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Jones4190:
Recently i come to realize something about life that life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. the poor suffer because of their poverty. People without family suffer because they have no family. People with family suffer because of their family. People who pursue worldly pleasure suffer because of their worldly pressure. People who who abstain from worldly pressure suffer because of their abstention.
This isn't to say that all suffering is equal. Some suffering is certainly more painful than others suffering but we all must suffer nonetheless.

That's what Buddha tried to solve scientifically before his demised, life itself is suffering and chaotic

Kobojunkie:
I took it from your Op that you put up an ego wall refusing to beg her back. But if that is not the case, then remind her that you are still waiting for her and go from there.
She may just need time to adjust her expectations.

sure I will do that before I travel but if things goes south I guess I don't have to look back again

Kobojunkie:
Ok, and you didn't have that to give her?
Well, you can't give what you don't have to give.

exactly that was the main reason I had to focus more on myself maybe my future relationship wouldn't have to face the same faith like this one... It hurts badly cuz we had each other's back for 3 years anyway life goes on thanks for rolling with me and giving me a listening ear.. It's what I need the most from a total stranger

Cowbell521:
Oya sorry

Apology Accepted

Kobojunkie:
more what?

more time, more attention, more physical contact, and my in&out and where about...
I only gave the best that I could give

Kobojunkie:
Why then are you letting your ego make the decision for you?

My ego was never the problem cuz I tried to sort things out and know her reason why she wants to quit she said i qoute "She doesn't feel love in the relationship anymore" I told her I will make it up to her but the later couldn't be better... I have been thinking where I got it all wrong but couldn't find any fault maybe she wanted more

Kobojunkie:
I can't speak of whether she does or not since the side i have read from is yours and not hers.

Love ìndeed has phases, yes, but throughout each phase, it maintains its integrity .I.e. when it is love. Recall you in your Op proclaimed that you wanted to focus on you and not anyone else? Unless what you intend to focus on is bigger and greater than the love itself, you would always find reason to include love in your plan.

it was never bigger than the love rather a minor adjustment and it wasn't really my fault cuz it was base on livelihood and survival... I was able to pure out my thought to her and explained things to her she agreed but it was very unfortunate she had to jump ship... She always pushed me to be the best of myself and left me along the journey...

Cowbell521:
This mumu dey praise himself like say he no go still call her before Sunday

Bro must you throw insult argue, advice and suggest you shouldn't start throwing insult on a person... It's illogical and fallacious grow up big man

Kobojunkie:
Like I said, love no be all that mechanical stuff people program themselves to do in relationships. When you love someone, nothing the person does will cause you to even want to let go. The advice of so-called Wiseman will be nothing but foolishness to you and this because love and the wisdom of men no dey too go together and for good reason too!

What you seem to have is a relationship. You said you already let go so let it be. When you finally know love, you will understand what I mean. I just hope that you will also be mature enough to learn to accept love as it comes to you because it might come in a shape and size that might not fit into your plan and agenda. You might need to let go of you to have it.

I get your point but the question is does she love me cuz no matter how much you love someone and the person wants to leave will you force the person to stay remember love has stage by stage so she breaking up with wasn't just because I don't love her she know the best reason why she left and who I'm to beg not to go...

Even Jesus loves us unconditional but he wasn't a fool that beg to be love so what make me exception from it and it's those mechanical programs that makes love sweeter and worth fighting for...

Kobojunkie:
No be by mouth dem dey take love person. No matter how hectic life gets, you will always find time for the one you love.

You didn't love her so let her be. Maybe one day you will learn what love really means, only hope by then that you would be mature enough to see it for what it is or spend the rest of life a wandering stranger in the land of relationships like many of those doling out advice like sugar cubes here daily - many of them married - with nothing to write home about.

You really think I don't love her I check up on her everyday, call her, text her just that I wasn't too available because of work and boom she left and you think is my fault well it's not I have realised hmshe has already made up her mind period

Fountainofyouth:
So why are you here ranting about it, you are obviously still pained.

Yes I'm pained cuz I had good intentions for her just needed more time but she left. It's it a crime to focuz on yourself and make something out for oneself she couldn't wait. I wish her all the best

Spider20:
Mr Man go and date a white woman

I have never dated one before I will put it into consideration

frankkydee:
Then don't border yourself then. Let her be

have already done that

frankkydee:
Firstly, does she really you. I mean a lady that loves you would want your progress and even help in achieving some of your goals and target?
Secondly, Do you really love the lady? Because, if you do, you will create time for her even within your tight schedule?
Thirdly, hope you are not trying to avoid her after you've eaten her juicy *ussy, so, she doesn't interest you anymore?

