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Havertz10:
Call on jesus, he is the pseudo cure to all things

register505:
Hello Nairalanders

I have an issue which has been bothering me lately and I need advice from mature minds. I got married to my beloved wife recently and everything has been going fine. She's such a wonderful woman and a great supporter too

I noticed my wife is too attached to her family. Dad calls everyday, mom calls everyday, brother and sister call almost everyday but that isn't the issue. After all, we are newly married so it's normal for her to still be so attached to them for some while

The issue is that she's too attached to her family financially at the expense of our own pressing needs in the house. I also have my family too but none, down to my younger ones will call to ask me for financial assistance at least for now because they know I need some time to recover as a newly married couple after wedding expenses and all that

My wife keeps sending to her family every now and then for one complain or the other. It's either her brother calls today asking for favour or her sister calls tomorrow asking for favour and she's ever ready too meet these needs. To crown it all, I noticed this behaviour is very common with her mom

I know it's normal to take care of one's family but the way I see the whole thing, she puts her family's responsibility at the forefront and sometimes indirectly utter statements that I should send money to them

I'm a man who knows how to take care of my home and I handle all responsibility of the family- rent, feeding, utility bills and everything which is the normal duty of a man but the issue is that my wife doesn't always feel pressed to assist me in a little way. Things like "dear, let me add N1,000 to the N20,000" but when her family calls and complains about something, she sends money immediately or later. When her siblings or parents call, the call will most probably end with her saying "I'm going to send it". In a span of three weeks now, she has sent money to them more than 8 times

The summary of everything I'm saying is that her money stays in her pocket or either goes to her family while all my own money is used to finance us

PS: she wasn't like this before we got married. She used to be supportive but everything changes after marriage, and if my guess is right, she was given a wrong orientation into the marriage by her family

Please how do I handle this maturely? Should I complain to her my displeasure about it or continue to see it as a normal thing at this early stage of us?

And please, mods, I don't want this on the front page

There's nothing wrong with her sending her family morning...
What's wrong is when she abandons her marriage where she should help out and then focus on her family....

It's best you both discuss about it very well and then know how to sought it out ...you can ask your dad how he handled his situation...
But don't involve family fully....

She's your partner so talk to her

doggedfighter:
Gays are everywhere in this country doing their thing and living their lives.


They make advances at people they're attracted to just like heterosexuals.


I am not sure they do that at gunpoint.

If you don't want just say no and go your way.

Saying they're on dreads is doing the same thing SARS do. Stereotyping.

I know guys on dreads who like women more than their lives.


Nigeria is no longer what it used to be.

Most things you abhor like homosexuality, atheism etc are gaining grounds and thriving here albeit quietly and can't be stopped.


Find ways to better and live your life.

These things aren't are problem or the things holding us down.

Waiting for religious zealots and myopic entities to attack.

Thread well ...

How do you equate atheism with homosexuality

bigpicture001:
I don't believe ur bad investment stories, Nigerian love to waste money on women especially the poorer people.. leave women alone and get focus u young people can never hear, now see were it has got u...

For me dou, I believe in consequences, if u don't face the consequences, u will repeat it again...

Everytime women!

Davidolu2:
She's beautiful

Thanks

Davidolu2:
Can you upload her pics
How old is she

She's about a year and 6 months...

Don't have her recent pics tho...

She looks good....
Resembles mine too

Haakeem:
True talk...... christians in the building can't deny it.

Don't kill yourself if you're depressed ...

Get someone you trust you can open up to. ..

Try to state out your problems ...
Pick the major ones....
List them according from the easiest to Hardest...divide the problem into 2... Solve them but by bit....
With time you'll overcome your depression

lajid:
I can’t reach everyone, please go to these thread. I learnt here.

https: //www. nairaland. com/3430037/what-make-money-online

Thanks

lajid:
I just replied your email sir. We can communicate though that boss.

