MRbrownJAY:

would you like me to show you women who did the exact same thing?! times have changed and women are hunters now. believing that only men do these atrocities will have you fail.
havent you read about wife whose sister had a baby with her husband?
mothers who started cheating with their daughter's boyfriends?
girls who slept with their bestfriend man?

some women today have no morals and would cheat just like men. here is something for you:

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zenatta:

@ POSTER
Me, I am cool and having a lotta fun. I have seen people destroyed nay the word is deformed because of the compulsion to marry. In desperation they make huge mistakes. Mistakes that last a life time but phew! are they glad they got rid of the bugger.

Marriage will happen if you want it to. You have got to put in a lot of effort especially if you are female. I hate that I just said that but its true. Sometimes you have to quit being yourself if you want it bad. As for me I don't, though the loneliness does hit hard sometimes. I do believe that if I would I will. So no sweat. Besides there is cable, the Internet, the occasional phone call in my cell, food, money and the Bible. Being a single parent is a huge bonus.

I do totally agree with these points. Men want the works, faithfulness et al. They want to be the focus and in charge and lets face it there is nothing like equality between the sexes. Modern women dream on! As for Mr. Right , y'all better settle for the bird in hand and make him right.

Couldnt of said it better myself

mutter:

many women that don´t get married on time are still looking for mr.right.
Only Mr. right in most case changes his name to mr.manage.
I think it is a terrible mistake most women make to wait for an already made man or to have very unrealistic standards.
Also many of these women get carried away with career and are not able to reconcile that with marriage.
I see many women even in this forum with ideas of equality but unfortunately it does not work out that way in real life.
Getting married is no easy task and because marriage is taken so seriously in Nigeria most men are not willing to rush into a marriage that they think they might regret.
While women are striving towards equality most men are still searching for the good old fashioned qualities in a wife, like respect, submission, faithfulness etc.
And yes a married woman has more respect.
I personally have the greatest respect, not for married women or single parents but for single parents. Raising a child alone and doing it well, is real hard job.

well said, points raised are so to the point, Its also intresting to note women are settling for the " hell do for nowman" or "hell do" man

na2day?:

it is not just men that cheat, women cheat too. i just caught one married woman who is cheating on her hubby just this last friday. she sent the wrong text msg to my phone meant for someone else ; the whole experience sent cold chillers down my spine. when i have the time i will make a thread for that incident

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
because they can!

not everybody stands for the vows they made AND the women they got married to knew it but decided to get married anyway. some women are so desperate for marriage that they will accept anything from their man. . . . . . . if a sneaky man knows that then he will abuse it. if all wifeys out there dropped their cheating husbands then a few less men would go on the act.

also we do know that these women that are chased by the married men know FULLY WELL that they are married and still get down with these cheaters so if these skanks wouldnt allow married men then there would be less cheating.

btw last time i checked married women are cheating too.

last but not least, understanding why men/women cheat is stoopid, there are so many different reasons that it could never be avoided. IF YOUR SPOUSE HAS GOT FIRE IN THEIR PANTS THEN NOTHING CAN BE DONE ABOUT IT.

Shola2009:

There's certainly no harm in a person wanting to live well.

mutter:

seperate lives does not mean being separated physically. They may live in the same house.
Since you are at crossroads here the hard facts.
Nigeria allows polygamy -fact.
Bad enough a woman sets her eyes on a married man. The other woman is childless and this will be some painful news to her.
Terrible i find that the new woman should expect to drive the old wife with a pregnancy.
Please this man has a wife, you or whoever are nr.2.
Take your position as such and do not cause the wife unnecessary pain or resort to insults.

hummm but difficult position, im kind of bias here as i happen to know all three parties, and to set the record straight both parties were very good friends and in all fairness he pursued her, to give the lady in question her due after eight years as friends, ?
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As for the wife, put it this way she is not the most pleasent of people

jennykadry:

If you are not the mistress in question why are you so concerned and dedicated to the whole issue?

CHANCEMAN:

I thought i read somewhere that they had been seperated over the last two years? If so was the seperation not supposed to re assess the relationship?The results speak for itself provided the seperation was as a result of the childlessness.

tpiah:

^^ and what about the wife?

are you the mistress in question.

chiogo:

It depends on how you define 'money grabber'. If a woman is successful(as in rich) and seeks to be with a guy who's also financially successful, I don't see that as being a money grabber. It's simply living up to one's standards. It's not gold-digging if you also have your gold.

mutter:

accept the child, that is the decent thing to do.

manoy:

Yeah,Money is not everything but BRITGIRLEE can u date a someone who is not rich? Status and wealth should not be the real reasons why one would wanna go into marriage. Other things should be put into consideration.

britgirlee:

Hummm intresting

@ YME
fortunately im in a position that I'm able t support my self, and yes i have dated financially stable men, HOWEVER
I'm glad I'm in a position to see how selfish, selfcentered and also self absorbed SOME of these men are, who have had their egos blessed with money hungry women and now they think they are invincible.
That is till they meet a woman who can handle her own home, then its fumble all the way, lol

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Siena:

Fox!! When did you get back here?

omega25red:

it's very simple men are not made to be tied down those of us who stay faithful battle with ourselves each day to maintain that faithfulness. for every pretty girl a man hooks up with their is always another pretty girl around the corner and for what ever reason we have to have her regardless of us having a wife at home or a GF. it isnt until after that insatiable urge has been satisfied that we come back to our senses and then try to get forgiveness.

dudu-bobo:

There are sure to be differences having been brought up in different backgraounds and societies.

One other difference may be that they'll probably spell DIFFERENCE properly is they are educated

chiogo:

@poster, yeah, it is kind@ hard to understand your first post due to "grammatical errors". (you probably rushed through the post)

Although I get what you're asking but I'm sure you can go back and edit them for those who do not by clicking the "modify" button.

@topic, yeah, there should be a difference just like a Nigerian born in the states would be different from the Nigerian born in Nigeria.

some differences:

*accent
*dress sense(it differs though)
*attitude/way of life

The Nigerian born in America is more or less an American which is different from a Nigeria


yep i rushed through the write up, hence the errors but no biggie, thanks for your input , britgirlee

birdman:

obviously there is a difference. should it matter? i don't think so. but you know how girls can be

by the way, britgirlee, you style of writing is hard to understand. had to read that twice

lucabrasi:

@savanah
im not an expert at girls fashion and u wernt even directing the comment at me,but during the old days as in way back women went bare chested and nobody made a big deal out of it,neither was there any promiscuity n stuffs like now,so shown cleavages n that is
nt as western as we ll like to see it

Chukwemeka:

Aplogies in advance, but i do struggle to understand what you are trying to say when you type. Anyway, i think i undertstand what you are saying here. I too have been getting into the Nollywood films (big up Nollywood channel), and i too see what those actresses are wearing. however, i don't think thats a representation of the young/older african woman. Its a perception. Not a very good one, but a perception nonetheless.

I position myself along most of what savanaha has said.

Chukwemeka:

Well it seems like Birtgirlee you have brushed it off. Dont mind those idiots, they are obviously jealous of your confidence and the way you carry yorself. The main point is you know who you are.

fntekim:

Honestly, i don't understand u.
Could u rephrase your original post?
I'm positively inclined to give u my views.
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made some changes but the topic stays the same, hope you Can comment positively , but if not maybe a nother time