We have been dating for 3 years I love her and she knows it just ťhat I was struck by life and had to make a little adjustment booms she started accusing me or not caring or giving her attention... That was it

A wise man once said never beg a woman to stay no matter what if she want to leave let her go don't get emotional about it even though it may hurts at first but you will get over it... You've got to move on and focus on yourself... I love her no doubt but I can't give her the love and attention she needs at the moment so she decided to leave she was angry cuz I didn't beg her but only wish her the best as long as it will make her happier...
I don't have any regrets flavour was right after all
"To be a Man is not a day job"

Smiles

PacAmaru:
I hope ure not tryna pull my legs by not completing my statement.i said inbuilt smart WHEN IT COMES TO MALE/FEMALE DOINGS.

Its already self explanatory as a 13years old girl can manipulate a man of 30years to doing what she wants.men are controlled by sex and women control sex

I'm not trying to pull your legs
The end game is sex of which once the man gets it any other thing is secondary to be manipulated to get what you want doesn't make one dumb is a win/win projected.... in your own scenario there some individuals there intellectual capacity are inter subjectives and there's nothing one can do about it

PacAmaru:
Women are inbuilt smart, cunning creatures in areas of male/female doings,but when it comes to daily struggle/survival men are more superior except the males that choose to be foolish

Emphasize more on what you mean by inbuilt smart

waywardpikin:
Please let's get one thing straight, men are not more intelligent or logical than women. That is a fallacy. Saying things like that portrays you as unintelligent which I know is not the case. Using Nairaland as an example with the number of dumb comments we see on a daily, you want to tell me that men are more logical and intelligent? What a joke!

It's a mix and match. [b]We all have our areas of comparative advantage so no gender is more intelligent or logical than the other. [/b]I've met more dumb guys than dumb ladies in recent times. If anything, the ladies are usually too smart for their own good or try to be. And that's on period.

This one is still saying trash

ifyken:
Unfortunately I am a Nigerian. All the problems of we are facing e.g religious bigotry, homophobia, tribalism were not as pronounced before this BUHARI led administration. BUHARI just worsened everything. I even fear for the sanity of most nigerians, so don't judge them by what you see on nairaland those are just coping mechanism for the frustration and anger they feel. Some coping mechanism are trolling people online,praying in church or mosques, casual sex etc.
I will admit that I am a psychopath. If you were to give me a machine that I will press and it will randomly kill a person before this BUHARI administration, I would not use it but now I would use it not out of malice or hatred or frustration but out of apathy. I don't care if it will kill a member of my family, friends, an innocent child or even me. I just don't care.
Life is pain for most of us and the elites don't care about us and although I am angry about the elites,if I become one of them I you would not care about the poor masses. I think that makes me a hypocrite but I don't care

You are not a psychopath, psychopaths don't say they are one especially on social media you are just glorifying you vill mentality, educated yourself and emancipate your mind from inferiority complex and stop saying trash. . . stop worship everyone based outside Nigeria thinking they are smarter or far better then you. The earlier you learn and know this the more sensible your life will be

WoundedLamb:
Lol... you call yourself a red piller and you're this scared of women? Pardon me, I really don't know how your redpill/bluepill thing works but I believe a man who's looking for a woman without dreams to marry is a sissy who is easily intimidated. An true male whose masculinity is not as fragile wouldn’t have any problem with career women.

But like I said, it's very simple, don't marry a lady with high potentials. Get one without ambitions and be the only earner. Some of us can't enjoy the kind of life we want or give our kids the very best without support from our spouses, so leave those hardworking ones for us. Set a standard for yourself and stick to it. We are products of our life experiences and backgrounds. I went to some of the best schools North America cause my parents pooled their resources together to make it happen. I won't deny my kids that cause I'm intimidated by ambitious women.

your ignorance has no boundaries

TimeSpaceWizard:
You'd be alright, son. Work hard, some day you'd be able to afford enough to go round. That's when you'd know women are amazing.

Yours is a poverty problem.

Imagine the audacity, ignorance is a disease it kills faster than poverty

TheGidRedpiller:
And on top of everything you are a simp no wonder your ignorance was so magnanimous Look at you feel good for being a mangina and because a female who obviously had nothing to contribute in a redpill thread applauded you for sticking out for her kind!
You feel like a hero don't you? You are such a nice guy! I'm so sorry for you brother.

Now i feel bad for wasting all that time with you.

That dude is an ethical simp I was just going through his comments until I saw his last post he commented because of woman.. Just leave the fool to fool himself

TimeSpaceWizard:
That's what The RedPill is actually about, and not what the young man was misrepresenting.

He needs mentorship in the game of life.

You are a blue pill so don't claim to be redpills when you are not....

TheGidRedpiller:
@TimeSpaceWizard This arguement would go on and on if i prolong it because first off; Men Really Are More Intelligent And Logical Than Women. But pls lets just end the stress here, there's no point reading your long notes anyway. You are blinded and thats not my fault, you have to learn the hard way i'm sorry but pls try your best to not let it come to that. Peace.

