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we talk on phone everyday he promised to come back for me and his child. I only hope they ain't fake promises.


At this point, the truth hurts but you deserve to know it.


Let's be realistic here,...


you said he's a hustler: how long do you think it will take him to work and have his "greener pastures" before coming for you and the baby?...


That's about 5-9 years

Do you think he would wait that long when he could get married to an American and get his papers before 15months?

Most men in his situation would certainly take care of their children (that's for those who are responsible) but the women are most often times left out of the puzzle as these guys end up with other women.

By this time, you are older, used, a single mom, lost most prospective suitors or maybe your education or career.

I think the chances of him coming are slim but a few still come back, though!

What I think you should do is prepare for the worst while hoping for the best. Don't let emotions to cloud your judgement. I think you should remain faithful but monitor him closely. If peradventure notice any funny moves of his,...
Then, move with your life.

But don't forget to train yourself, add value to your life, look good, get a skill or job and make good friends as soon as you are done with post maternity.

I honestly feel like punching your fvckboy lover in the face for messing up your future while he will come out of it clean and unscathed!

well, I think your present location is the best for now due to the following reasons:

1. The High population density in Abuja satellite towns
The outskirts if Abuja like Karu, Suleja, Lugbe, kubwa, Mararaba, Masaka are highly populated and there is an average of over 15, 000 people settling in Abuja on daily basis. These families need education as a basic necessity.

2. The cost of land and the processing of land titles
The cost of land in these locations is still considerably cheap. The amount you will buy a plot of land on these axis and it's processing fee is almost as cheap as compared to Enugu and PH.

3. Security
There is high security in Abuja and its environs. Due to that, you wouldn't have to worry a lot about touts, kidnappers and some dreaded cult groups. With this, parents will be confident to leave their kids in your care and go to work.

4. The turn up rate
This is the best part. If you start a school and allow those who know how to run it manage it for you. You will be shocked at how fast the school business grows, here: with this, you will be able to recover whatever capital you have invested in the business before a 5year period.
For example, in September 2015, I set up a school for a client and as at today, the school is having over 120pupils. The school can effective manage it's running cost without any input from the owner.

My advice is simple, if you have enough money to venture into this business, then I think you don't need to relocate. Just start from where you are.

P.M me if you need further details

Guy, Easy Bro!
He is the father of the girl and and i think he has a say on deciding where the traditional marriage would be held.

It will be better if you send his bad to reason it out with him or you talk to your MIL to talk to him.

Even if it doesn't go as planned, let it go, complete the wedding and enjoy your married life without them!

Kenyans and this type of news be like...
someone help me with that Zuma meme

Couldn't you make your write up more appealing or interesting?
That epistle you are wrote up there isn't as captivating as it is suppose to.
Honestly, it's not!!

Surely.....I learnt from this.

surely, I learnt nothing from it
The post is entirely irrelevant

Take it easy Bro,

That's what the baby needs. She must be reacting in that manner to all strangers and we can't actually tell who is who.

This reminds me of my little friend who I will call Dave. I am a friend to their family and fortunately, we are close neighbours. One day, my guy ran into my place and I was snacking. Little Dave was excited, when I invited him to join me.

Few seconds later, I saw a very disappointing look on his face like someone who lost all his earnings in a single bet. I became curious and asked him what's up? ..."My mummy said I shouldn't collect stuffs from strangers", my guy responded sheepishly. At this point, he was almost in tears because it actually felt awkward for the both of us.

My response to him was simple, " Mummy is right! " . Then, I asked if she was at home. Luckily she was. Then, I told my lil Dave to go find out if he was permitted to collect stuffs from me....

Few minutes later, I saw a happy Dave jumping into my place as if he just won a million dollars: His sweet mummy had consented and we did have ourselves some yummy snacking from there henceforth.

I think you should let the girl seek for permission from her momsy before doing crazy stuff with your phone. And please, let her also know she can't be jumping on "Uncle Nice Guys" like you, all the time.

Over 70% of rape or child molestation comes from people whom the victims once thought was friendly or nice!

Who said there are no good men in the world?
I just spotted someone with a heart of gold!
This is what a true celebrity is!

shinarlaura:
Am from Cameroon

Your profile's YIM says...

"je suis camerounais".
...isn't it suppose to be " Je suis camerounaise" ?
No offense!!

Guy Run...

...and I said you should RUN!!

Saying this means you are even contemplating the thoughts of thus happening "ACCIDENTALLY" !

At 15, no matter how grown, developed, pretty, friendly she is, she is but just a child.

Don't come here to cry foul, later. Threaten her you will tell her parents and watch her crawl back to her senses!

THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY!

for the op

Don't downplay words. They are very powerful!...

