Onegai:
Rossy99, I'm going to tell you a story:

When I was in my teens, I went to visit relatives for a while. Your teen and me had different backgrounds: All the relatives had been financially supported by my family and some of them had stayed with us. When I got to their homes, I didn't do much, there didn't seem to be much to do (general house cleaning, sure I did. Washing up after myself, yep). But all their Nigerian wives expected and would make spiteful comments about me and my family and passive-aggressively b.itch about me and be rolling eyes, getting worked up behind my back and bending their husbands' ears with complaints if he dared give me $10 because they felt I was not running around according to their expectations (plus they resented the fact that I was an embodiment of "no, your hubby didn't arrive Amelica in a limo that his wife should be acting brand-new ). Meanwhile, one of the relatives was married to an American lady. The first day i went to their house, they said "please help yourself to whatever is in the fridge, always clean up after yourself". They said it once and never repeated it. And I appreciated it and we got along swimmingly.

All the other wives were there, starting drama and using me to excite themselves in their general boredom by stirring up trouble, instead of being straight-forward and speaking authoritative words in a pleasant manner. That is the definition of a lady, of a Proverbs 31 woman: Fist in a silk glove.

Nigerian women like to behave passive-aggresively. Never speaking up about what they want, they are trying to act like some type of docile idiot and pretend to be mild-mannered than be getting wildly angry when the other person doesn't fall in line. All that hypocritical spouting of bible passages is getting to their heads.

Firstly, you have a hang-up about that boy. Yes, he's poor and his family cannot afford a place for him. But you're not living on Bourdillon, are you? So please take out that small bit of "I am better than him, he should be humble and grateful" idea out of your head. Because Humility in Nigeria is NOT a good quality, we use it to insult people. And ladies use it to deceive men (but let's not digress ).
Lower your expectations. As in, he may be a church-rat in his family but the kind of church-rat that isn't expected to do chores. It happens (my driver doesn't know the way to Ketu market or even Otto). So stop expecting him to know and do things the way you want, without you having to tell him.

If you have to tell him every day what to do, open your mouth and tell him. Don't assume, speak plainly. Don't tell him in the casual, passive-aggressive manner ladies like to adopt when avoiding confrontation, then go to one corner and wait to see if he doesn't do it so you can catalogue your greviances internally and get worked up dramatically. Stop acting like a Nollywood wife.
Wake up and say "alright, today we need to fill up the drums in the house and we're cooking. You take the drums and fetch water, I 'll be in the kitchen so PLEASE go get me some so I can start". Look him in the eye confidently. After dinner, tell him in your husband's presence "please come and clear Uncle's plate and wash up, THANKS eh. Afterwards come back, uncle and I want to discuss finances for school with you".

Don't give him an opportunity to play you around, just be a LEADER. Stop dragging for power with an 18 year old boy, it's your home. You have much more important things to worry about. The only reason he can treat you like a subordinate is because he can see that you are doing that fake passive-aggressive behaviour that Naija ladies assume is what Submissiveness is (it's not).

Own that shiit. Fistbump

My o my. God bless you immensely for this.
OP, please take this advice.

That passive-agressiveness/pseudo-humility is actually off-putting and so glaringly fake that it may be what is discouraging the guy. He MAY feel it is below him to be trying to play eye service. Once again, please take this advice. It would help you.

lari03:
YMCA is now N2300 per night.
trip advisor nairaland.

Hello. Can I get more info on YMCA's hostel. Especially for extended periods. I have tried calling the contact number and sent a mail to no avail.
Thanks.

Congrats to the Eaglets so far. But I hope for a future where grassroots and developmental football would be so developed that we would have LITTLE OR NO doubt about the age of our age grade players. We are getting there gradually.

Patience is a virtue. The issue is just that due to man's ignorance of the future, it can either backfire or end well.
Only Christ can reveal it.

Great. The harvest is ripe. It is just about time.

Nice. About 20%.

@ Hiswordxray, How are you doing? Please, I sent you a mail. Do you receive email alerts?

Hiswordxray:

Hi
Where have you been.

Trying to wrap my mind round the things you discuss. I sent an email 2-3 days ago I think. I am open to learning.

Awesome. There is a need to reconsider and reaffirm true priorities. Thank God for this word. Halleluyah.

Hiswordxray:

You know what I'm saying is true...

Hello. I sent you a mail sometime ago, though it took a while before I responded. I may send you another one later today. Thanks for your time.

Ok. Thanks. I have sent a mail to you.

Hiswordxray:

Are you online now?
I am not getting your mail.

Did you receive the mail I sent yesterday?

Hello, I don't know if you are open to me sending you a mail, I am not sure if you will get it but if you do please reply.

Thank you.

Hiswordxray:

Do you now understand?

Did you get my messages? I would like you to teach me.

Hiswordxray:

Did you understand it?

With the Word of God and the help of the Holy Spirit, situations are seen the way God sees them.

Nice. Thank you very much.

