Cassandraloius:
God bless your heart.
We all know the world is cruel, you might decide to help someone and they'll use it and kill you, some will envy you, but those that value and want the best for you, it's those people you should help.






Kindly check my profile.

You are so right.

If you know the current issues I am going through just because I decided to help.

I almost lost my life.

Just be careful out there, help but be careful. People can be so entitled, wicked and ungrateful.

MrMcJay:


This is majorly for Dorm account holders.

Previously, if you deposit cash into your Dorm account, you won't be allowed to transfer it out except if your inflow was a transfer also.
I guess what this directive says now is that you can transfer cash deposits.

This is correct.

Inflows are only allowed for transfers.

Bethuel2022:
Hello doctors and nurses in the house. So my son hasn't been feeling well for a while but he is on medication and getting better. He hasn't had appetite for a while and has refused eating anything. Today I thought of what I could give him to boost his appetite, so I fried some eggs, added with some jollof rice and gave him. I started feeding him with the egg first. After about 30 to 45, he started itching his ears and pulling his hair. He did this for a while and then he started crying and he was very uncomfortable. Few minutes later I noticed some rashes coming out all over his body. He was so uncomfortable and cried so much. I thought at first he had measles but then I kicked against it because the rashes suddenly appeared. My neighbour told me he was having an allergic reaction and suggested I give him piriton. After the piriton he got better. So the problem is, I don't know exactly what caused the allergic reaction. He has eaten rice before so I don't think it's the rice. He has also eaten eggs before but it was boiled. I thought maybe it was because the egg was fried. I want to determine what caused the allergic reaction so I can avoid it next time. Should I fry some eggs tomorrow and give him to see if he's going to react?

Sounds like urticaria.

He actually reacted to something.

Even if you take him to a paed, you won't be given anything if he feels better.

What to do?

Since you don't know what caused this reaction, be alert for a possible next reaction.

When next it happens, take him to the nearest hospital who has a paediatrician.

Don't mix food for him for now.

Just give in bits and watch so you can isolate.


Those reactions take place in segments around 30-50mins.

Also when you find a cause, note it.
For some it's okro, peanut, eggs, etc.

Piriton worked because it's works great for allergies. A good one is Loratadine.

Watch out for the Same reactions, pulling and itching .

The rashes look bumpy some do swell too.

Also, is there atopy in the family?

Any history of asthma, rhinitis in the family, mother or father side? Extended family?
Those are questions a good doc or paed will ask.
Be prepared.

It's all part of the joy of parenthood.

wunmi590:


Honestly I don't know, but as long as that is your main account, and money enter often, your loan app will begin to build up, based on how much you always receive in the account...

The GTBank is actually my salary and main account, infact after I finished paying the last one I collected, 500k, it increased to 900k..

But I don't need loan again, so the money is still in my loan app...

And the interest rate is 2%...

Works well for Salary earners.

dominique:
You should never have resigned from your job .

I hope you get another well paying source of income as soon as possible. I won't advise you to go any extra length to try to please your sister in-law. Give her her due respect but don't try to overdo. Pesin wey no like you no go like you even if you risk your life to please them. Just try to be financially independent of them as much as possible and face your family.

I learnt that the hard way. They are bunch of toxic people. @OP Get a job, infuse alot of happiness in your girl and live your life. You'll be alright.

MrBrownJay1:


i am born and bred in France so pretty much traveled all over Europe (Spain Belgium, Italy, Holland, Poland Belarus, Lithuania, Latvia, Ukraine, Russia Sweden finland etc) ... but i have actually lived in the UK, Norway, Denmark, Poland, Czech republic, Switzerland, China, Japan, Australia, Argentina, Brazil, Colombia... and of course, as you live in these places, you travel to neighboring countries to visit.

...and again, in any of these countries, i can tell you a story (whether good or bad) about Nigerians

Please can you tell me about Australia. What is it like living there?

This is why I don't touch people's phone not to talk about snooping around it

1.
The weather is hot.

You might get nervous and start sweating.

Do you have a gen? In case there is no power you'll need it.

Biko, just make sure you sit under a noiseless fan and cool yourself off.

2. Where will you sit. Are you using a phone or laptop?

Position yourself and device where you will sit tomorrow for the interview?

Open your camera like you are taking a selfie.

Take it at yourself and your surroundings. Look at your back. Remove the things that can disfigure your environment.

Continue going round your space until you find where you like.

Make sure there is a sufficient lighting on your face.

Get your writing materials or anything you might need on a table nearby which is not seen on camera. You don't want to standing up to get stuff.

3. When you log in with the link or passcode. Write your name and position you applied for in the space where your name is requested.

In the screen that follows, look below at the bottom left.

Click the place that says audio.

Select the option that says “Auto Connect Audio” and choose "Wifi or Cellular Data".

Then unmute your self so that you can be heared.

One last thing, no distractions. Keep your phones on silent and warn those around you if you live with others to keep quiet or not disturb.