3years ago, I met this almost perfect lady. We had a great chemistry and our relationship was as beautiful as heaven. She called her mom and told her about us. Her momsy asked a prophet to pray about it and his response was the most lame, ever; "they can't get married" he said.

I remembered how much I laughed about it and assured my boo how safe she was in my loving arms.
Fast forward, sometimes last year, like a dream, I just discovered that we had broken up. No tangible excuse, no cheating, nothing we could really point to as a bone of contention. I couldn't imagine it because we loved each other like our lives depends on it. We still do love each other, a lot, but as I'm talking to you right now, she's engaged to somebody else and they are working towards their wedding.

I'm not trying to insinuate some danger of any sort but, don't undermine those words. I once did and I'm still shocked till date!

I am a young entrepreneur and I am seriously considering what it will cost me in creating an online application and the cost of running it.

I have very limited computer knowledge but great stuffs which could sell online.

How much of this knowledge do I need?

Guys,
Please, over to you!

@ up,
it's just so unfortunate that women don't seem to think properly when their minds are clouded. They really don't have a clear cut understanding that cheating on a guy is like stripping him of his honour and robbing him of his pride.
Nevertheless, people react differently to issues.
I have been in those hurting shoes and believe me, I almost lost my mind.
And from my experience, these were some of the things running on my mind:
1. I couldn't stop the feeling of guilt.
I was actually holding myself responsible for her actions and inactions. I guess you are beating yourself really hard for not getting her an accommodation, too.
2. You trusted her with your life.
It might sound funny but when we (men) love with our hearts we give out everything including our lives. We just tend to forget bae is human who is as vulnerable as we are.
3. You can't forget all the sweet moments.
I think that's our worse nightmares - those lovely moments, the things you guys did together, those long interesting conversations, the helping hands, the warm touch,the delicious kisses, good food, amazing sex....
you just can't let go,can you?
4. You think you can't find another woman like her.
After all the years it just seems as if no woman is good enough or close to her standard....


Tizabaibe,

To be very honest with you, it's not easy but you are the only person who can decide on what to do. But I would advice you to take your time, get some calm before confronting her. It will be better if you could stop her from visiting and do some investigation proper thinking. You might feel worse at the end if your source of information was faulty.
At this moment the only question you need to answer is this;
Can you live with the fact that she made a stupid decision by cheating on you?
Can you forget it and take your love back?

If you have the answer to that question, then, you can go ahead and confront her.


And please, do not hesitate to forgive her, regardless of if you finally want her back or not. That's the first step to your own healing and it's not something you can negotiate, you just have to do it

Sorry for the long write up.
I wish you luck!

;Dabokibuhari
HEAVEN rejoices over this strayed soul, for you were blind but now you can see, you were deaf but now you can hear. Go and sin no more.




WAILERS GREETERS MINISTRY




La Wailers Greeters Ministry la growing!
;Dabokibuhari
HEAVEN rejoices over this strayed soul, for you were blind but now you can see, you were deaf but now you can hear. Go and sin no more.




WAILERS GREETERS MINISTRY




La Wailers Greeters Ministry la growing!

A Bu.ha.ri : The Nigerian messiah (zombies) or The Nigerian slave master (wailers)

Simply priceless. Love the graphics!
The concept is inspiring

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HornyTiwa:
This is not funny,He is just jealous of her success

Just thesame way im helplessly jealous of your beauty.
Feel like stealing the heart of an angel awayyyyyyyyy!!!!!

La op la sip Daura nunu

La explanation of one aunty screaming "harder" "harder"

mtchewwww! La japanese dick la selle fuel?

La endtime post!

I can't stand being in the spotlight of a congregation.

I admire you for 3 reasons; 1. You still stand and value the tradition institution called marriage. 2. You have sealed your heart with a hot iron against adultery. 3. You are a wonderful businessman.
You just inspired somebody out there with those actions of yours.

I will drop my bag and join them.... simple!

[/color][quote author=DragonReborn post=44958317]Haba bros, she don try for the one wey she list nau.

Well,as an entrepreneur,that CV does not fit my model of a wife.
Our wives needs patience,guts,faith and a hell load of prayers!
nevertheless,
She sounds like a lady who knows what it takes to wear and keep a small piece of diamond around her finger.

I didn't see the following points;
1. I will support you even if you don't have a car or a house of your own,but show true love,have goals and look ambitious.
2. I will support,love and cherish you even if you go bankrupt,in future.
3. I will support you,be humble and let you be my ruler even if i earn 3 times what you earn.
4. I will take good care of myself,work out,watch my weight and look fit,even after the birth of our 3rd baby.
5. I will build a strong spiritual fortress around you, our marriage and over our kids.
6. I will let God be my true role model.