Messi talent? You mean talent only or talent dominantly?
It is a great disservice to the noble and vital virtue that Messi's skill, expertise, and excellence is attributed to talent without a mention of how much work he has put into refining his talent.
Without a doubt he is naturally gifted, with the fortune of having physical and mental attributes well-suited for the beautiful game. Nevertheless, I am certain that he has put in work that is above average to get to where he is. Case in point, when he was young - so I read - he would fix a tight such that he could hit the ball against it and it would bounce back to him. He was able to eventually hit the ball repeatedly against the tights, I believe without it touching the ground. You will agree with me that it takes some hard work fuelled by passion to achieve that.
A more recent evidence that his virtuosity cannot be explained without a mention of hard work is his free-kick ability. At a point in time, Ronaldo was better known for free kicks, but out of the blues (but likely must have been after some hard work) Messi became a dead ball threat and eventually evolved into a specialist (though I feel he is becoming less efficient, maybe he needs to put in more work).
It seems to be generally accepted that hard work trumps talent, or in other words, nurture beats nature. Talent is refined, polished, beautified by hard work and what words can be more fit than the timeless cliché, "practice makes perfect".

Post this in the sports section. It would be quite relevant there.

Very nice article. Thumbs up.
I think you should include the source. But if it was written by you, more respect.

Chicjennie: ATS 1 (4 papers) --> ATS 2 (4 papers) --> ATS 3 (4 Papers)--> Application Level (4 papers) --> Professional Level (5 papers). D fees marginally keep increasing with about N3,500 in each level & Of course, U need to pay for each Level. Abeg no fear O. I started from Foundation with my B.Sc and now I'm heading for d Professional Level... It's a Phase but determination is of paramount importance.

coolestboy:
Hi bro, which level wil i start from as a graduate and how much wil it cost me?
Thanks!

As a graduate, you do not need to begin with ATS, you can start from Knowledge level and even have some exceptions depending on your course of study.

check this link for the new syllabus and other info on eligibility and exemptions: http://www.icanig.org/ican/documents/PS2014.pdf

Also visit icanig.org if you need more info or contact numbers and email.

Jay clinics: Dr. Gary Lynch, a
neuroscientist at the
University of California at
Irvine, in discussing the effect
that a single highly Intimate
image can have on the brain,
points out ominously: “What
we are saying here is that an
event which lasts half a
second [image imprint], within
five to ten minutes has
produced a structural change
that is in some ways as
profound as the structural
changes one sees in [brain]
damage.”

Hmmm
Sub-liminal things.

God already has revealed to us that which is good or bad for us although we may not know why.
The ball is in our court. Prevention is better than cure.
Nice write-up

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^^^ Thank you very much.

mko abiola: D fada is afta d sign off fee @m.city.
I see hw he gets a regular playing shirt.
Where is stanley okoro,rabiu,christanus macaulay?
Greedy dad.

dotcom_na_me_na_me: Mr James Iheanacho finally achieved destroying his son's life because of money. See wetin poverty dey cause for 9ja. Why Man City?
Man City where he would not even guarantee second team not to talk of first team? Should have go for Arsenal that still want him or FC Porto that still want him.

You go sleep for bench tire

Front page pls

Theben:
On the contrary, his decision to move to Man City would grossly dent his confidence. Most of the players there are better and he would mostly be overlooked.

dotcom_na_me_na_me: Mr James Iheanacho finally achieved destroying his son's life because of money. See wetin poverty dey cause for 9ja. Why Man City?
Man City where he would not even guarantee second team not to talk of first team? Should have go for Arsenal that still want him or FC Porto that still want him.

You go sleep for bench tire

Front page pls

You all sound pessimistic. MOST ex-age grade players who ended in oblivion started with what you would call good clubs, going by your expectation of first team football. I think Chrisantus and Rabiu signed for Wolfsburg and Lisbon respectively. However, Mikel signed for Chelsea and is doing relatively well. An U-17 player (anywhere) is not expected to be a first team regular.
It may be too early, but I feel Kelechi Iheanacho is the best U-17 player we've seen in recent time in Nigeria, and possibly in the world. He has this confidence, skill and technique rarely seen for his age (I hope he is truly U-17).
I feel Mancity isn't too bad. They have a good youth program and top of the range training facilities and personnel he likely won't get at Porto. And don't forget, Messi got his debut in BARCELONA at 16, and the rest is history. Let's just pray for him not to give up or give in to distractions.

Hmmm, well he can change. The question is for better or worse? Many men are said to be nicer when courting than after marriage.

If the girl fit pray, make she pray well well. You can also pray for her, there is nothing God cannot do. On the other hand, they should also discuss about it.

@Op, I am guessing the fiance is very rich. Am I right or right? If so, I fear for the girl o. Marriage is for better, for worse o. Make she think well well, because of money no come go marry deathtrap.

And I like raffite's response, she may consider applying the counsel.

Precious, rest in peace.
I pray for strength for your family. The Lord will comfort them in Jesus' name.

It's possible to combat oil theft.
Two important things however are pertinent:
1) Anti-corruption from the top down (the new officer who is being tempted has a boss who has boss and so on). For example, the President appoints one person as the overall head of an operation or ministry, and demands results. Lack or inadequacy of results portends and attracts dire consequences, with scapegoats as necessary. The operation head then requires such of those under him/her and the practice goes on to the smallest officer/worker. The consequences must be INESCAPABLE.
2) Massive development of the Niger delta (this is partially dependent on the first point. If allocations are embezzled, ce n'est pas possible).

The above can be done with Nigeria as the subject rather than the Oil and Gas sector (my desire). God will do it, sooner or later.

Undoubtedly gifted.

Wow. Anyway no be China. With all the styles of Kung fu they have. This one may be the Mighty Shaolin Earthquake Step.

Just guessing.

^^I don't know much about him.
Check this out.
https://www.nairaland.com/1178711/2013-prophecies-apostle-johnson-suleiman
Can anyone confirm some of the prophecies. I think some have come to pass.