Tell him he thinks he's intelligent when he's just making a fool of himself

TimeSpaceWizard:
Hahahahaha

Marriage is not a mistake. The mistake you repeatedly make is thinking you are more intelligent than all women, that is the downfall of most men. I go out of my way to look for very pretty ladies and start off as friends, and measure their intelligence quotient as well as emotional intelligence quotient. I strive to meet any lady who is sincerely cerebrally challenging, cos I believe relationship is game of intelligence. If there is any areas of life that my wife has higher information on, I surrender to her guiding principles. And there are specific aspects of my life that I have allowed her to influence because it is positive influence despite the fact that other men could find such intrusive and get upset, but I candidly informed her to police me on such issues and ensure that I follow the codes.

Women find intelligent men fascinating and are drawn to the well of intelligence and will do anything to have you, because they cherish an opportunity to brainstorm and seek advise.

Controlled intelligence radiates power and with such power exhumed, one does not have to check a woman's phone and monitor her socials. They simply are the ones policing you and ensuring that no Chidima is stalking her man.

I challenge you to follow these steps and do not think with your loins, and you will meet a different set of women. I have met several ladies, thieves, sluts, liars, demons, goddesses, witches, Angels, etc and never will I put all of them in one box.

We are individuated units of consciousness split into two genders -male and female. So behavior is not collective. The fact that one man is a thief does not make all men thieves.

The fact that one lady is a lesbian does not make all ladies lesbians.

The fact that your class of women are losers do not make all women losers.

Judge them individually if you have the right to judge, otherwise, you will answer for your works in this game of life. You will judge your actions, when we exit the simulation ad score yourself appropriately.

So, be wiser than you are now.

This alone says otherwise, you are not intelligent go and learn from the masters cuz even your write up is full of trash. . . . Even if you have the whole money in the world without the right traits, skills, character you are just a mere average personnel

TimeSpaceWizard:
I am married, but before the marriage, I was a serial player. Infact, there was a time I had to throw my phones away cos there were so many beautiful ladies that I spent, millions for, willingly, because I was at a stage in life that I needed company of ladies.

One day, I went to the club and returned back with 5 ladies, and in the morning, I was about dropping them at a Bus stop when 2 other ladies came down from the penthouse and asked if I forgot them, so it happened that I had 2 ladies in the penthouse the previous night, and I totally forgot them after being on nairaland and ended up feeling lonely forgetting I had angels up there, so I went out to get more beautifuls. Only to end up with 7 ladies at home and had to spend more time with all 7 who actually happened to know each other and told me and we all laughed off, when they said I had finished all the ladies at Lekki. I have fuccked great and many pussies in my life. That day, after I dropped my ladies, I had to sit down and check my phones so I can delete some ladies off.

On my sincere county, I had 36 constant ladies that I deleted and there was 4 that I can not bring myself to delete, because they were so dear to me, and I kept those 4.

A couple of years later, I realized I needed to be make more use of my time as I needed to begin another phase. I traveled and found a sweet innocent looking angel, and we got married and I have in one woman, all that I had been enjoying in multiples.

I am telling you the above story so you can understand that I know women and I have had to deal with some that are even possessed with Jezebel narcissistic demons but I tell you something, MGTOW mentality is a looser's self protection mechanism.

When you get to the point of intelligence and wealth that accentuates confidence in your existence, the women will bow and worship on your temple and you will adore them as goddesses.

Point to note: A woman who is very harsh to one man, is another man's lovely angel. There is a Mastery of Life cycle, and there are certain birth cycles that will not work for your relationships. First of all, investigate the cycle of birth that works with yours and the rest will fall in place.

The Universe is a living simulation and your mind will only project what you focus on. You embody what you hold true. As long as you continue on this path, you will find no mercy in the loins of a good woman, you will only get that, which you constantly interact about.

It is a law and I see you are inexperienced in the game of life, and how to play it.

Stop saying trash this man

TimeSpaceWizard:
The Redpill guy and his MGTOW neophytes are just a bunch of beta males with erroneous understanding of what it takes to be a real man.

I could be wrong but most Redpill crusaders are men whose father failed in managing their wives hence the inherent resentment in the subjects against women.

A highly intelligent system seeks no power and control over others because it's presence is power. The sight of such an erudite and highly intelligent system orders Entropy to enthalpy.

Women deserve our love and care. You can love them into submission if you understand their role and the source of their insecurity.

Women are our mothers, our wives, our sisters and our daughters. Our aunties and Goddesses.

We must love our women as we love ourselves.

arguing with you is a waste of time due to you vill and poor mentality

I nêver saw my dad cry so why will I be an exception

Bigman101:
Good morning nairalanders!!
Pls I need advice.. Here is my story.. I do business with my brother ( selling) so because of that I come in contact with women (customers).. But the problem is this: there is one particular young woman that do patronize us. it all started when she expressed gratitude towards me.. Since then I feel something for her,i dont know how but I really do love her,but she is married..I really don't know how to go about this,seem like am involved emotional to her! .I wish I & her could be dating ...pls advice me how to become emotional distance from her...

Pls moderators help push this to front page for more view and reply

Stay away from married women if you want to live long

30 years