to your goals and plans. You have a lot of self pleasing and growing up to do.

I wish you all the best. It's a long road ahead.

@Litigator this new post pass me o.

This one is what I will call the rights of a consumer versus the quality of goods sold by the supplier.

There are 3 variables here in this equation.

Goods can't talk and so don't have rights.

It is very important that as a supplier, businessman or salesman, it is important to understand the nature and quality of goods and services you sell or offer.

I know we are not there yet but it is best right now for businesses to start controlling the quality of their goods and services to avoid rejection of low quality goods and services.

After Control, we can now talk of protecting ourselves (because I am also a supplier), from ridiculous individuals who will abuse the opportunity they have of exercising their rights to reject goods.

Hope I didn't type gibberish?

uboma:



Good morning Litigator,

I ask that you please ignore him/her. You owe no one any explanation. Did you also see the grammatical errors on his mail which he sent to you? I guess he's among the charge and bail Lawyers who are roaming the streets. He's simply envious of you. You write far better than the Dtruthspeaker.

I agree with you that God is not a Christian, He is interested in anyone who serves him with a complete heart (irrespective of the religion/tribe/status of the individual).

Dtruthspeaker is only out to cause you distraction from your noble and selfless service of enlightening Nigerians home and abroad of our rights and how to fight for it. Please do not let him get the better of you. Silence is the best response to a ......

Do have a good day.

Uboma.

Like he said, ignore.

Silence is the utmost answer for a jealous fool

Hi.
He is a sound Lawyer. He is not just an ordinary lawyer. He is a managing Associate and runs a firm on the island. One of the best I have seen. He cracks impossible cases.

Some weeks ago a hacker cleared my account and the bank refused to acknowledge their mistake and refused to trace the money and refund me. We went in circles without any result. It was litigator who got the bank to cooperate in 24 hours. I got my money and cleared all accusation.

I have referred him to my dad who has been dealing with assorted lawyers for the past 45 years. There is a 22 year old case which my dad has been on and he spent millions of naira to solve but he has not been able to. We have been to the Supreme Court thrice for it. He is already doing well with it. The case is between my dad and the government.

I will recommend him any day any time.

The last time I checked I don't remember a meeting spot for lawyers on nairaland. He does not owe you any explanation for his threads.

Stop following the litigator about and spamming his thread.

We are learning from this thread. When people like you come spamming the thread, it becomes difficult for ordinary people like us to understand.

I was following this thread with keen interest until you came with your arguments.

He doesn't need anyone to verify him. The lawyers you are calling, did they collect their license and school certificate on the same day.

In fact, I have vex, if you think you can do a better job than he has been doing, I throw you a challenge,

Come and solve my father case of 22 years with the government then I know what you are a good lawyer.

Nigerians and bad Belle.
When you see someone doing good. Commend the person and stop looking for if he is bad or not or if he has ulterior motives.

He has given advice to many on this forum which we will spend so much to get if we are to consult with any of you.

Apart from lawyer in property section and litigator I don't see any other lawyer teaching us how to become better citizens.


Litigator has 47 topics to his name.

How have you impacted this forum?

Has he collected money from you?
Or have you seen anyone complaining.


Don't show up here again if not all nairalanders are reading this now. Your moniker will be banned.

ceejeck:
Nawa o

Wetin person wan talk now?

Okay I know someone

cc: Litigator come and do your magic

cc: Litigator come shook mouth for this one this one weak me.

ceejeck:
Nawa o

Wetin person wan talk now?

Okay I know someone

cc: Litigator come and do your magic

Abi. Litigator come shook mouth for this one this one weak me.

The other day, my own accusation was that it was me trying to hack a bank.

If not for litigator I know the kind of shit I would have been in

Yeah!
Been away!

Some weeks ago, I posted by story about my experience with a bank.

I followed all your instructions and I got my money back.

We are not well informed in matters like this that is why we lose money and face a lot of injustice.

If you know you rights, no one can take you for ride!

It always pays to have a sound lawyer you can reach when shit happens.

Look at number 2.

The bank manager said I should go to hell that he won't give me the official report when I requested it.

Thank God for the support I had from litigator.

Some managers of the bank saw the thread on Nairaland and contacted me.

We didn't go to court. It was resolved.

It's important we learn these things so that we want make mistakes.

I remembered refusing to sign some documents at the bank because litigator said No.

Before I sign another things.

It's all good Litigator.

Do what you do best....

Teach us more stuff so we can keep winning