I wanna learn &earn too
Can I drop an email .....I'll send you my number

lonelydora:
The me in me hates intimidation

Ọmo I hate that shit
...
There's need to legalize guns in Nigeria...
At least as he's putting off his safety I'll be putting off Mone as well....
We'll see who will intimidate who....

CAPSLOCKED:
ATHEISM WILL CONTINUE TO GROW AS LONG AS YOUR INVISIBLE MAN CONTINUES TO REMAIN INVISIBLE.

They don't know

MJBOLT:

this one wants to use badly photoshopped pictures to deceive people that the end of atheism is near

Apart from lying to themselves what else can they do

Jashub:
Meet the man responsible for your pregnancy and stop disturbing us with your waywardness

STFU

You've got nothing good to say....

Running your mouth like you're better

HellVictorinho:
I asked you for help if possible.

You're quoting the wrong person

HellVictorinho:
Why didn't you answer me?

Answer you how?

chatinent:
Format wey don cast? Ask Righteousness na. No bi only likes and share e dey receive as tithes?

why you expose am



OP Goan arrest all the politicians and terrorists....then I'll take you serious

gbengaoyeladun:
i want to get a new phone tomorrow please. i had samsung A21s 4gb, 64gb and infinix note 10 4gb, 64gb in mind
which one is ok in term of performance and others

Take samsung

hannah03:
At this point am dying in silence. My dad is a chronic womaniser and he's addicted to alcohol. He has no plan for us, life is very difficult for us because at younger age we have to find our own food due to that I was abused severally. I have lost the chance of going to school because of no one to sponsor.
I can be in silence anymore we are starving all my dad care is his alcohol smoke and women.
Am hurt badly I wish someone could know exactly what am facing and reach out to us.
I can't go to work since last week am sick and very weak, imagine being sick and no medicine no food God why was I born?
My condition especially being a girl everyone that agree to help want my body in return. Am praying for this sickness to take my life let me rest. This what am facing I wish the world could stand with me in for a minute.

God won't answer your prayer of you dying....

Being alive is a sign hope....

Anchor on that hope and give yourself a boost...

Push yourself to success...

Cut dependency from your dad...

They're still good guys ....

Learn a skill...

Talk to your dad

Use the internet wisely

Harbour no hate...

Righteousness2:
Lovely ...
GOD does not Joke with those innocent little kids.

But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

you're talking trash....

You're God doesn't joke with little ones yet he let them pass through pains like this....
Huh!
What kind of God is he?!

trippleKAY:
Don't mind him, the only difference between the maid and the wife is she is richer. the maid might even be giving him styles his wife doesn't.

Omo

honor4me:
Thanks a lot for this simple statement. Is the maid not a human being too? It was like that from the day of Abraham. Our problem started when we copy the whites in everything. Fela married 27 women at a go. Heaven didn’t fall. My advice to young men, always let women know you are an African man and you are not bound to a single woman

Don't know why we downgrade others and expect not to be treated the same way...
If you cannot stay without cheating then discuss it with your partner.
If you want to marry more than one wives that's ones personal discussion.

MufasaLion:
Damn!
What? Slept with maids?

Indeed, most men lack self-esteem!

Shame!

Same people who cry inequality....
Isn't the maid a human being

Romanoff:
If the reason your wife obeys you is cause you're the only bread winner, then your money is a control tool.

In Nigerian homes were both parties contribute financially, I've seen beautiful marriages, some I aspire to sef.

Simple and aptly put....

The Filth Called Religion

Workch:
Thank God I don’t believe in God.

Ahusubillah

Olohun!

Workch:
Nothing wrong with masturbation unless the addiction part.

I also masturbate dude, Say like once in 3months. If you get yourself busy, you won’t think about masturbation. It’s not a tall order to leave if you want to but I like it, I don’t want to leave it. I can if I want to.

Apart from the addiction, what makes it feel bad is because of people's religious inclinations

It doesn't make sense
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