Don't worry!!! You'll be fine.

siofra:
Wow! The joy of every woman! To marry an untouched man. Not all these ashewos on nairaland

Are ready for this table you are shaking? 😜

Miyachi:

Starlink has a fair usage policy i.e it is capped. Imho, you're better off going fiber, it'll still be cheaper, faster and a better investment than Starlink. I've gotten speeds close to 1 gigabyte per sec. over 10GbE running on fiber. Or better yet, you can hack the various offers MTN and co. are giving with the purchase of their routers - you can get up to 3Tb on MTN for just 150k.

Starlink will only make sense for me if I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere with no cell coverage and even then I'm sure I'll have bigger problems than internet.

Hi. Can you tell me more about fibre?

Kobojunkie:
1. gods aren't clingy though. Na demons dey dey that way. Such mothers are tend to have no life of their own as it all revolves for them around their kids or sons , a clear sign of psychological dependence of the unhealthy kind.

Love this

BATified2023:
what will happen in situation where your card gets debited n it was declined?

What will happen if your card get compromised?

One will gets a card that's just specially for that purpose. Anything happens I dispose.

Britishcoins:


Hmm,thanks... Exactly what is disturbing me here.. The nsukka girl seem so hard working, each time she visits my shop she is always willing to help.. Though the other girl has never visited and she does not look like someone who can work.. Her major commodity to offer is beauty.. I am not even interested in it..

It's not hard. Invite Judith and study her the more. You know what you want. Go get your woman.

Lovelyn451:
I'm sure you're yoruba, it's normal. I don't know how igbo women mearried to yorba men cope with thefamily. Them go use tribalism kill you. Hate you for nothing. A woman with an only son that should be eager to have a grandchild I'd there being bitter for her dil

It didn't want to say it o. I know he is Yoruba.

Ezini:
OP
Some people may attack me for what I'm about to say ,but do look into it at your own time:

There's a thin line between white garment church and voodooism,. Your mother will most likely do anything possible spiritually and otherwise to destroy your marriage unless you become very frantic with prayers,. She is already blinded by hate,, which has an association with witchcraft. Let your wife start praying in earnest even you,

My point exactly.

StrongAlphMale:


Until we hear the op's mom side of this story, this story no clear. The OP painted the whole narrative to make it seem like the mother is evil. That's a turn off.

The wife on the other side isn't even helping matters. What stops her from calling her mother in law? If she had made reasonable efforts to make peace with her mother in law and the woman refuses then we can be sure on how to go about this, knowing that the woman is the problem.

The OP is obviously hiding something. The mother can't just hate the wife overnight even though there are Women like that. Which one is he shouldn't confront her in any way? The OP should talk to his wife to play her path and seek for peace.

Hearing from the mom side: Did you see the part where he said he has reported her to people and the situation has not being resolved. His mom will never see reason and will never want to understand why her son should be happy with his new woman.

If you have a wonderful mom, then you are blessed. Cherish her everday. Because I know that not all husbands' mom are like that. We have MILs who go to the extreme. Believe me, Op's mom is one.

I have been faced with a similar situation. You don't know how mean some mother-in-laws can be. Their word is law especially if they don't have a husband. They feel they can control the lives of their sons.


Now let's talk about the wife seeking peace. If I tell you things I have personally done to be good to mine you will pity me.

I have come to my mother-in-law several times to beg her to talk to her. Mine is so creative on ways she can use to frustrate you.

1. She told me as far as she is alive, her son does not have a right to make his own decisions. He should do what she wants when she wants.


2. If I really want to make peace with her, I should give up my kids and walk away.


3. Once when I had a difficult pregnancy, I was told to have a bed rest for 3 months. Meaning I stopped work and business.

Mamma came one morning begging me to follow her to the bank. Cos she needed to do some paperwork and none of her other kids had her time. Despite she knew that I was bleeding and vomiting, I followed her backing my first daughter. She had a car (the one I got for her) She decided to park it. We walked a long distance that spaned two bustops.


I didn't complain. I learnt not to. We got into public transport, the conductor asked her for money. My mother-in-law pretended to be deaf and dump pointing her hands at me to pay.

She BAE bae bae her way throughout the three buses we took to get to the bank. Thank God I had money in my purse, I would have been disgraced. Not to talk of the embarrassment she gave me at the banking hall.

Mumu me. I kept pushing for peace. Do you know what made me stop. One day she showed up at my rented apartment naked. From her house. She came naked on a Sunday morning during the lock down carrying a calabash saying I must run mad.

My landlord and neighbours had to step in. Told me I have tried and I should sit back. They had witnessed the countless occasions of this woman making trouble when she comes.

As a woman there are some experiences you should not go through at all in the name of making peace. I took so much.

Why am I using my experience to illustrate OP's current scenario? It's a young marriage and the mom is just getting started. My husband's brothers are also facing the shit my husband is facing. Their mom had a lot of boys and she is melting the same treatment to all we wives.

Does it mean we are all bad?
Sometimes we sit and cry. A shile wo. Meaning we miss house enter.

Some mother-in-laws are wicked with matching shoes of envy, to go with matching headtie of misery to go along with big bag of frustrations.

As a woman if you feel your mother-ln-law is giving you serious vibes, just work and pray. Respect your husband, show love and care when you can. If she is fetish, that's the end. Cos she will make sure your life is miserable. Try to reach out and make peace. If she doesn't just stop. Cos nothing you'll ever do will please her. And if you cross the line, get ready to do something you will forever regret.

Hope all banks won't follow suit.

Hendrixky:
But I noticed something now

That surgical operation methods of putting to bed by women don increase compared to the old methods of child expulsion

Una dey think wetin I dey think

He be like say all these hospital and doctors dey induced women with drugs to make sure that this women becomes weak from the beginning so that at the time of labour they will have no choice than give in for surgical operation

On the contrary, it doesn't happen that way. No one will push a woman for surgery if her condition doesn't merit it. I had a neighbour who lost five babies cos she wanted to give birth like the Hebrew women.


She had healthy pregnancies but during labour she runs into complications. We encouraged and changed her reasoning. Her last pregnancy, she didn't think twice. She now has a six month old baby. You need to see how bad she feels that she lost all those babies due to her foolishness.

Some people go dey form I too know when you are discussing with professionals who have spent a good measure of their life studying the human body. I don't joke with their expertise. In healthcare when consulting with doctors, if one gives you an opinion, move to another and get a second or third opinion. Sit down and make an informed decision.

dominique:
Your wife is 100% to blame for this. How can you open your eyes and marry into a family where you're not wanted? It's only a matter of time before the mother in-law will recruit more family members against you and your husband will be forced to side with them. It will take an extremely strong willed man to protect his wide form the animosity she will face from her in-laws that don't like her, a kind of strong will most Nigerian men don't possess. No amount of virtuousness can change the mind of in-laws wey no like you but desperation to answer Mrs no dey let you see road. You go do "hide my id" tire

Na wao. She might not know. Remember they had a blissful first year.

Zonefree:
" can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong."



This is where I confirmed you're not yet a Man. I'm very sure you didn't tell us the full story. You withheld some information just to glorify your wife and mother in-law. Your post is just to paint your mom as the bad person here.


Ask yourself, if you drop dead now(God forbid), what do you think will happen in the next 6 months?

I'll tell you.

Your mum will be shattered. She'll mourn you till the rest of her life. She may not recover from the shock as you're her only son.

But, your beloved wife and her mother in-law will move on. Within six months of your death, another man will be shinning your beloved wife's congo and there's nothing you can do from the grave Your beloved wife will remarry after your memorial service, if you're s Christian.

Out of all your family members, it's only your wife that is not relative. Be wise.

Shalom.

You don't know how bad some moms can be when melting out all manner of attitudes on their daughter-in laws. He knows his mom better than anyone. And I can sense that he is even hiding a lot of things his mom has even done. All in a bid not make her look bad.

He knows that he is in deep shit that's why he is speaking out. The fact that none of the people he is reporting to is talking to her speaks volumes.

When it was both of them alone, things were fine. He is in a situation he can't understand yet. And he has alot to learn cos that mama won't stop until she's done.

Did you see his emphasis on: I made her comfortable before my marriage so she won't have an excuse to hate the bride coming in. The mama get for hand on a good day.

I bought my mother in law a car to get on her good side. She opened a whole black book of encyclopaedia on my head. Your wife should not worry herself OJare. She should be of good behaviour not confront her in any away.

Hmmmm.

Trouble is looming. All I will say is just watch for now and expect more trouble from your mom. Read my own threads to see how my own situation degenerated. For 10 years I had no peace in my marriage.

I am sorry you have to go through this. Sorry about your child. Also, console your wife. Relax and try again. Hope you guys don't live together with her?

Useless boy. I am happy that the mom has singled this 'I am only with you for the good times only attitude'. You won't believe how many kids have this attitude. It's even more painful if that kid is yours. How to deal with that attitude before it get out of hand is what I am battling with right now.

Pathetic.

flockofpips:
Guy you are supposed to be working remotely if it's true you know all those things.

Me self shock. Get a remote job.

Baadal:
Call/WhatsApp 08025220285 i have a device for you but you need to up your budget a little.

Price and location

Mindlog:
Very irresponsible couple. They both had the option of vasectomy and hysterectomy but opted to go on a breeding spree.

Their kids have been out of school for many years, which is even a security risk to the neighborhood as they would start out with petty stealing from their neighbours before transforming to something more deadlier, I wouldn't be shocked if the girls among them become sexually active at a way younger age.... all because of the stupidity of their parents.

Is vasectomy safe?

Truthshscrazy:

Suitors like jim iyke you mean?
The kind of suitors she keeps bringing home tho, very soon one will burst bottle for mr.marcaroni head

Hahaha

All these days, Motunde has refused to get married. I have lost count of suitors self

Malory:
My child will never stay with any woman including my blood sisters. Women are unnecessarily wicked and irrational.

My dear, I used to think that I was the only one who says this.

Ishawuru
Indomie generation won't understand